Forum posts made by principessa

Topic Pray for France.
Posted 15 Jul 2016 08:36

I too have fond memories of vacationing in Nice. It would have been even more beautiful with the fireworks display for Bastille Day. What has happened is horrifying and makes me terribly sad. To do this is inhuman. Those who hate modernity and liberal democracies should go and live in a place that conforms to their thinking, and live with ISIS rather than us. There is a special place in hell for the man who did this. My thoughts are with those who were lost and their loved ones. Especially the children.

Topic Use My Last Word First - in a 5 word sentence..
Posted 14 Jul 2016 15:41

Now get your clothes off.

Topic The WORST movie you ever saw
Posted 14 Jul 2016 15:35

Sex and the City 2 was absolutely awful. The only reason that I didn't walk out was that I was there with a group of female friends.

Topic Is anyone else tired of tattoos?
Posted 14 Jul 2016 15:33

Not a fan. I have to add that what seems like a good idea when you are in your late teens or twenties may not feel the same when you are older. There are conservative professions where tattoos that are visible to all might be frowned upon. Of course like many things that young people do, they don't consider later consequences.

I never wanted one. I did not like the idea of it being painful to get and more painful to remove. I feel the same way about piercings other than earlobes, so I guess I am old school.

Topic Who should be the next US president?
Posted 13 Jul 2016 11:46

The VP choices will be interesting for both parties.

It seems that Trump is looking at Pence, Christie and Gingrich. The solid choice would be Pence (although I disagree with everything he stands for). He is a conservative Christian, low key and experienced in government. Christie would be a twin for Trump in bluster and trash talk. Gingrich is embarrassing himself in pursuing the nod. He is intelligent, but also very acerbic, a doctrinaire conservative who led the impeachment fight against Bill Clinton while he himself was carrying on an extramarital affair. He has been married three times and actually told one of his wives that he wanted a divorce as she was in hospital receiving chemotherapy. Not demonstrative of great character.So between him and Trump there are six marriages and many affairs. Not appealing for conservatives, especially evangelicals.

Clinton has a lot of choices. I doubt she will choose Elizabeth Warren with whom she does not have a warm relationship. Julian Castro and Cory Booker have been mentioned and would help with minority voters. We'll see.

Topic 5 dead police in Dallas
Posted 12 Jul 2016 15:03

I think that the perpetrator could be racist and have mental health issues at the same time.

There are two sides to this equation.

My view is that for a segment of the population the election of President Obama was unacceptable. How was it possible that an African-American could be in this position? They are the people who respond to the dog whistle politics of the GOP, a party that has been cloaking racism in euphemisms like law and order since Nixon's time. The GOP doubled down with the Southern Strategy then and continued race baiting under the tutelage of Lee Atwater and Karl Rove. This has reached its logical conclusion with the candidacy of Donald Trump, who has touched all of the noxious bases of racism, sexism, xenophobia, tribalism and more. He has given these racists permission to articulate what previously could only be said within the confines of their homes. Perhaps the cops who are racist have felt enabled in this atmosphere to act on their hatred just as some voters who agree with Trump now feel empowered escalating racial tension in the US by wanting to turn the clock back to the '50s.

African-Americans were being killed by police before the rise of Donald Trump. But he has torn the scab off of this festering wound in the US - systemic racism. Progress has been made since the '60s, but not as much as we imagine if it is necessary for black parents to have "the talk" with their children, advising them to comply in every way with police in order to live through that interaction. We know that black men are stopped for no real reason and questioned, whether driving or just walking down the street. Racial profiling is part of the DNA of some people, not just cops.

So, like a law in physics, there is an equal and opposite reaction with the Black Lives Matter movement. People rightfully question the action of police who are supposed to protect them, not kill them. And then someone takes it to an extreme and Dallas happens. There is a lot of work to be done on the issues of race and justice in America. Progress has been made in the last fifty or sixty years, but bias still exists. People of good will have to talk past these barriers with open hearts and understanding what it is like to walk in the other's shoes. If anything good can come of these events, that would be it.

What we have to remember is the humanity and dignity of everyone, whatever colour, whatever creed, whatever nationality or any other demographic descriptor. The Dallas shooter is no more representative of all African-Americans than Dylan Roof was representative of all Caucasian Americans.

Topic Cops out of control - part 2
Posted 10 Jul 2016 14:29

There are two threads here that are intertwined. The first is the racism that is endemic in the US and has been festering for decades. After the 60s and the end of Jim Crow and segregation, it was inappropriate to voice racist views in polite society, but it was still there. The Repubicans, ironically the party of Lincoln, knowingly and cynically used dog whistle politics to pander to racism with their Southern Strategy and onward from there without conscience from people like Lee Atwater and Karl Rove. This has reached its ugly apotheosis with Donald Trump who has made racism, xenophobia, sexism, tribalism and more not only acceptable, but an election promise.

To make American great again is code for bringing it back to the 1950s, when minorities knew their place and men were in control with their wives dependent at home. The simmering hatred of decades has been unleashed with the help of his campaign. He has made it acceptable to voice all of these abhorrent views without shame. After all it was Trump who denied President Obama's legitimacy questioning where he was born and giving rise to the birthers. The GOP went the next step and promised that their sole goal would be to deny any progress that might be made by the first black president. No one can tell me that there was not racism at the core of their blocking his initiatives. There is a lot of work to do on all sides to remedy this. Racism runs deep and dark and is full of pain. But conversations must happen to bridge these chasms. To do nothing is to condone this. It all starts at a local level in one's community and with activism in politics. It is an enormous issue, but doing nothing will just allow this to continue.

The second thread is the gun culture of the US. There is no reason for the populace to be armed with weapons, especially those that are meant to kill many people quickly and easily as on a battlefield. I understand people living in places like New Hampshire or Montana wanting guns for hunting, but not in cities. I understand that the population of the US is about 323 million and that there are over 300 million guns. Almost one for every man, woman, and child. This is not the militia contemplated by the US Constitution. It is madness. The death grip that the NRA has on US politicians has to end. That nothing was done after Newtown is appalling. The killings go on and on. Enough is enough. Politicians have been feeding at the trough of the NRA and allowed them to have a veto against any form of gun control legislation despite the fact that the majority of the American population is in favour of sensible limits on guns. The politicians are craven fearing retribution from the NRA, bought and paid for. The American electorate has to make their wishes known and vote against anyone with a good record on the NRA scorecard.

Lastly, the police who are decent citizens have to rid their ranks of those who are racist. They have to break the blue wall of silence. The police should be part of the community and must not be a separate entity. Police malfeasance should always be investigated by outside federal authorities to ensure the legitimacy of such investigations. The DOJ should prosecute civil rights violations just as it did decades ago.

(I edited and added to my comment while Sprite was posting.)

Topic Cops out of control - part 2
Posted 07 Jul 2016 13:55



Homeland Security (how's that for irony?) is actually arming the police with surplus weapons from the War on Terror (irony, part 2) and turning them into a paramilitary force.

This is not America.

You are right. However, when the civilian populace has such easy access to guns, not to mention weapons that should really just be seen on a battlefield, the justification for the police is there. Somehow reason must prevail and the American love affair with firearms has to end along with the death grip of the NRA on politicians. If they did not have the courage to do something after Newtown when young children were slaughtered, I don't know what has to happen for them to defy the NRA. America has to disarm itself. The constitutional right to bear arms was meant for a civilian militia more than 200 years ago, not the 21st century.

I will get off my soapbox now.

Topic Britain to have another female Prime Minister
Posted 07 Jul 2016 12:14

I doubt it will impact the US. One can hope it is the beginning of the end for the old boys' network. Cameron overplayed his hand and had to resign. Corbyn did not have the confidence of his party and has proven himself to be an anti-Semite. How could the women not do better?

Topic Cops out of control - part 2
Posted 07 Jul 2016 07:31

We now have two more murders by the police. In their reporting of these events on the Canadian equivalent of CNN it was noted that 1000 people are killed by police every year in the US. The chances are twice as likely that the victim will be black. There are too many police forces that operate as if they were in the south in the 50s and it has to stop. Systemic racism has to end in law enforcement.

Buz is right. Pressure must be put on the federal government to end this violation of the civil rights of its citizens, black, white and everyone else, but clearly blacks in particular. Ensure that all investigations of such incidents are done by the federal Department of Justice rather than locally. Support the ACLU.

Topic Who should be the next US president?
Posted 05 Jul 2016 14:43

I say even if you have to hold your nose, vote for Hillary. The idea of the Donald as President is too appalling to consider.

Please no protest votes. The Brits tried that and look where it got them.

Topic 4-Letter Acronym -Meaning Must Be Related To The Acronym
Posted 29 Jun 2016 19:10

Say what a neck

ERECT

Topic Brits: Please explain the 'Brexit' situation
Posted 26 Jun 2016 07:36

A lot of people used this referendum as a protest vote, a means to voice their anger with current government policies. They did not really think about the consequences or imagine that the leave side would win. There is a lot of remorse now with the realization that the vote is binding and it is not really what many people wanted. They sent a message to the elites and now have to live with the result. Many wish they had voted remain now.

I hope that this is a lesson for Americans thinking about voting for Donald Trump. Never mind what he would do domestically, imagine him on the international stage and with his finger on the nuclear button. A very scary thought. Be careful what you wish for. This uprising of populism with all that it carries as baggage, his xenophobia, sexism, racism, and willful ignorance along with his bombastic thin-skinned temperament make Trump unsuited for the office of President.

Topic What do you believe about heaven/hell/afterlife/reincarnation/etc?
Posted 25 Jun 2016 14:55

I don't. I believe in what we have here and now, being hopeful for the future and not being stuck in the past.

Topic What's your favorite cookie?
Posted 24 Jun 2016 14:13

Macadamia nut and white chocolate. However there is something to be said for chocolate chip (sometimes with nuts) and oatmeal raisin cookies.

Topic Donald Trump's Campaign is approaching bankruptcy
Posted 24 Jun 2016 14:09

He has made sure that he uses his own hotels and other resources that belong to him and to pay them from campaign funds. I understand that he has reputation for not paying contractors and others who do work for him and trying to bargain down to a fraction of what is owed when he does pay. He intimidates his creditors in that he is not reluctant to be in litigation and has much deeper pockets to finance it than they do. Would he transfer this purported business acumen to government, perhaps refusing to fully pay on US bonds or treasury bills?

He does not have the normal infrastructure of a campaign state by state or for fundraising. Of course, he thinks he knows best. This applies to every aspect of foreign policy, governance, and domestic issues. He says he watches Sunday morning television for information.

This has been another Trump scam, perhaps the most colossal one he has ever pulled. He has hoodwinked a large segment of the US electorate into believing that he actually has plans and policies to make their lives better while appealing to their xenophobia, sexism, racism and more, giving them permission to say in public things that formerly were said only within their homes. So much for making America great again. He does love the "undereducated".

The convention should be interesting.

@ Just_A_Guy_You_Know

You are exactly right. It would be entertaining if it were not so frightening. After the surprise in the Brexit vote, we cannot be sure that he will be rejected.

Topic University Rape Culture
Posted 23 Jun 2016 14:42

@ cdlsf

I don't know what country you are in or what you know about the criminal justice systems of your country or other countries. In common law countries like the US, Canada, and the UK judges do not hear evidence from both the accused and the alleged victim in many if not most criminal cases in countries where the accused is not obliged to testify. There are constitutional protections that allow the accused's case to be put to the court by their lawyer and defense witnesses. The prosecution has the right to cross examine these witnesses just as the defense has the right to cross examine prosecution witnesses. Judges weigh the credibility of witnesses and evidence in bench (judge only) trials, but it is the jury who makes this determination when it is a jury trial. In this case the judge renders a decision on penalty if there is a guilty verdict. I should also add that there is usually a provision for the alleged victim to remain unnamed in the press unless that victim opts to go public. In the Brock Turner case she published her devastating statement, but remained anonymous.

What you have described is not realistic.

Topic what are you drinking?
Posted 23 Jun 2016 14:30

San Pellagrino Blood Orange

Topic Which improvements or features would you like to see added?
Posted 23 Jun 2016 08:03



Maybe I'm just being obtuse; but would you mind explaining how having those stories appear on both writers pages, not double posted in the categories; but simply appearing on both writers story list be unfair? Specifically, in what way would others be negatively impacted? I don't see how this would effect anyone beside the writer in question? I would benefit from a detailed example of how another would be harmed.

If they could be harmed by this; than how would having the story appear on my story page do so, yet providing a link on my page as Buz suggested; would not? Surly a link is a link? The story would still carry only the avatar of the posting author. No one is suggesting an actual duplicate story on the site. Merely that it appear on both writers page with the award next to it.

It has been stated that having those awards appear would also be unfair, and again, who is hurt and why? Again, I fail to see the harm. I would like to understand how an award earned by both writers should only apear on one of their pages. Having them appear on both damages others in what way? I find that thought to be curiously confusing.

You seem to discount the earned views, yet we have badges for famous stories, legendary stories and for those with over a million views, so if they were unimportant than why have the badges? Why would adding more badges then be a remedy? That seems counter-intuitive to me.

Is this really important at all? Maybe not, but then why do we write at all. I write for myself, but it is pointless if no one reads it. That's why views matter. If that's silly, then why do we have 3 different badges celebrating views? Again, it seems counter-initiative to say those views don't matter. We don't rank authors directly by views anywhere, so who is hurt by giving credit to both writers instead of one? I'd like this explained so I can understand.

Writing is a difficult art and one many of us put much of ourselves into. I don't think it unfair to expect a duel and equal recognition for our contributions. The idea that 'someone else' is somehow negatively impacted makes no sense to me and I really would like that concisely explained.

Edit.
Prinicipessa, I came back later and reread this post. While I feel my point is accurate, I came off much more strongly than I intended. I have tremendous respect for you and our friendship so I apologize for the challenging tone. That was not my intent.

I have no objection to co-authored stories appearing in both authors' pages, perhaps with a new symbol posted like an RR or EP to indicate that it is indeed a collaboration as I suggested, this new symbol not being an award but merely information. My concern was with respect to the number of views leading to badges like "Famous Story" and "Legendary Story". Would the number of views on one writer's page or on both writers'pages? Either way there seems to be an issue in getting to 30K or 100K as compared with a story written alone. This may be less of a problem than I realized at first because as you pointed out the story would still be published just once in its category for readers.

I may be complicating this too much by hairsplitting and seeing both sides of an argument, but that is how I earn my living. I really have no objection to stories being posted on both writers' pages as I have felt guilty about being the one getting the attention for work that I did not do alone. I just think we have to understand the implications of making this decision before changing how we do things. The fairness interest for co-writers may well be more important than other considerations. There are a small number of co-written stories as compared with the number done solo on Lush. These stories could be posted on both authors' pages with an indication that the story is a collaboration with no negative impact. For some people, collecting views and badges is very important and that is where there may be issues to be worked out.

Milik, there is no need to worry. You just asked me to explain myself more clearly. I have the greatest of respect for you and our friendship. Our collaborations have produced wonderful stories and I would work with you again in a heartbeat.

Topic Top Hokiest Movies Ever List
Posted 22 Jun 2016 19:29

Beaches

Topic Which improvements or features would you like to see added?
Posted 22 Jun 2016 15:53



I hadn't thought about the "double-dipping" issue, but you do make a valid point. However, I still feel that the co-writer is cheated. At the very least, the story should at the very least post on the pages for both authors. If there was a "Co-Author" badge (VirgoGo had a great idea for this) it might help. Now, there aren't that may co-written pieces and if Lush want to encourage this... then a solution needs to be found. Perhaps (and this is just a suggestion Gav) there can be a setting for those who don't care about the counts (like clicking a box for opting out of the votes, awards, etc.)

I like the idea of a Co-Author badge to be awarded when you have written in collaboration. Given that it is unusual, adding more parameters such as multiple co-writers or a threshold number of stories seems unnecessary to me. It is enough to have two egos set aside to work in tandem to produce something that is often more than the sum of its parts. There is a certain synergy that happens when people write together, at least that has been my experience. The counts issue could be partially resolved by having the ability to turn that off if the posting writer did so, presumably in consultation with their writing partner. For those who were not concerned about the views being counted on the posting partner's page, it could be left on.

As well, you could add a symbol like the RR or EP that is not an award, but is an indicator that there are two authors for a particular story.

At least this would be a way to give some recognition to the effort made by various members to write together and produce some of the great work here on Lush.

Topic Which improvements or features would you like to see added?
Posted 22 Jun 2016 14:36

I have been the writer who posted the stories that I have written with collaborators. I have always felt a little guilty about getting the recognition attached to those stories but for the mention of the co-writer's name at the beginning of each story and the acknowledgement note that most writers (including me) added to the stories. Anyone who reads the stories knows who the other writer is so the praise in comments is shared. I realize that there is some inequity in the poster of the story getting the views, badges, and possible awards.

However, the suggestions that have been made so far to remedy this would put those who collaborate on stories in a better position than those who write alone in that each story would be doubly posted, doubly awarded and double rated and ranked. For those who count views towards hundreds of thousands and millions, it would be a sort of double dipping to allow the story to be viewed and have those views counted on two members' pages. Dividing the views between the two writers does not make sense either.

I understand that it rankles to see a story you have worked on garner views and awards for your co-writer that cannot be shared, but I can think of no equitable way to fix this to make it fair between collaborators and at the same time remain fair to the other writers on the site. I would be open to any suggestions that could do that.

Topic The throwing of random objects at the person above you
Posted 22 Jun 2016 12:06

underwear

Topic In the mind of little o' me.
Posted 21 Jun 2016 08:39



I think it's a troll. The post on the rape thread, while vile and offensive, seemed to me to be fairly carefully constructed as one of those "fake nostalgia" sentiments (that we are seeing a lot in current politics.)

I agree with you.

Topic In the mind of little o' me.
Posted 21 Jun 2016 07:32

Well, I guess that he is gone now unless he opens a new account under a different name. His illiterate style and obnoxious opinions will give him away. You wonder if this individual is a troll baiting us and this is an act or if it is real. Either way, this person is not worth the time.

Topic Not new to lush but wanna befriend new people? This thread is for you..
Posted 20 Jun 2016 20:02

I agree with Buz, American Beauty, and Fletch64. You can find people with a similar world view by reading their opinions in the forum, particularly the Think Tank. Those who have written stories will reveal themselves to you in a different way. You can always leave a comment on a story and follow up with a PM, or send a PM about a forum post as a way of opening the door. As Fletch says, be polite and respond if someone writes to you. Have a look at their page to have an idea of what they are like, or at least the persona they display here. It is the internet after all.

I have interacted with people here that I would not have met any other way and developed some interesting friendships. Give it time.

Topic University Rape Culture
Posted 20 Jun 2016 07:14



While I'm certain that there are schools that would fit your description, there are also many that would not. Many schools have mandatory reporting requirements, even if the victim wishes to remain anonymous. Many schools also have their own police departments -- with real, trained, peace officers and NOT Barney Fifes -- that serve as first responders for crime on campus. The good ones recognize their own limitations in investigatory response capabilities, and actively involve the police departments of their host cities when those limitations are exceeded. I guess what I'm trying to say is that not everything we see on Law & Order: SVU is an accurate depiction of actual campus law enforcement.

Several recent cases have highlighted the failures of athletic staff members to forward reports of misconduct by their players to relevant authorities. This is a cultural problem, in that coaching staffs too often fail to see the problem (i.s., the "boys bein' boys" viewpoint) and/or they feel that part of their job is to "take care of" (i.e. shield) their players from adverse actions. These staff members are simply wrong. Their actions undermine discipline, and feed to all too prevalent sense of entitlement that far too many of the athletes seem to possess. Well run athletic departments spend a good deal of time and attention in educating both players and staff as to what the legal and institutional reporting requirements are, and discipline players and staff members when those requirements are not met. That said, the athletic staffs shouldn't be expected to be chaperones or baby sitters -- they should be expected to try to teach their athletes to behave like humans, however.



With respect, I understand that there may be trained police officers on campus, however, they are employed by the universities. They may be pressured by the administration to handle allegations of rape differently than the municipal or state police would because of the reasons I outlined above. My point was that all such incidents and allegations should be within the jurisdiction of the local police, not campus police, for investigation and that proceedings to determine guilt or innocence and possible punishment should be within the criminal justice system, not the universities' discipline mechanisms.

Coaches should not be babysitters as you said, but they should not reinforce the culture of entitlement for young male athletes, and that should start at high school level, not when they reach university. In the end it is up to parents to bring up their sons and daughters to be decent human beings.

@ cheifpussypop (by the way chief is misspelled)

I have read your misogynistic posts in this and other threads. I don't know whether you are a troll and think this is funny or these are genuinely your opinions. Whichever is the case, your posts are no less shameful and ignorant.

Topic University Rape Culture
Posted 19 Jun 2016 14:40

Part of the problem is that many universities do not want to bring the police on campus. They prefer to rely on their own discipline mechanisms which generally do not have the same due process and evidence rule that we know in the criminal justice system. There are many considerations that have nothing to do with an honest investigation of rape allegations relating to money raised from donors and earned by sports teams, the reputation of the university in terms of recruiting students and athletes, and a culture that is male centered, especially if fraternities are a strong element on campus. Athletes are coddled and given a pass because their performance in college sports is so important. The women who are their victims are often treated shabbily.

The first step in changing this would be for the universities to be required to inform the police of any rape allegations and allow them to collect evidence and investigate. I realize that their track record is not stellar, but it is better than in house investigations by universities whose main concern is their reputation and finances. The criminal justice system should have jurisdiction for crime, whether on campus or not. One can then only hope to get a more enlightened judge than Persky.

Topic Word for the day
Posted 16 Jun 2016 19:20

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Topic What turns you on immediately ?
Posted 16 Jun 2016 15:44

Intelligence and wit. Someone who can make me laugh.