Forum posts made by rafael

Topic How do I tell a friend that I want to have sex with her?
Posted 22 Mar 2017 13:53


My view is - if you want to fuck a woman who is your friend - just ask her out for a date. Make sure you arrive with flowers or she will think it is just good friends. flowers will say it all.
then hold her hand gently in the cinema, theatre or whatever. if she withdraws it - try again a little later. if she keeps shutting the door. that's your answer. She certainly wont blame you for trying - she will only blame you if you become a pest.

If it sours the friendship - just move on.

I am 52 now and looking back missed some wonderful chances with friends who were waiting for me to make a move. Life is too short to dither - make your move!

Topic male orgasam denial
Posted 22 Mar 2017 12:29

I like watching this kind of thing but fucking without ejaculation is not really my thing. it's like chewing food and spitting out

Topic stay or go
Posted 22 Mar 2017 10:51



You still haven't told us who you dress up as? Is it Bananaman?

You basically said she should put up with not being loved, not say anything and just live with it until such time as her partner/husband decides otherwise.

And you are wondering why you got negative responses?


It does kind of complicate things a little that they have a child doesnt it. And the received wisdom seems to be that parents should not stay together for the children.


But not every family scenario is different. Only the OP knows the answer to her question and I added my voice just to put something different, and possibly useful into the pot.

leaving a long term partner when children are involved is a risk for all concerned - a life changing experience. There is no one size fits all solution.

My father left when I was 14 (I also have a younger brother and sister) - I supported him at the time - but the years have opened my eyes. He had his own selfish reasons. We didnt have a perfect family life but it was better having a mum and dad in the house compared with a single parent family and the stigma that went with it in those days. My mother begged him to return and he refused - having found for himself a new life. I am rarely in touch with him these days.

well - perhaps I have added some perspective to my comments. No - I dont dress up as Bananaman.

Topic stay or go
Posted 22 Mar 2017 09:54



You are either delusional, stupid or both. My mother stayed with my father and we got abused mentally and physically. Boys do NOT need correct fathering, they need a parent who loves them and tries to do what's best for them.

If I had been deprived of living with my father it would've done me a lot of good. Your arrogance is appalling. Get a clue.

I didnt think I would find people on this forum being abusive. On some forums you would get an infraction for calling someone stupid.

Where did I say families should stay together where there is mental and or physical abuse going on?

I am sorry of the term "correct fathering" upset you - I mean a father who loves them and does his best for them - just as you say. What did you think I meant? Someone wielding a stick?

The OP did not say the household environment is unstable and abusive. If that is the case and he is the cause of it I would say she should go and quickly, like today.

The OP has asked should I stay or go. All I am sayng is consider carefully whether leaving a partner is in the child's best interests. And being a happier mum might not be in the child's best interests if the cost of that is an absent loving well balanced father.

Topic stay or go
Posted 22 Mar 2017 09:31

you're assuming that he's a good dad. what if he's a shit dad?

I was going to come back to that.

If he's the kind of dad that spends loving constructive time with his son, reads to him, engages with him etc - then it's going to be harder to break up the home.

But if he is non functional as a father - it might be worth having that chat and possibly moving on.

She never said he was a shit father - or even a shit partner.

Topic stay or go
Posted 22 Mar 2017 07:17



This is some of the worst advice I have ever seen.

@ the OP. First of all, don't listen to this bloke, he's talking nonsense.

Secondly, listen to Sinner, she's given you some good advice here and knows what she is talking about. I hope things work out for you. You deserve better than a loveless relationship. Children are resilient; a happy mum makes a happy child IMHO. You're child will adjust if you leave and you have every right to do so if that is what is best for you.

Try talking to him first. Relationships can often hit a wall, especially after you have a child. Sometimes a little effort on both parts can get you past that, you just need to be open and honest with each other. If he outright says he no longer loves you than I think you need to move on because you deserve more than that. Sometimes when a child comes along, men can feel a little left out because the child takes up so much of mums time and attention, it could just be that simple and discussing it will help. Finding time for each other is important too. I hope this is the case for you and things work out. Big Hugs

Well - you are entitled to your view and I to mine. I dont disagree with much of the advice you have given here. Though I dont believe confronting him is a good idea - it could lead to regrets. He also may not be able to articulate his feelings - or in fact even know precisely what they are. You say she should move on if he no longer loves - really? Perhaps dad will have a view on that. Not sure if he'll want his partner to go off with his son - he may want custody. Saying children are resiliant seems to make it easier for parents to split up doesnt it - it's a convenient phrase - wonder what the boy thinks of it. The OP has not indicated that the famly environment is unsuitable - merely that she thinks her partner does not love her.

What good will it do the boy if he is deprived of living with his father. Living with a happy fulfilled mum cannot compensate a boy for having a weekend dad. Boys need correct fathering - and dad needs to be present in the family home for that to happen.

Topic Approaching the Topic of Going Further w/ BF
Posted 22 Mar 2017 03:14

Wow, that sucks... My advice would be to look for a dude that's not such a fucking pussy. Two months? lol

agreed.
I was shy about sex in my 20s and 30s and I think women sometimes thought what the hell am I waiting for.

Life's too short - in a new relationship I would be ready to go on day one.

If he's not initiated anything - you will probably have to lead him by the nose evry step of the way. if that's what you want.

If you want a real man to take you - look elsewhere.

Topic stay or go
Posted 21 Mar 2017 22:37

I am inlove with my husband still but he is not in love with me. Or i think that at least we have a two year old together and were not legally married just a cermony of souls but he has no iterest in me anymore not sure if i should stay for our son or pack up and leave.

That's not a bad situation. You should put your child first and put as a top priority staying together.

It would be far worse for you if the emotions were reversed.

Let him stay while he will. He may eventually get fed up living with a woman he doesnt love - but that's his call. As long as he behaves well and is good to the child.

Topic Long Stories - One Upload or Several?
Posted 21 Mar 2017 12:41

Thanks - it is under 10K words for sure. Great - I will upload in one go.
I am using my hotmail account to write it (in email mode). In the past when copying and pasting into lush - I had rejections caused by formatting issues - even though in the lush input window all looked ok.
is it better to past into word - format - proof read etc for final corrections - and then paste into lush? any thoughts?
thanks

Topic Long Stories - One Upload or Several?
Posted 21 Mar 2017 11:29

I am working on quite a long story - several thousand words. I could split this into 3 chapters - or publish in one.

I would prefer to publish in one.

what do you think is better?

thank you

Topic Guys do you like a womens pussy shaved, trimmed, or natural?
Posted 19 Mar 2017 22:22

As I think pubic hair is one of the most beautiful features on a woman - unshaven.

my wife shaved once - and seeing my reaction never did so again.