Forum posts made by rxtales

Topic Can you explain your sexual preferences/fetishes?
Posted 16 Aug 2010 00:37

I often wonder why I like extreme rough sex when I have such an abusive past. At first I felt bad when ever I would engage in rough sex, then I realised that I like it, so I should enjoy it. I still wonder what draws me to sex when it goes to the extreme, but it only matters that I do, not why.

Topic How does...
Posted 14 Aug 2010 02:36

Someone tried to explain this one to me the other day. His explanation was not that it threatened straight marriages, it threatened the human race, because if everyone were gay then nobody would have babies.

I told him that was stupid and of course you can still reproduce.

Topic Open relationships....
Posted 13 Aug 2010 02:51

I think an open relationship could work if you are on the same page.

My exhusband and I had one. We were obviously not on the same page. To me an open relationship was fucking other men to get myself off while he was working abroad in Africa. To him an open relationship meant getting engaged to another woman. But there are another hundred reasons why our marriage failed miserably.

Topic Looks vs Status
Posted 13 Aug 2010 01:16

I disagree

Topic When do you blow the cheating whistle?
Posted 12 Aug 2010 18:46

I walked in on my ex boyfriend having sex with another man who I will call K. K was engaged to a woman who was pregnant and a friend of mine. My ex boyfriend informed me that they had been fucking each other for a while (even while we were together). K said that he was only staying in the engagement because of the baby and because he was unsure of his sexuality. I debated a very long time, but eventually blew the whistle. The woman had the right to know. Everyone was incredibly angry with me in the beginning, but eventually things were worked out. I think it would depend on the situation. If someone is breaking my trust and cheating on me, I would want to know.

Topic World's Greatest Lover announced...
Posted 12 Aug 2010 18:40

LMAO.... Position Transition...

Topic World's Fattest Countries
Posted 12 Aug 2010 18:34

Education is important in reducing obesity.

When I was in South America I wasn't too shocked by how over weight people were (the traditional diets in a lot of places aren't too healthy) but was so shocked by how many people were diabetics. A lot of pre packaged goods are coming into the country that were not available a couple of decades ago. They are convenient and cheap. In a lot of areas where people are uneducated and don't have a huge amount of access to the "outside world" they just didn't realised that crisps and chocolate bars were not healthy.

I was talking to my Malay friend the other day. He grew up in Australia where he ate a lot of fast food, but was shocked when he moved back to Kuala Lumpur and gained a bunch of weight. It's because the traditional food is oily and mostly carbs. People never cook because food is so cheap and always around. Food stalls are open 24/7 and it takes seconds to get food.

Also people don't understand exercise. When I was in South/Central America I would go for my daily run and there were occasions people thought I was running from something and would stop me to see if I was okay. It was hard for a lot of people to understand that I was running to keep healthy.

Topic Do you give money to panhandlers?
Posted 12 Aug 2010 18:26

This is a difficult question and I have debated back and forth (in my head) about this.

When I was living in Florida last year, I was living in an area with several military bases. There were many homeless people who after the vietnam war were unable to hold down a job and many turned to alcohol and drugs and were living on the street. I befriended one man who I would sit with often. He never asked me for money as I was broke and pregnant, but I would see him panhandling for money on occasion. I would bring him food, but never give him money. I didn't want it to go to alcohol.

I worked at a homeless shelter in the UK for a bit. Or a shelter for Rough Sleepers as they are called. In the UK there is no reason someone should be living on the street. There are always options for food and a shelter. So I would be wary of where the money is going.

I have spent a lot of time in the developing world, where I see many many beggars. In some areas people will purposely maim and disable people so they can get more money on the streets. They are left on a corner to beg then get picked up in the evening and little of the money goes to them.

I also see a lot of children begging. I definitely never give them money, because it does more harm then good. They should be in school but know they can earn more money by standing out on the street and tourists will feel sad for them. In the long run it would do them good to get an education.

So generally I won't give people money. I will buy them food, or in a special case a place to stay. From experience though I have found that the money goes towards something like alcohol/drugs or makes it into the wrong hands.

Topic Bargains over Bloodshed: Consumer Morality
Posted 12 Aug 2010 18:17

I try to be aware of it, and buy fair trade, local, and environmentally friendly when I can. Unfortunately, I'm also a broke student, and those choices tend to be more expensive. Sometimes they are out of my price range and I have to hold reluctantly go against my principles to make my money work.

Sweatshop is an issue that I don't necessarily avoid. Yes, the people in a sweatshop work long hours, but those two dollars a day puts food on their table. If I take that away from them, how do they afford to eat? Cost of living can be different in different parts of the world, so that two dollars may go a lot further than it does here in Canada. But everyone deserves a safe working environment, so if I know about safety issues with a company I will try and avoid its products.

I think the issues with a lot of sweat shops is that people are working long hours in bad conditions and barely earn enough money to put food on the table. Large corporations should afford to pay them more. In an ideal world everybody would boy-cot these companies and that would put pressure on them to pay higher wages - but that's never going to happen.

I like to think I am pretty aware about different government's policies towards labour laws. Thus there are certain products I won't buy if made in a certain place. There are certain countries I would like to avoid giving any economic help to. I saw some clothing in a high street store the other day that was made in Myanmar. Definitely a place I will be avoiding from now on... I don't own anything made in China (although I do suspect my hiking boots may have been - they just say designed in England on them).

I make a lot of my own clothing and buy things second hand.

Topic Burnout - maybe you can reply or discuss if you so desire
Posted 06 Aug 2010 19:01

My way of dealing with this was to go an "extended vacation." I left England to work in the states where I used sex , drugs and alcohol to deal with my stress. When that didn't work, I left to travel and have been for eight months and don't really have any plans to go back. I stay some place until I begin to get a little restless, bored or start to slide back into bad habits and then I find some place new.

But even that gets a little tiring sometimes and lonely. I am constantly with new people. So I settle myself some place for a week or even as long as a month until I feel it's time to leave again.

I too get irrational when I get burntout. It's when I start thinking about doing crazy shit that I know it's time to move on.

Topic Illegal Organ Trafficking
Posted 30 Jul 2010 19:18

I have some Iranian family who are doctors in Tehran. They were telling me that it is the only country where it is legal to sell your own organs. I don't really know the specifics, and am not really sure what to think about it.

Topic Would you allow a guy to give...
Posted 29 Jul 2010 19:50

No, oral sex skills alone are not going to convince me.

If I'm not at least somewhat attracted to him, I'm not interested.

Yeah, I could probably just keep my eyes closed and imagine it was someone else, but that's pretty much what I do with my vibrators and sex-toys now.

For me, half the pleasure is in seeing someone that you're already hot for, in between your thighs, tonguing you into ecstasy.

Couldn't agree with this more.

Topic Privacy Pasties
Posted 29 Jul 2010 19:44

Cornish Pasties came into my head when I first read the title... maybe I need some food.

But it has never occurred to me to need anything like that (the privacy pasties, not the cornish ones)

Topic What's your personality type?
Posted 26 Jul 2010 06:56

Interesting... I did this over a year ago, before I started travelling, and was definitely an INFJ.

Now am a ESFJ

You are:
slightly expressed extravert
slightly expressed sensing personality
moderately expressed feeling personality
slightly expressed judging personality

Topic Father's rights, if any?
Posted 25 Jul 2010 22:57

I agree with WMM.


Here's an additional question. If the woman has the right to abort (which I firmly believe that she does) then should the man have the right to relinquish all rights and resonsibility when it comes to providing financial support? Or is he simply stuck into whatever situation the woman decides?

I only ask this because I had a girl present me with this option at one time. She said that because she could choose, then I should be given an equal choice. I found that perspective strangely enlightening.

Turns out it wasn't mine though anyways. icon_smile

That's an interesting thought. I think if the baby was an accident and the mother wanted to keep it, but the father wanted her to abort, or at least having nothing to do with it, then I think he should be able to relinquish all rights and responsibilities.

Topic Should violent criminals be given false identities?
Posted 25 Jul 2010 21:20

So even if you commit a crime as a child, do you think they should not be given the chance to reintegrate into society as an adult who has "paid their debt to society"?

Topic the lack of communication between family members, and modern life
Posted 25 Jul 2010 19:53

I have never really had a very good relationship with either of parents for various reasons. There are times we can't sit in the same room without almost killing each other, but watching a movie or tv show gives us something to do. There are a couple of shows my mum and I both like and sitting together and watching it allow us to spend some time together.

Topic Smoking Laws
Posted 25 Jul 2010 19:48

I quit smoking about week ago, but let's see how long it will last this time. I had stopped before I started traveling, but when I got to Central America, I started again. Cigarettes were ridiculously cheap and everyone smokes, so you're not a social outcast when you do. I smoked a lot when I was in Central and South America for this reason. When I got to Australia, cigarettes were really expensive and you couldn't smoke indoors. On my budget, I had to quit for the couple of weeks when I was there. They weren't much cheaper in Singapore so I didn't smoke there either. When I got to Malaysia I started again, because they are cheap and everyone smokes them.

I know when I go back to England for a few weeks in September, I will probably stop. Both because of the expense and because of the smoking ban. I don't want to stand outside in the cold when all of my non-smoker friends are inside chatting. I never really found that there was a social gathering outside of pubs and restaurants like Ladyx said. It makes me feel more of an outcast when I am the only one in my group to go outside to smoke. It seems really unsociable.

I don't disagree with smoking bans. I don't mind cigarette smoke, but for those who don't smoke I understand how unpleasant it is to sit in a restaurant eating lunch and having your eyes burn with all of the cigarette smoke. However, I still like to have a fag when I am in a pub drinking, or a night club.

As for smoking warnings on cigarette packs, I don't have a problem with them. I just don't like when they put photographs on them. Looking at bad teath and infectious limbs, does put me off smoking a little. So I guess it does it's job. It just doesn't put me off enough to want to stop smoking. However, the miscarried feotus' are a little upsetting, but don't make me stop smoking. I am not pregnant, and neither is the male smoker next to me, and I haven't been smoking around pregnant women.

I definitely think smoking shouldn't be advertised. You can't do that in the UK. We all know smoking isn't healthy, there is no need to encourage. The same could go for alcohol, chocolate and fast food I guess.

I am in two minds about the taxes on cigarettes. As a smoker, I would like them to be lower, but it does make me smoke less when I am in countries that have a high tax on cigarettes. It's a good way to make money, but I don't necesarilly understand it for other reasons. Sure they are unhealthy, but so are plenty of other things.

Topic Things said to you, which make you cringe
Posted 23 Jul 2010 04:03

I have had a few people tell me they love me after knowing me for less than 24 hours. The above guy is one who I am now hiding from. He told me he is coming to visit me for a couple of weeks.

Topic Things said to you, which make you cringe
Posted 23 Jul 2010 03:59

HIM: "Can we just not use a condom. I'll be careful and pull out?"

ME: "Have you been checked?"

HIM: "What?"

ME: "As in have you been checked for STDs?"

HIM: "What's an STD?" I am patient. English wasn't his first language.

ME: "A sexually transmitted disease."

HIM: "Hmm?"

ME: "Just keep the fucking condom on, or I am going to leave."

Topic Health Care
Posted 23 Jul 2010 03:44

Health care shouldn't be an issue of making money. It should be a service designed to maintain the health of the populace .

we should remove all apsects of "money making" from the health care industry.


Now, I'm curious- whether you support or oppose the idea of government-administered health care, is there anyone that disagrees with the above feeling?

I do not disagree, at all. But then how do you pay doctors? How do you pay nurses? Where do the hospitals come from? New drugs, new treatments? Research and development funds? Now I am only speaking for American government, but government is government in my experience, and if any state takes federal funding for a road project the cost AUTOMATICALLY goes up no less than 25%.

As I said in my previous post - doctors make money by working in the private sector as well. They make a pretty good living through that.

Topic Health Care
Posted 23 Jul 2010 03:39

I am originally from the states, but grew up in the UK. I have spent some time in both medical systems.

I practically lived in hospitals in the UK for a couple of years. Both NHS hospitals and private ones. I was fortunate that my parents worked for health insurance companies and as a kid was covered by their policy. This gave me access to private health care in the UK. The doctors are good, but they have to do a certain amount of hours in the NHS, so going private can be quite slow. I have seen doctors that work 6 hours a week. So if you have to have something done quickly, the NHS is best. I had problems breathing, and all of a sudden developed allergies to EVERYTHING, I had horrible stomach pains and couldn't sleep. My GP automatically referred me to a private hospital. It was SLOW. My doctor worked friday mornings and wasn't going to be able to see me for three weeks. That wasn't good enough. So I went through the NHS. Within a couple of hours of arriving at the hospital I was admitted and they started to figure out what was wrong with me, although it took months and months. My point being that the NHS is great if you have an emergency or need crucial care. Yeah it is a bit slow if you need something more cosmetic, or less urgent. In which case it is a bit sucky, especially if you then can't afford to go private.

But I think it's a hell of a lot better than the alternative of having no free health care. When I was in the US, I had several medical problems and ended up getting slammed with medical bills. I had insurance, it just didn't cover everything. It wasn't a matter of being "poor". Okay I was, but that's because I was 18, just out of high school and with my first job. I had no finacial support from my parents or anyone else, so what was I supposed to do when I started having seizures, and a few weeks later developed a blood infection. Because of the seizures I wasn't able to fly back to the UK, and I was a bit stuck. I had to get treatment and therefore had to pay for it.

So I am all for nationalised heath care. Of course there are going to be people who abuse it, but the overall benefits makes it worth having. It's not going to make a country communist - I just find that a silly argument. Sure it may not be as efficient as it could be, but I don't think private health care is much better. It may be quicker, but not necesarilly better quality. Both in the UK and I think Australia as well doctors have to work in both the NHS and choose to work for a bit in the private sector to earn money.

As for the argument of having to pay for the "poor". That's not necessarily the case. If I were to move back the US now, I don't think I would be able to get insurance, let alone pay for it. Is that my fault? I think it should be my right to have free health care. After all, I am a US citizen, I will still be paying taxes. It's not like I am avoiding work and want other people to pay for me. The reason I don't have a lot of money is because I am young.

Topic Happy Birthday Nicola
Posted 16 Jul 2010 03:24

Happy Birthday!

Topic Should creationism be taught in schools?
Posted 13 Jul 2010 09:59

"America was founded on the bible? "
You need to reread your history your Dudeness. The Colonists were in the US after fleeing severe religious persecutions. There was no way they wanted to have a state sponsored religion. The US, though it mentions a god, in no way inferred a religion in the documents that create our republic.

They also wanted to avoid the problems associated with having a monarchy or single party government. This meant not having a state sponsored religion and creating the Government it has now.

Topic Should creationism be taught in schools?
Posted 13 Jul 2010 09:44

America was founded on the Bible. Creation was taught in every school until Darwin came up with his theory. It used to be a REQUIREMENT to be a Christian if you wanted to run for office. Where has America gone? I believe whole-heartedly that Creationism should be taught in schools. In Science. Evolution is! And there is FAR more evidence supporting Creation.

Doesn't the first amendment say Congress shall make NO law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the government for a redress of grievances That implies there being freedom of religion. How would a country based on Christianity allow this? Why then should Christian creationism be taught in school? I am assuming you don't intend for it to be taught along side the beliefs of other religions.

Topic The ethics of wearing fur or animal skins
Posted 12 Jul 2010 22:04

Well as a vegetarian, I don't support wearing fur, leather or anything else that has been killed to be worn or eaten. I have a lot of reasons for this. I have only recently become a vegetarian in the past 7 months or so. My reasons have less to do with hurting animals and more to do with environmental reasons.

-A lot more energy is used to produce meat than it is to produce vegetables.
-By eating grains and vegetables you are using our food resources more efficiently. Less agricultural resources to provide for the same number of people

The way in which animals are killed also plays a part in why I am a vegetarian. (I saw a pig being beaten by hammer - yummy dinner!) I became one after working on a small sustainable farm in Belize. After seeing a lot of small farms in that region I then thought about how much worse the places we buy our meat from are. Where meat is mass produced and slaughter houses are exactly humane.

There are also health reasons. The animals are fed antibiotics and hormones. Also travelling a lot of the bugs people pick up are from eating meat, even when it's cooked. And after seeing how meat is handled in many parts of the world has just turned me off of it completely. It can be harder to keep a balanced diet and I do tend to eat more carbs, but I can get an equally balanced diet now as I did when I ate meat.

Although I do eat eggs and dairy products, this is something I am working towards not doing when I get back to the western world. Because of the countries I have been travelling in, pretty much the only form of protein I can get is through eggs. I rarely drink milk. And now that I am in South East Asia I rarely eat eggs since there is so much soya around.

And sorry for slightly hijacking your thread, but my reasons for not eating meat is the same as my reasons for not wearing fur.

Topic Would You Attend a Lush Convention?
Posted 12 Jul 2010 21:42

Hmmm... not sure about this one. Maybe if I happened to be nearby, but I like that no one really knows who I am....

Topic Unexpected endings - writing challenge (ongoing)
Posted 12 Jul 2010 03:04

her cat had squeezed into that tiny little jar.

Jane looked at her husband's naked body and ...

Topic Random Story Recommendations
Posted 11 Jul 2010 23:08

What was the title of the story, and who was the author? Great Group
What category was it in? Incest
Did you finish reading it? NO!
Would you recommend it to anyone else? no sorry
When was it first posted here? Sept 12 2007

Honestly, I did not get through the third paragraph. I have to admit I have a hard time understanding broken english i'm a 1oo% Canadian Baby, but found it nearly impossible to read it. I'm not sure how it made it through to get posted, maybe lush wasn't as strick back in 2007?!?!?!?!?

Liked one of the comments


Topic Should creationism be taught in schools?
Posted 11 Jul 2010 22:02

I went to a school very briefly that taught creationism in science class. If we disagreed and mentioned anything about evolution we got caned...

What era am I living in again?

Creationism has it's place to be taught by parents or in a religion class. In religion class though, I strongly believe that they should teach about ALL religions regardless of whether or not the school is a religious one.