Forum posts made by overmykneenow

Topic Write what you know VS Experimentation and the great unknown?
Posted 06 Jul 2015 01:38

Sci-fi and Fantasy are probably easier to write about because who's going to correct you? Most good writing in these genres deal with readily identifiable conditions and situations - fighting tyranny, political intrigue, love, revenge etc - the setting is usually just a backdrop to make things more exciting for the reader.

Writing outside of a sphere of knowledge is great if you're the sort of writer that loves research but if you're not, why make life harder for yourself? The key things we always back to though is characters - you can create a very believable environment but if the characters suck your story will too.

Topic Write what you know VS Experimentation and the great unknown?
Posted 06 Jul 2015 01:26

I've written from the male POV a few times, and I feel like that requires getting into a different kind of zone.

It's ok, we all know that Ashleigh's a boy's name

Topic Which improvements or features would you like to see added?
Posted 06 Jul 2015 01:06

I know many people seem to have an issue with the size of their forum signature. As of now, it only says no more than ten lines. Okay, that's cool, but it doesn't help if you're using a photo as your signature. How do you know when you've reached the "ten line" rule. It should say in the area where it says ten lines, what size height and width are acceptable, so it's there for anyone to see and not be confused when making their signatures, as some put a lot of time and effort into making nice ones and don't want them deleted, or to get in trouble. Could it be possible for this feature to be added?

One of the best additions to the site recently has been the option to turn off forum sigs (Settings>Settings/Privacy>General)- it makes the forum significantly less crap-looking

Now they they just have to give us an option to turn off all those shitty animated avatars that are currently stinking out the place

Topic Am I in an abusive relationship?
Posted 19 Jun 2015 03:49

It's bullshit.

I'm glad I'm not the only one thinking that

Topic Gif Avatars
Posted 16 Jun 2015 03:53

you probably pop the balloons at children's birthday parties, don't you?

Given that around 5% of the population have adverse reactions to latex, having balloons at a children's party is just irresponsible.

Topic Gif Avatars
Posted 16 Jun 2015 03:11

The point of the competition is to maximise the number of unique hits on your profile page. Things like animated avatars and eye-catching forum signatures are just part of the fun. Bandwidth restricted users have the option of using the mobile version of the site if they have problems with data allowances. I would think this option would be preferable on a PAYG contract anyway, no? Using the full version of the site on a mobile device would load everything, and large images are plastered all over the forums anyway.

You can make an animated gif without it being so stupidly large. Nicola's is just 66k and it's very eye-catching

Topic Lady chatterley's lover...
Posted 16 Jun 2015 02:59

I found it to be an enjoyable read - not just the relationships, but the culture.

This is an important point. The book was shocking not only for its content at the time but also for breaking social taboos. The themes covered in the book have been so well-trodden since that it's hard to see what all the fuss is about when looking back.

It's not a book about sex. In a similar sense, anyone reading The Well of Loneliness expecting it to be page after page of hot lesbo action is going to be in for disappointment

Topic Am I in an abusive relationship?
Posted 16 Jun 2015 02:40

my Lucy Slut is performing above expectations

What a charming term of endearment for someone so obviously at their lowest ebb.

How fortunate you were there to take advantage of the situation care of her

Topic Gif Avatars
Posted 16 Jun 2015 02:35

Calm down. The attention whore comp ends in 14 days.

So anyone viewing Lush on a PAYG contract should come back July 1st?

Topic Gif Avatars
Posted 16 Jun 2015 01:42

Ideally they need to be no bigger than about 150px square and less than 1mb in file size.

Does your image meet those requirements? Could you post a copy here for us to check?



1mb seriously? yours just sneaks under that at 995k - if everyone had an av as obnoxiously large as that this place would grind to a halt

Come on people, do you seriously need avs of over 100k?

Topic WIN $100 First Prize in our "Get Creative" Competition
Posted 12 Jun 2015 09:25

Topic What is the best Mid Range DSLR Camera for your money?
Posted 10 Jun 2015 06:02

The reviews and forums here are an excellent source for research. There are sample galleries with all the cameras reviewed, and reviews for many of the older models above are still online and allow you to compare how the technology and performance of various models have changed from one generation to another. At this point I'm pretty much a convert to the Fuji X series, but then I don't shoot a lot nature/landscapes, but shoot in low light a lot.

You might also want to look at micro 4/3 cameras. Panasonic and Olympus have some excellent cameras in this category.

Mirrorless does seem to be where the next big things are going to come from. For me they are an obvious step forward with the technology but you still can't stop people wanting to have an SLR to look like a "proper" photographer. That said, who's going to argue with someone carrying one of those gorgeous Leicas?

Topic Story Ratings
Posted 10 Jun 2015 05:46

I give this thread a 2

Topic My ass hates me
Posted 02 Jun 2015 07:24

I think my ass needs a bit of a workout OMKN. Wanna bring me a protein shake on your way over here?

Thanks. coffee

I always understood that your protein shakes brought all the boys to your yard

Topic My ass hates me
Posted 02 Jun 2015 07:01

I'm doing the walking thing now. It was the gym sorry my brain is a little off I'm working an over night not my usual shift

That's not going to help, your body needs good quality sleep to repair itself. Pick up your protein intake as well to help with your recovery

Topic What are your erotica pet peeves?
Posted 02 Jun 2015 03:32

The tiresome, awful habit of some poor, unimaginative writers who constantly, unnecessarily pepper their droning, long-winded prose with superfluous, pointless adjectives.

Topic seduce the avatar above you.
Posted 01 Jun 2015 02:21


Topic Am I in an abusive relationship?
Posted 01 Jun 2015 02:13

I know the information on profiles should be taken with a pinch of salt but you say that you've recently started exploring BDSM with people you've met in real life. I don't know how this is working out for you or if your husband is involved at all but it's something that you might want to slow down on until you're in a more comfortable and stable situation.

You're in a vulnerable position right now and while I'm sure you're getting plenty of offers for help, sadly, not all those individuals offering help will have your best interests as a priority.

People change, that's a reality of life - when you were young maybe you felt needed the type of attention he gave you. Perhaps now you're seeing it as something else, something more selfish and controlling. Recognising that he's chipping away at any self-confidence you have is an important step you've taken.

Get as much help and advice as you can. Your local Citizen's Advice Bureau is a good place to start - they can point you in the direction of services local to you - including, if needs be, refuges.

Topic Why are most American men circumcised?
Posted 28 May 2015 05:15

Out of interest - how many woman here have had their disgusting, unhygienic labia removed?

Topic The Quality of Stories and Poems
Posted 27 May 2015 14:08

Kudos to you for printing a retraction so soon! You show true strength of character (in my humble yet vocal opinion). Plus, I really hated your idea! Big Hugs

Because conformity is so much better than innovation.

No one should ever have to apologise for having ideas about the site they contribute to. His idea may not be great but that doesn't mean someone else might not take that idea, shake it up and come out with something not only innovative but popular too.

Topic The Quality of Stories and Poems
Posted 27 May 2015 04:27

The OP poses a very interesting question, one that given the responses here, calls into doubt the system of giving a story a score out of 5. If appreciation of art is entirely subjective why quantify it?

Aggregators like Digg or Reddit have developed complex algorithms to measure and predict popularity based on content and user-interaction. All these really do is measure popularity rather than quality, for the eventual purpose of targeting advertising.

Of course it can be argued that popularity and quality tend to go hand in hand. However our own experience often shows that good writers are sometimes ignored and that some writers who we may find personally not to our taste are baffling successful here. In very general terms though, the best writers are often the most popular. WH Auden got it right when he said "Some books are undeservedly forgotten; none are undeservedly remembered."

Of course higher quality is what all writers should be aiming for, but I'd argue that popularity is more important for the site. Popular stories expand the site, bring new readers and, most importantly, new authors. Maybe there is a way of using popularity metrics here as long as we're always conscious that they don't imply quality.

Topic The Quality of Stories and Poems
Posted 27 May 2015 00:46

Stats are easy to fake.

Topic How do I attract a female audience?
Posted 26 May 2015 09:56

Actually I'm not usually interested in those categories you mentioned that female readers go for in a big way. If I do read a story in any of those categories its despite the subject matter and because they are written by an author that I love to read, regardless of their avatar or gender.

Which brings us back to what all the authors are saying about writing from the heart, and practicing and experimenting with genres.


He can write from his heart, but if his heart tells him to write gay male fiction and he thinks that it's going to get a lot of female readers he'll be proved wrong. I've just laid out the bald facts of what women TEND to go for here. Not all women. Not you. A majority of women.

Obviously, you read on past experience, a lot of people do - myself included - but unless he writes in a category you're going to read without knowing who he is, he's already got barriers he's going to struggle to get over no matter how good a writer he is.

I actually agree with the authors, people should write whatever you feels good for them - however, in this case - he's, what is known as "targeting a demographic". If you want to do that you have to write from the head as well as the heart.

Topic The Not So Secret Diary Of A Manic Depressive
Posted 26 May 2015 09:02

I take it you're not on a course of Lithium at the moment.

Ditch alcohol, caffeine, sugar and any non-prescription drugs. Sleep whenever you can. Walk at least 6 miles a day, preferably in daylight. Limit your time online.

Topic 0
Posted 26 May 2015 08:50

was that an oh or a zero? really, it makes a difference. i'll expect an answer before night fall. that is all. evil5

definitely a zero

It could be a binary thing or an appreciation of all things "zero". Or maybe it was the start of a maths debate (hoho) on whether zero is a number (it is).

Maybe it's just nothing

Topic How do I attract a female audience?
Posted 26 May 2015 06:34

The category you write in can have an effect on the numbers of women reading your stuff. I did this research a couple of years back so may have changed.

The big ones to go for female readers are: Supernatural, BDSM, Love Poems, Lesbian and Love Stories
Categories to avoid: Mature, Wife Lovers*, Milf, Trans and Cross Dressing

*Wife Lovers is very popular among men but also with women over 35 - its low female interest is down to hardly any women under 35 being interested in it.

Incidently, changing your av to the face of an attractive young women could increase your votes/comments by 30%

Topic OK gals...Spit or Swallow?
Posted 25 May 2015 23:27

Is it ethically raised & certified organic?

Mine's fair trade

Topic Do I still need to wear a sports bra ?
Posted 20 May 2015 11:26


Of course, I am my AV too - but I always wear a running bra. OMKN you remain deliciously merciless! Haha xx

I bet Adriana doesn't need to wear a sports bra

Topic Do You Consider Yourself To Be A Feminist?
Posted 20 May 2015 06:38

I think I shouldn't reply anymore.

It's probably for the best. At the moment it looks like you're getting ever closer to saying "actually, it's about ethics in games journalism"

Topic Do You Consider Yourself To Be A Feminist?
Posted 20 May 2015 05:33

Buddy, read my elaborated arguments against feminism and take your shot.

I have, and they're not particularly enlightening. You say that feminism is flawed because some feminists hold extreme views (personally I wouldn't say these people are feminists, I'd call them misandrists). Using your logic conservatives are just moderate fascists and liberals are just moderate communists.

You talk of collectivism as if being a woman is somehow a life choice. You seem to be able to grasp the need for everyone to be treated on a basis that ignores gender but you seem to be blind to the fact that systematic inequalities exist.

You seem to like flipping arguments so let's flip one of yours...

You say - "Demanding an individual to be given opportunity, attention and regard solely based on gender is not rational."

I would say - "Denying an individual opportunity, attention and regard solely based on gender is not rational"

Most level headed people would say that feminism has more to do with the second statement than it does with the first.