Forum posts made by principessa

Topic Three Cheers for the New Roseanne!!
Posted 30 May 2018 09:28

Depends on whether the racist in question is the subject of the joke or comment I guess ;)

I was referring to the racist content in both. Or was that an attempt at humour on your part?

Topic Three Cheers for the New Roseanne!!
Posted 30 May 2018 08:35

From what I understand, other cast members (Emma Kenney, for one) were starting to contact ABC and pull out of the show. Cancelling Roseanne was the right thing to do, but they also may not have had a choice.

Today, she's saying she was hopped up on Ambien and Tweeting under the influence. ....

The drug company has responded: "While all pharmaceutical treatments have side effects, racism is not a known side effect of any Sanofi medication."

Rosanne has been doing this for years, if not decades. Racist, xenophobic and anti-semitic comments are nothing new along with passing on wild conspiracy theories. She even posed dressed as a Nazi complete with Hitler mustache at an oven with a tray full of human-shaped gingerbread cookies that were burned and called them "Jew cookies". There have been no boundaries of decency or taste in her public pronouncements. Given that history, the Ambien excuse is laughable.

And why did she think that saying the comment was a joke would somehow make it better? A racist joke is no better than a racist comment.

Topic Three Cheers for the New Roseanne!!
Posted 29 May 2018 16:26

You got to give Roseanne credit. She really did a great job capturing the average Trump supporter.

She probably did and does. And that is exactly what is wrong with normalizing the racism, sexism, xenophobia, anti-Semitism and more that run in a straight line through the alt right all the way to the occupant of the White House with many of your average Trump voters in between, along with all of the crazy conspiracy theories.

It's interesting how much going on now was paralleled in the campaign of George Wallace in 1968 as shown in the documentary series of four hours about that year on CNN this past weekend. Trump is as direct in his views as Wallace was and appeals to the same anger and resentment. His making America great again is nothing if not a call to go back to the '50s when women, minorities and others knew their place and the white male was dominant.

Topic Three Cheers for the New Roseanne!!
Posted 29 May 2018 12:56

The show was crass years ago and did not improve with age. I watched the first one out of curiosity and did not watch again. The atmosphere in Trump's America has normalized offensive opinions and views that are not part of civil discourse. Rosanne Barr was saying racist and xenophobic things and repeating nutty conspiracy theories as fact before the show came back, just like Trump. From what I have read about the content of the show, her views were only slightly mitigated like saying (paraphrasing) that it was okay to like Muslim neighbours while disliking them as a group.

It should not have been a surprise that Rosanne would continue tweeting and commenting has she had before the show. Why would anything else happen? ABC was perhaps naive in bringing the show back in the current climate in the US. Like the scorpion in an Aesop's fable I heard in childhood, she could not change her nature and she was bound to do what she did. She showed us who she is long ago. She should have been believed by ABC.

Blatant racism is not acceptable with no ifs, ands or buts. ABC did the right thing. By the way, her apology was not an apology.

I understand that her agent has dropped her as well.

Topic Ireland votes on Abortion
Posted 29 May 2018 08:19

Yes. China's "one child" policy were a collection of government rules that limited how many children married couples could have.
I thought to let principessa know that it's not only possible, but it's already happened that governments can coerce a woman into having an abortion when she doesn't want one. As a matter of policy yet!

Anything is possible in places that are dictatorships where citizens do not have freedom of choice in many matters. I was talking about western democracies.

Topic Ireland votes on Abortion
Posted 28 May 2018 14:04

No one is ever going to force a woman to have an abortion who doesn't want one. That being said no one but the woman in question should make this decision with the advice of her doctor. No one else, especially a member of the government or clergy should have a say. This is a most personal of decisions.

I wish that all of the people bleating about the rights of unborn children would focus their energy on the children already here who are or have been abused, neglected, or abandoned by their parents. Do they foster these children? Do they volunteer their time for them? Are they Big Brothers or Sisters for children with struggling parents who need help and support? Put your time and effort where it is needed with existing children rather than trying to force your values on others who do not share them.

Ireland's voters have spoken and joined the 20th century at long last in the 21st.

Topic The Americans have spoken on gun control !
Posted 22 May 2018 16:11

The proposals are that volunteer teachers who pass screening and training protocols be allowed to carry on campus.

One can generally assume that people who volunteer to do something in fact want to do that something.

To the best of my knowledge, no one is suggesting that anyone be required to be armed yet I keep seeing people argue against such a plan as you just did.

I'm not sure where that idea is coming from. Is there any chance you could point us to your source for that information?

I understand your point. When I have heard this suggested by various politicians on television, the suggestion was a blanket one, and the ideas of training and volunteering are not usually mentioned. Even with these caveats, I still think it is a bad idea.

Topic The Americans have spoken on gun control !
Posted 21 May 2018 19:21

You want my guns ?? Come get them And while you are at it take the bullets first,, Dont be so fast to judge all because of a few,, The media sensationalizing every shooting doesn't help. ..

Are you suggesting that mass shootings should not be covered by the press? They have mostly refrained from mentioning the names of the perpetrators, so the goal of achieving fame is thwarted but surely people should know what has happened. Not paying attention will not bring the dead back and will only serve to trivialize these murders as not worthy of time and attention. Maybe it would also undermine public pressure for gun control, which would please the NRA.

As an aside, unrelated to the above post and comment, why do people keep suggesting that teachers be armed? Has anyone asked them if they want to be armed? Do they not have enough to do teaching their students?

Topic The Americans have spoken on gun control !
Posted 20 May 2018 13:47

If you are against sacrificing innocent lives, how can you support allowing all of this to continue? How many are killed by guns owned by ‘responsible’ owners’? You either support the guns or you support the victims. Can’t have it both ways


I don't understand how the well regulated militia mentioned in the Second Amendment morphed into the right for any and everyone to own weapons meant to kill as many people as possible quickly and efficiently. Wake up America. Your children deserve to go to school without thinking about being shot. How many times does this have to happen before things change. What do you value more: your children, families, co-workers and friends or the right to own an arsenal worthy of a criminal in a banana republic?

Someone has to become a profile in courage and champion the disarming of the America.

Topic Incels: involuntary celibates, is it a real thing?
Posted 20 May 2018 09:28

There is some irony in having the idea of involuntary celibates emerge at the same time as the #metoo movement. I think that the bottom line in both cases is that women do not owe men anything sexual in any form unless they want it too. The ICs should spend a little more time understanding how to speak to and interact with women rather than approaching them with an entitlement to sex. The difference between them and the Harvey Weinsteins of the world is that those unmasked by the #metoo movement is more often than not the latter were in a position of power over their victims, in a position to insist and threaten that their lives would be impacted negatively if they did not comply. Although these men may be at different ends of the power spectrum, understanding women as human beings rather than prey seems to be the answer to both.

I have worked in male-dominated environments and have my own stories. The men who treated me with respect, talked to me and listened to me, supported my work and expression of opinions (whether they agreed with them or not) are the men who became friends, and in a few cases more than friends. I think that I am like many women in saying that the way to break down some barriers is to make me laugh. That almost always works.

Calling themselves involuntary celibates denies their responsibility for their own behaviour and its consequences. They imagine themselves to be victims of the women who have denied them. Maybe some introspection and perhaps some therapy would help them forge normal relationships. Seething anger against women is not the answer.

Topic Has Trump increased or decreased the world's opinion of the United States?
Posted 14 May 2018 13:15

Through the first world western democracies, Trump's tenure has impacted on the view of the US negatively. These countries are the historical allies of the US. Trump has given encouragement for the anti-immigrant nationalist movements in these countries as well as in eastern Europe and some Asian countries particularly those headed by leaders with tendencies toward demagoguery and tyranny. His pronouncements about America first, fake news, and attacks on the free press have given them leave to mimic him. This mirrors the normalizing of crass and ignorant remarks and views both outside and within the US because of Trump's example. Many journalists have been harassed and killed under the umbrella of "fake news" in non-democratic countries.

It will take some time to repair the damage done internationally. The Europeans and others such as Aussies and Canadians are learning to work around him. The US can no longer claim to lead in the world or be the example of leadership that embodies the values in the Constitution. The lights have gone out in what Reagan called the shining city on the hill. The idea of American exceptionalism has sometimes overstepped in the past in seeming to say that Americans were better than the rest of the world, but as an ideal of democracy and a free society, it no longer reaches the mark.

Topic Is slavery a choice?
Posted 06 May 2018 16:51

Do you agree with Kanye West that slavery is a choice? Maybe you don’t agree with what he said exactly, but do you find any merit to the idea that slaves could have done more to better their lot in life during slavery?

Anyone taking Kanye West's views seriously needs to give their head a shake. This remark is the ultimate example of blaming the victim. I suppose he has views on other weighty subjects. I suggest that people read reputable writers of history rather than his twitter feed. Maybe this is another instance of the dumbing down of America.

Topic #onetoronto Vehicle plows through pedestrians in Toronto yesterday.
Posted 26 Apr 2018 08:21

Ten people are dead. The injured are still in the ICU in hospital. Families are shattered. A seven-year-old boy is now an orphan because his mother was killed. Bystanders and first responders will never forget what they saw. The rest of us in Toronto are trying to be extra kind and thoughtful to others as the antidote to the hatred of this individual and what he did in this wonderful place.

Can we please keep the gun arguments in another more appropriate thread. There was no gun used here, not even by the police officer who made the arrest.

Thank you for thinking before posting.

Topic #onetoronto Vehicle plows through pedestrians in Toronto yesterday.
Posted 25 Apr 2018 11:06

I suppose the gun did it and the NRA is to blame for the van running into really surprised someone's not on the wagon to ban vans....

NOLAHotGal already made said this about banning vans in another thread. I told her what I am about to tell you: it is a tasteless remark given that ten have died and fifteen or sixteen injured.

The NRA had nothing to do with it because this is Canada and we are not a clone of the US. The accused did not have a gun as they are more difficult to buy and own in Canada. The carnage might have been much worse if he had been armed. The police officer who arrested him managed to defuse the situation without firing a shot, another difference from what often happens in the US.

I posted this thread to inform people of what had happened and for their memories of Toronto if they had any, and generally for messages of support after a tragedy. I was not expecting cheap political shots so soon in the aftermath. Perhaps I was naive.

Topic #onetoronto Vehicle plows through pedestrians in Toronto yesterday.
Posted 24 Apr 2018 19:47

It's sad for the families and the whole world. Ten people dead because one idiot wanted to prove some kind of point?

He was angry because he was not successful with women. Here is what the NYTimes reported about this:

A posting that Sergeant Gibson said the suspect had made minutes before the rampage praised Elliot Rodger, who killed six people in a May 2014 rampage in Isla Vista, Calif., before shooting himself.

Mr. Rodger had posted a YouTube video describing his rage that women had rejected him and that he was a virgin at age 22.

The Facebook posting by Mr. Minassian praised “incels,” or involuntary celibates, a term used in a Reddit group where men vented frustrations that tipped into misogyny.

“The Incel Rebellion has already begun!” the posting stated. “We will overthrow all the Chads and Stacys! All hail Supreme Gentleman Elliot Rodger!”

Mr. Rodger had referred to men who are successful with women as “Chads” and to the unattainable women who rejected him as “Stacys.” Mr. Rodger had also called himself an “incel.”

Last November, Reddit banned a community dedicated to “incels,” which had 40,000 members, and had included posts lauding the rape of women. Some posts were titled “all women are sluts” and “reasons why women are the embodiment of evil.”

Topic #onetoronto Vehicle plows through pedestrians in Toronto yesterday.
Posted 24 Apr 2018 08:13

Canadian news is often not on the front page in other countries in the world. I thought you should all know what has happened here yesterday.

It was a horrible day here. Toronto is now the newest member of a club no one wants to join. Someone with a van mowed down pedestrians walking on the street on a beautiful spring day. Just like what happened in Nice, France, in London, in New York, and elsewhere.

Kudos to the police, fire, EMTs and others who responded quickly to help. The perpetrator was apprehended without a shot fired despite his taunting the PO. Typical Canadian reserve and understatement. The latest number of deaths is ten, and I believe at least sixteen people were injured.

This is a wonderful city: beautiful, diverse, open, and peaceful. People are kind and generous. We will survive this and tend to those impacted by it. The hate that was the genesis of this attack will not root here.


Topic I am done meeting people half way. I'm done. Melt the motherfucking guns.
Posted 23 Apr 2018 20:00

So now we have to meltdown all the white vans, or should it be all vans? At least 10 dead in Canada, no AR-15, no 45, no guns at all.


I live in Toronto. Your flippant remark is tasteless in the circumstances.

It has been a horrible day here. Toronto is now the newest member of a club no one wants to join. Someone with a van mowed down pedestrians walking on the street on a beautiful spring day. Just like what happened in Nice, France, in London, in New York, and elsewhere.

Kudos to the police, fire, EMTs and others who responded quickly to help. The perpetrator was apprehended without a shot fired despite his taunting the PO. Typical Canadian reserve and understatement. The latest number of deaths is ten, and I believe at least sixteen people were injured.

This is a wonderful city: beautiful, diverse, open, and peaceful. People are kind and generous. We will survive this and tend to those impacted by it. The hate that was the genesis of this attack will not root here.


Topic Alex Jones of InfoWars
Posted 19 Apr 2018 11:01

This is what some people are ready to believe in the US today. He is a purveyor of conspiracy theories and lies to an audience ready to eat them up rather than actually doing some reading and thinking on their own. The world has changed in ways difficult for them to accept and explain. So this is a way of making sense of it as counterintuitive as that is to anyone with an IQ higher than their body temp.

To say that the massacre of small children and their teachers at Sandy Hook is a hoax is not just patently untrue, but is a despicable lie and disrespectful to all the parents and families who have lost someone. He is beneath contempt, or perhaps an intellectual in Trumpworld.

Topic I need your help, Lushies
Posted 11 Apr 2018 17:04

Your friend must decide for herself to take back control of her life and that of her children. She needs support in a few ways. There are support groups for abused wives and families and shelters for those who must leave their homes and have nowhere else to go. She may well need counselling or therapy from an appropriate medical professional. She needs to consult with a family law lawyer to understand her rights in this situation and take the necessary legal steps for support and custody of her children and a separation agreement or divorce. She will have to separate herself financially from her husband and establish credit and bank accounts of her own if she does not already have them. If her husband is violent, she may have to get a restraining order to keep him away from her and the children. It may be necessary to either deny him access to the children or allow it only under strictly supervised conditions. This is all complicated and harrowing for someone going through it with an abusive spouse. No matter how well meaning, friends can only offer moral support, but the decision and carrying through with it are all up to her.

You have given her good advice in telling her to document everything. A journal kept with notes written contemporaneously of her spouse's words, behaviour, actions are a good record for her lawyer and the court. Like many such men, her husband revels in exerting power and control over her and the children. Leaving for good can be a difficult decision and can have some peril for her, but there is a lot of support in the community for women in this position. You can help her find these resources, but again, the decision to act is hers alone.

Topic I am done meeting people half way. I'm done. Melt the motherfucking guns.
Posted 25 Mar 2018 07:14

Home sick with a cold. I watched the coverage all day yesterday.

The marches are wonderful, but have to be followed by action. People need to morph this into votes for the right candidates. Everyone of the appropriate age should be registered to vote. Registration drives should be organized in every state and at every school, college and university. Candidates in the pocket of the NRA should be given a reason to regret taking that money and supporting that organization in blocking reasonable limits on guns and appropriate vetting of owners and users. There is a midterm election in November. Volunteer for the candidate in your district who will support an end to the NRA's influence. Give time to canvass and get out the vote. Make your presence known. Change is possible. Expose those who take large amounts from the NRA. Lobby against candidates and businesses that support them.

Young people led their elders to end the war in Viet Nam and they can lead again to end the proliferation of guns in the US. No weapons of war should be legal. No one with a criminal record or a history of domestic violence should own a gun. If people who have certain illnesses must be reported to the authorities by their doctors to remove their licences and ability to drive, then there must be a way of doing the same with those whose mental instability is connected to violence and a wish to perpetrate it. Not everyone with mental health issues falls into this category. Most have normal neuroses and even manic depression and bipolar conditions can be stabilized by medications. You cannot arrest someone before they actually commit a crime, but you can find ways to limit their ability to arm themselves as these shooters have done. There is no perfect solution. But every bit of change that moves in the right direction is progress. Take enough steps and actions and it adds up to enormous change. The NRA will say there is no solution that works. Tell them that the perfect should not stand in the way of the good. Every life thereby saved would make even incremental change worthwhile. Change Congress by electing representatives who will move forward on gun control. Use the power of the ballot box. Every legitimate poll says that the vast majority of Americans want gun control. Make this coming election the NRA's worst nightmare.

I will get off my soapbox now.

Topic At least sixteen dead in Parkland FL high school shooting.
Posted 15 Feb 2018 17:47

This has nothing to do with guns. This has everything to do with people who are mental.

This is about guns and mental health, together and separately. We can hold two thoughts in our heads at the same time. Guns should be controlled in the US as they are in other developed countries. At the least assault weapons should be banned along with other weapons that are meant only to kill people rather than be used for hunting - for all except the armed forces and certain segments of law enforcement. People with mental health issues should not be permitted to purchase, own, or possess guns. Doctors must report those who suffer from diseases which disable them from driving safely. Why can this not happen regarding guns and mental health issues?

This interestingly combines two areas where the US differs from other western first world countries: gun control and healthcare, including mental healthcare. The idea that there is an inherent right to own weapons is anathema in other countries, but not in the US. And the idea that healthcare is a for profit industry rather than a right is solely American. Both are the opposite of what they ought to be.

Topic At least sixteen dead in Parkland FL high school shooting.
Posted 15 Feb 2018 16:09

We have been here before. We will be here again. If I hear one more politician say he sends thoughts and prayers and that this is not the time to talk about gun control, I will scream. When will Americans demand that their lives and those of their children are more important than the NRA and the right to bear arms? When will politicians have the courage to face down the NRA and make change happen? When will enough be enough? It is not a matter of better mental health care or gun control alone. Both are necessary as is a societal change in America. There are many things that have to be done. Any progress on this is better than none, but the NRA will block any form of gun control and those who receive their money in Congress and at state level will not act. Who has to die for the response to be more than platitudes?

I naively thought that after the killing of six-year-olds and their teachers and administrators at Sandy Hook that America would finally have had enough. I was wrong. Americans' love affair with guns has to be put to an end but I no longer have faith that it will happen.

Topic Should Gay Conversion Therapy for Minors be Illegal?
Posted 30 Jan 2018 11:13

I don't see it as abuse. When they get old enough to make their on decisions they can. It is the parents obligation to streer their children in the direction they think best. There are probably as many professionals that believe it is better to put them in therapy as there are that believe they should not be put in therapy. My statements support the parents making the decisions for their children. Not the government.


With respect, you do not seem to understand that being gay/lesbian is not a choice, but something that is hard wired in individuals just the same way as being straight. It is the same as being born with blue or brown or hazel eyes. You cannot convert gays with therapy any more than straights could be converted. So this is not something for parents to direct or change, but rather just to accept and support. If parents' religious convictions conflict with this, they will have to make a choice between religious dogma and love for their child, which for most parents comes without conditions. As to your view that this is government interference, keep in mind that sexual orientation is a protected right under the constitutions and jurisprudence of all western democracies.

Topic Aziz Ansari Sexual Assault Allegations. Do you consider what he did sexual assault?
Posted 23 Jan 2018 08:36

I have already posted twice with my opinion on this, so I will not repeat what I have said.

I wonder if anyone thought about irony when Grace was chosen as her pseudonym. Grace is one thing she has not displayed in this situation. As Burquette said, the fact that Aziz has not revealed her identity tells us something about him. He is the one behaving with grace right now.

Topic Aziz Ansari Sexual Assault Allegations. Do you consider what he did sexual assault?
Posted 22 Jan 2018 11:12

She gave and received oral sex to be polite? It’s not “probably not”. It is not even close to being “rape or sexual assault on a par with what other women have suffered” and it’s an insult to them that you would even suggest it. She participated willingly. He stopped when she asked him to but she continued to participate in more sexual activity several times during the date. She was free to leave at any time and she said he didn’t force her to do anything. There was no assault. He didn’t break the law, so if anyone is in the wrong here, it’s the woman. She’s sullied his reputation.

Being polite my ass. Who has sex to be polite?

Pigs must be flying. I agree with you.

I think she wants her fifteen minutes of fame, especially now that she can get on the #metoo wagon. Her behaviour makes women into mute objects rather than adults with free will and mouths to speak for themselves. She wanted to latch on to some of the light attached to him. To expect romance with someone you don't know and willingly undress and engage in oral sex (both ways) is disingenuous. It was a hookup, not a Valentine card. She knew it and regretted it afterward. He did nothing without her consent, even if it was silent. She could have left at any point, including immediately after dinner and the tragedy of getting the wrong wine. She sounds immature, entitled, and displays a complete lack of self-awareness. And she had no compunction about anonymously making these allegations public, naming him. Not cool.

Topic Aziz Ansari Sexual Assault Allegations. Do you consider what he did sexual assault?
Posted 19 Jan 2018 15:00

I agree with those who say that she had chances to leave and that she participated willingly in sexual activity. I read her account of the evening. I think that she wanted to hook up with a Hollywood star and had some regret about what transpired afterward, but unless Ansari had ESP he could not have known. She certainly could have gone home after dinner, or not undressed, or not taken part in oral sex. This was not romance. It was a hook up. She knew what she was signing up for and her silence was consent. She was not drunk or drugged or incapacitated in any way. She should have used her voice and taken responsibility for herself. If this was the worst night of her life she is a very lucky young woman.

I consider myself a feminist, but I am older than this young woman. I object to this brand of feminism that infantilizes women by allowing them to abdicate taking responsibility for their actions and words or lack thereof. Are we to go back to fainting couches and clutching our pearls?

Something else that bothers me about this is exposing him in this situation while maintaining her anonymity.

Topic Awesome Award 1/16/18: Green_Man
Posted 17 Jan 2018 14:52

Congratulations. Very few people have built the body of work that you have. Know that you are a treasured member here.

Topic What is your definition of racism?
Posted 18 Dec 2017 09:24

If you cringe when Roy Moore's wife says: "One of our lawyers is a Jew" you're probably not a racist. If you don't, you probably are.

And that was a take on the old cliche of "some of our best friends are Jews/black".

It certainly made me cringe.

Topic Advice before submitting a story
Posted 17 Dec 2017 15:39

Sorry if I'm posting in the wrong forum.

As an aspiring writer, with english as second language, should I consider converting centimeters (cm) and kilograms (kg) into feet/inches and pounds in my stories?

Thanks principessa and everyone else for a treasure trove of great advices.


Whatever you feel comfortable with is okay. There are readers of all nationalities here.

I appreciate the thank you. You're welcome.

Topic Alphabet Songs (A-Z)
Posted 15 Dec 2017 15:55

I Am Woman - Helen Reddy