About Just_A_Guy_You_Know


Hi. I'm just a guy, you know - yeah, there's a comma there. I don't actually know you (unless that's some fantasy of yours, then maybe I'll be your secret admirer - winky face, winky face). I'm a Canadian who's been living in the US for the past decade. I'm pretty well educated about some things, and totally clueless about others. I can tell you about post-modernism (it comes after modernism), but I'm pretty much useless at home repair.

I'm married to a wonderful woman who is not on Lush, and doesn't know I am. She has some personal sexual issues that she's trying to work through. I give her the space to do that without making her feel worse about it than she already does. Unfortunately, that means I'm left to 'take matters into my own hands' so to speak. Writing for this site allows me to explore my sexual side, which I think is preferable to going out and screwing around on her.

Hey, look at that! I've been here for a year and a half! In that time, I've made a few friends and published a bunch of stories (including a 14-part novella), most of which I think are decent (the friends and the stories). For the moment, I feel that whatever it was I came here to work out has more or less been worked out, and the stories I wanted to tell have mostly been told, so I probably won't be writing (for Lush) as regularly as I have been the past year and half - at least not until the urge hits again. No point forcing it.

I enjoy making friends and getting feedback on stories, but I'm not here looking for a relationship, or sex-chat. In fact, I'm actually kind of shy and reserved, and not likely to strike up a conversation. However, I am somewhat active on the forums when I see an interesting topic.

As to what I like in stories, my tastes run fairly vanilla (with whipped cream, sprinkles, and a cherry on top). Foremost, I like stories to be well-written, and to build up a bit of suspense or tension, before the characters jump each other. Pacing is important. I like exhibitionism/ voyeurism, good girls making bad decisions, betting, games, dares, first times, and SEDUCTION (this should be the main element of any erotic story in my opinion). I dislike violence, pain, or humiliation.

But enough about me, how about you?

Not Nebraska, Nebraska, United States
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28 Jun 2017 12:46
Obviously, writing and reading. I also like to follow current events, and if the weather's nice and cool, you might find me out for a walk in the woods with my dog. My biggest interest, though, is music. I'm always listening to something. For me, being without it is like sitting in a plain white room with no art, decorations, or furniture.
Favorite Books:
The usual cliched selections: The Dark Tower Series, The Song of Ice and Fire series (Game of Thrones), Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas, Breakfast of Champions, Hitchhiker's Guide (the first three anyway), The Illuminatus Trilogy. Also, I like Ginsberg's poetry.
Favorite Authors:
The people who wrote the books above.
Favorite Movies:
Apart from porn videos? Ha, just kidding. I like intelligent comedies, and movies that make you think about things. The Matrix, the Good, the Bad & The Ugly, Dr. Strangelove, and the Big Lebowski are a few that come to mind.
Favourite TV Shows:
Again more cliches: House of Cards on Netflix has been amazingly well done, as was Breaking Bad. I really liked the Office when that was on, and the IT Crowd. Weeds was good until it wasn't. OITNB is okay, but not as good as Weeds at its peak.
Favorite Music:
I listen to a lot of different things, but have pretty particular tastes. Mostly I listen to jazz (primarily hard bop), and rock (broadly speaking), and am starting to get into a bit of classical, electronic, blues, and a few hip-hop acts (I posted an image on my profile of some of the music I'm into). On the other hand, I dislike most of what gets played on popular radio (apart from classic rock), and have no idea who any of the popular bands are anymore - I haven't paid much attention to 'the charts' since 1997. I am, however, quite likely to go digging deeply into music blogs and youtube searching for new things to listen to.

At the moment, I'm enjoying Causa Sui.


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Topic: What is the most important "life lesson" you have learned?
Posted: 28 Jun 2017 09:35

1. Real wisdom is in knowing what is not worth it (most things, really)

2. "Opinions are like assholes: Everyone's got one, and mostly they're full of shit." (Myself included)

3. All things change, and nothing ever changes that. Or "This too shall pass."

4. Expectations and attachments are at the root of a lot of suffering. Sometimes suffering is worthwhile.

5. "There is nothing good or bad but thinking makes it so." (except Kathy Griffin. That chick is objectively and irredeemably awful). 'Evil' is a label that is always applied from outside, rarely from within.

6. Self-acceptance is a wonderful act of subversion against power.

7. You have a right to your own suffering. It's not a competition, nor in limited supply. Neither is compassion for the suffering of others.

8. Run your own race. Don't let others set the pace for you. Type-A go-getters are ruining the world for the rest of us.

9. If you really enjoy something, have the courage and forgiveness to do it badly with a passion.

10. Enough is enough. More than that is greed and gluttony.

11. Don't create a list of ten lessons, or people will think you're being biblical or something.

Topic: Installments... how short is too short?
Posted: 28 Jun 2017 08:35

Oh, and welcome to Lush. I see you're from Buffalo. I grew up in Kitchener, Ontario and we got our American TV feeds from your hometown (this was pre-satellite so I'm talking broadcast channels like ABC, CBS, PBS, etc.). Only rarely been there but learned a lot about it from the tube.

Grew up watching stations from Buffalo and Rochester, too. There was one that used to run a bunch of weird offbeat movies late at night that was really cool.

As to the original question - My opinion is that if you can fit it all into 10,000 words, then you should do that. I'd rather read a story all in one place instead of clicking through a bunch of links, and 'did I skip part three? Where the fuck is part three?' etc.

If you are going to write in installments, it's better to think in terms of scenes, rather than length. Each part should be able to stand alone as its own scene. Don't create a bunch of awkward 'cliffhangers' to draw things out. End each scene on a climax (literally and/or narratively) or soon-after - then go on to the next installment.

Topic: Experience with strip clubs?
Posted: 26 Jun 2017 22:54

I used to go occassionally in my 20s. I don't really object to them, or anyone who works at a strip club, but in my opinion the business/money/transactional side of things ruins the fun of being around a naked woman.

Topic: If you could have superpowers...
Posted: 26 Jun 2017 22:36

I'm feeling a little sleepy, but mostly good.

I'd like to have super-learning as a superpower. It would be cool to instantly grasp any concept, or master any skill.


Topic: songs you hate.. that everyone else loves
Posted: 26 Jun 2017 22:23


Any of the 'modern' Christmas songs...especially that horrific Do They Know It's Christmas or whatever it's called. I hear that song and I think, fuck, why the fuck would people who aren't Christian (you know, a solid 2/3 or more of the world's population) give a half a damn about whether it's Christmas or not? Yes, I know that that isn't the point of the song, but still...grrr.

I've always thought the same thing. I wasn't thinking of that song until I read this thread, but I think that's my most hated song, yes.

In other news, I nearly got chased out of Graceland once for complaining that Elvis is totally overrated.

Topic: What is Your Deepest Fear?
Posted: 26 Jun 2017 22:07

I think that’s my real deepest fear. That I’m worthless. And that everyone else knows it.

This is a pretty common thought. Maybe the product of a society that relentlessly demands that we do more, achieve more, accumulate more, accomplish more, have more, be more . And when we inevitably fail to be the greatest, it's us who takes the blame rather than the 'real world' and all of its unrealistic expectations. But it's a manipulative mindset that exploits us, producing more for the man, so we can buy more from the man - the man gets rich and we get depressed and exhausted and used up. Fuck that. One of the most radically subversive acts is self-acceptance - to say that what you do, achieve, accumulate, accomplish, have, and are is all you have to give in this moment, and that's enough. Abandon perfection, self-improvement, striving to be the best, and see what's good (or even just acceptable) in you here and now.

At least, that's what I read in my fortune cookie.

Topic: What are you listening to right now?
Posted: 25 Jun 2017 22:43

Velvet Underground - Sister Ray

Topic: A Story, 5 Words At A Time
Posted: 24 Jun 2017 15:47

...(batteries and instructions not included)...

Topic: A Story, 5 Words At A Time
Posted: 24 Jun 2017 15:46

...using the industrial cereal-o-matic 5000...

Topic: Australia's "Underpants Gnomes" Gun Ban
Posted: 22 Jun 2017 12:48

1. You require registration and insurance for a car, it should be required for guns, too - Also, keep in mind that the intended purpose of a car is transportation, while the intended purpose of a gun is to cause harm. Require proof of gun-safety training through a credentialed trainer to be permitted to own a gun.

2. Tax the hell out of ammunition. A surcharge of 50 cents per bullet could a) discourage people from firing bullets because it would get expensive after awhile, and b) raise funds to address the costs associated with gun violence.

3. Keep your handguns and hunting rifles, but introduce tougher regulations on assault weapons.

4. Keep gun-porn (e.g. Guns and Ammo magazine) out of the hands of children, like we do with actual porn.

5. More stringent background checks and assessments to keep guns out of the hands of criminals and people with mental disabilities.

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