Forum posts made by overmykneenow

Topic If there's any story mods
Posted 19 Jun 2016 10:03

Why say "mentally state" when you could say "think". That way, no one has to work out what you mean.

Personally, internal dialogue is lazy writing. Show readers what your characters are thinking, don't tell them. There are some great articles online that can give you some great examples of how to write in a more "show, don't tell" style.

Topic Why are attractive guys so boring?
Posted 12 Jun 2016 14:16

It usually feels like the guys who look the best don't know how to keep a conversation going
Yeah, but like… you know… that. Know what I mean?

Topic how would you react?
Posted 03 Jun 2016 08:30

Content you want? Here you go! And you are totally correct on the three sides to every story.... There's your side, my side and the TRUTH!!!

Here is but just one of the threads.... Go have a gander yourself


CONTEXT, sweetie, not content.

All you've shown is a pile of internet sniping. This is obviously MASSIVELY IMPORTANT to you but, seriously, no one gives a rat's crap. What you call "DEFENDING" is most likely "COUNTER-ATTACKING" or even better "ESCALATING". There is a difference, drama queens don't tend to care about that though - they have their agenda and they stick to it.

You've been bursting to get this stuff out there, "LOOK EVERYONE, NEW DRAMA!!!!!!". Seriously, no one fucking cares.

Topic how would you react?
Posted 03 Jun 2016 07:01

I am sooo very curious as to when DEFENDING yourself has turned into bullying? I know the REAL victim in this situation because I bought her a gold to help her hide from the harassment she was getting!!! Those of you who know me, know I don't sugar coat anything and I usually keep to myself and avoid all the drama creating individuals here on lush. When I saw this thread my jaw dropped and I went to the TRUE victim to get permission to post my thoughts here .... She finally granted it. There are two sides to every story.... And in my experience usually the one crying wolf has something to hide... Just sayin! I have decided to take Mr. Felix's advice. Below you will find a few snippets here from lush from the one "claiming" victim! I have left out the bloody knifes and truly violent posts out of respect for the victim....

Finally! What's the point of pathetic web feuds if we can't all watch you behaving like kids? I'm glad your side is finally being represented in this, up to now one-sided version of literally-no-one-gives-a-fuck-about events.

Your dossier of screen-grabs is eye-opening and I'm glad you weren't tempted to spoil the narrative with the unnecessary inclusion of context.

Everyone knows that people who have trouble with drama queens ARE drama queens. Everyone also knows the fact there are THREE sides to any story.

Topic how would you react?
Posted 31 May 2016 07:09

Lately I have discovered more that the forum seems to be a place to harass and troll and sadly 'bully'
Lush in general is supposed to be a fun place and a safe one but its not for some people
Maybe I'll sound like I am whining but this actually isn't I think people need to speak up and I think people need to realize that they
actually do not know the person in real life or what they are going through..We all need to be responsible for our actions
People can say over and over again '' This is a sex site'' but what difference does that actually make?


What you would call a "concerned friend" I would call a shit stirrer. She's just giving whoever's attacking you a platform. Be very wary of people like this, while they may even believe they're acting in your best interest, they're really acting for their own interest. I bet any money they're the sort of people who say they don't come on here for drama but somehow, miraculously, seem to attract it anyway.

These people also have a habit of trying to get friends involved in whatever shitty little pointless dispute they have on the forums. They talk about a culture of bullying. A lot. The terms troll and bully and freely thrown around in every online community or social network, the truth is anyone who tries to take advantage of a weakness for their own gain is a bully, be it an angry enemy or a so-called concerned friend.

You're here for no one's amusement but your own. The beauty of this place is the only baggage you have to carry is the stuff you bring with you. Travel light.

Topic GENERAL THOUGHTS ON READER RECOMMENDED STORIES...
Posted 25 May 2016 04:51

It's really quite simple, if you work and improve your writing ability and put together high-quality stories , you will start getting RRs. Whining, crying, and complaining in The Forum is just wasting time you could spend working toward making yourself a better writer.

All good advice but along with your previous post on this thread you've happily ignored the fact that people who are more socially active on this site get more views. Nothing you've said changes my opinion that the more moderators you can get to look at your stuff, the more likely you are to receive an RR.

You said yourself - the verifiers are pushed hard, so if they're reading something on Lush it's either something in the queue or something they already have an interest in reading. If they're reading something randomly on the home page they may as well be reading something in the queue. For the majority of quality authors, whose material will be passed without much problem, the only mod that will ever see a piece of work is the mod who verified it. Unless you can get the interest of other mods, your story will soon be lost amongst all the others.

I've not written in two years for this site, my last story got an RR months after it was published. If you're relying on the approving mod to recommend it, you're relying on the luck of the draw. The verifier for that last story actually scored it a 4 (which she was, of course, perfectly entitled to do).

Topic GENERAL THOUGHTS ON READER RECOMMENDED STORIES...
Posted 25 May 2016 04:16



May I ask where you got that number? I'm curious what the numbers are for the different sections of the site.



The figure is based on the information published on the site home page and on the forum homepage

Taking the figures right now from the forum it tells me that 3289 people are on the site, 149 of which are members, 3140 guests. That actually makes 95.5% non-interactive visitors.

The homepage tells me 51 people are in the chat room - so about a third of the members currently here. While totting up the number of people viewing forum posts adds up to 23 so about 1 in 6. Guests of course can view the forum so that number may include non-interactive users.

74 people in chat rooms and forums, 3215 doing something else.

Topic GENERAL THOUGHTS ON READER RECOMMENDED STORIES...
Posted 24 May 2016 02:31

I have been watching this and just had to add my My 2 cents

Whether you agree or disagree with the topic, EVERY member, especially a paying member, should have the right to post a topic of their choice. Posting off handed comments and pics just to get the thread closed because you do not agree is a pretty low act and shows more about you than the OP.

To the OP, the system will never change but thank you for the discussion. In my opinion, the only fair system would be that when someone submits their story, their name is not displayed to the mod.

BTW, I am surprised that you have not received any going by you average scores dontknow And I am surprised that after 4 years of absence, that mods are still using the term 'butthurt' and calling out members on the forum. See, nothing ever changes lol

Well said. I think it's an excellent idea not to show the author's name when approving a story. The name of the author shouldn't have any bearing on whether a story gets approved or not (or Recommended, for that matter). The best writers surely wouldn't have a problem with that - their quality will shine through whatever, right? It would also help stop a lot of the unnecessary grumbling when it comes to competitions too.

Every member should have the right to question the system without being told by those who are meant to be here to help that it's...

frankly... insulting
frankly insulting
offensive and an insult

Of course member suggestions can also be shrugged off and treated with derision...

lol.

is that really how you see the mods? some sort of power hungry entity that's out to make lush a poorer experience for members? btw, that's a very real question - i'd appreciate an honest answer.
I wouldn't mind answering this. I hope your appreciation of honesty extends to me too.

Do I see them as a power hungry entity? No, but I certainly understand why many people do. I can also understand why people are too frightened to admit to that. Mods become mods for their own reasons - some good some bad. Some people join this site and the only thing they want to be is a mod. There are those as well who would struggle to survive on here if they didn't have the security of being part of the mod team. It explains why some people would want to bother still being a mod, when all we ever hear is how arduous and thankless it is (I love that one by the way).

Usually the bad mods are got rid of without much fuss - if you know gossipy mods you can usually find out what happened in PM. When mods get consumed by power they don't usually do it in full public gaze - MrNudiePants going postal in the forum being a notable exception. Power trips aren't the problem though. What is the problem is the slow creep towards institutional thinking. "I deserve this because I make sacrifices for this website", "us mods are so unappreciated by THEM - let's have a group hug".

The RR system was added as a perk for mods. Whenever you add a perk for the mods, by definition you make things relatively worse for those who aren't mods. We all need to remember who the most important people are on this: the Authors. All of them, good or bad. 97% of the traffic on this site is not concerned with this forum or the chat rooms or private messages - it's here to read stories supplied by dozens of authors every single day











Topic GENERAL THOUGHTS ON READER RECOMMENDED STORIES...
Posted 21 May 2016 15:20

To say that the system is corrupt and subject to cronyism is offensive and an insult to story moderators and the hours of work they do gratis. As Buz said, if you want an RR, submit quality writing, and to do that you have to work at it and learn. This is not like children's sports where you get a trophy for showing up.

Sorry, are you talking to me?

Topic GENERAL THOUGHTS ON READER RECOMMENDED STORIES...
Posted 21 May 2016 02:46



Yeah but when you walk into a book store and see that fucking Brad recommended Twilight: New Moon it might as well be anonymous because you don't know fucking Brad. And if you do know Brad then you probably don't need to go to the store to get his recommend.

When video rental places still existed, the one I went to had "staff picks". It didn't say fucking Brad recommends the Little Mermaid.



That's exactly the point though. If Brad has recommended Twilight I'm probably not going to bother picking up any other of his recommendations. It's like when you see 5 star ratings on movie posters. I'm more likely to believe the 5 stars from magazines and reviewers whose opinion I respect rather 5 star reviews from celebrity gossip websites.

Topic GENERAL THOUGHTS ON READER RECOMMENDED STORIES...
Posted 21 May 2016 01:05

The administration and other story moderators can and do see which mod gives an RR. This information is also available to the writer in their timeline. I assure everyone that these are monitored and, rarely, Nicola herself has reminded the moderating staff to carefully consider how and when these are awarded. Rest assured that we don't hand these out in a vacuum.

To me; that is how it should be. I do not see any reason a third party should be made aware of what mod awarded an RR to a story that was not theirs. Why it would be so critical for a person other than the writer or other mods to have that information is beyond me, but I assure you that the drama it would cause would quickly put an end to anyone like me awarding one. We have enough scrutiny and necessity to explain ourselves in threads like this to invite that kind of personal second guessing.

But that's exactly what makes the recommendation process utterly meaningless. If you walked into a bookshop and saw "Recommended by anonymous" you would be well within your rights to question the validity of the recommendation.

I appreciate the drama and difficulty involved in having a transparent system but it means we're left with an opaque system which, as you've alluded to, has and will naturally gravitate towards cronyism. It will always be questioned. It was an ill-concerned idea, albeit with the best intentions.

If people want to be recommended, the process is simple: get as many friends as you can who are mods. And make sure you get them to read your stuff. The more who read it, the more likely one of them will recommend it. It's playing a percentage game. If you're only relying on the person who approved it to give it an RR you're just relying on luck.

Topic Bad forum topic ideas
Posted 18 May 2016 04:28

Where are you today on the Bristol scale?

Topic Bad forum topic ideas
Posted 18 May 2016 04:05

What's the story behind your password?

Topic Bad forum topic ideas
Posted 18 May 2016 03:56

Say something unsettlingly creepy about the poster above

Actually, I think there's a whole section of the forum devoted to that

Topic Censorship or not?
Posted 18 May 2016 03:42

statement retracted as being counter productive

Oh great, now we have self-censorship added to the mix

Topic Should serial trolling be allowed in forums?
Posted 15 May 2016 13:24

This thread has gotten us nowhere. If I could, I'd shut it down. I started this thread because big mouthed insensitive comments keep getting made by the same people over and over. Do you honestly think I'm going to list them all here? Yes, Felix is most definitely someone I was talking about. Everyone knows it. I had stopped posting when Liz and Coco got involved. I had blocked Felix and Kiera, but I was bated back in. Eleven posts had been made before I responded to comments aimed in my direction. Eleven. I was baited and not very nicely either. Just delete the thread already. I get its inflammatory. That wasn't my intention, I just was trying to see what the silent majority thought. So punish me, and leave them be. Just please close this thread. I won't be responsible for anymore hostility spewing from anyone else's keyboard. And just to be clear. I respect the mods. The ones that decided to pop in, well...I still appreciate their dedication and helping out. I know it's not paid labor. There are a lot of mods. The last thing I wanted to do was offend them. It's not s job most would want and they keep this site going. Did o delete one? Yes but I realized they were redundant.
That's all I'm gonna say.

Please delete this thread.

I've waited 14 for you to reconsider your assertion that I threatened you. You take my advice as a threat but at the same time you say that those who think you're referring to people as fools as twisting your words. You can see how some people might struggle with your argument.

You think there's a silent majority that agrees with you. There isn't. Your friends don't make a majority. The silent majority don't give a shit either way. Trust me, your experience here will be a lot better here if you take a leaf out of their book.

If you can't bear to take note of anything I say, I strongly suggest you take note of the advice of others on this thread. Deleting this thread will throw a lot of good advice away.

Topic Should serial trolling be allowed in forums?
Posted 15 May 2016 06:10


Don't hold back, I haven't noticed the others holding back too much. At least Rachel showed some class and made valid points. I don't know if you realize this, but I blocked him and Kiera hours ago. It seems odd to me that mods are the few that can't let it go.

By the way, this is a very VALID question. An inconvenient truth that, for some reason, those that could do something choose not too. So, whether I post this shit or not, someone else will. It just makes you look like fools.

Also, I see no difference in maligning my opinion to completely deleting the post and censorship. Both make me question your character..

You really need to be careful when you start making psychological evaluations online. Taking Wikipedia outlines of personality disorders and shaping the bits you see as relevant, is something that could easily bite you in the ass.

You say "trolls" (your interpretation of what that means, at least) lack empathy. My experience couldn't be further from that. Real trolls know exactly how to piss individuals off, exactly which buttons need pressing. When I annoy someone on here, it really is no accident. If someone's opinion is laughable - i'll mock it, anything less gives it validity, and that's the last thing I want to bring across.

You say trolls suffer from a social disorder but ask yourself, who has the more apparent psychological problem? The troll or a person who can't stand people disagreeing with them. A person who also creates conspiracy theories to explain why things happen

Topic The inability to let someone go- an excuse for murder?
Posted 13 May 2016 21:00

I think my term 'cold blooded' was incorrect. I was meaning to imply premeditation, but of course the two aren't necessarily the same thing, are they? With a suitable degree of anger, entitlement or fear, one could maintain emotions through a 200 mile drive. Clearly nobody could argue that his actions lacked premeditation, so that should really have been in my wording.

And yes, I understand that you're not trying to justify his position TheAngryishLover. Understanding and condoning are not the same thing and I get that. If indeed he believes that he was justified in killing her then he truly is a dangerous person who should not be allowed out in society because his morals are totally at odds with the law.

I get that there is a sliding scale of all sorts of personality traits and values- I just have no idea how someone who has these beliefs gets to be an adult without having already been put away for all sorts of antisocial crimes. His responses to change in his personal relationships have all of the complexity of a two year old in full tantrum mode.

Is there a link you can provide for this story? The story I've found happened in Sheffield - he lived in Colchester. I can't find anything in the (albeit sketchy) reports about any motives behind the attack. All they say is that they were in business together. They don't even mention if he was married or not.

None of which justifies in any way what he did - and it wouldn't surprise me at all if the details of the case turn out exactly as you describe - but if we want to discuss why something happened we should be clear of the circumstances surrounding the case.

Topic Friend requests issues
Posted 13 May 2016 10:11



Perhaps it's not that the requests are not being delivered, but what you are sending that puts people off accepting. Did you consider that?

But look at his profile...

I very much enjoy small tits and young cunt and ass

Who could resist this silver-tongued lothario?

Topic Friend requests issues
Posted 13 May 2016 07:28

I don't know much about this place so help me if I'm wrong here ..Somebody sent me a FR and I accepted it now the person is showing on my FR list but at the same time I can still see that person's FR message in its respective section as "unread" message and still with the option to "accept". I've tried it many times and it's still the same.

So is this how this is supposed to be or is it some sort of bug?

Have you actually opened the message? Click on the subject link "X has requested to be your friend", the message will open up and will be seen as read.

The fix would be for the system to mark the message as read once either the accept or decline options are pressed. The old system used to have the requests deleted once they were accepted.

Topic Do you use the forums regularly? Or do you prefer to stay away and why? Free form discussion
Posted 13 May 2016 00:54

Why is this in the Think Tank? Surely something this lightweight belongs in The Pub

Topic Censorship or not?
Posted 12 May 2016 03:55

At present there are supposedly six dedicated forum mods: one has deactivated his account, one hasn't been on Lush in over a year, another hasn't made a forum post in over three months. You can see why it's usually left to Dani to sort out problem threads. It also means story mods have to work on the forum when they could be verifying stories (what they signed up to do).

I appreciate the work the mods do on the site, I don't go overboard with praise for them because, well frankly, I know they do it because they really like being mods.

Most of the problems people have with mods revolve around two things: a perceived lack of consistency, and a lack of transparency with their decision making. On the first point, the 60-odd mods on this site are individuals, all with their own beliefs, attitudes and outlooks on life. The way one mod deals with the grey fringes of what is deemed to be acceptable will differ from another. That's a good thing, it's keeps the discussion going and helps the site develop. Unfortunately - and this where the second problem comes in - that discussion most usually take place on the hidden mod forum. All those on the outside usually get is cryptic answers like "that matter is being dealt with" or "this has been discussed by the mods". It's easy for anyone to think "well how is it being dealt with" or "what is being discussed". These frustrations have a tendency to pile up.

The trouble with adding transparency to these discussions is that it only causes more drama and more importantly would leave individual mods open to attack.

This system isn't broke, it may not work how you want it to but certainly isn't broken. Nothing discussed here has offered anything that could actually improve the situation other than of course for assholes to be a little less assholey and for whiners to be a bit less whiney. Whiney assholes however should find a new hobby.

Topic remembering a fallen Lusher
Posted 10 May 2016 14:17



This is not fake. My best friend actually died. She requested before she died that I come on here and tell her friends and loved ones.

Her account was still here on 3rd May. She deleted her account, had her accident, died, and then you set up your account. All in the space of a day. And you found a pic to put up because that's important when you're bearing bad news.

I'm not questioning the events, just putting them all down so everyone knows what happened.

Topic remembering a fallen Lusher
Posted 10 May 2016 14:01


For those of you that are so certain that this is a hoax....if it is then ignore it. Because there is always the possibility that it is the truth and the lack of compassion here is not cool. I can't believe this this thread has deteriorated like this. You doubt the character of the poster? I doubt your's as well

Did you not read the post from his friend saying it was a hoax? Trust me, I was quite willing to let it pass, until I saw the multiple accounts and what Brenda had been up to.

Would you actually prefer it if he was telling the truth?

Topic remembering a fallen Lusher
Posted 10 May 2016 12:38

After Son of Cthulhu 2's own friend told him it was a hoax, and then Son of Cthulhu 2 deleting his account when it all became clear to him and embarrassment set in... I would feel like a total moron if I had rushed into this thread to offer condolences. Stupid - so stupid.

Let's hope he doesn't have an accident. Shit like that happens when you delete an account. I read it somewhere.

Topic remembering a fallen Lusher
Posted 10 May 2016 12:24

i aint Brenda. i have no idea who she is but those profiles are not me and i resent the accusation See you again soon, Brenda

Topic remembering a fallen Lusher
Posted 10 May 2016 11:42

i would like to know why. but only in my message box.

Sorry, Brenda, that won't be happening any time soon.

You've had at least four accounts in past two months, probably because someone keeps blocking you. Now someone has faked their own death. Do you see a pattern emerging?

Topic remembering a fallen Lusher
Posted 10 May 2016 11:05

this topic has gone long enough. all i asked was something so simple and instead it turned into an ugly chaotic thing. to those who were civil, i thank you. to the rest of you, do not contact me or try to add me. you will be ignored. thank you all and have a good day.

So shall I not reply to your DM asking me why I delved?

Topic remembering a fallen Lusher
Posted 10 May 2016 02:51

There's two ways of looking at this thread. Whichever way you choose to look at it, those who look at it the other way will treat you with derision.

If you are of Shylass's opinion, you won't like what I'm going to say, so stop reading this and skip to the next post.

When I first read it, I thought: poor guy, he's been dumped and fed a horrible lie. Did I have any proof? Could I have cried foul at the admins - of course not, it was a gut reaction, the sort of thing you get when you spend far too long in online communities.

Sadly, when this sort of thing happens my curiosity gets the better of me. Questions start to bug me. Like, why would someone called sxilezbo14 be in a relationship with a guy? Why is a grieving girl coming on to lush and starting friendships and relationships. So I did some delving...

Sxilezbo14 obviously had a thing for 38 year olds from Tennessee who like rock , she was previously "Married" to someone on here called loneladywolf1977. That account is now deleted, well sort of...

https://upload.lushstories.com/1768302635-brenda.jpg

Obviously, "Brenda" here hasn't been as forthcoming with the nature of his/her relationship with sxilezbo14.

Then there's the witness, JessiLuv23. I have no idea what the story is here but her activity since setting up the account doesn't look like someone who watched her good friend die just days ago.

I'm sorry, I'm not going to play along with this macabre charade. There are people here who have suffered genuine loss, and to play on those feelings is sickeningly low. Manipulating people's emotions in private is despicable enough but to do it on a public forum. I sincerely hope you get the help you so obviously need.

Topic For or against the UK staying within the EU?
Posted 28 Apr 2016 08:22

I'm voting to stay in the EU - I started leaning towards remain as the campaign has gone on. The promises of the leave campaign seem as empty, out of touch and as laughable as Salmond's claims in the Scottish referendum. More than anything though, I think it's probably come down to this: If Boris Johnson thinks it's a good idea - I don't.

Sadly, most (certainly not all) people I've spoken to who want out are either bigoted or stupid (generally both) which makes it difficult for me to give their opinions any credence. A lot of people bang on about how we need to make our rules not have to listen Brussels - they then go on about how difficult it is for them to carry on their business because of "all the Health and Safety" (legislation they see as put upon us by Europe). They are blissfully unaware that most regulations they are working under were enacted in the UK and subsequently adopted by the EU.

Is the EU perfect? Certainly not and whatever the outcome hopefully the fact we've had a referendum should give it a suitably large kick up the arse to reform - but I'd rather we were on the inside when those reforms come rather than paying the EU to do business with them and not have any say in how it is run (like Norway and Switzerland).

The good news is the bookies have Remain at 1/3 while Leave is out at 12/5 and drifting. They aren't usually wrong on these things.

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