About rafael

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Live near Cambridge UK. 47, married male. I have been off Lush for a while as I felt in the dozen or so stories I wrote in 2008 had taken me as far as I could go in writing erotic fiction. But I am back now in 2011 with new enthusiasm as I want to really explore the genre. I don't want to write like the majority of people on here - I'm searching for quality - realism. It has to be believable or it's just not sexy, for me at least. It's not porn - that is not satisfactory at all. I am no longer the writer that will open with a fuck passage - a good story needs characters and a good plot - and subtlety. Well judge for yourself - I am back with My Social Worker and Me - written in parts. Hope you enjoy and get in touch!

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rafael
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Cambridgeshire, United Kingdom
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Eroticism

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Topic: Sexless marriage
Posted: 26 Mar 2017 11:32

I myself am in a sexless marriage and it sucks, we now sleep in seperate rooms, live seperate lives, people probably think why don't you leave, there's acouple of factors stopping me, I'm also a curvy lady and I'm pretty positive that most men are not interested in curvy women, so I'm afraid to leave a sexless marriage to go out and meet someone and end up still being sexless. Any suggestions???????

Every shape of woman has a million admirers, believe me.

Topic: How do I tell a friend that I want to have sex with her?
Posted: 22 Mar 2017 13:53


My view is - if you want to fuck a woman who is your friend - just ask her out for a date. Make sure you arrive with flowers or she will think it is just good friends. flowers will say it all.
then hold her hand gently in the cinema, theatre or whatever. if she withdraws it - try again a little later. if she keeps shutting the door. that's your answer. She certainly wont blame you for trying - she will only blame you if you become a pest.

If it sours the friendship - just move on.

I am 52 now and looking back missed some wonderful chances with friends who were waiting for me to make a move. Life is too short to dither - make your move!

Topic: male orgasam denial
Posted: 22 Mar 2017 12:29

I like watching this kind of thing but fucking without ejaculation is not really my thing. it's like chewing food and spitting out

Topic: stay or go
Posted: 22 Mar 2017 10:51



You still haven't told us who you dress up as? Is it Bananaman?

You basically said she should put up with not being loved, not say anything and just live with it until such time as her partner/husband decides otherwise.

And you are wondering why you got negative responses?


It does kind of complicate things a little that they have a child doesnt it. And the received wisdom seems to be that parents should not stay together for the children.


But not every family scenario is different. Only the OP knows the answer to her question and I added my voice just to put something different, and possibly useful into the pot.

leaving a long term partner when children are involved is a risk for all concerned - a life changing experience. There is no one size fits all solution.

My father left when I was 14 (I also have a younger brother and sister) - I supported him at the time - but the years have opened my eyes. He had his own selfish reasons. We didnt have a perfect family life but it was better having a mum and dad in the house compared with a single parent family and the stigma that went with it in those days. My mother begged him to return and he refused - having found for himself a new life. I am rarely in touch with him these days.

well - perhaps I have added some perspective to my comments. No - I dont dress up as Bananaman.

Topic: stay or go
Posted: 22 Mar 2017 09:54



You are either delusional, stupid or both. My mother stayed with my father and we got abused mentally and physically. Boys do NOT need correct fathering, they need a parent who loves them and tries to do what's best for them.

If I had been deprived of living with my father it would've done me a lot of good. Your arrogance is appalling. Get a clue.

I didnt think I would find people on this forum being abusive. On some forums you would get an infraction for calling someone stupid.

Where did I say families should stay together where there is mental and or physical abuse going on?

I am sorry of the term "correct fathering" upset you - I mean a father who loves them and does his best for them - just as you say. What did you think I meant? Someone wielding a stick?

The OP did not say the household environment is unstable and abusive. If that is the case and he is the cause of it I would say she should go and quickly, like today.

The OP has asked should I stay or go. All I am sayng is consider carefully whether leaving a partner is in the child's best interests. And being a happier mum might not be in the child's best interests if the cost of that is an absent loving well balanced father.

Topic: stay or go
Posted: 22 Mar 2017 09:31

you're assuming that he's a good dad. what if he's a shit dad?

I was going to come back to that.

If he's the kind of dad that spends loving constructive time with his son, reads to him, engages with him etc - then it's going to be harder to break up the home.

But if he is non functional as a father - it might be worth having that chat and possibly moving on.

She never said he was a shit father - or even a shit partner.

Topic: stay or go
Posted: 22 Mar 2017 07:17



This is some of the worst advice I have ever seen.

@ the OP. First of all, don't listen to this bloke, he's talking nonsense.

Secondly, listen to Sinner, she's given you some good advice here and knows what she is talking about. I hope things work out for you. You deserve better than a loveless relationship. Children are resilient; a happy mum makes a happy child IMHO. You're child will adjust if you leave and you have every right to do so if that is what is best for you.

Try talking to him first. Relationships can often hit a wall, especially after you have a child. Sometimes a little effort on both parts can get you past that, you just need to be open and honest with each other. If he outright says he no longer loves you than I think you need to move on because you deserve more than that. Sometimes when a child comes along, men can feel a little left out because the child takes up so much of mums time and attention, it could just be that simple and discussing it will help. Finding time for each other is important too. I hope this is the case for you and things work out. <img src="/forum/images/emoticons/bighugs.gif" alt="Big Hugs">

Well - you are entitled to your view and I to mine. I dont disagree with much of the advice you have given here. Though I dont believe confronting him is a good idea - it could lead to regrets. He also may not be able to articulate his feelings - or in fact even know precisely what they are. You say she should move on if he no longer loves - really? Perhaps dad will have a view on that. Not sure if he'll want his partner to go off with his son - he may want custody. Saying children are resiliant seems to make it easier for parents to split up doesnt it - it's a convenient phrase - wonder what the boy thinks of it. The OP has not indicated that the famly environment is unsuitable - merely that she thinks her partner does not love her.

What good will it do the boy if he is deprived of living with his father. Living with a happy fulfilled mum cannot compensate a boy for having a weekend dad. Boys need correct fathering - and dad needs to be present in the family home for that to happen.

Topic: Approaching the Topic of Going Further w/ BF
Posted: 22 Mar 2017 03:14

Wow, that sucks... My advice would be to look for a dude that's not such a fucking pussy. Two months? lol

agreed.
I was shy about sex in my 20s and 30s and I think women sometimes thought what the hell am I waiting for.

Life's too short - in a new relationship I would be ready to go on day one.

If he's not initiated anything - you will probably have to lead him by the nose evry step of the way. if that's what you want.

If you want a real man to take you - look elsewhere.

Topic: stay or go
Posted: 21 Mar 2017 22:37

I am inlove with my husband still but he is not in love with me. Or i think that at least we have a two year old together and were not legally married just a cermony of souls but he has no iterest in me anymore not sure if i should stay for our son or pack up and leave.

That's not a bad situation. You should put your child first and put as a top priority staying together.

It would be far worse for you if the emotions were reversed.

Let him stay while he will. He may eventually get fed up living with a woman he doesnt love - but that's his call. As long as he behaves well and is good to the child.

Topic: Long Stories - One Upload or Several?
Posted: 21 Mar 2017 12:41

Thanks - it is under 10K words for sure. Great - I will upload in one go.
I am using my hotmail account to write it (in email mode). In the past when copying and pasting into lush - I had rejections caused by formatting issues - even though in the lush input window all looked ok.
is it better to past into word - format - proof read etc for final corrections - and then paste into lush? any thoughts?
thanks

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One Hour In a Hotel

I am sat in my car in the hotel car park and watched as a Nissan Micra pulled into a bay close to the reception entrance. A casually dressed blond young woman got out and walked into the building. I hope it's her, I thought, she is hot. My heartbeat quickened and my palms began to sweat. Pre-punt nerves. It seemed odd though that she would use a hotel for this purpose and arrive at eight...

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In my story "Two hands are better than one" I told about how I helped out Joanne with her essay and ended up getting a beautiful hand relief from her - not as a thank you - but to take my mind off her so that I could concentrate on the work. I hoped that would be the start of something between us but it was not. She continued to treat me almost like her little boy and had such a motherly...

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Two hands are better than one

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Vicarage Discipline (f/m spanking)

We were on the bed preparing to fuck. Debbie was on all fours, her beautiful arse should have been stimulation sufficient to arm me with a rod of steel. She was pampering my aching balls and gave my unwilling pecker an encouraging touch now and then, hoping as I hoped, for some stiff action. But all to no avail. It was me that gave up in the end and I huddled on the edge of the bed, beaten in...

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The Surrogate Mother Pt 1

They met at a motel just off the A14 north of Cambridge. Peter and Jan had opted for natural insemination. It was no problem for Jan. She knew her husband would have to insert his penis into the body of another woman but she knew her man. To him it would be no more significant than planting seeds in his neighbour's garden. She also knew he was doing it for her. It was she who yearned, at 56,...

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The Vicar's Granddaughter

"This is my granddaughter," said the vicar. "Emma is with us for the summer." Stanley nodded to the young lady who was stretched out on the vicar's sofa reading a magazine about horses. She barely acknowledged the visitor, lifting her black eyelashes fleetingly, and continued reading as if her attention had been uninterrupted. Stanley was nothing much to look at of course, just an aging...

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The School Secretary

I was shopping for a new digital camera in the town when I saw a familiar face at the checkout. It was the school secretary, Miss Wilson. There were two secretaries at the private school where my son used to be a day boarder and neither one of them would raise a smile if I happened go into the school office. I have no idea why. My wife and I often considered this coldness and reasoned it...

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The Secret Spanking Fantasy Of My Wife

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A Great Little Session

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