Well girls I'm not quite the guy in the avitar images although I once was, and in my head I still am!
Oh dear another depressing thread that describes my situation. Absolutely no sex or intimate contact for well over a year and now sleep in separate bedrooms. Prior to that perhaps 20 -25 times in 30 plus years of marriage. I gave up any hope a long time ago now. We get on ok and live like siblings running a business called a marriage.
I agree with ToshloveCC's sentiments but suspect that there are lots of marriages that are devoid of sex or intimacy as mine is and has been for years now. Yes it's tough and frustrating and I still want her but I know any attempt at an advance upsets her so you get used to it being like brother / sister type relationship and outwardly no one knows.s
Been in a sexless marriage for over 35 yrs now, yes it's tough sometimes but sleeping in separate rooms helps.s
Make love to my wife at least once in the next 12 months would be nice.
Its now two years since I last made love or had any real intimate contact with my wife and I confess I'm starting to miss it big time. Usually I can manage because I know its not going to happen and the urge soon passes, this time getting the urge does not seem to want leave me. Perhaps its the time of year, I don't know.Sam
I only have one wish, to make love to my wife more often than once every other year would be nice, but sadly that's unlikely to happen.Simple for some I guess but improbable for me!Sam
That's ok. A lot of folks have helped me over the past month or so and I now know so much more about it. I wanted to encourage others who may be in a similar situation to investigate asexuality. It really does explain so much and I really think it should get a lot more exposure. I think it would be so easy to cheat, divorce and clear off but that's certainly not my style. We live in a hyper sexed world, it's all around you and for people living with an asexual it's increasingly difficult I think to put sex to the back of your mind and lock it away. One might question then why am I here because surely this is one of the most sexual site around. Well the answer for me is simple. Visiting this site allows me to choose when to engage with sex by reading erotica when I want whereas in the real open world it hits you all the time, and increasingly so and it catches you off guard. Whilst this is a little challenging for the sexual partner with dare I say a normal sex drive which I must point out I am , it must be terrible for an asexual.I guess, although I have no proof what so ever, that asexuals hide in the closet, much like homosexuals did many many years ago. I therefore feel so very saddened by the ordeal asexuals my have living in the world today.We need to recognise that asexuality in a condition of mind and body that we should understand and support. Thanks for reading Sam
Dear all, I think that anyone in a sexless relationship should google asexuality and spend 30 minutes researching the subject. I did this a week or so ago and it has explained much of the last 30+' years. The prognosis is not good and there are few solutions but at least I have a better understanding of why things are the way they are.Thanks Sam
Dear all, I think that anyone in a sexless relationship should google asexuality and spend 30 minutes researching the subject. I did this a week or so ago and it has explained much of the last 30+' years. The prognosis is not good but at least I have a better understanding of why things are the way they are.
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