Forum posts made by principessa

Topic A Story, 5 Words At A Time
Posted 05 Apr 2016 20:17

my being along with him

Topic Writing first person from a perspective not your own
Posted 01 Apr 2016 09:26

I imagine that on a college/university campus the complaint was that this student had appropriated a voice not his own. However, I think that writing is a creative process and that we cannot and should not be limited by whatever demographics we belong to. However it is necessary to research thoroughly to inhabit character of someone who is not at all like you so that your representation of that character is believable and authentic to the reader. On the whole, I think we tend to write from a perspective that feels most comfortable to us whatever gender, sexual orientation, or other factor we are. To write from a male point of view as a female is a leap, for example, if it is to seem plausible to men who read it. I think that talented writers can carry this off, but as I said that it cannot be done without doing a lot of homework first. Writing is, after all, about creativity but has to be rooted in some semblance of reality and not to great a suspension of disbelief.

Topic The World Women Live In - Rape Culture Part 2
Posted 28 Mar 2016 16:17

You are right Angryish Lover. My point was that the complainants had undermined their own case by not disclosing everything that had happened before and after the alleged assaults. This destroyed their credibility in the eyes of the judge, correctly so. I am not sure what you know about this case and related allegations from other women, but once a few women came forward, it snowballed. There were numerous alleged victims over many years whose stories were remarkably the same. This pattern is why the allegations were believed by the public. Mr. Ghomeshi's behaviour in the workplace also was disclosed and it was clear that he was not only a tyrant there, but that he had also sexually harassed subordinates.

The criminal justice system has to find a way to balance the rights of the accused against those of the alleged victims in such cases. The complainants have to understand that they have a responsibility to reveal everything that relates to the case including interaction with the accused before and after the alleged events to the police and the Crown Attorney. It might have been possible to convict this man had all of this information been available before the trial, or the CA could have decided that the case was too weak to prosecute, but at least the CA would not have been broadsided in court with damaging facts held back by the complainants. Perhaps the police and CAs need further training in handling these cases and complainants need legal advice to navigate this process despite their not being the accused in the trial.

There is another trial scheduled for June for different but similar allegations against the same accused. I suspect the CA and the police are doing a lot of homework now to avoid a similar outcome.

Topic The World Women Live In - Rape Culture Part 2
Posted 28 Mar 2016 12:33

We recently had a not guilty verdict in a very high profile sexual assault case here in Canada. The charges were related to three different women. The accused was Jian Ghomeshi*, a very well known radio host of an arts related show. While most people thought he was guilty of all of the charges, the case fell apart because all three of the complainants had not disclosed a lot of pertinent information to the Crown Attorney and the police which in the hands of his defence counsel were very damning. This included things like email communications with the accused after the alleged assaults, sending him provocative photographs, and collusion about "nailing" him.

Given that the events had occurred years before the accusations were brought to the police, there was no evidence like DNA, just he said, she said. Unfortunately the she said part undermined the whole case in the judge's view. He said in his verdict that he had no choice but to question their credibility given their omissions and inconsistencies. It could not be proven beyond a reasonable doubt that the accused had assaulted these women and that there was no consent.

I have trouble with the verdict, but it is an object lesson in what a talented defense lawyer can do and also tells us that victims have to disclose everything because it will come out in court. I think that victims should hire criminal law counsel as well to navigate their way through the system to get the best outcome they can. There are a lot of questions being asked now about the way the justice system deals with these cases.

* google his name for details. There was a lot of press about this.

Topic What's the one word that pops into your mind when you see the avatar above you?
Posted 26 Mar 2016 16:18

icon_biggrin Grinning like the fool that I am. (in a cherubic sort of way)

You forgot the one word for me. (Grinning in a no-cherubic way.)

Sorry. Crossed paths. Thank you.

Blue (like his eyes?)

Topic What's the one word that pops into your mind when you see the avatar above you?
Posted 26 Mar 2016 15:54


(which clearly is not an accurate representation of Mr. Symes)

Topic Americans Need to Stop Being So Neoconservative
Posted 23 Mar 2016 14:50

Everyone should stop giving the OP their attention. He has the Trump gene in that he makes up his own facts and sources and he revels in being offensive and baiting people.

The best thing that we all can do is to ignore his threads. Just leave his original post unanswered. Engaging with him takes time and energy and fuels his attention seeking. There is no good that can come of it. He does not listen to facts or contrary opinions.

Topic Who should be the next US president?
Posted 19 Mar 2016 10:37

I think that Trump will unite the Dems. Republicans who are appalled at his blatant racism and xenophobia as well as his complete lack of knowledge of governance, domestic and foreign policy will hold their noses and vote Democrat too. There are 24 GOP Senators up for reelection and Trump will ensure that the Dems take back control of the Senate and the House. This will be a pivotal election because of Donald Trump, but it will not end the way he imagines.

Topic what is your profession?
Posted 18 Mar 2016 10:31


Topic Who is YOUR favorite author on Lush?
Posted 16 Mar 2016 18:34

Lisa and Liz for prose. Principessa and DanielleX are tops too. How can one ignore Milik?

Thank you for noting me and putting me in such good company.

Topic What's Your Greatest Fear In Life?
Posted 26 Feb 2016 14:01

Painful death.

I agree, but tell myself that there are lots of drugs for that. My fear would be dementia or Alzheimer's disease.

Topic What is the most important "life lesson" you have learned?
Posted 26 Feb 2016 13:58

Everything passes. When things are bad, remember it will end and when they are good, enjoy it.

Topic Which improvements or features would you like to see added?
Posted 26 Feb 2016 13:55

It would be really really nice if you could edit your comments on stories. So many times I make mistakes and I need to delete the whole message and start again.

It's even more annoying when typing on a phone.

Please, Please, Please could an EDIT button be made.


You could copy your comment before deleting it and then paste in a new comment, making your corrections before posting again.

Topic Which improvements or features would you like to see added?
Posted 26 Feb 2016 13:52

I try to "like" comments on my stories and don't always write a response as well if I don't have time. I wonder if the "like" button could stay changed from blue to grey once you have done that so that you don't repeat liking the same comment.

Topic Which improvements or features would you like to see added?
Posted 25 Feb 2016 12:25

Still think the banner on the front page that features members or highlights comps should also be a place to feature a randomly picked EP or RR story. Have it cycle like it does now but just add a story pick to the mix. Would be a good way to actually recommend a good story to new visitors on the front page. You could even have it feature the last winner of a comp or something like that too.

All good ideas. To add a tweak to it, perhaps the top ten stories of the last competition could be cycled. We have buttons for EP and RR stories on the front page, but new readers do not know what they are. Perhaps a short description under each of these buttons would draw more attention to them.

Topic Which improvements or features would you like to see added?
Posted 24 Feb 2016 20:26

I know Gav's been playing with the block feature for a while, but can the block be two-fold? By that I mean, if you have someone blocked, then you shouldn't be able to send that person PMs.

It's rather foolish to go through the effort of blocking someone only to send them scathing PMs to which they can't respond .

Some people might like being able to vent and not allowing any response. Your suggestion seems more fair.

Topic What's making you happy right at this moment???
Posted 24 Feb 2016 13:57

Beach vacation soon.

Topic Picture your favorite perfume
Posted 24 Feb 2016 09:00

It's hard to read the label. It's Flowerbomb.

Topic Which improvements or features would you like to see added?
Posted 23 Feb 2016 15:54

I said way too much. I should never have voiced my opinion.

Fixed that for you.

Topic Which improvements or features would you like to see added?
Posted 23 Feb 2016 14:06

I was a senior story moderator for about two years and admit that my standards were and are high. RRs are not handed out like jellybeans as a treat. Sometimes the moderator verifying the story is so impressed that it happens immediately. Sometimes the RR is awarded later by a different moderator who read the story on their own time. Of course different people have different tastes and that is only human. RRs are meant to bring attention to stories that show talent and might otherwise be overlooked, particularly if not written by a high profile author here. As Steph said, any story moderator who handed RRs out indiscriminately would have been chastised.

As to some competition entries getting RRs when the competition is over, there is a reason for this. Story mods are on the competition judging panel. It would not be appropriate for them to award RRs before the competition is closed and the top ten stories are announced by Nicola. The panel members judge all entries on an equal basis.

Topic Is there one poem or story you've written that you would like more people to read?
Posted 23 Feb 2016 13:15




I am SICK of this place!

xx SF

Milik: "Get over it, Sister..."

Principessa: "Mills, Leave Him Alone and come back to bed..."

Me: "*PUKES!*"

You can see why I resisted the feigned charm.

Topic Is there one poem or story you've written that you would like more people to read?
Posted 23 Feb 2016 12:05

You know how I detest making a girl keep her knickers on. I consider it a kindness to let her take them off around me. I'm VERY GENEROUS that way

I have always said what a gentleman you are. angel7

Topic Is there one poem or story you've written that you would like more people to read?
Posted 23 Feb 2016 11:23

This story was written as an entry for the "Money Talks" competition last summer. It made the top ten list. Although it had to be shorter than I was used to as there was a limit of 3500 words, I think that I succeeded in telling a good story. I would be pleased if it were read by more people and thank you in advance for taking time to do so.

Topic Justice Scalia Dead - President Obama Pledges to Nominate New Supreme Court Justice
Posted 18 Feb 2016 13:26

My reference to Zionism came from how you accused me of being a neocon in light of how neoconservatism includes Zionist foreign policy. Opposing that doesn't make you an ethnic bigot, especially since nations don't have to be ethnically self-determined, and especially since Jews aren't necessarily defined by their race. They can be defined by their religion which contains disputable values. If you understand how Jews believe they're chosen by God to bring light unto nations and find that arrogant, then you have good reason to not advocate Jewish self-determination since you understand that Jews don't respect the self-determination of others. In fact, we can even see this in the Middle East itself from how much Israel interferes in the internal affairs of its neighbors either directly through military intervention, or indirectly through propaganda and cultural imperialism.

Interesting. Many people assert that there is a difference between anti-Zionism and anti-Semitism and that Israeli policy can be criticized without being anti-Semitic. However, you combine both in your posts and your bigotry is clear as day.

Posted 18 Feb 2016 09:24

Peter O'Toole
William Holden
Christopher Hitchens
Richard Burton
F. Scott Fitzgerald

Also Dorothy Parker and Billie Holiday to add to Amy Winehouse for women.

Topic No one cares about the presidents dog.
Posted 18 Feb 2016 08:29

The President's dog is seventh in line for the presidency, as long as the dog was born on US soil and is equal to 35 years old or older in dog years.

Ted Cruz has a Bijon Frise that was born in Canada, so there is talk that Trump will sue to ensure that this dog will not have precedence over his pug.

Topic what is your favorite movie quote
Posted 17 Feb 2016 19:09

"Snap out of it!" Cher to Nicholas Cage as she smacks him. He has just declared his passionate love for her in "Moonstruck".

Topic Justice Scalia Dead - President Obama Pledges to Nominate New Supreme Court Justice
Posted 17 Feb 2016 13:10

I really hate this argument. The, 'you guys did it thirty years ago, so it's okay for use do do it now' mind set is exactly the problem. Do you really believe that is proper? Do you believe it is a responsible way to govern? At what point do you believe an elected official should sacrifice a piece of his personal agenda for the good of the whole?

I will admit, once, long ago I was one of those political lightning rods. I honestly looked at the opposing party as the nations biggest threat. Then, one day I had a chance to have a two hour sit down, at a gun show of all places, with a Senatorial candidate from the Libertarian party. He was an eloquent black man, but I cannot remember his name. I will have to look him up sometime.

Regardless, It was an eye opening conversation. Believe me, one doesn't often hear both sides of the truth, but that day I did. I came away realizing that many people look at politics like a sport. They support their team with a blind passion, simply because they want to win. Results don't matter, and neither does doing what's right. Just like a baseball fan being happy by receiving the benefit of a bad call, it is about winning, not about what is best for the country.

That is what you are doing. Saying 'they screwed Bork, so we can screw one of theirs' is the same mentality of chanting at a hockey game. The problem is, bad decisions in this game will follow you home, sneak into your bedroom and completely infiltrate your life. Is that really worth the satisfaction of the win?

It wasn't to me, and I put down my political Pom Poms and started thinking of the country as a whole.

Thank you, Milik. I wish that the candidates, incumbents and voters thought as you do. The problems of the country would more likely be resolved. There was a time when consensus was not a dirty word, but that was before the Tea Party and other political extremists took over. There is no civil discourse in American politics nowadays.

Topic Justice Scalia Dead - President Obama Pledges to Nominate New Supreme Court Justice
Posted 17 Feb 2016 07:51

First, and foremost, the President's duties include nominating people for the Supreme Court. The Senate's duties include accepting or rejecting said nominees. To do anything else is a dereliction of duty. For the Republican's to filibuster falls into the same category. What they don't seem to realize is, if the balance of power shifts in the fall election, then a liberal justice is a shoe in. It won't matter if Donald, Hillary, Ted, Bernie or Marco gets elected. Their best shot is to go forward, urging the President to put up a moderate now, rather than holding out in hopes of getting a strict constructionist conservative appointed to the bench in a years time. Will they do this? Probably not. Our Congressman and Senators seem to have forgotten, regardless of party, that working democracies REQUIRE compromise.

This is a concise explanation of the entire issue politically. Milik's comment is on the money about how things should be.

Topic Justice Scalia Dead - President Obama Pledges to Nominate New Supreme Court Justice
Posted 16 Feb 2016 22:11

Again, the Democrat controlled Senate did the same thing with Bork in 1987. They were obstructionist in the first place, and don't get to criticize Republicans without being hypocrites.

No, Bork's nomination went to the Senate for hearings. He caved and withdrew being unable to withstand the questioning. That is completely different from not allowing the nomination process to happen.