Forum posts made by lilgirl1414

Topic Face Sitting
Posted 18 Oct 2016 15:32

Exactly. I think though, if the Dominant were being more leading, perhaps with his hands on hips, gripping tight, guiding some of the movement, that might work. And when coming, if he were to hold you down so you can't move and force you to take more, that would be his control.

That's my My 2 cents, anyway. :)

Another great point! It's not always the position, but how the Dom is controlling said position. Spot on;)

Topic Why the big hate on for ladies hosiery?
Posted 16 Oct 2016 15:58

My Dom has a pantyhose fetish and so do I. I can understand how some women find them uncomfortable, however you have to realize that if you're buying cheap drugstore pairs then you get what you pay for lol. I've worn some of the best qualities and they are oh so sexy, and comfortable too.

Topic Your guy's pubic style
Posted 16 Oct 2016 09:57

Mine has always been shaved and I love it that way. Trimmed would be fine too. Doubt I'd be into the full natural style, but whatever floats your boat. I prefer smooth.

Topic Face Sitting
Posted 16 Oct 2016 09:53

My favorite way to get oral sex is to be giving it at the same time. This usually has me on the bottom, because I love the submissive feel of it. Perhaps I'll switch it up next time, though. It would certainly let me work more on his cock.

Face sitting on its own, meh. It's too dominant a position for me. Maybe with the right guy. That's one time I wouldn't mind being topped from the bottom.

I feel the same way, about face sitting being too dominant a position. My Dom and I have recently been doing that and he actually loves me sitting on his face, but I do feel it's too dominant for me. In a roundabout submissive way, I have to think about it as in 'I'm being submissive to him cause he likes this', but I myself would much prefer lying back or being the one on the bottom.

Topic For girls who like to be choked during sex.
Posted 16 Oct 2016 09:46

Like some others have said here, I like hands around my neck holding tight, but not actual choking. I mainly like it during D/s play when my Dom has me restrained and is spanking/paddling me and he puts a hand around the front of my neck/throat and holds tight with some squeezing. Coupled with whispers in the ear and kisses, it's heaven.

Topic Today in songs (post a song representing your mood)
Posted 16 Oct 2016 09:38

Topic Challenge - Ruin a First Date in 4 Words
Posted 13 Oct 2016 15:26

I support Donald Trump

Topic Use My Last Word First - in a 5 word sentence..
Posted 02 Oct 2016 18:39

Apologise to me for once

Topic Post the title most recent song that you listened to
Posted 01 Oct 2016 20:26

Call Me When You're Sober - Evanescence

Topic Pumpkin Spice
Posted 28 Sep 2016 15:32

Yes, I love pumpkin spice, don't care if others cackle at me for that lol...and fall is the best (and no, not because of pumpkin spice)

Topic Please show me the way?
Posted 26 Sep 2016 16:04

Although I wouldn't call myself a hardcore expert in bdsm or D/s, I do have some experience. First of all, for some other posters already, no need to bash it. Not into it? No problem...but it's quite ignorant to come down on it or even make some subtle comments about how you'd never understand how someone can be into it. As long as everything is SSC (safe, sane, & consensual) then let people be...I would never be able to have a total vanilla white-picket-fence relationship, but I would never bash it. Anyway, onwards....

I, myself, am not into humiliation perse. In my opinion though, humiliation is totally subjective. What's humiliating to one person, is not to another. Some people would consider being called certain hardcore names is humiliating (whore, slut, etc), but when my Dom calls me those names it's not humiliation to me. Golden showers can definitely be humiliating to some people, but not to others. It all depends on what you, yourself, find personally humiliating. For some reason (and this is just me) I find the sexual act of sitting on someone's face to be humiliating (humiliating to the person's face being sat on I mean)....for others, it's just a sex act.
Same thing with triggers...some people love being slapped around, they can take a few slaps to the face (nothing that's actually harmful) but for people who have suffered actual physical abuse in the form of face slapping, it's hard limit, they cannot take it. Totally understandable.

Humiliation is obviously something that's mental or emotional (even physical forms of it will affect you mentally or emotionally). I don't mean to say it's a negative thing. It's a turn on for many people, to be debased/humiliated. While I myself (for the most part) am not into it, I do understand the appeal. There have been certain times when I've thought about certain humiliating things (thought of, read, watched certain porn of it) and got aroused. It could be the taboo of it... the fact that when thinking of it in society's terms, it's seen as something negative/taboo/wrong. The general understanding that you should treat people the way you want to be treated, respectfully, in a good way, golden rule, etc... anything that goes against general societal rules of acceptability can be arousing. The taboo, the forbidden, etc (ie: in reality, it's wrong for an authority figure to wield sexual power over someone under their wing, like teacher/student, etc, but in fantasy roleplay many consider it very hot).
The vulnerability of it...being in a humiliating situation, doing something humiliating, wearing something humiliating (again, something that you personally find humiliating) can be an intense mindfuck. Some people can take it, some people can't. Some people like or love it, others hate it. Some people initially hate it or can't take it, but with the right person and the right approach/coaching/testing of limits, they may find the right thing to push their hot button for it.
Humiliation is such a deeply personal & vulnerable thing in my view. And as I said, very subjective. I've done many things with my Dom that some people would find humiliating, but there are other things I do not want to do/experience that other wouldn't consider humiliating.

It could also totally depend on who you're with. You may be with a certain someone, maybe a Dom, that you can do humiliation with...another Dom or someone, maybe it's off limits for you. It can be very personal. Then again, there are others who are into it specifically and can do it with anyone.

Please be assured though, that just because you've experienced and liked certain areas of the BDSM lifestyle, don't think that you "have" to be into humiliation. Don't let anyone tell you BS such as "you're not a true sub if you don't like being humiliated" or "you're not a true Dom if you don't like humiliating others" etc.
Same thing goes for pain. These are simply 2 aspects of BDSM that you can indulge in, but are NOT mandatory. A Dom doesn't need to be sadist for example. and a sub does not need to be a masochist. Some people are sadists and masochists who are not actually sub or Dom, so the flipside applies.
And same with humiliation...what's painful to one person may not be painful to another. And you may like one certain kind of pain (ie: spanking) but hate another form (ie: nipple clamps).
Hope that helped a little :)

Topic Use My Last Word First - in a 5 word sentence..
Posted 25 Sep 2016 16:48

Now I need something more...

Topic If you could get away with fucking in public where and how would you do it
Posted 24 Sep 2016 18:45

Sounds better than it lives. That sand gets everywhere.

Lol yes so I've heard

Topic Lush Matching Photo Game:
Posted 20 Sep 2016 15:32

strappy heels

Topic Girlfriends lie, Wives are worse. Be honest ladies, how many cocks have you sucked?
Posted 18 Sep 2016 09:21

2 (1 of them many many times, the other was strictly a one time thing with nothing other than oral/manual play)

Topic Use My Last Word First - in a 5 word sentence..
Posted 18 Sep 2016 09:18

Drink from my very essence

Topic Lush Matching Photo Game:
Posted 18 Sep 2016 09:15

schoolgirl skirt

Topic What are you listening to right now?
Posted 11 Sep 2016 17:05

Topic Which are you?
Posted 11 Sep 2016 16:57

For the most part I'm a sub/bottom... but I wouldn't be opposed to topping (either a girl or guy) but topping for me could be casual...I can't bottom casually.

Topic Lush Matching Photo Game:
Posted 11 Sep 2016 16:53


Topic Use My Last Word First - in a 5 word sentence..
Posted 11 Sep 2016 16:49

Was there a true purpose

Topic Lush Matching Photo Game:
Posted 06 Sep 2016 18:29 animal.jpg

short white dress

Topic If you could get away with fucking in public where and how would you do it
Posted 04 Sep 2016 16:10

Already did a few times lol, but I'd love to try on the beach <3

Topic Lush Matching Photo Game:
Posted 13 Aug 2016 07:53


Topic Lush Matching Photo Game:
Posted 03 Aug 2016 18:21

light colored boots

Topic Lush Matching Photo Game:
Posted 30 Jul 2016 14:57

pink bra

Topic Lush Matching Photo Game:
Posted 24 Jul 2016 14:36,fishnets,sexy,fashion,girl,portrait-456b4d33a26bd5e981076f24d1c7bf6a_h.jpg

fence net hosiery (not fishnet)

Topic Lush Matching Photo Game:
Posted 18 Jul 2016 17:59

black thong

Topic Orange Is the New Black
Posted 04 Jul 2016 15:00

Love this show too! And honestly it's really the first series I've watched outside of the mainstream (well it kinda is mainstream cause so many people love it lol but I mean mainstream as in "on cable tv" and this show definitely wouldn't pass in my opinion to be on cable tv).
I'd say my fav thing about the show is realizing the in-depth back stories to the characters. Yeah, they're criminals, they've done wrong, etc. But they're people with lives and other loved ones in their lives. (side note: and obviously some of the "crimes" like petty drug crimes don't fit the punishment of some of them & the fact that non-whites are punished more, and unfair treatment by the law, etc). It shows the humanity of the other side of the jail cell. And shows that unfortunately one wrong turn in life can send your ass to jail like that. Also, the struggle between drug addiction and the law.
And love that it's not censored.

Topic Do you tell your partner..
Posted 04 Jul 2016 15:00

Most of the time I do yup, I think it's super hot to say that to them, and vice versa.