Forum posts made by principessa

Topic Not new to lush but wanna befriend new people? This thread is for you..
Posted 20 Jun 2016 20:02

I agree with Buz, American Beauty, and Fletch64. You can find people with a similar world view by reading their opinions in the forum, particularly the Think Tank. Those who have written stories will reveal themselves to you in a different way. You can always leave a comment on a story and follow up with a PM, or send a PM about a forum post as a way of opening the door. As Fletch says, be polite and respond if someone writes to you. Have a look at their page to have an idea of what they are like, or at least the persona they display here. It is the internet after all.

I have interacted with people here that I would not have met any other way and developed some interesting friendships. Give it time.

Topic University Rape Culture
Posted 20 Jun 2016 07:14



While I'm certain that there are schools that would fit your description, there are also many that would not. Many schools have mandatory reporting requirements, even if the victim wishes to remain anonymous. Many schools also have their own police departments -- with real, trained, peace officers and NOT Barney Fifes -- that serve as first responders for crime on campus. The good ones recognize their own limitations in investigatory response capabilities, and actively involve the police departments of their host cities when those limitations are exceeded. I guess what I'm trying to say is that not everything we see on Law & Order: SVU is an accurate depiction of actual campus law enforcement.

Several recent cases have highlighted the failures of athletic staff members to forward reports of misconduct by their players to relevant authorities. This is a cultural problem, in that coaching staffs too often fail to see the problem (i.s., the "boys bein' boys" viewpoint) and/or they feel that part of their job is to "take care of" (i.e. shield) their players from adverse actions. These staff members are simply wrong. Their actions undermine discipline, and feed to all too prevalent sense of entitlement that far too many of the athletes seem to possess. Well run athletic departments spend a good deal of time and attention in educating both players and staff as to what the legal and institutional reporting requirements are, and discipline players and staff members when those requirements are not met. That said, the athletic staffs shouldn't be expected to be chaperones or baby sitters -- they should be expected to try to teach their athletes to behave like humans, however.



With respect, I understand that there may be trained police officers on campus, however, they are employed by the universities. They may be pressured by the administration to handle allegations of rape differently than the municipal or state police would because of the reasons I outlined above. My point was that all such incidents and allegations should be within the jurisdiction of the local police, not campus police, for investigation and that proceedings to determine guilt or innocence and possible punishment should be within the criminal justice system, not the universities' discipline mechanisms.

Coaches should not be babysitters as you said, but they should not reinforce the culture of entitlement for young male athletes, and that should start at high school level, not when they reach university. In the end it is up to parents to bring up their sons and daughters to be decent human beings.

@ cheifpussypop (by the way chief is misspelled)

I have read your misogynistic posts in this and other threads. I don't know whether you are a troll and think this is funny or these are genuinely your opinions. Whichever is the case, your posts are no less shameful and ignorant.

Topic University Rape Culture
Posted 19 Jun 2016 14:40

Part of the problem is that many universities do not want to bring the police on campus. They prefer to rely on their own discipline mechanisms which generally do not have the same due process and evidence rule that we know in the criminal justice system. There are many considerations that have nothing to do with an honest investigation of rape allegations relating to money raised from donors and earned by sports teams, the reputation of the university in terms of recruiting students and athletes, and a culture that is male centered, especially if fraternities are a strong element on campus. Athletes are coddled and given a pass because their performance in college sports is so important. The women who are their victims are often treated shabbily.

The first step in changing this would be for the universities to be required to inform the police of any rape allegations and allow them to collect evidence and investigate. I realize that their track record is not stellar, but it is better than in house investigations by universities whose main concern is their reputation and finances. The criminal justice system should have jurisdiction for crime, whether on campus or not. One can then only hope to get a more enlightened judge than Persky.

Topic Word for the day
Posted 16 Jun 2016 19:20

https://upload.lushstories.com/2098905637-tumblr_m3p285hHq71r6nm6ao1_r1_500.png

Topic What turns you on immediately ?
Posted 16 Jun 2016 15:44

Intelligence and wit. Someone who can make me laugh.

Topic Just wondering about something?
Posted 16 Jun 2016 15:25

Also another thing I was wondering when I'm introducing the characters Can the writer or author describe a little bit about their character? For example their looks something to give the readers an idea of what she or he looks like,and also their personality or do I leave those two things to the readers imagination?

You should find ways to let the reader know what they look like without what we call the laundry list, e.g. Redhead, green eyes, 36DD breasts and long legs. Or, tall, dark and handsome with a 9-inch penis.

That is what most readers do not want to read.

Topic What are some of your "Pet Peeves"
Posted 16 Jun 2016 13:36

The use of 'supposebly' over SUPPOSEDLY. Drives me nuts!



Me too. Probably from the same people who say pacifically (which I saw recently in the forum) for specifically.

Topic What are some of your "Pet Peeves"
Posted 16 Jun 2016 10:43

Dishonesty
Bad manners
Ignorance
Self-absorption
Illiterate writing (bad spelling and grammar)
The use of "like" constantly in conversation

Topic February Fast Approaches... Donald Trump is being taken seriously... Should we be TERRIFIED???
Posted 14 Jun 2016 14:53

Every time I think his pronouncements could not get worse, Donald Trump ups the ante. After the massacre in Orlando, he has now alleged that President Obama somehow is sympathetic to the terrorists. I suppose this is connected to his allegation that the President won't use the phrase "Islamic terrorism". Of course, everyone is entitled to free speech in the marketplace of ideas, but to make this accusation Trump has gone beyond the bounds of reasonable debate and civil discourse. It is shameful and proves he is unfit for the office of President. Of course, Trump was very active in fueling the birthers who alleged that President Obama had not been born in the US so he has a history of animus toward President Obama and making outrageous allegations.

GOP politicians are running away from this and denying access to the press to be questioned about their continuing support for their presumptive candidate. They must be cringing and wishing he would shut up. I believe 24 GOP senators are up for reelection this year. It does not look good for them in a time when voters tend to vote an entire ticket rather than splitting their votes among the parties after voting for President.

Keep talking, Donald. Your name will be linked in history to Barry Goldwater's as GOP candidates swept by the Dems.

Topic February Fast Approaches... Donald Trump is being taken seriously... Should we be TERRIFIED???
Posted 13 Jun 2016 18:43

I've refrained from posting to this thread, mainly because Trump has certainly aroused visceral reactions from both sides. I really tend to stay away from rock fights.

At first I, like many others, mentally wrote Trump off as a dilettante. I, like others, have been astonished to see his successful campaign so far. I'm astounded, and not in a good way. You see, I'm a Republican. Always have been since I first registered to vote. We've fielded some marginal candidates in the past, but I've never been ashamed by them -- until now.

Here's the thing. Trump has tapped into and stoked the anger of a whole bunch of people who feel that the modern world is leaving them behind. They fear change and believe that Trump will make it all go away. He's pandered to the Republican base that can be counted on to vote in primaries, and that has paid off handsomely for him. "I love the poorly educated!" -- this is likely the most honest thing Trump has said in the campaign so far.

While I was wrong about Trump's ability to gain the nomination, I'm going to go out on a limb and predict a landslide Clinton victory. Most Democrats will vote for Hillary, the rest of the Democrats (and I'll bet a fair portion of Republicans) will vote against Trump, and the Republicans who got Trump the nomination will vote for Trump. And the longer the campaign goes on, more and more people are going to fall into that second camp. From now until election day, Trump is his own worst enemy -- his unscripted comments will cost him far more votes than he will gain.

I really hope I'm not whistling through the graveyard...



From your mouth to God's ears. I admit that is my hopeful prediction as well, especially the part about Republicans holding their noses and voting for Hillary. I also agree about Trump digging himself in deeper and deeper with his stream of consciousness as the weeks pass. What the Dems have to do is simply use his words against him. You don't get in the way when your enemy is destroying himself.

Topic what are u watching on tv?
Posted 13 Jun 2016 18:24

Binge watching a new season of "Happy Valley".

Topic An Epic Movie Quiz!
Posted 13 Jun 2016 18:17

Please, Liz, can we have another movie quiz. flower

Topic Your First Erotic Story
Posted 13 Jun 2016 15:51

I had written a number of stories with another Lushie in 2012/13 that were well received and built my confidence to write alone. "Stacey's Choice" was that first effort. It was written about a character who is a lot like me, in my city in early summer, and includes memories of the south of France and the art it produces. It is admittedly a romantic story, with a twist. I remember sitting and watching the number of views increase along with votes and comments and being relieved and happy. It was well received and was voted an Editor's Pick ribbon, auspicious for a first effort. I admit being proud of myself after the nervousness I had felt before submitting it. It has earned a "Famous Story" badge.

I think the story stands up even a couple of years later. I wouldn't change anything. Here is the link if you wish to have a peek at it:

https://www.lushstories.com/stories/love-stories/staceys-choice.aspx

Topic Guilty or Innocent.
Posted 13 Jun 2016 14:48

guilty - have stayed up late enough to get very little sleep

Have had sex on a vacation with someone you would never be with again.

Topic Fountain Pens & Inks
Posted 13 Jun 2016 11:33

I have a few pens but all take cartridges. A couple are very expensive and some more ordinary. You can get turquoise ink in cartridges but it is not opalescent like Liz's ink. I probably would make a mess with a pot of ink.

I love writing with a fountain pen. It encourages you to be mindful of your writing. I save the broader nib for something like a special card or note and use a medium nib otherwise. It takes a little getting used to, but is worth the effort.

The looks you get from other people when you pull out and write with a fountain pen are interesting. It invariably brings a lot of questions.

How do you clean them properly?
Do you like filling the ink better than using cartridges?

Topic Those T shirts that have those witty sayings..what is your favorite?
Posted 13 Jun 2016 08:48

I wear one that sez..I like coffee and maybe two other people.

That made me laugh. I should have it for grumpy days when I like coffee more than people.

Topic February Fast Approaches... Donald Trump is being taken seriously... Should we be TERRIFIED???
Posted 12 Jun 2016 17:14

yeah, donald trump may not necessarily be the best person (he's super racist! *sarcastic thumbs up*) but you gotta admit he's got SOME political savvy--- like, how did he make it this far?? (*world throws up its hands in dismay*)

He is a master salesman and huckster.

Topic February Fast Approaches... Donald Trump is being taken seriously... Should we be TERRIFIED???
Posted 12 Jun 2016 15:25

The above post is exactly right. His promise of making America great again is code for turning back the clock to the 1950s, before minorities and women had a place in society and civil rights. That is his appeal to the undereducated (also code for ignorant) white men and women. What these people imagine he will do for them I don't know. What I do know is that this is the 21st century and that the vast majority of Americans do not want a return to nativism, racism, sexism, homophobia and misogyny of the earlier half of the 20th century. Those days are gone and will not be coming back.

Topic Project Semi Colon: Lush Style
Posted 12 Jun 2016 12:39

I have had struggles because of things in my past that I choose not to disclose here, but they were shattering. There have been periods of depression. What I have learned is that I have strength that I was not aware of and that I can overcome almost anything. I decided to put that part of my life away and live my life as richly and with as much joy as I can. I will not give anyone the power to carry on hurting me with a place in my life. I think it was F. Scott Fitzgerald who said that living well is the best revenge.


https://upload.lushstories.com/898427492-thebestrevenge.jpg

Topic Why are attractive guys so boring?
Posted 12 Jun 2016 11:05

A few good looking men and women can be self-absorbed and shallow, but certainly not the majority of them. It may be that their looks have opened doors for them and they have not developed other aspects of themselves. Most of us get past the surface and are interested in people for the content of their minds and hearts, not what they are wrapped in, handsome/pretty or not. I am attracted to intelligence, kindness and humour rather than looks.

I agree with MiaCroft above.

Topic Imagine you had all the money you needed where would you live and what would you do?
Posted 12 Jun 2016 10:37

I would live either in Provence or Tuscany, close to but not in a larger town to be away from tourist hordes. I would write, read, perhaps learn to paint in watercolours, and learn to cook authentic Mediterranean food. My intention would be to learn to speak French/Italian fluently and live like a local. My other half is an architect so our house would probably be a work in progress renovating an old property.

Topic Orlando, FL....A Thread To Offer Condolences
Posted 12 Jun 2016 09:31

Condolences to all. This is horrific and too much like the attack in Paris. What kind of world are we living in?

If you live in the area, please go and donate blood. They need it badly considering all of those who have been shot.

Topic News: Johnny Depp and Domestic Violence
Posted 12 Jun 2016 08:03

There is a lot to talk about on the subject of domestic violence and our reactions to it. There is a lot to talk about how society and the justice system in every country deals with it. However, I wish we all would stop arguing about Amber Heard and Johnny Depp. We were not there. We don't know what happened. Information released on the internet has been released to bolster one side or the other, or by people who wanted the money that was offered for a story. Automatically believing one story or another because we like one or the other of these people is naive. Unless we really are friends or family members of either of them, we don't know them at all, just a persona pushed by their public relations staff.

With the passage of time, the facts will come out. We will see if the evidence will be tested in a court or only in the arena of public opinion. Let us be mindful about how serious this is if it is indeed true, and it will impact the lives of these two even if the allegations are false. Again, none of us knows anything for certain. I too tend to believe those who allege they are victims, but unfortunately sometimes they are not truthful. This conversation is fraught for anyone who has been a victim themselves or has worked with such individuals. Let us wait and find out what really happened before we decide for certain based on tabloid media.

Topic Ex-Stanford Swimmer convicted of rape
Posted 11 Jun 2016 17:34

(I realize that I said some of this above, but I'm repeating it to make a point.)

I would like to know how being intoxicated excuses Turner for the despicable things he did and at the same time puts the onus on the victim for her own rape. To repeat intoxicated rapist gets a pass. Intoxicated victim is responsible. How does that make sense?

Of course that is the argument of people in denial like Turner's parents. The problem with that paradigm is that many young men drink and do not rape. I reject the idea that drinking will cause you to do things that you would not otherwise do. I reject the argument that an unconscious young woman is responsible for Turner raping her. The Turners will have to come to realize that they brought up a young man who is entitled and feels free to take what he wants and do what he wants without consequences. He has no moral compass. That was their job and they failed utterly and completely. He may enjoy his father's ribeye steaks again one day. He may in reality serve three months or less for his crime. However, he is branded a sex offender. We know now that he is in addition to being a rapist a craven liar (regarding his prior use of drugs and alcohol), a feckless poster of intimate images (that of her breast sent to his friends) and more, or really less as his character is diminished even more as more information about him is revealed. Good luck, Brock. We all know who and what you are now. You will be in another kind of prison for the rest of your life. It is no less than you deserve.

@ WMM His family lives in a middle class community, not in a trailer park. They are reasonably well off.

Topic The Night Manager Mini Series on AMC
Posted 11 Jun 2016 09:58

Olivia Coleman was wonderful. I probably saw her in other things but remember her first in "Broadchurch". She gave a stunning performance in that. The US version of it had the same male lead actor but was nowhere near as well done as the UK production, largely because she was not in it. She really was pregnant during the production of "Night Manager".

Topic Ex-Stanford Swimmer convicted of rape
Posted 11 Jun 2016 09:44



Therein lies the problem. It doesn't. Drinking does not grant someone permission to assault another. If someone can't handle alcohol then they shouldn't consume it. If your behavior is considerably changed by drinking to the point that you can't respect another...makes you want to violate a vulnerable young woman, stop. Don't drink.

I've said it before coaches, alumni, and the leadership of these athletic departments need to do more educating and less enabling.


Absolutely. The sense of entitlement that young men have, more so with athletes, has to end. Both young men and women have to be educated to counter the party/rape culture on campuses. In my view alcohol and/or drugs exacerbate the situation but are not the cause. I think that a decent human being does not change when intoxicated to become a rapist. It is a weak excuse for despicable behaviour. The majority of young men do not rape, drunk or sober. The ones who do are capable of it with or without drinking. Respect for young women like that shown by the two grad students who found Brock Turner in the act is what is needed and what should be taught.

It is now known that not only did Turner lie to the judge about his background with drinking and drugs, but also that he took pictures and sent images of his victim's breast to his friends. Just more to tell us about his real character - really a complete moral bankruptcy of an entitled rich athlete, reinforced and enabled by his parents.

The only good that can come of this is the open letter written by the brave victim. It is a teaching and learning moment which may become a turning point in how sexual assault is dealt with in our society.

Topic Ex-Stanford Swimmer convicted of rape
Posted 10 Jun 2016 19:27

I have been told that in California system the prosecution cannot appeal the verdict or the sentence. Not sure if this is the case.

Perhaps we will see the federal Department of Justice involved as used to happen with outrageous verdicts in the US South regarding black defendants, using legislation to prosecute him for denying her civil rights. As I understand it, this would not raise the double jeopardy argument. Given the tsunami of public opinion regarding this accused, no matter what happens, his days of living a privileged life are over. He has been labelled a sex offender and his name and face have been published worldwide.

There is something I would like those who gloss over what he did to explain to me. How is it that being intoxicated vitiates his crime, but at the same time being intoxicated puts the onus of what Brock did to his victim on her, making her responsible for her own rape. In this paradigm he drinks and he gets a pass. She drinks and deserves to be raped. I find all of the finger wagging about young women drinking and somehow inviting this to be revolting. There are many young men who drink and do not feel that they have been given permission to rape.

Topic Ex-Stanford Swimmer convicted of rape
Posted 09 Jun 2016 15:34

It is outrageous. He lives in denial and has shown no remorse. The statement his father made to the court only acknowledged how this was hurting his son, including loss of appetite for his favourite ribeye steaks. Neither father nor son has any moral compass. He is just another entitled rich white athlete.

I understand that he intends to appeal his sentence. I hope the prosecution not only defends that but makes a case for a less lenient one. His time in jail will not be pleasant. At least he lost his scholarship and is now labelled a sex offender.

Someone posted the link to the entire statement from the victim in another thread. Everyone should read it, particularly young men and women.

https://www.buzzfeed.com/katiejmbaker/heres-the-powerful-letter-the-stanford-victim-read-to-her-ra?utm_term=.pg2nL9azW#.we25Vg7Pm

In Canada, unlike the US, judges are appointed rather than elected. I hope it is not too late for someone to give Judge Persky some opposition.

VP Joe Biden has written an open letter to the victim. It is worth reading too.

http://www.motherjones.com/media/2016/06/read-joe-bidens-open-letter-stanford-suvivor-sexual-assault

Topic Using one word describe the person above you
Posted 09 Jun 2016 10:17

bookworm