Forum posts made by principessa

Topic How strongly should Western type governments push others to emulate their beliefs?
Posted 14 Nov 2017 15:00

Change that is made in response to external pressures is usually superficial, and lasts only so long as those pressures are applied, while at the same time producing resistance and resentment. Real change is internally motivated. It comes from the beliefs and attitudes and values of the people themselves. The West can still have a role in influencing these changes, but they have to let go of war and heavy handed diplomacy as their MO. The effect of these approaches sends mixed messages. When an American plane flies overhead in Afghanistan, the people are uncertain whether it will drop bombs, aid packages, or just fly by. You can't win the 'hearts and minds' of people like this.

Instead, I think our greatest weapon is media. We should not underestimate the power of literature, film, art, and even social media (as Russia very effectively demonstrated during the previous US election) in shaping the beliefs and attitudes of people, and in shifting thoughts, leading to action. In the 'information age,' well-crafted propaganda is probably our best tool for producing change. The key words however, are 'well-crafted.' In order to be effective, it's important that we understand the paradigms of the people we're trying to reach, and work within that paradigm to influence them. Russia understood the political divide in America and exploited it - what they didn't do is tell us to adopt Russian values because they're awesome. Their influence has been more subtle, and therefore more effective.

As for whether the West should should push its beliefs, I think one of the major issues is that our beliefs are not perfect. When other governments look at the West, they see our social problems and internal conflicts, and many of them say 'no thanks.' If we want other governments to emulate us, we need to give them an example worth emulating.


The US should not be touting its form of democracy as if they are handing down the Ten Commandments. The US also has a record of supporting dictators for geopolitical reasons and being an enemy of democracy as it played out in a way they didn't like. An example, among many, is undermining the duly elected Allende in Chile because he was too socialist for US taste and tacitly supporting Pinochet who is widely regarded as guility of numerous murders and human rights violations. I knew someone who almost became one of the many disappeared in Chile, but because his father had been an admiral he was given a few hours to leave the country forever and escape with his life.

Topic What should be done about Roy Moore?
Posted 14 Nov 2017 14:15

I am interested in what you think about Moore's candidacy. Five women have now come forward after the initial reporting by the Washington Post regarding his assaulting them as teen-aged girls. He was in his 30s at the time and a the district attorney. Moore has denied the allegations and dug his heels in blaming fake news and conspiracy theories for what has been alleged. As I understand it this started with dogged reporting by the Post investigating long circulated rumours about him, not any of the women coming forward first.

As someone who would be a Democrat were I an American, I admit that I take some delight in the GOP having this mess to solve. Should the Alabama GOP take away his candidacy if they can? Should they encourage a write-in candidate if they cannot? Should the Senate seat him if he indeed is elected? I have even heard it suggested that Jeff Sessions should quit as AG given all of the trouble he is in and attempt to regain his Senate seat with as a write-in candidate.

What do you all think?

Topic RUMPLATIONS: Honky Tonk and Cyber Bar
Posted 14 Nov 2017 13:08

Damn, there's one I haven't heard in a while. A 7 and 7 over here, too.

My late uncle worked for Seagram's (the original distillery in Waterloo, which is now housing a Google data centre, IIRC, having been shut down as a distillery years ago) so their product figured heavily in his drinking habits (I was too young to imbibe at that time, he died around the time I finished high school). I used to use Crown Royal bags to carry dice and figures for my D&D playing.

In our family the soft purple Crown Royal bags were used for scrabble tiles and other game pieces. You brought back a fond memory.

I guess I'll have some coffee. I am still at work so it is too early to drink. Thankfully I am having a much better day than yesterday. Hope you are all doing well.

Topic Aging Parents..
Posted 14 Nov 2017 12:52

I too have this experience. The role reversal is very difficult for both parent and child. You have to have a lot of patience and remember that your parents have given you love and care all of their lives.

Topic RUMPLATIONS: Honky Tonk and Cyber Bar
Posted 13 Nov 2017 18:52

I think I know why so many Canadians have moved to Atlanta. The sun and it's warm most of the year, actually dripping humid hot all summer to early fall. But lots of Canadians here, and I tend to meet them through business, business organizations, and civic clubs. I like Canadians but don't tell LYFBUZ. I ain't fooled by all that pacificity... just a smokescreen until Canadian world domination and Maple Leafs on everything. :)


Give me something Canadian to drink. Uh, Canadian Mist on ice.

We should have 7 and 7 and toast to world domination, Buz. That's Seagrams Seven Crown and 7-Up, an old fashioned drink.

Topic RUMPLATIONS: Honky Tonk and Cyber Bar
Posted 13 Nov 2017 18:29

My son goes through hell every winter. SAD, we suspect, though he's never been formally diagnosed. Gives us an excuse to spend part of the holiday (usually New Year's) someplace sunny and warm. This year it's Cancun.

Vitamin D is supposed to help and I take it every day. I agree with your son's strategy and try to get away to an island each winter. Canadians are a hardy lot but by February we really have had enough of winter's cold and short days. The only remedy is some warmth and sunshine. I think that most of us suffer to some extent from SAD.

Topic Word for the day
Posted 13 Nov 2017 14:50

agita (because of how my day went)

noun: agita
"I ain't a healthy guy! My stomach can't take this agita"
anxiety, stress, or aggravation.
"there will be times when he causes the Democratic leadership some agita"
1980s: from Italian agitare ‘agitate, shake.’

Topic RUMPLATIONS: Honky Tonk and Cyber Bar
Posted 13 Nov 2017 14:15

It has been a gloomy here and work has provided some difficult problems. Not a great day. I'm sure that I'm not the only one who copes better on a bright, sunny day. Oh well, best get used to it. Autumn and winter in Canada.

I think I am ready for a drink. Maybe vodka and tonic with liime. Hello all. How have your days gone?

Topic The next new categories
Posted 12 Nov 2017 15:42

What about mind control? I love stories of hypnosis and other mind control

I think that might run into problems regarding consent.

Topic RUMPLATIONS: Honky Tonk and Cyber Bar
Posted 12 Nov 2017 15:31

Evening, Hannah. Your want 'real' tea or one of those decaf, not really tea,like that 'cameltoe' stuff? ;)

Sara, did you get your Crown and Coke? In case you can't remember, here's another one, just to be on the safe side.

Don't recall if Ms P placed an order or, if she did, just exactly what it might have been. So here's ya a mug of tea so Hannah won't be sipping alone.

Dang interesting weekend, imo.

Anybody else need a drink?


Thank you. It's evening here now. I think I'll have a glass of red wine please.

Topic Happy Birthday, Nymphwiter!!
Posted 12 Nov 2017 15:27

Happy Birthday!

Topic Pick a movie that has something in common with the above film
Posted 12 Nov 2017 15:22

The Big Chill (also with Jeff Goldblum)

Topic Lest we forget
Posted 12 Nov 2017 15:16

This is beautiful. Thank you for posting it here love9

I wondered if this poem was known in the US. I think it is in the UK. It is iconic in Canada and taught in grade school as part of Remembrance Day. Canadians patriotism is expressed differently than in the US but this day is marked with respect by all. The blanket of poppies on the war memorials is a moving reminder of all who were lost in all the wars from WW I through to the present.

Topic What's for dinner tonight?
Posted 12 Nov 2017 15:12

Crab cakes, mushroom risotto, Caesar salad.

Topic Lest we forget
Posted 12 Nov 2017 13:01

In Flanders fields the poppies blow
Between the crosses, row on row,
That mark our place; and in the sky
The larks, still bravely singing, fly
Scarce heard amid the guns below.

We are the Dead. Short days ago
We lived, felt dawn, saw sunset glow,
Loved and were loved, and now we lie
In Flanders fields.

Take up our quarrel with the foe:
To you from failing hands we throw
The torch; be yours to hold it high.
If ye break faith with us who die
We shall not sleep, though poppies grow
In Flanders fields.

Written by John McCrae, a Canadian soldier and doctor in the wake of WW I. I believe that this is the origin of the poppy we wear in the weeks preceding November 11. The poppies are then placed on local war memorials, blanketing them in red.

Topic RUMPLATIONS: Honky Tonk and Cyber Bar
Posted 12 Nov 2017 11:57

Welcome, Ms. P. May I buy you another?

I realize the hubbub is slowly passing, but l liked both Mike and VG, so I will raise a glass (of coffee) to their leaving. Actually, my first reaction was that we lost the best piece of flash on Lush - VG's The Plumber. Is is cold of me to think of the story before the person?

Anyway, I think the extended debate about categories, both the I-word and others, is a sign of a healthy engaged community here at Lush. People care passionately, about the site and the writing here. That's why good thing, right?

Yes, thank you.

It is understandable that there are strong feelings on that subject and its return. I am certain that the decision was not taken lightly, but was a necessary business one. In the end people do what is comfortable for them including blocking that category. Lush does tend to have a hold on people and I would not be shocked if Mike and VG return at some point. If they continue to write they will find no other place like this one to publish their stories.

Topic The next new categories
Posted 12 Nov 2017 11:37

I voted for Rock and Rollers. Think about all of the groupies.

As part of Canadians taking over the world (one of Buz's theories) I think our votes should be proportional to the Yanks, so multiply by ten for me, seeker and LYFBUZ.

Topic RUMPLATIONS: Honky Tonk and Cyber Bar
Posted 12 Nov 2017 11:30

THE Principessa' is among us! Welcome to Rumplations. Make yourself to home. Most of this crowd have had their shots and claim to be housebroken. Just one warning, if ya don't come across with a shorthand handle, you're gonna get stuck with something like either PP or Ms Pessa.

Lyf, Big Bertha is eager to accept any injections...of coffee, that is.

My New Orleans Saints are ahead of the almost-in-Canada Buffalo Bills, 7-3 after the first quarter. So there. ;)

Anybody want anything to drink?


I guess it will have to be Ms P. Thanks for the warm welcome.

Topic RUMPLATIONS: Honky Tonk and Cyber Bar
Posted 12 Nov 2017 11:28

Hmmm. Wonder if loading Bertha up with Timmie's Dark Roast would improve the quality of the coffee around here?

* Cracks open a stubby and takes a swig *

Yes on the coffee and Canadian beer. Next it will be poutine, peameal bacon sandwiches, and, from Montreal, bagels and smoked meat (not together).

Topic RUMPLATIONS: Honky Tonk and Cyber Bar
Posted 12 Nov 2017 09:32

Amazingly, although I have been a member for several years, I think this is the first time I have been here.

I would like a bloody Mary, please. It is brunch time here.

Topic How to control only automatic assault rifles in current circulation in the US?
Posted 10 Nov 2017 12:42

Don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good. If there are several smaller steps taken that will add up to improved gun control. Dramatic measures will not get support given the power of the NRA over legislators and a significant segment of the US public.

Topic Harvey Weinstein
Posted 07 Nov 2017 08:20

There is an article in "The New Yorker" about Weinstein using private security agencies and investigators to suppress allegations of sexual abuse and assault about him. These included included Kroll, which is one of the world’s largest corporate-intelligence companies, and Black Cube, an enterprise run largely by former officers of Mossad and other Israeli intelligence agencies.

Topic One year anniversary of Trump
Posted 07 Nov 2017 08:13

It's been a year since the election. What has changed? What has remained the same? Is it as you expected? Better? Worse?

My view is that what was unacceptable has been normalized and that some people with extreme views have become emboldened under Trump. I believe that he has not improved or learned anything with time and remains remarkably incurious. He still has no clue about governance and that it is different from running a business where he could rule by fiat. He still has no idea about diplomacy and consensus building. So, Trump is Trump. No surprise. I wonder if his supporters are as enthused as they were a year ago. Polls say that they are not. I wonder how the Dems will rebuild to fight the 2018 election and then fight Trump in 2020, assuming he is still around.

Please, not the usual talking points. What do you think?

Topic Tragedy in Texas ~ Mass Shooting at Southerland Springs Church
Posted 06 Nov 2017 08:44

Back on topic, another mass shooting, another terrible tragedy. That makes it 377 for the year in the U.S. . More guns must definitely be the answer ... 300 million guns in America, clearly isn't enough.

(My same comments apply as per the last mass shooting thread. And are likely to apply to the next mass shooting thread too, when it inevitably comes.)

There will be more of these incidents and we will have the usual disingenuous thoughts and prayers from politicians, law enforcement, and others. The US has an enormous problem. It is a violent country and the culture encourages the ownership and use of guns. In this incident, I understand that children were killed including an 18-month-old infant. This will not make for change any more than the murder of children at Sandy Hook did. There is something fundamental in the US, perhaps the frontier mentality, perhaps black helicopter paranoia, or some other pathology that makes guns a religion in the US. As a rational human being, I cannot understand the necessity for weapons of war to be owned by the civilian population. I read the last time this happened that there are enough guns in America to arm every man, woman, and child. That is absolutely crazy.

The hold that the NRA and the gun companies have on politicians must be broken, but I have no idea how that can be done. Until it is mass shootings will have to be an accepted part of life for Americans. It will not stop until you insist it does.

Topic Kevin Spacey Sexual Assault Allegations against 14 year old Anthony Rapp.
Posted 04 Nov 2017 12:40

a lot of people will not like what i am about to say and many will agree with me too.

i light of the Harvey Wienstien indictment it seems like there are a lot of allegations going around. now, i am not saying they are not true or that indeed they are.what i am saying is some of them sound a bit too vague for my liking.

example: when Angelina jolie accused winestien she didn't give many details at all, she couldn't say when where or what happened.

now i personally think Rapp is talking shit and Kevin Spacy just decide it would be a good time to come out. im on the fence with this one to tell you the truth. but the have been many others now.

i may come across as an asshole when i say this but i think rape and assault charges should only be limited to five years. after five years you cant bring it up. otherwise any man or woman can say what they want and the person on the receiving end probably wont remember.

So far you are wrong not only in your opinion, but also in your predication that many will agree with you.

Here is a primer to educate you. Sexual assault and rape are not at all about sex but are about power and the exertion of power over another person. That being the case, this usually happens when the predator has more power than their prey (and I used that word purposely). This can be an employer, a teacher, a mentor, a coach, an older friend or relative, or some other such relationship. It is hard for a victim to come forward because of that and many take some time to do so fearful of repercussions of telling and/or dealing with the police and justice system to follow through with the allegation. In a situation where someone is younger and/or less powerful it make take years for them to work up the courage and confidence to confront this and speak up. That is the end of the nice and calm part of my response. Now, the less nice part. You're right about one thing. You are an asshole.

Topic Kevin Spacey Sexual Assault Allegations against 14 year old Anthony Rapp.
Posted 04 Nov 2017 08:51

If they do kill off the character, how? Maybe assassination.

Claire could have him killed and have it look like an assassination to get sympathy. Not a stretch in this story.

Topic Potus45 - Will he be impeached?
Posted 03 Nov 2017 10:10

When you're testifying in court, you don't get to go off on some extemporaneous soliloquy. As soon as you did you'd be likely to be told to answer the question asked. And if there are things you'd like to say but the person asking the questions doesn't want to come out, your not likely to get the chance. So you're example holds but only to a limited extent.

On the other hand, if there are things you don't want to reveal and the lawyer questioning you asks for more because your answer is obviously incomplete or off point to deflect, you must answer. They can continue to seek specific answers rather than glib generalizations. Pile up enough "I don't recall" responses and your credibility may suffer.

Topic Potus45 - Will he be impeached?
Posted 03 Nov 2017 09:27

Agreed. There's getting to be so much dirt thrown in the air by all concerned that it's difficult to determine who if anyone is telling anything remotely connected to the truth. That is if "truth" is even a thing anymore.

If I tell you half of a story, and all of what I say is factual, but leave out the stuff that makes my position look bad, did I tell the truth?

No, you did not if you leave pertinent facts out. Sessions is at the least guilty of lawyerly answers that parse words and deflect a direct answer and at worst directly lying. Time will tell as more information comes out. What does seem clear now is that he is desperately trying to cover his ass.

Topic Potus45 - Will he be impeached?
Posted 03 Nov 2017 08:45

One interesting thing I would like to know is why did the Papa dude think it was necessary to lie to the FBI? As a result he is a convicted felon with all the bad stuff that comes with that moniker. If he has just told the truth he would not be in any trouble, there would have been nothing wrong with him talking to the Russians unless he was somehow acting as an agent for them, then it would be trouble. But assuming he was not in that position he could have told the truth and had no more to do with it all. Certainly he would not have had to become an informant with all that entails. So the unknown about him is interesting... could be much more we do not know...

I agree with you about wondering what he did. My sense is that it was more than minimal which could explain why he took the plea and perhaps why he was afraid enough to lie initially. The investigators are putting together the pieces about meetings and coordination with the Russians during the campaign. He may have a lot of information and who knows what more they found out in the months since his arrest and plea if he was wearing a wire.

Every indictment brings this a step closer to the White House. This is just the way cases regarding organized crime are run, from the bottom of the food chain to the top, flipping the accused to give evidence along the way.