Forum posts made by ravyn

Topic TYING ??
Posted 02 Aug 2015 18:20

It's all about trust, if you don't trust him then walk away. If you do trust him, I would advise sitting down and talking about what you both want from the relationship or session of tying. Whatever terms you decide, he must know your limits in what you are willing to do and what you aren't. Be honest on both sides and communicate and do whatever it is you plan on doing safely. Have a safe word so that if you want whatever he is doing to stop he clearly will know that the line has been drawn and you want it to end at that moment.

Have fun in your endeavors and remember, trust and communication is vital.

Topic Moderator of the Month for June
Posted 03 Jul 2015 15:03

Congrats :)

Topic How do YOU define submissive?
Posted 19 Feb 2015 19:20

Someone being taking advantage of by someone who fears being taken advantage of.


Topic Domination!!!!
Posted 24 Sep 2014 21:16

Why don't we have a story section on Domme,you know including both male and female domination??

We already have a category that includes both male and female domination, its called BDSM. It has stores for both the Dom and Domme, as well as submissive and slave.

There really is no need to separate the two from the general BDSM category.

Topic Toys and Bondage Gear
Posted 19 Sep 2014 23:11

Is this something that she can wear out in public and what is the feeling that she would benefit from wearing this? I am interested in buying this for her.

Yes she could wear these out in public, it will just depends on what shes wearing as to whether it would be noticeable or not. As for the feeling, each person is different so there is no way I could tell you what the benefit would be for her.

Topic Butt Plugs... Opinions?
Posted 07 Sep 2014 13:39

Here are a couple of sites I use, I highly recommend to read reviews on the products you might be interested in. Glass toys are my preference they have a much better feel to them in my opinion and they clean up very nicely.

As for size, you will just need to check different sites out and see what they have to offer and what might work for you.

Hope you find what you are looking for :)

Topic Howdy all, newer member here.
Posted 04 Jul 2014 13:23

welcomes Hope you enjoy the site.

Topic Tit Fucking
Posted 01 Jul 2014 20:22

Titties are for sucking and playing with not for fucking in my opinion. It's just sorta awkward and not all that stimulating really.

I would have to agree.

Topic What is considered cheating?
Posted 01 Jul 2014 20:21

Cheating comes in many forms, oral sex is cheating if you are physically and emotionally involved with another.

Topic Is something wrong?
Posted 15 Jun 2014 13:29

I been living lifestyle for about 2 years, learning about it for longer, I am a dominant, but I dont enjoy the idea of being mean rough and Hurting a submissive for no reason, If broke rules or was disobedient , then Id punish them appropriately, but All I seem be seeing is girls looking for dominants to beat and hurt them willingly. Something is very wrong, because beating a sub for no reason isnt what a true dominant should do. Any Advice? I been searching for ages and lack of good fortune starting to annoy me

Keep in mind within the BDSM lifestyle there are many forms. The latter 2 letters, SM are the sadists and masochists. That is where your question seems to stem from. Not everyone into the lifestyle are into the S&M portion. The key is to never judge anyone (and I am not saying your are, this is just more of a general statement) for what they may need or want, if its not for you that's perfectly fine, just look in other areas of the lifestyle for a suitable partner. Key is communication and even more so when talking this type of lifestyle. Communication and limits should be first and foremost in all relationships and never be afraid to state what your limits are as a Dominant or a submissive/slave/babygirl.

Everyone has different wants and needs and others may not understand them. This lifestyle is not or should not be about abuse or beating, and as you said its not what a true Dominant should do. Its not something any true human being should do, man, woman, Dominant or otherwise. You don't have to be mean and rough. If the only girls you are finding seem to lean towards the S&M lifestyle then my advice is to keep searching. Are you just looking for a submissive or are you looking for a relationship that builds on friendship and moves towards a D/s one? There are many questions you can ask yourself that may aid you in what you are ultimately seeking. Just be honest in who you are and what you want and expect the same in return. You might try going to a Munch in your area and meeting like minded people.

Good luck and I hope you find what you are looking for.

Topic Are you on Fetlife?
Posted 12 Jun 2014 14:27

Yes I have been a member there for a few years. It's a completely different site than Lush. I prefer Lush for the chat as well as stories. Fetlife is great for being able to connect with others who live close to you as well as the obvious thing being the fetish part. I've read on both sites and Lush authors can't be touched in their talent. Fetlife is more tolerant of the fetish one may be into whereas Lush members are a little more conservative. Two completely different sites who for some like myself satisfy different needs in different ways.

Topic BDSM Gangbang
Posted 26 May 2014 18:10

Is desiring a bdsm gangbang good?. Please share your experience ladies....... Guys your views are also important

Whatever floats your boat :)

Topic Alright Guys, Fantasy Time! A GORGEOUS Female Sex Slave
Posted 09 Apr 2014 16:53

{notta guy~}

Independant, strong minded, intelligent and free-willed, confident in and of themselves persons can STILL have fantasies of having a sex-slave or being one! annnd great to have experienced "the ultimate orgasm/multiple"s! Hellllooooo. lol Of course! XD


Topic Happy Birthday Callisto!
Posted 15 Feb 2014 20:53

Topic what are you drinking?
Posted 12 Feb 2014 21:49

Fireball whiskey

Topic Collared submissives
Posted 11 Feb 2014 13:20

Topic Looking for a BDSM Book or Story
Posted 11 Feb 2014 13:01

Google is a great resource to find what you are looking for :)

Topic Can you really ever stop loving someone after a relationship is over?
Posted 15 Jan 2014 15:52

It really depends on how your relationship ended and what kind of feelings you had for that person at the time, as well as what brought the relationship to an end in the first place. Falling out of love with someone after being with them for over half your life mixed with other things felt as it came to an end. For me, yes its possible to stop loving someone. There will always be a connection especially if you have kids with them. You can love someone as a human being or as the father or mother of your children. Some relationships end where neither love the other anymore, and its often one sided. Its really a question that is as individual in each situation as it is to the two people involved.

You can choose to move and live, or you can be stuck in the past with the what if's. It's a hard thing to do, I know am living it now. The hardest thing is to trust again, if you can figure that one out, then you truly are one step ahead of the rest of us.

Topic Say something nice about the profile of the person above you
Posted 15 Jan 2014 15:41

A very well filled out and thoughtful profile.

Topic who wants to get dominated?
Posted 31 Dec 2013 16:09

"My reputation precedes me" etc are not MY words they're in the op so you might be better directing those comments at her. As for your right to give your opinions it's a two way street, you seemed quick enough to jump on others when they gave theirs'. I'd suggest you reread the whole thread to refresh your memory!

I am all for free opinions, my only point was that many are quick to judge someone for the question they ask in the forums. It makes people apprehensive about posting and asking questions.

Topic who wants to get dominated?
Posted 31 Dec 2013 01:35

WHAT! Well I wasn't going to post until I read yours.
What gives you the right to criticise other members? Did you read the pile of crap in the op? My reputation precedes me, other doms respect me but I'm not here to blow my own trumpet!
Get real, she's asking to be shot at! If she was that good she'd have subs queueing up and not having to post ads for her services .

I have the right as any other member to state my opinion. I did not criticize I merely stated my opinion. If you do not like it, then that is your prerogative. I stand by my post, as for your reputation preceding you, I have no clue of who you are or what you claim to be. Respect is earned not given freely, if you feel you are respected by other Dom's, if that little tid bit is what helps you sleep at night, then more power to you.

Topic Happy Birthday Ravyn!
Posted 20 Dec 2013 21:48

Thank you all very much :)

Topic Destined to be single?
Posted 11 Dec 2013 16:15

We should have a special section, just for the 'Lush Tragics'.

If you have nothing constructive to input keep your fingers off the keyboard and stay out of threads you have no interest in contributing to.

To the OP, you may feel alone now while being on your own, you will find someone that is the right fit for you the key is to not close yourself off to the possibility of what you might find.

Topic Would you say that this is part of the BDSM Lifestyle?
Posted 11 Dec 2013 11:16

It sounds to me like you are more interested in finding out where you fit with your particular kink or desires. To be honest, I wouldn't worry so much about where you may "fit" in any one lifestyle. If its something you live 24/7 and its apart of who you are then call it a lifestyle. If its just something you enjoy doing even if its every time and just kept it to the bedroom then I would say you definitely have a passion for that particular kink. You like the bondage part of BDSM and you also appear to be a masochist. Just embrace what you enjoy and don't worry so much about labeling what it is.

Topic Long Distance
Posted 09 Dec 2013 22:23

Communication is key......

Topic who wants to get dominated?
Posted 30 Nov 2013 22:20

It seems the many of the long time posters as well as some of the relatively new ones like to get snarky to brand new Lush members. I have seen this over and over in the various threads on Lush. This site is open to all members and that includes the forums. It would be nice to see the new members not get blasted for starting a post that some deem not important or unworthy of discussion. Just because there is a forum post doesn't mean someone needs to reply in it. Read it and move on, there is no need to make the member feel badly for posting, all that does is make people think twice before starting a thread. Lets make them feel welcome to the community instead of pouncing on them for a post you may not agree with :)

Topic im new here im looking for sluts
Posted 28 Nov 2013 22:53

With an opening topic like that, it speaks volumes that you are new. You might do some homework before you make posts like that. There are many good resources here on Lush as well as off.

Topic What is your favourite kind of sex toy?
Posted 20 Nov 2013 14:45

I can't pick just one. I like to use a combination of toys. Glass, pain enhancers, anal plugs and the Hitachi wand are my favorites.

Topic vibrators?
Posted 20 Nov 2013 14:42

I've purchased stuff both online and in a shop. Nothing embarrassing about it. Embrace who you are and what you want and go for it. Just make sure you buy quality items otherwise you will be throwing money away when they break. If you shop online take the time to read reviews, they really can be helpful. Shop alone or with a friend, either way it can be fun and don't worry about what anyone else thinks :)

Topic May I ask a specific question about the giving and receiving of pain?
Posted 07 Nov 2013 22:20

More deeply, may I inquire to your respective subs what it is about the pain and punishment you endure that you crave and enjoy?

The woman I am writing of is not living in a submissive lifestyle per se' but she will be expected to enjoy giving pleasure to all whom seek it from her, and my presumption is that there are those people who do derive pleasure from the giving of torment, just as there are those who find pleasure and strength in enduring it.

I would like to address the part in bold. If you plan on writing about a submissive woman, the wording that she is expected to enjoy, what you need to understand is that a woman who is submissive already has the desire to enjoy, the desire to please as well as the need for both. Those who role play this will never truly understand they can only live out the fantasy of what they think it is and I don't begrudge anyone that. I am just giving my 2 cents on a few points in your post.

As for the question as to why we crave and enjoy certain types of pain and punishments, that is an individual thing for each. No two are alike. Pain for some can be an amazing feeling, its more than a rush. It can be freeing when done correctly and between two people with the highest level of trust to know it will never be pushed past certain limits. Having that one person who can read you and know what you need before you ever utter a word, to be taken to that place where everything just stops and you feel. Some call it subspace I call it my happy place. The reasons a submissive craves this will also vary with each person.

Forgive me if this came off as babbling, I am overworked and tired and I hope I make sense here. If not feel free to send me a pm if you wish to know more from my perspective as a submissive woman.