Forum posts made by principessa

Topic What are you reading?
Posted 22 May 2016 09:21

Being a fan of Patricia Highsmith, and especially the Ripley novels, seeing your post sent me straight to Amazon. However, the reviews there are pretty scathing. Elsewhere, the majority seem to range from negative to mediocre. With that in mind, I’d be really interested to know what you think of this one.

I did not read "Fifty Shades" but had hoped that this book would be better and am told that it is. That said, there is a kind of fascination watching this character, how she insinuates herself into situations and with people and the violence that ensues. She is completely amoral. A clothes horse. It takes about twenty different designer products for her to shower and dress. We feel she is more in love with things, especially clothes and shoes, than people. People are a means to an end, and sometimes killed for the same reason with no struggle of conscience. Apparently this is the first of a triology. The NY Times described it as a pornographic shopoholic travelogue. Add some art history and murder and you have the story's elements. And yet there is a confounding appeal of a woman taking charge to pursue what she wants despite the bodies left in her wake. This is certainly not what I usually read, but I did. If there is more to this book, I am not hip enough to understand it. This is not serious literature but at least as good a read as all those Grisham, Clancy, and Brown books that people read in the summertime.

This is why I wondered why what others who read the book thought about it.

Posted 21 May 2016 14:58

This is a problem for me. I'm quite observant, and I can't help but notice that most members are remarkably sensitive on this site. I have a story to upload, yet I'm kind of reluctant to upload it on the grounds that people might think it's "sick" or complete "dross".

My story abides to site rules, but it's not your usual, humdrum, run-of -the-mill erotica that you see day in, day out, 99% of the time. I think the erotica genre has became stagnant, and people are losing interest. I'm trying to inject a bit of personality and intrigue into erotica scene.

Let's not forget: "One person's rubbish, is another person's treasure".

I was talking about stories that clearly do not comply with the TOS here, not those that push the envelope away from vanilla. Snuff stories, incest, and scatology are examples of content not posted on this site. If that is a problem, you are on the wrong site. If you are merely adding personality and intrigue as you say, your work will pass.

Posted 21 May 2016 13:02

I have a handful of RRs and I have to say that I am extremely proud of them.

Can there be a policy for moderators that, if asked why a story fails to get an RR, they respond truthfully. For me, that would not hurt my feelings at all. I would start to understand what is required.

As mentioned before, story moderators volunteer their time. There are dozens of stories submitted each day and Lush members have become accustomed to a short turn around time for a response or their story being posted. Your suggestion could conceivably more than double their work if each member asked for an explanation as to why their posted story did not get a "Recommended Read". Surely it is onerous enough that some stories are resubmitted several times and therefore reviewed several times before they can be posted. An RR is the exception, not the rule. Most stories will not be awarded one. You will have to accept that and persevere with your writing not just in technical terms of grammar, punctuation, spelling, but also with your story's plot, depth of characters, description, use of language, and that spark that sets it apart. Continue to edit and polish your work so that it has the quality of RR and EP stories. It will happen then.

Posted 21 May 2016 08:52

I was a senior story moderator for more than two years and burned out. I think that many of you have no idea of how difficult the work is, even when stories are good. There are stories submitted that seem to be random thoughts poorly spelled with no punctuation at all, just a mass of words. It makes your eyes hurt to try to read that even if you know you will reject it. You have to provide the writer with a list of things to do to improve it. Another thing that we do not talk about much is the number of stories that cannot see the light of day because the content is so far over the line - violence, incest, sex with underage participants, and/or other noxious elements. You feel like taking a shower or being sick after reading something like that and have to take steps to deal with the person who submitted such dross to the site.

So, finding a story that shines is worthy of an RR if you are a moderator. It stands to reason that those capable of quality writing should continue to receive them, just like someone with a high batting average continues to hit in baseball. The only caveat is an obvious one. Choices are subject to the personal taste of the moderator. That is the world of writing. Not everyone likes everything.

To say that the system is corrupt and subject to cronyism is offensive and an insult to story moderators and the hours of work they do gratis. As Buz said, if you want an RR, submit quality writing, and to do that you have to work at it and learn. This is not like children's sports where you get a trophy for showing up.

Topic Rejection vs Approval
Posted 20 May 2016 14:38

I just rewrote a story and counted on Grammarly. Perfect example. It actually INCREASED the errors. I have a LOT to learn about sentence structuring and punctuation. But, with every rejection or absence of what WE think should be an RR, can teach us something if we don't take it personally. 'Oh well, live and learn.

There is nothing wrong in using a spelling or grammar check, but it should only be used as a pass over your work rather than being solely relied on. Nothing will substitute for a thorough proofread, probably more than once. I always leave my work alone for a while to gain enough perspective to see mistakes. Grammar and punctuation rules can be difficult to take on board in large bites. Keep a good reference available as you check your work. After a time it will all click. There is no shame in spending time correcting and polishing your work. I sometimes agonize over finding just the right word to express what I want to say. All of this adds up to raise the quality of your writing and make it more likely to be posted without being returned for editing and changes.

Topic Rejection vs Approval
Posted 20 May 2016 14:00

Moderators take no pleasure in sending stories back, but their mandate is for posted stories to be literate. I did the job for more than two years and got push back from writers whose stories were filled with spelling mistakes because they had relied on some spell checking software. They allow mistakes that are words. Learn the difference between there, their, and they're. That is just an example of the kind of error I mean. The other recurring mistake was the use of apostrophes. They signify either a contraction or possession, not a plural (unless added to a plural to make it possessive). There are many grammar rules that have not been learned or have been forgotten by writers, and it is necessary to persevere. Textspeak has undermined literate English and is not acceptable outside that context.

Make use of the writer's resources on the site and those recommended by other writers. Your stories will get better with the amount of work you invest and you will be less likely to receive a rejection note. It will be easier as time goes on, I promise.

Topic What are you reading?
Posted 19 May 2016 18:11

I just finished this. An editor friend of mine gave me an advance copy. It is as if "The Talented Mr. Ripley" was combined with Lisbeth Salander and a dash of porn. If anyone else has read it, I would like to know what you think.

Topic Say something nice about the profile of the person above you
Posted 12 May 2016 15:38

She is a smart cookie.

Topic replies to comments won't work
Posted 05 May 2016 14:06

Same thing has been happening to me.

Topic You are going to Writer's Hell!! Bring wine.
Posted 04 May 2016 14:09

I saw Nora Ephron's son interviewed about the documentary he had made about his mother. Carl Bernstein of Watergate fame is his father and her next husband was writer Nick Pileggi. She was the daughter of two screen writers and wrote for newspapers, magazines, and the screen in her career as well as several books. She wrote Silkwood, When Harry Met Sally, Sleepless in Seattle and Julia and Julia. All of this is preamble to the advice Nora's mother gave her: Everything is copy.

I think that we are scavengers and magpies as mentioned already. All of our life's experiences, interactions with people, thoughts, memories, emotions and observations form a vast trove to draw on when we write whether conscious or not. I have written a story based on a real experience. I have written others that come from imagination but are based on material from that trove. We remember how something sounded or felt or the emotion of a particular moment and that is transferred from our consciousness to the page.

I guess we are all going to hell, but judging by those who have added their voices here we will have a good time. I am with you, ABG. I brought a nice Barolo.

Topic Legendary Team-ups
Posted 30 Apr 2016 12:49

Carole King and Gerry Goffin

Topic Say something nice about the profile of the person above you
Posted 28 Apr 2016 18:57

Such a prolific writer. It is amazing.

Topic 'American English'
Posted 25 Apr 2016 13:58

There are a lot of usages in the UK e.g. lift, loo, lorry that are different in American English (elevator, bathroom, truck).

Topic What is your favorite movie based on a book?
Posted 24 Apr 2016 13:42

Out of Africa
The Talented Mr. Ripley
Strangers on a Train
Sense and Sensibility

Topic Personal attacks in heated discussions. Acceptable, or not?
Posted 23 Apr 2016 10:58

I completely agree that there are unpleasant members on Lush. Just as there are unpleasant people every day in our lives. It's a natural order of things. No good without bad. No light without dark. The best way to deal with those members you don't like is not to deal with them. At some point they will have burned every bridge and there won't be anywhere else for them to go. If a troll gets fed they will stay until the food runs out.

'nuff said. Back to my shadows.

Agreed. I would like to add to that. Remember that you are unlikely to convince someone who disagrees with you by insulting them. They may be as adamant in their position as you are in yours. If they remain entrenched in their view after hearing your logical argument, accept the stalemate and walk away. It is not always necessary to have the last word. It is the impulse to keep responding that feeds those who are trolls. Discourse in the public arena will likely reveal who is right.

Now I will join Warlock in the shadows.

Topic What is something about YOU, that has remained the same since you were little.
Posted 21 Apr 2016 19:08

Being sensitive. I hide it better now.

Topic The person above you has been arrested. What did they do?
Posted 21 Apr 2016 19:06

Impersonating a French playboy (identity theft)

Topic The person above you has been arrested. What did they do?
Posted 20 Apr 2016 15:56

Arrested for indecent exposure on the day she did not wear panties.

Topic If sending your story to others for proofreading, how is best to do it?
Posted 20 Apr 2016 15:41

I have used google docs to share a document with someone else.

Topic Best female characters?
Posted 19 Apr 2016 19:52

Stacey in "Stacey's Choice" is the heroine of the first story I wrote on my own. I had previously written only poetry and collaborated on stories. The story takes place in my city. She shares my love of both the Mediterranean countries and art, and a weakness for arty men. To be honest, I think there is a piece of me in every almost every female character I have written, but perhaps because Stacey was my first, she remains dear to me.

Topic Write Any Word That Begins With "P"and Ends in "Y"
Posted 18 Apr 2016 19:15


Topic Alphabet Movies...
Posted 18 Apr 2016 15:13

Raging Bull

Topic Three words said about the person above you
Posted 18 Apr 2016 13:36

nice and interesting

Topic Three words said about the person above you
Posted 18 Apr 2016 09:56

a blue angel

Topic COFFEE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted 17 Apr 2016 10:02

My idea of bliss.

Topic Say something nice about the profile of the person above you
Posted 17 Apr 2016 08:50

Wordsmith with a wicked sense of humour.

Topic Announcing the Winners of our "New Experiences" Sex Story Competition
Posted 17 Apr 2016 08:43

Congratulations to the top ten and the winners. I am honoured to have made the list.

Topic Who should be the next US president?
Posted 15 Apr 2016 15:06

Maybe it is because he is a bombastic egotist who has no idea about governance of a country, domestic or foreign policy, or anything else that a president should know. He is like a carnival pitchman with no depth of knowledge. People are afraid for someone like that to be in that position. He is far better to go back to doing "Apprentice" on television. Governance is not a reality show. With respect, he has appealed to the worst in people: intolerance and bigotry, sexism, xenophobia, homophobia and an anti-intellectualism that is appalling. He was in bed with the Tea Party and the birthers, knowingly undermining President Obama's authority. He is now acting like a child crying foul when he did not have the savvy to know the rules for delegates and the process in every single state. If he and his team are incapable of that how could he possibly run the country? I don't understand his appeal unless his voters imagine he will somehow make them rich too. Not likely.

Topic The inability to let someone go- an excuse for murder?
Posted 14 Apr 2016 14:50

This is not love, it is about power. Control is a big element in this which is why it often happens when a spouse who has already been physically and/or emotionally abused leaves. The men (sorry but it is usually men) cannot accept that their spouse is beyond their control and their rage spins out of control with the ultimate violence. If there are children involved it is not so easy to leave and find a safe place to escape. Restraining orders are a step that can be taken but in reality cannot protect anyone 24/7.