Although I have a big mouth....I'm just shy/ insecure...english is not my 1th language so the 'risk' that i sound funny or stumble over my own words is a bit too high hahaha...


No worries, even native English speakers stumble. During pillow talk, one time, I remember mistakenly switching the first letters of the keywords I was trying to say as I I told my gf, "I want to nick your lipples."
She was confused.

In principal I don't have a problem with voice chating to a well established friend on here, but the problem is a practical one.

Lush is my secret, I will often be type chatting on-line when others are in the house, so silence is needed......

Interesting. There is a good story in there somewhere....

Perfectly said :D

Actually, no, it isn't. It completely misses the point of the OP, and adds nothing of value.

Most women don't like moving on to skype or msn simply because they don't like it - accept it and move on


Wow. There is always one in every crowd. This post wasn't about challenging women for their choices or wanting them to change (until it was hijacked by a troll); it's simply (but not simple enough for some, I see) a curiosity-based, non-challenging question about the mindset of females and the choices they make.

"Move on," you say? From what? From intellectually curiosity about women? From wanting to hear their opinions and rationalizations? I think I shall not as this is the essence of discourse. But as you appear to be a man posting his unsolicited views in the "Ask Gals" forum, you would do well to take your own flippant advice. And please, for the love of god, put a shirt on that rug.

Thanks for the responses from the females who actually read the OP carefully, and thoughtfully answered.

This isn't my 'real life', it's fantasy.. If people are a part of my real life they get to speak to, and see the real me. In a fantasy world, I don't want to share ALL of me.

You have an interesting view that I hadn't thought of before: "Typing is fantasy, voice chatting is real." So, a voice makes the other person more real/too real? I guess I can see that continuum.

I wonder if this helps reduce the potential anxiety some females (not suggesting you) may feel about participating on Lush; if it's "fantasy," it's not cheating, or it's not really promiscuous, etc?

Allow me to add some context before I pose my questions please.

I'm new to actually being a participant in Lush and to the type of site that it is, but not to sharing intimate ideas, experiences, and fantasies. In the past, I've done that with females after i've already met them in person through everyday activities. So, the sharing has been done over the phone, msn/skype voice messages, and even via text. I have found that naughty sharing via voice (either messages or real time) is much more interesting, intimate, and powerful than by typing. The girls all agree.

So, my questions are:
1. Why is their no voice messaging built into lush? Is it just a matter of bandwidth cost?
2. Why are girls online who enjoy naughty typing , so reluctant to voice chat/voice message via programs like msn/skype?

I get that people are, and should be, reluctant to give out phone numbers (don't do it!), but with the ability to easily block/delete people, and to remain anonymous, why not use skype or msn, etc? Actually, I feel a lot safer after I hear someones voice as it lets me know who i'm dealing with better.

Answers appreciated. Thanks.