Topic How do I tell him I'm a sub?
06 May 2016 17:49
If its who you are be honest. If its something you merely want to do as "play" time again be honest. If he cant accept you for who and what you are then he is not the person for you.
Topic Tattoos like or hate
05 Jan 2016 16:35
Always get your tattoos at a licensed reputable tattoo parlor/clinic. They should have a recent inspection certificate on the wall, a business license and occupancy permit. I suggest doing some research first, getting recommendations and checking out the place and the artists.
I have a few tattoos and enjoy them very much.
I completely agree Buz. I have 6 an 5 were done by the same artist. Once you find the "one" you're golden. Tattoo's are like anything else, to each their own. No judgement should be made about those who like body art, if its not your thing that's fine too. Personally, I love them and mine all have meaning to me.
Topic TYING ??
02 Aug 2015 18:20
It's all about trust, if you don't trust him then walk away. If you do trust him, I would advise sitting down and talking about what you both want from the relationship or session of tying. Whatever terms you decide, he must know your limits in what you are willing to do and what you aren't. Be honest on both sides and communicate and do whatever it is you plan on doing safely. Have a safe word so that if you want whatever he is doing to stop he clearly will know that the line has been drawn and you want it to end at that moment.
Have fun in your endeavors and remember, trust and communication is vital.
Topic How do YOU define submissive?
19 Feb 2015 19:20
Someone being taking advantage of by someone who fears being taken advantage of.
24 Sep 2014 21:16
Why don't we have a story section on Domme,you know including both male and female domination??
We already have a category that includes both male and female domination, its called BDSM. It has stores for both the Dom and Domme, as well as submissive and slave.
There really is no need to separate the two from the general BDSM category.
Topic Toys and Bondage Gear
19 Sep 2014 23:11
Is this something that she can wear out in public and what is the feeling that she would benefit from wearing this? I am interested in buying this for her.
Yes she could wear these out in public, it will just depends on what shes wearing as to whether it would be noticeable or not. As for the feeling, each person is different so there is no way I could tell you what the benefit would be for her.
Topic Butt Plugs... Opinions?
07 Sep 2014 13:39
Here are a couple of sites I use, I highly recommend to read reviews on the products you might be interested in. Glass toys are my preference they have a much better feel to them in my opinion and they clean up very nicely.
As for size, you will just need to check different sites out and see what they have to offer and what might work for you.
Hope you find what you are looking for :)
Topic Tit Fucking
01 Jul 2014 20:22
Titties are for sucking and playing with not for fucking in my opinion. It's just sorta awkward and not all that stimulating really.
I would have to agree.
Topic What is considered cheating?
01 Jul 2014 20:21
Cheating comes in many forms, oral sex is cheating if you are physically and emotionally involved with another.
Topic Is something wrong?
15 Jun 2014 13:29
I been living lifestyle for about 2 years, learning about it for longer, I am a dominant, but I dont enjoy the idea of being mean rough and Hurting a submissive for no reason, If broke rules or was disobedient , then Id punish them appropriately, but All I seem be seeing is girls looking for dominants to beat and hurt them willingly. Something is very wrong, because beating a sub for no reason isnt what a true dominant should do. Any Advice? I been searching for ages and lack of good fortune starting to annoy me
Keep in mind within the BDSM lifestyle there are many forms. The latter 2 letters, SM are the sadists and masochists. That is where your question seems to stem from. Not everyone into the lifestyle are into the S&M portion. The key is to never judge anyone (and I am not saying your are, this is just more of a general statement) for what they may need or want, if its not for you that's perfectly fine, just look in other areas of the lifestyle for a suitable partner. Key is communication and even more so when talking this type of lifestyle. Communication and limits should be first and foremost in all relationships and never be afraid to state what your limits are as a Dominant or a submissive/slave/babygirl.
Everyone has different wants and needs and others may not understand them. This lifestyle is not or should not be about abuse or beating, and as you said its not what a true Dominant should do. Its not something any true human being should do, man, woman, Dominant or otherwise. You don't have to be mean and rough. If the only girls you are finding seem to lean towards the S&M lifestyle then my advice is to keep searching. Are you just looking for a submissive or are you looking for a relationship that builds on friendship and moves towards a D/s one? There are many questions you can ask yourself that may aid you in what you are ultimately seeking. Just be honest in who you are and what you want and expect the same in return. You might try going to a Munch in your area and meeting like minded people.
Good luck and I hope you find what you are looking for.
Topic Are you on Fetlife?
12 Jun 2014 14:27
Yes I have been a member there for a few years. It's a completely different site than Lush. I prefer Lush for the chat as well as stories. Fetlife is great for being able to connect with others who live close to you as well as the obvious thing being the fetish part. I've read on both sites and Lush authors can't be touched in their talent. Fetlife is more tolerant of the fetish one may be into whereas Lush members are a little more conservative. Two completely different sites who for some like myself satisfy different needs in different ways.
Topic BDSM Gangbang
26 May 2014 18:10
Is desiring a bdsm gangbang good?. Please share your experience ladies....... Guys your views are also important
Whatever floats your boat :)
Topic Alright Guys, Fantasy Time! A GORGEOUS Female Sex Slave
09 Apr 2014 16:53
Independant, strong minded, intelligent and free-willed, confident in and of themselves persons can STILL have fantasies of having a sex-slave or being one! annnd great to have experienced "the ultimate orgasm/multiple"s! Hellllooooo. lol Of course! XD
Topic Happy Birthday Callisto!
15 Feb 2014 20:53
Topic Collared submissives
11 Feb 2014 13:20
Topic Can you really ever stop loving someone after a relationship is over?
15 Jan 2014 15:52
It really depends on how your relationship ended and what kind of feelings you had for that person at the time, as well as what brought the relationship to an end in the first place. Falling out of love with someone after being with them for over half your life mixed with other things felt as it came to an end. For me, yes its possible to stop loving someone. There will always be a connection especially if you have kids with them. You can love someone as a human being or as the father or mother of your children. Some relationships end where neither love the other anymore, and its often one sided. Its really a question that is as individual in each situation as it is to the two people involved.
You can choose to move and live, or you can be stuck in the past with the what if's. It's a hard thing to do, I know am living it now. The hardest thing is to trust again, if you can figure that one out, then you truly are one step ahead of the rest of us.