Forum posts made by nickatplay

Topic Am I in an abusive relationship?
Posted 18 Jun 2015 10:14

I understand how the peanut gallery's response can worsen the abuse a person's going through, which is probably one of the many reasons they're reluctant to come forward about said abuse in the first place, so I'll try to be sensitive here.

Lucy came here to open up about her abuse because she felt safe enough to do so. In return, she got great advice/offers of support from those sympathetic and empathetic to her situation.

Cue you, coming in to say how you're appalled ...and then to creepily (yes, it was creepy) go on about how she's so responsive to your training and how great of a sub she is and how wonderful of a dom you are. It just all seems a bit...strange. Like, what was the point? Was it to offer her support? If so, great. But how's that helping her real-life, away from the internet situation?

Am I being presumptuous? Probably. But only because you haven't presented much of anything other than self-exaltation.

So asking someone 'What the fuck do you know?' when you yourself haven't presented much is unfair. Also, words like that can be very isolating, especially in relation to someone who's publicly asking for support. 'What do these people know, anyhow? They don't know us or our situation.' Do you see where I'm going with this?

Anyway Lucy, I think you're very strong for acknowledging your situation and knowing that it's not right. That's a giant leap in the right direction, and I commend you for being strong enough to take it. I truly wish you all the best.

Dani, your comments mystify me. First, where did I say I was appalled? Then, what do you want me to present? This is about Lucy, not me, and I posted here to show that she has my support, as she explains, and a friend to rely on. I also wanted to thank everyone for their support to her, and I reiterate that here.

Topic Am I in an abusive relationship?
Posted 16 Jun 2015 05:52

Wtf do you know, overmykneenow? I think for you to pick those words out of the whole of my post shows you know very little and understand less.

Topic Am I in an abusive relationship?
Posted 14 Jun 2015 12:50

Hi there everyone, I am Lucy's Master, and introduced her to Lush. I apologise for not having contributed here before but I have been offline due to a hardware issue.

On Lucy's behalf, I would like to thank you all for your good advice and positive thoughts directed towards Lucy. I am sure she has not mentioned me out of respect and discretion, but I can assure you all that over the past three months I have enjoyed training her in teaching her about her submissive side. She is a delight to bring new experiences to, but there are many years of contrary behaviour to correct.

Indeed, the quality of our sex has maybe had an impact on her decision, but I know this process, these thoughts, started more than a few months ago. I have offered advice when asked, and provided support. But it wasn't until last week, when she shared with me her original post, that I understood the nature of her married relationship, and like you, was horrified. I defined the relationship as being Dom/sub, with none of the respect or pleasure, and therefore, effectively abusive. She is attempting to increase her network of friends, having been stifled over the years.

As an involved party, but not really involved, I am seeking to respect her decision. I am recently separated myself (7 months), after a long marriage, so feel I can offer relevant advice.

So I wanted you to know that I exist, and that my Lucy Slut is performing above expectations, and receiving comfort in that sense. I suppose practical help at this stage would be if anyone has a flat share available in London, then message Lucy. I know that is occupying her time and energy. In the meantime, rest assured that she has my support. Thanks to all. xx

Topic Must we woman accept?
Posted 12 Jan 2013 09:15

I think any man who doesn't attempt to match his partner in style on the first date is making a big mistake. Smart or casual, what's the problem? In this case, knowing the restaurant is classy, he is disrespecting his date, big time. If you want to get anywhere near her pussy, you first need to get into her mind.

Maybe its the difference between men and boys. Men know......, boys know s**t.

Topic Being more dominant without being disrespectful?
Posted 06 Jan 2013 06:01

Its quite simple really. You agree your boundaries outside the bedroom, and role play inside. D/s is all about respect on either side - giving each of you what you both want. He obviously either wants to be submissive, or to allow you to be dominant, and deserves full respect for that.

Topic older guys
Posted 25 Jul 2012 01:45

Speaking as the older guy, its always a pleasure to meet a young girl who appreciates sexy maturity and experience. Just remember, though, age is often in the mind. A guy can be old in his 30s, mentally, whereas, in my 50s, I am, and always have been young, and a lover of youth.

Topic Why are ladies so confusing????
Posted 23 Mar 2012 10:46

Interesting one this, the mind of a woman! We need to know her sexual past. Could be she's had a bad experience, and is shy/afraid to make the first move. I recently met a girl who was raped when she was 16, for example! It leaves its scars. Could be she is a virgin?! I would say you need to TALK about it. But here's an idea.....

Don't deny her the cuddles she craves. Explain that she turns you on so much and you'd love to make love to her, but that you love cuddling. Tell her she has such an effect on you that you prefer to sleep on the couch. Cuddle her until she goes to sleep, but then you go and sleep on the couch. Make her feel special, and show you care, by removing yourself. Maybe she will realise the effect she has on you. Is that a plan?

Topic WORD SEARCH - The first three words you see describe you...
Posted 12 Mar 2012 07:01



Topic How big a gap in years would you consider ok for a sexual partner?
Posted 08 Mar 2012 01:35

As an older guy its always a compliment to meet a girl who finds that maturity sexy. Experience brings a desire to please my girl and, boy, does she appreciate it. Being young at heart means the conversation flows well too!

Topic Cock sucking
Posted 24 Feb 2012 02:40

My mood has to be right and I have to know my guy and want him. Those facts being in place it's lovely to take his hot erect member into my mouth and just enjoy the feeling of him and to watch his face as I swirl my tongue round his glans, thrust back and forth and occasionally gently squeeze his balls.

Sometimes it's nice to take a man still flaccid and feel his erection grow in my mouth but always the outcome is the same. Just love it when he reaches his climax and squirts his semen into my mouth.

I would never disappoint a guy by spitting ... I always love to swallow his cum - if I didn't want to do that he'd never had been having oral with me anyhow.

I love your description, Sara. As someone who has only recently learned to receive. After much thought, I define the term "proper blow job" as being one which finishes with a swallow. Somehow its not the same without. The pleasure derived in knowing you gain pleasure from that is overwhelming.

Topic having an affair with a married man
Posted 24 Jan 2012 06:40

what am i supposed to do if hes married but tells me its ok??? i have no idea!!????

It is possible to be trapped in a sexless marriage. You could have a great time, within limits, and the sex is likely to be great since he will be experienced, attentive and affectionate. Just so long as you know a bf romance will be off the agenda, but a passionate relationship could enhance your life.