Forum posts made by principessa

Topic What's your writing process for erotica? (shorts or longer works)
Posted 24 Jun 2014 13:39

I begin with an idea, usually one that includes some images of both the characters and the situation. I have been told that description is my strong suit so I try to translate these images as I write. Memories of people and places I have been, things I have done, feed my imagination and my writing.

I tend to work it all out in my head before writing a word. The story usually comes to life in big bites. I rarely write anything out of sequence to add in later unless I am particularly inspired with a scene, image or dialogue and am afraid that I will forget the details if I don't write it immediately. I do a lot of writing in my work, so I tend to write quickly. I leave the story when I have run out of words at that sitting and continue again later or the next day.

Words are very important to me. I agonize finding the ones that will express exactly what I want to communicate as I write. There are nuances between words that will cause me to choose one over another and I may edit as I go. I leave the finished story alone for a day before doing a thorough edit, looking for repetition, errors or anything that I think I can improve. I spend quite a while doing this. Once the story is as polished as I can get it, I submit it.

Topic Which improvements or features would you like to see added?
Posted 18 Jun 2014 15:57

Could there be a way to turn off the music that some people have on their profiles? It is sometimes inconvenient or inappropriate for that to be heard when on the site.

Topic Annoying things that people say
Posted 17 Jun 2014 15:47

Ummmm... what? scratch

I meant that I hate when people say with regards to instead of with regard to.

Another one is coronate. A king gets crowned not coronated at a coronation.
Similarly a commentator comments on a subject. They do not commentate.

Topic Annoying things that people say
Posted 16 Jun 2014 18:05

You send regards to someone if you want to say hello. But it is with/in regard to (singular) when you mean about, not regards as many people say.

Topic content question
Posted 15 Jun 2014 13:15

Sorry, you will have to find a way to convey his racism without using that word. We do not allow any racist, homophobic, or other such slurs in stories.

Topic Say something nice about the profile of the person above you
Posted 13 Jun 2014 14:21

Beautiful, smart, and a great writer.

Topic Level of Detail?
Posted 13 May 2014 15:03

I am pretty descriptive in my writing. I would suggest that you find ways to work the details of your characters' looks into your narrative. The list of attributes that reads like a description to the police of a missing person with added sexy bits is not the way to do it. For instance, you can say that a female character is tall and redheaded and later say that a male character looked into her green eyes as he spoke to her. You can leave the description of her body to a later point in the story if and when she gets undressed. Feeding the reader the information slowly allows them to build up the picture as they read. Bra sizes and penis lengths are not necessary. Leave room for something to be imagined by the reader.

Topic How to deal with bilingual text?
Posted 30 Apr 2014 18:25

Although site rules specify that submissions be in English, we have allowed some foreign language phrases in stories. These are usually translated immediately in brackets, unless it is something like bonjour in French which most people know means hello. You have created a story with much more than a phrase or two in Italian. You have actually stated your choices. You can either rewrite it to be in English only or translate the Italian. You could cut the amount of Italian so that translation would not hinder the telling of your story.

Topic Spoil my Wish
Posted 25 Apr 2014 10:39


However, this one has never heard of Berkshire Hathaway. Yours lives in Biloxi, Mississippi.

Topic This or That
Posted 25 Apr 2014 10:36


Red wine or white?

Topic What is the most important "life lesson" you have learned?
Posted 24 Apr 2014 19:08

Everything passes, everything changes. If it's good, enjoy it while it lasts. If not, it will not last forever and the good will come.
So, all we can wish for is the wisdom and courage to deal with both.

Topic Announcing the Winners of our "Oral Sex" Stories Competition
Posted 24 Apr 2014 08:47

Congratulations to all of you. There were so many great entries that winning has to be doubly sweet.

Topic Problems connecting to Lush?
Posted 23 Apr 2014 14:23

It is after 5 PM eastern time right now. This is the first time the site has been stable for any length of time since early yesterday.

Topic The Incest Category is going to be removed
Posted 19 Apr 2014 20:28

Sorry I have an opinion different from yours Haineko. I should stop doing that it's childish of me to disagree. Everyone knows this is the new law of the land ok, everyone has already decided if they are going to live with it or not. Ok. WHy is it a problem if we're freaking upset about if? If any other category got removed there would be as much is not more uproar.

Are you not the individual who called us elitist pricks?

You have two choices. Stay and accept this or take your incest stories somewhere else. That is reality, not fantasy.

Topic The Incest Category is going to be removed
Posted 19 Apr 2014 20:06

It's enough.

It's censorship. No, it would be censorship if the government banned incest stories being published anywhere. This is a privately owned website whose owner is entitled to make rules for it.

It's going because mods complain it's too much work. Untrue.

It's going because mods don't like it. Untrue.

It's going because we are elitist pricks. Untrue.

It's going because some people are oversensitive and this is irrelevant. Untrue.

This is a democracy. How dare we do this? It is not a democracy. It is a privately owned business.

It is only fantasy like every other category. Untrue. It is unlike every other category because it is based on child sexual abuse.

In the end, this is a done deal. It is possible that the views, comments, etc. will not carry over. People may lose some badges. Frankly, if that is the worst thing that happens to them in their lives, they are very, very lucky. If they are decent writers, they will succeed in writing stories for other categories.

This is a free site but to maintain membership here, you have to abide by the rules. Period. If you want all incest all the time, go somewhere else. Publish somewhere else. Fantasize somewhere else. No one is stopping you.

There is no intelligent discourse going on now. People are behaving like children who have been denied more candy.

Topic The Incest Category is going to be removed
Posted 19 Apr 2014 09:51

First, let me add my voice to those pleased with this decision. I have strong views on this subject not being just like any other one and having these stories here has always made me uncomfortable.

Second, regarding the purge of incest stories: Any story with even a hint of incest has been put in that category for at least the two years that I have been a story moderator. It was decided that this was so abhorrent to many people that we did not want them surprised to find this in a story in another category. So, barring any that somehow got through outside that category, if your story was written in this time period it is likely to be deleted from public view but remain visible to you on your stories list.

Topic Where do you get the images you use for your story covers?
Posted 17 Apr 2014 13:18

Please remember when you choose an image for your story that it is posted on the public part of the site. This being the case, no hardcore images including genitalia are permitted.

Topic Announcing our new "Oral Sex" story competition, $600 in prizes.
Posted 16 Apr 2014 14:53

Thank you. For some reason I thought it was today.

Topic Announcing our new "Oral Sex" story competition, $600 in prizes.
Posted 16 Apr 2014 14:11

It is almost the end of the day on the east coast, late evening in Europe, and tomorrow in Oz. Does anyone know when Lelo will announce the winners in the competition?

Topic Which published author can you not get enough of at the moment?
Posted 14 Apr 2014 14:58

I, too, like Alan Furst. Another writer whose books are about same period is David Downing.

I like reading mysteries, but not the usual ones. Henning Mankel is wonderful. There is also a series by Donna Leon about an Italian detective in Venice, Inspector Brunetti. Her books are wonderful because they combine his cynicism about Italian politics and bureaucracy with wonderful descriptions of life in Venice, and of course all of the wonderful meals he has. The stories are complicated and never tied up neatly at the end. There are always moral ambiguities to think about.

Topic Are-all-moderators-professional-writers-What-do-you-expect-from-me
Posted 12 Apr 2014 09:26

I am a senior story moderator on this site. Publishing stories here is a privilege, not a right. The owner and the moderating team have made an effort over the last two years to raise the level of literacy of the stories published here. We have provided many writing resources and advice with every story rejection as to what to do and how to do it. Along with that, writers have learned and improved their skills. Part of that process is putting in time to edit and perfect their stories. Moderators are here to help you do that, not do it for you.

If you are unwilling to learn and improve, I suggest you take your stories to another site where they will be posted without requiring further work from you. Of course, that would display your problems with written English in public, but with that audience, it may not matter.

I am aware of your communication with the moderators who have tried to help you. If you put that time and effort into improving your stories, they might be published by now.

Topic Describe yourself in one word
Posted 03 Apr 2014 18:21



Topic If you were forced to wear a warning label, what would yours say?
Posted 01 Apr 2014 15:55 with care.jpg

Topic Cover picture on stories?
Posted 01 Apr 2014 15:36

I think that it can help you convey the mood of the story. It can give the reader some context as they read your story and provide a starting point for their imagination.

Topic Story Titles on Lush
Posted 31 Mar 2014 17:45


Topic Use My Last Word First - in a 5 word sentence..
Posted 31 Mar 2014 13:05

Skin on skin equals delight.

Topic A reminder on Incest Fantasy stories
Posted 31 Mar 2014 12:58

Incest fantasies are something a large number of readers wish to avoid. If there is any hint of this in a story you are submitting, please remember to put it in this category rather than Taboo or anything else. Finding this in a story in another category is an unhappy surprise for many readers and moderators.

Thank you all for your cooperation.

Topic The introductory story one liners.
Posted 29 Mar 2014 10:10

Since we are talking about the beginning of stories, I want to add this. Please do not repeat your title and byline in the body of your story. If you are copying and pasting from another source and it is there for identification, delete it once you have your story ready to submit here. Thank you.

Here is some helpful information about all of this.

Remove or correct the following:
• ALL CAPITAL LETTERS — Please correct to title case.
• Closing punctuation. — Remove periods (full stops) at the end of titles. They are titles, not sentences.
• Emoticons ;-) — Take 'em out.
• Bylines — The author's name is already listed; it doesn't need to appear in the title too.
• Typos and Spelling Errors — Correct these, but if you have any reason to believe a misspelling was intentional, send a PM to the author.
• "Untitled" is not an acceptable title.

• Tags are required and should always relate to the story.
• "None" or "no tags" are not acceptable tags.
• Check/correct the spelling. Misspelled tags do little good in helping people search for stories.
• Ensure that the tags do not break our site guidelines.

Keep the following in mind:
• Stories with sex between or among family members must go in Incest.
• Stories featuring any magical entity or occurrence belong in Supernatural.
• Stories about dominance and submission need to be in BDSM.
• Stories in which any party is hesitant should go in Reluctance.
• If you have a question about what category a story belongs in, please consult a Senior Mod.

• The one-liner (a short sentence describing the story) is not required. If included, it should pertain to the story.

Topic Question re prohibited content
Posted 28 Mar 2014 19:54

We cannot give you an advance ruling regarding compliance with site guidelines based on a summary. The issues will have to be assessed in the context of the story for a final decision to be made.

I can however tell you some general principles. We expect the site guidelines to be complied with in letter and in spirit. Descriptions of rape will not be published here. Any sexual activity must be based on consent. Mental illness would diminish the capacity for someone to give that consent, so the sexual activity would not be permitted in a story.

Topic Bad timing to publish story... can we schedule the publishing of our stories?
Posted 28 Mar 2014 08:18

Thank you, Asleep. I think that there is a misconception out there that moderating is a paid job. It is not, as NW explained. It would be nice to see more thank yous from members as they receive notice that their story has been posted. Now that I think about it, a thank you should be forthcoming for taking the time to list all of the edits needed, advice as to how to do that, and providing links for related resources that come with a rejection instead of the angry responses we occasionally receive. Every story moderator is willing to answer questions to help that process as well.

It is more difficult to read a badly written story and figure out what has to be fixed and how that should be done. We receive stories that have to go back three or four times for corrections, so that can take four days or even longer when the writer either cannot or will not bring their story to a standard worthy of publication here. The moderating team has worked over the past couple of years to make this the most literate erotica site available. It is not "just porn" or "just smut". The stories here are worth reading for precisely that reason. If it were "just porn", many writers and moderators would not be here.

In the end, how long it takes to publish is really up to the writer and the amount of work they put into their story. Let's call that sweat equity. The more you put in, the better your story, and the more likely it is to be posted without delay.

Thank you to those who have expressed their appreciation for what we do. Perhaps this thread has explained what a difficult job it is for others who were unaware.