Forum posts made by jesses

Topic Do Tattoo'd women turn you on?
Posted 30 Jun 2015 16:06

Absolutely tired of tats, especially on women; major turn-off. The human body looks so much more beautiful un-inked and non-pierced.

Topic decreasing sex drive
Posted 26 Nov 2014 16:51

Perhaps an erotic vacation trip to someplace like Hedonism in Jamaica or a lifestyle resort in the states might remind him how much fun it can be. I've seen folks as old as 70 in these places so it will also provide some peer approval.

Topic Puzzled by...
Posted 21 Oct 2014 15:41

Quite possibly the cuckold videos and stories exaggerate the scenes to cartoonish dimensions; as do most BDSM videos. If a couple has a desire to do a MMF scene, but want the husband to feel, even if artificially, guilt free, then the obvious path would be 'woman-in-charge.' In most real life BDSM it is the submissive whose fantasy is being served first; the submissive controls the scene, although acting powerless so the conscience isn't bothered. I'm suspecting most real life cuckold scenes are the same, drawing out the desire in an odd type of extended foreplay.

Topic Spanking
Posted 06 Sep 2014 11:54

Bare, but it is important to make an erotic trip of getting to that point. The 'forced' undressing, or skirt-up/panties-down, must be made part of the foreplay. Also, the bare bottom gives a proper sound when spanked with a properly cupped hand; again to aid in the foreplay's build-up.

Topic Can you truly trust a person after they cheat?
Posted 25 Jun 2014 10:46

First off, no, the trust can not and will not ever return. Second, from the way you describe how this came about she sounds, at least a bit, manipultive; so you already know that trying to trust will simply place you back in place to be set-up again. The realities of these situations are always lousy and best to be walked away from.

Topic Gf cheated on me. Second chance?
Posted 11 Jun 2014 16:08

Cold, hard fact, the trust is gone, and for a very good reason, HER behavior! So therefore the relationship that may, or may not have, existed is over. Move on, yes it sucks, but trying to recycle a relationship will just make things worse.

Topic Talking about anal
Posted 14 Jan 2014 10:42

Lots of good quality, like Astroglide, lube and go slow, be gentle.

Topic Guys what do you like more shave pussy or not?
Posted 20 Dec 2013 16:13

Shaved smooth is best, it's clean, one doesn't get hairs when performing oral and less chance of sweat smell. At very least it should be trimmed short. Hairy is just short of gross.

Topic Do Tattoo'd women turn you on?
Posted 21 Oct 2013 09:50

I asked a female trainer at the gym I attend if she had any tattoos, her response was perfect, "why put a bumper sticker on a Ferrari."

Topic porn with a story
Posted 26 Aug 2013 09:57

Go to and search 'complete movies' and/or 'foreign films, the 'Strictly English' series is great.

Topic Pissing while fucking- sexy or a not?
Posted 09 Mar 2013 10:06

My gf sat on my erection, cowboy position, in the tub and peed on me, it wasn't as exciting as I'd hoped. But we found we both get turned on by having a warm stream directed onto the butthole. We even will sometimes use a 2-qt. enema bottle of warm water to extend the pleasure and rinse. Just another once in awhile variation.

Topic Advice (Guys only please): Need BF advice!
Posted 03 Jan 2013 10:49

It appears to me that the relationship is over. Obviously the trust is gone, that will not ever be restored, you know that. Right now you are most likely trying to somehow make it 'like it used to be' while knowing full well it won't. Moving on is tough, but it is better than continuing to flog your emotions through something you need to get away from.

Topic have you ever been part of double penetration?
Posted 25 Oct 2012 17:19

Yes, but it didn't last long, as it proved difficult for both of us to stay in with everyone moving. She was petite and wanted it, but the angles etc. just made it a hassle after a few minutes.

Topic Golden Showers......
Posted 24 Oct 2012 09:58

A golden stream directed on the butthole is extremely, sexually exciting, for either gender.

Topic anal play for men
Posted 19 Oct 2012 14:52

NEVER use anything short that doesn't have a flared base; things have been known to go in and get stuck. If it is long, like a foot or more, still be careful and never go too deep. That aside, some candles work, some hairbrush handles are perfect, as are the necks/nozzles of alot of feminine products. Always use lots of lube, preferrably something intended for that, like K-Y or Astroglide. Condoms help with safety and clean-up.

Topic What is Taboo to you ?
Posted 09 Oct 2012 08:28

Although a stern "aunt" or kissing "cousin" fantasy story is okay to me , any real incest is deplorable. Other subjects that I would prefer didn't exist are rape , scat, pedophiles, beastiality and any form of genuine body or mind damaging sadism.

Topic Wondering how the People of Lush feel about Stalking?
Posted 02 Oct 2012 17:33

It is a felony, as it should be, in some states

Topic Are breast implants a turn-off or turn-on?
Posted 02 Oct 2012 17:26

I absolutly detest implants!
1] They involve surgery, always risky.
2] Women are just fine whatever chest they have; including flat!
3] What does surgically modifying one's body, for vanity, say about a person?

Topic Unserious dom/mes
Posted 18 Sep 2012 10:08

As I've posted before, in a BDSM scene and/or relationship, it is the Sub who is in control; they are the one getting their fantasy fufilled. So if the Dom is simply being manipulative, and/or strictly demanding what they want, it is not a healthy situation. The BDSM group that my gf & I used to belong to always met new members, other than referrals, at at an off-premise swingers club so they could be vetted. A good Dom knows how to convey the spirit and, to a minor extent, the feel, of punishment, without serious bruising, scarring, or worse, blood. When someone wants to "raise welts" they're probably into it for the wrong reasons.

Topic Which improvements or features would you like to see added?
Posted 03 Sep 2012 12:21

With 35 pages this may have already been brought up, but please stop allowing picture posting in chat rooms. The pictures interrupt the dialog, make the room unsafe to be if you're in a semi-public area and infer that everyone wants to see them. 3 of the last 4 times that I was in a chat room someone started posting pictures, like every 15 seconds! Very annoying.

Topic Circumcision: Pediatricians say advantages outweigh risks
Posted 27 Aug 2012 16:28

According to an article I read on the subject, circumcision is a $4B a year business. Call me jaded, but the idea of putting an infant through this severe trauma, plus the endangerment of the procedure, which goes wrong more times than they care to admit and causing future loss of sexual enjoyment, all based on the possibility that the person, whose decision it should be, might let their penis get dirty, is obscene.

Topic Advice on depressed girlfriend
Posted 26 Aug 2012 09:22

First off, please have her try acupuncture before meds. It is better, cheaper and has no side effects, nor addiction issues. Also bear in mind that the big pharmaceutical companies have spent a lot of money convincing people that addiction is fine, it's not. Doctors are way too quick to medicate. Beyond that, much has already been answered here. It is quite possible she is simply bound up in the emotions of the massive changes her life is going through and not yet understanding that it will work out. Try to get her to understand that everything is relative, that while this is huge in comparison to what she has done, it will be minor in comparison to her overall life.
At risk of starting a Forum war, I want to point out to Shylass & dangerzone, that they may be projecting themselves , onto someone who, according to dangerzone, "For the first couple of months she seemed really happy and perky. We've since both moved to a new city (neighboring ones) in order to start work (for her) and grad school (for me). Ever since, she's been really depressed." I am not trying to make light of anyones battles with depression, nor do I mean to slight those who are taking time to try an assist with serious advice. The point I want to bring out is that this does not look like a woman with a chronic depression disorder, rather someone struggling through a period of intense change. To that, it seems to me, the last thing this woman needs is to be joining clubs or getting onto meds. We can only reflect onto a situation what our own experiences have been and how our personalities handled them. It is too bad we can't sit down with her to ask what combination of experiences, or perhaps lack of them, and which personality traits, are combining to cause this funk that she is in. I agree with Shylass that there are too many 'counselling' horror stories to suggest that.
There is another, unlikely, possibility. She may just be showing that face to you. I knew a girl who would go into an apparent "depression" whenever she didn't want to deal with someone or something. She could turn the act on and off in a moment, especially in a crowded room. Again, not likely, just an example of a different angle.

Topic Very Bi curious, dont know how to act upon.
Posted 26 Aug 2012 09:10

A long weekend at a 'Lifestyle' resort or attending 'Splash Day' at someplace like Hippie Hollow , would be great ways to meet guys of similar mind. Some gay bars and clubs as well as BDSM clubs are safe places to be open about your desires. Trying to start with a 3-some would definetly be easier at the resorts .

Topic Bicurious man
Posted 19 Aug 2012 10:31

In my experience, and since women can cum so many more times than guys, a MMF threesome doesn't have much MM interaction. Usually it is the 2 guys pleasuring the gal in various ways. When involved in a FFM the girls better get along, because either of them can wear the guy out, at least orgasm wise. Again, from my experiences, in the FFM, the girls tend to be pleasuring each other, with the guy allowed to pick how he wants to get pleasured. I'd suggest spending a few weekends at a 'Lifestyle' resort to get an understanding and meet some people.

Topic Blindfolded Foreplay -
Posted 19 Aug 2012 10:20

A lot of the suggestioins here are really more applicable to a couple already somewhat experienced in this type of play. My advice to you, as a couple, is to start slow and with the known; the blindfold is already a huge change. If you immediatly jump to tingling creams and candle wax the party may end very fast and very rudely. Give her a chance to get use to being felt up, teased and pleasured, while blindfolded and/or bound, use what you know pleasures her. Then, when this is something that she already looks forward to, experiment.

Topic Do you like a girl that watches porn?
Posted 09 Aug 2012 16:45

My gf enjoys f-f porn, which is fine with me. Anything to add to the excitement and/or lengthen the time we it takes to build to climax.

As for sites,,, if you're into spanking:

Posted 09 Aug 2012 16:36

why is it every guys dream to sleep with a hot/beautiful female parent ? why the ultimate sex drive for a hot mum/mom

Excuse me, but that is NOT, "every guy's dream."

Topic 2nd Anniversary. cumming soon!!
Posted 25 Jul 2012 09:13

Go to the 'couples only' resort in Ocho Rios, Jamaica. No kids or singles hanging around; plus the food, fun and activities are all set up for the couple to enjoy together.

Topic female dresses
Posted 23 Jul 2012 16:12

Looks like some of the answers you are getting are a little muddled; perhaps because your profile says male, yet as 'sex' you list 'female' you might want to correct that. Assuming you are a male CD, I'm thinking your question is really about how many guys share the fantasy of being asked or 'forced' to CD. Judging by the number of stories and videos on the subject, I'd say a good number. As to how many women would ask a guy to do it for them, if my experience is any gauge, very few. BTW, a lot of female profiles, on sites like this, specify that they are not interested in CD's, TV's nor TG's. However, I recall a lot of the gals at the B&D club that my gf and I used to frequent, would do a crossdress scene per request.

Topic Open Relationships
Posted 19 Jul 2012 16:15

If you simply throw 'open' the marriage, with each of you on your own, it will be a seperating situation. However, if you try out some off-premise swingers clubs, or attend some swinger and/or Lifestyle parties, together you two can find other couples to have fun with; so it is something you enjoy as a couple. If you can find a Lifestyle resort nearby, go for a few weekends, you'll be pleasantly surprised. BDSM clubs are also a good place to meet interesting people as are the Swinger/Lifestyle conventions. If you have the time and money, Club Hedonism in Jamaiica is awesome.