Forum posts made by lilgirl1414

Topic Dirty talk during sex
Posted 12 Mar 2017 15:42

I LOVE dirty talk, it's actually one of my biggest turn ons. It needs to grow with the mood though. Ideally I like for things to start off more sensual and romantic and turn more dirty and that includes the talking.

When I'm in that rough, dirty mood I love almost anything.

Slut, whore, fuck toy, etc. I love the word "my" in front of those. "My slut"... I enjoy the ownership.

I like combining the soft with the dirty like "my beautiful little fuck toy"

And I love using words like cock, pussy, dick, cunt. Telling me what you are and are going to do to me. "You like when your little cunt is full of my thick cock don't you princess." Kinda thing.

Bingo. We're twins on this lol. I def agree with the "my" in front of those words. Def "my" instead of just "a" in "a slut, a whore" etc, I'm not a fan of that.
Also, tone of voice is very important. With dirtier/more graphic talk, tone can sometimes easily get hard/harsh, but if the tone is a made a little softer it can make a big difference.

Topic You just won the lottery...what's your first BIG purchase
Posted 14 Feb 2017 09:16

After the typical "buy a nice size house", I'd buy a large condo with a custom built dungeon in my Dom's city mmmm.

Topic What are you listening to right now?
Posted 07 Feb 2017 18:58

30 Seconds to Mars

Topic Have you ever watched or had someone watch you have sex ?
Posted 07 Feb 2017 15:46

Yes and yes...and hope it happens again :P

Topic Lush Matching Photo Game:
Posted 29 Jan 2017 07:30

black & white polka dot pattern

Topic What's for dinner tonight?
Posted 08 Jan 2017 12:18

Mushroom ravioli and Pour Wine

Topic Lush Matching Photo Game:
Posted 04 Jan 2017 16:07

shorts/pants/etc pulled down below ass

Topic Do you prefer Red or White wine??
Posted 27 Nov 2016 13:01

I like white, but I love red.

Topic This is to all the submissives
Posted 12 Nov 2016 16:40

I want/need the Daddy Dom (thankfully I have one). A man who knows who he is (doesn't change/bend to other peoples' wills...just "this is who I am, take it or leave it") and of course secure and confidant in who he is. Obviously "who he is" shouldn't be an asshole lol. Confidence is a no brainer, even some cockiness is sexy, as long as it's not the kind that puts down anyone else or is ignorant.
Someone who knows how to adapt to other people (this doesn't mean changing themselves like I mentioned earlier). It simply means he's able to communicate and possibly make a connection with different kinds of personalities...meaning acceptance and absence of ignorance for different kinds of people.
Someone who can discuss/debate things with an open mind and be articulate. Respect for other views even if he doesn't agree with them.
Someone who knows he's sexy and can utilize that in his sex life with his partner/sub, to make her melt. But his sexual attractiveness also carries over into everything (even the most mundane daily things) while he doesn't even know it. ie: watching him fry bacon is sexy. But a sub who finds her ultimate Dom should feel that quality in him anyways, even if he doesn't realize he possesses it.
And most importantly (and probably the most tricky) when it comes to being a proper Dom...knowing that while domination means taking/having a lot of control, there's still consent involved. This is why crystal clear communication is needed when it comes to boundaries and limits. Being a Dom doesn't mean doing whatever you want whenever you want, but the relationship is a finely tuned and timed coalescence of the Dom and sub.

Topic First time same sex, was it planned?
Posted 12 Nov 2016 15:32

Very planned

Topic being watched
Posted 11 Nov 2016 15:33

I've always had an exhibitionist streak, a huge turn on. I'm more turned on being watched in a sexual environment (ie: fetish club) than a more mundane realistic one though.

Topic What food are you craving right now?
Posted 08 Nov 2016 19:23

pepto bismol for the election coverage lol and I'm not even American!

Topic Lush Matching Photo Game:
Posted 08 Nov 2016 17:36

dark woods

Topic Post the title most recent song that you listened to
Posted 08 Nov 2016 15:18

Beggin for Thread - Banks

Topic Lush Matching Photo Game:
Posted 06 Nov 2016 16:59

hand on front of thigh

Topic The Rage Cage
Posted 06 Nov 2016 15:56

I cannot fucking stand people who treat me differently just because I don't have a vanilla relationship (aka single to the vanilla world) and/or are childfree. People who purposely leave me out of things/conversations etc because of that fact...oh I'm sorry, just cause I'm not married with a baby on my hip looking out at my white fucking picket fence, that means you can't even have a fucking conversation or lunch with me? If all you can fucking talk about is your kids then you're the fucked up one, not me. There's more to life than that....whatever happened to connecting with someone because of who they are and not what their marital/kid status is? Seriously jesus fucking christ......

Topic What do you call...
Posted 01 Nov 2016 15:39

If a woman is a Cougar - Whats wrong with a Tiger for a man.
I know a few girls who prefer a much older man - unfortunately one calls her lover - her Daddy. He isnt - but thats life.

Nothing wrong with the Daddy thing ;) doesn't mean it has anything to do with her father or that she has Daddy issues, I should know. ;)

Topic Lush Matching Photo Game:
Posted 01 Nov 2016 11:45

sharp black eyeliner

Topic Face Sitting
Posted 18 Oct 2016 15:32

Exactly. I think though, if the Dominant were being more leading, perhaps with his hands on hips, gripping tight, guiding some of the movement, that might work. And when coming, if he were to hold you down so you can't move and force you to take more, that would be his control.

That's my My 2 cents, anyway. :)

Another great point! It's not always the position, but how the Dom is controlling said position. Spot on;)

Topic Why the big hate on for ladies hosiery?
Posted 16 Oct 2016 15:58

My Dom has a pantyhose fetish and so do I. I can understand how some women find them uncomfortable, however you have to realize that if you're buying cheap drugstore pairs then you get what you pay for lol. I've worn some of the best qualities and they are oh so sexy, and comfortable too.

Topic Your guy's pubic style
Posted 16 Oct 2016 09:57

Mine has always been shaved and I love it that way. Trimmed would be fine too. Doubt I'd be into the full natural style, but whatever floats your boat. I prefer smooth.

Topic Face Sitting
Posted 16 Oct 2016 09:53

My favorite way to get oral sex is to be giving it at the same time. This usually has me on the bottom, because I love the submissive feel of it. Perhaps I'll switch it up next time, though. It would certainly let me work more on his cock.

Face sitting on its own, meh. It's too dominant a position for me. Maybe with the right guy. That's one time I wouldn't mind being topped from the bottom.

I feel the same way, about face sitting being too dominant a position. My Dom and I have recently been doing that and he actually loves me sitting on his face, but I do feel it's too dominant for me. In a roundabout submissive way, I have to think about it as in 'I'm being submissive to him cause he likes this', but I myself would much prefer lying back or being the one on the bottom.

Topic For girls who like to be choked during sex.
Posted 16 Oct 2016 09:46

Like some others have said here, I like hands around my neck holding tight, but not actual choking. I mainly like it during D/s play when my Dom has me restrained and is spanking/paddling me and he puts a hand around the front of my neck/throat and holds tight with some squeezing. Coupled with whispers in the ear and kisses, it's heaven.

Topic Today in songs (post a song representing your mood)
Posted 16 Oct 2016 09:38

Topic Challenge - Ruin a First Date in 4 Words
Posted 13 Oct 2016 15:26

I support Donald Trump

Topic Use My Last Word First - in a 5 word sentence..
Posted 02 Oct 2016 18:39

Apologise to me for once

Topic Post the title most recent song that you listened to
Posted 01 Oct 2016 20:26

Call Me When You're Sober - Evanescence

Topic Pumpkin Spice
Posted 28 Sep 2016 15:32

Yes, I love pumpkin spice, don't care if others cackle at me for that lol...and fall is the best (and no, not because of pumpkin spice)

Topic Please show me the way?
Posted 26 Sep 2016 16:04

Although I wouldn't call myself a hardcore expert in bdsm or D/s, I do have some experience. First of all, for some other posters already, no need to bash it. Not into it? No problem...but it's quite ignorant to come down on it or even make some subtle comments about how you'd never understand how someone can be into it. As long as everything is SSC (safe, sane, & consensual) then let people be...I would never be able to have a total vanilla white-picket-fence relationship, but I would never bash it. Anyway, onwards....

I, myself, am not into humiliation perse. In my opinion though, humiliation is totally subjective. What's humiliating to one person, is not to another. Some people would consider being called certain hardcore names is humiliating (whore, slut, etc), but when my Dom calls me those names it's not humiliation to me. Golden showers can definitely be humiliating to some people, but not to others. It all depends on what you, yourself, find personally humiliating. For some reason (and this is just me) I find the sexual act of sitting on someone's face to be humiliating (humiliating to the person's face being sat on I mean)....for others, it's just a sex act.
Same thing with triggers...some people love being slapped around, they can take a few slaps to the face (nothing that's actually harmful) but for people who have suffered actual physical abuse in the form of face slapping, it's hard limit, they cannot take it. Totally understandable.

Humiliation is obviously something that's mental or emotional (even physical forms of it will affect you mentally or emotionally). I don't mean to say it's a negative thing. It's a turn on for many people, to be debased/humiliated. While I myself (for the most part) am not into it, I do understand the appeal. There have been certain times when I've thought about certain humiliating things (thought of, read, watched certain porn of it) and got aroused. It could be the taboo of it... the fact that when thinking of it in society's terms, it's seen as something negative/taboo/wrong. The general understanding that you should treat people the way you want to be treated, respectfully, in a good way, golden rule, etc... anything that goes against general societal rules of acceptability can be arousing. The taboo, the forbidden, etc (ie: in reality, it's wrong for an authority figure to wield sexual power over someone under their wing, like teacher/student, etc, but in fantasy roleplay many consider it very hot).
The vulnerability of it...being in a humiliating situation, doing something humiliating, wearing something humiliating (again, something that you personally find humiliating) can be an intense mindfuck. Some people can take it, some people can't. Some people like or love it, others hate it. Some people initially hate it or can't take it, but with the right person and the right approach/coaching/testing of limits, they may find the right thing to push their hot button for it.
Humiliation is such a deeply personal & vulnerable thing in my view. And as I said, very subjective. I've done many things with my Dom that some people would find humiliating, but there are other things I do not want to do/experience that other wouldn't consider humiliating.

It could also totally depend on who you're with. You may be with a certain someone, maybe a Dom, that you can do humiliation with...another Dom or someone, maybe it's off limits for you. It can be very personal. Then again, there are others who are into it specifically and can do it with anyone.

Please be assured though, that just because you've experienced and liked certain areas of the BDSM lifestyle, don't think that you "have" to be into humiliation. Don't let anyone tell you BS such as "you're not a true sub if you don't like being humiliated" or "you're not a true Dom if you don't like humiliating others" etc.
Same thing goes for pain. These are simply 2 aspects of BDSM that you can indulge in, but are NOT mandatory. A Dom doesn't need to be sadist for example. and a sub does not need to be a masochist. Some people are sadists and masochists who are not actually sub or Dom, so the flipside applies.
And same with humiliation...what's painful to one person may not be painful to another. And you may like one certain kind of pain (ie: spanking) but hate another form (ie: nipple clamps).
Hope that helped a little :)

Topic Use My Last Word First - in a 5 word sentence..
Posted 25 Sep 2016 16:48

Now I need something more...