Forum posts made by seeker4

Topic What is freedom of speech?
Posted 09 Jan 2015 14:11

Our constitution contains something called the "peace, order, and good government" clause which gives government some leeway for abridging Charter rights (ie. rights guaranteed in our Charter of Right and Freedoms which forms part of our constitution) if it does in the interest of protecting "peace, order, and good government". Some governments and courts have tended to draw that line a bit too tightly, IMHO. Hate speech against identifiable target groups, for instance, is subject to various sanctions but sometimes people simply criticizing an "identifiable group" find themselves hauled up before courts and rights tribunals to defend what they said. IOW, free speech is not as absolute and sacrosanct in Canada as it is in the USA though the courts have generally done a fair (but not perfect) job of reigning in government attempts to take advantage of that.

For my part, I believe speech should be as free as possible but that includes the freedom to rebut people who abuse the right by spewing hate, lies, or other questionable speech. Free speech should be not protection from having your arguments shouted down or torn to shreds.

However, advocating violence, genocide, and such would cross the line for me. So, for an example, if you want to talk (incorrectly and inaccurately) about how spiteful and violent Islam is as a religion, I would answer with a rebuttal. You start advocating burning mosques or mass deportations of Muslims and I would answer with a call to my local authorities.

As for those who would abridge free speech to avoid offense or to avoid offending others, I'll let Stephen Fry speak for me:

Topic Is there another story category you'd like to have on Lush?
Posted 09 Jan 2015 13:32

Categories mentioned that I'd go for:


"Collaboration" doesn't strike me as a category of story for much the reason Liz suggested early in the thread. It is about how the story was written. Even I wrote a collaboration with another author (I haven't yet), I wouldn't use "Collaboration" as a category since it really says nothing about the story. A tag, sure. But not a category.

Topic Who would you rather kiss? (above or below)
Posted 09 Jan 2015 12:17

Kissing you back (above)!

Topic Guilty or Innocent.
Posted 09 Jan 2015 12:10

Innocent (and doubt anyone would actually pay me for sex)

Ever paid someone for sex?

Topic date, fuck buddies or pass?
Posted 09 Jan 2015 12:09

Date. Fuck Buddies. Anything but pass.

Topic Who would you rather kiss? (above or below)
Posted 09 Jan 2015 11:58

Ready and waiting, Amy. Going above!

Topic Who would you rather kiss? (above or below)
Posted 09 Jan 2015 10:49

Going above...

Topic Xmas season
Posted 09 Jan 2015 10:42

When wife was still girlfriend and we would stay with my folks over Christmas, I would sneak into her room for some "Christmas cheer".

Topic Who would you like to handcuff? (Above or Below)
Posted 09 Jan 2015 10:37

Cuffs going ... above!

Topic Guilty or Innocent.
Posted 09 Jan 2015 10:35


Ever had the urge to spontaneously kiss someone who was not in a relationship with you?

Topic Person above you is naked and tied to your bed?
Posted 09 Jan 2015 10:34

She's waiting and I'm teasing...

Topic What's the last thing you put in your mouth?
Posted 09 Jan 2015 10:32

Oh, I love those, Sheri.

Lipton's Blueberry Pomegranate White Tea

Topic Use My Last Word First - in a 5 word sentence..
Posted 09 Jan 2015 10:30

Anything can happen in Vegas.

Topic This or That
Posted 09 Jan 2015 10:29

American, if by "American" we mean "Cheddar"

Eat out or Dine in?

Topic The person below me is...
Posted 09 Jan 2015 10:28

Just ate actually.

TPBM has to work on the weekend.

Topic Cybering..
Posted 09 Jan 2015 05:41

I enjoy cyber but don't do it much (not much time for chatting period). Works best if we're both on the same page desire-wise and both reasonably articulate. Use of a lot of text-speak or inarticulate typing does not turn me on.

Topic Bikinis - the skimpier the better?
Posted 08 Jan 2015 13:29

Having just been on a cruise, I must say that I've kind of lost my taste for the skimpier bikinis.

Two reasons, I think.

They aren't necessarily right for every body and there are a lot of bodies wearing them that probably would be better in a more substantial swimsuit.

Nudity, and many of these are only a thread or two away from it, is better in more intimate surroundings than a crowded pool deck.

In fact, the sexiest attire I saw on the ship tended to be some of the little sundresses and coverups. Yes, there were some ladies rocking their swimsuits but there were also some that could have done better in their choice of attire.

Topic Picture your favorite perfume
Posted 08 Jan 2015 11:32

Eau de human being.

Seriously, most perfumes irritate my nasal passages. I even use unscented anti-perspirants. Mercifully, wife is the same so doesn't wear perfume.

Topic USA opening diplomatic relations with Cuba
Posted 08 Jan 2015 10:24

I'll meet you in Cuba and we'll start the Buz Party... that will put a tan on those Canadian chicks!

You're on with chicks, Buz. But you can keep the cigar (I don't smoke). My favorite Cuban product comes in a glassPint Drunk . I don't drink much but had a few rum and Cokes when I was there and have acquired a bit of a taste for it.

Topic What is a Good Masturbation Worthy Type of Story?
Posted 08 Jan 2015 10:18

I'm rather with mrd82. I like some context and build-up rather than just two anonymous bodies colliding.

Topic The Most Depressing Thread Ever: Laundry!
Posted 08 Jan 2015 10:15

I don't actually do laundry unless wife is away. She doesn't trust me with the job. We have a pretty good division of labour, though, so its not like I'm sitting on my ass while she does it.

That said, we mostly just pre-wash really dirty stuff in the laundry tub, toss it all in the machine, and run it on normal cycle, then over to the dryer.

Topic Wank Buddy
Posted 07 Jan 2015 13:18

My understanding of the term is that it's a guy you masturbate with. No contact necessarily involved, as it could just be the two of you jerking it in the same room, though mutual masturbation can be part of it. I have never done it but would like to.

Topic Your Favorite Celebrity Crush
Posted 06 Jan 2015 18:47

One of my past celeb crushes was actress Brooke Shields. After seeing the new bikini pics of her that hit the scandal sheets today, my crush may be returning.

Topic How long should an introduction be?
Posted 06 Jan 2015 09:59

I hate exposition, both in erotica and non-erotica. Start with a catchy hook, then let the important details leak out. You can play with time too, start in the middle of the action, then backtrack to show how your characters got there.

I think back story is over-rated, and should be used sparingly, but that is a minority opinion I'm guessing.

Back story has its place but it needs to revealed in the course of the story, not in an expository blurb. Exposition in moderation can be used, but so can flashbacks, references in dialogue, and so on.

Topic How long should an introduction be?
Posted 06 Jan 2015 09:28

I'm just wondering and looking for some advise on the length of an introduction for a sex story.
I wrote a couple of short stories before and I easily find the balance between introduction and story but with a story I seem to be a little lost.

I don't generally write an "introduction" per se. I just start writing the story. The story isn't just introducing the sex, it's giving it depth and meaning. Expository introductions are boring. Telling a story is not. As for how much story before getting to the sex, the answer is how much is needed to make the sex feel like real sex between real people. Sometimes, you can kick off with some sex, then get into the story, other times you want to spend some time fleshing things out before you get down and dirty.

I somehow want character to live and just act as placeholders for a random women/men.

Maybe I might bore people as they usually don't want to read sex stories for the plot or complex characters.

Read your two quotes above. The second contains the answer to your first. People DO want plot and complex characters, even in sex stories. If you want characters who live and are not placeholders, you needs to have plot and complex characters. Do not treat "story" as a mere introduction to the sex, treat it as the reason for the sex and make the sex integral to the story. That's how you'll make the characters live and breathe.

To see my approach, try the two stories in my sig. They are interrelated (featuring a common character at different stages of her life) and reflect much of what I say above. And one is a Recommended Read with lots of favorable comments.

Topic USA opening diplomatic relations with Cuba
Posted 05 Jan 2015 13:29

I'm all for it, though we Canadians are bracing for when tourism opens up. We've pretty much had the place to ourselves (well, some Europeans go there and there are Americans brave enough to sneak around the embargo, but mostly). Those Cuban resorts are nice, cheap, and quiet without the Americans around. evil4

Topic teen or milf
Posted 05 Jan 2015 11:19

I prefer women with some experience (both life and in bed) to match my own so the MILF for me.

Topic Would you do this?
Posted 03 Jan 2015 11:54

Picture link is broken, me thinks.

Topic Guilty or Innocent.
Posted 02 Jan 2015 13:21


Ever been caught having sex in an inappropriate place?

Topic That one SINGLE thing . from the wish you could REALLY change..?
Posted 02 Jan 2015 13:20

My choice of graduate program (I did library science, should have done grad studies in my undergrad field). Though that would also change who I married (we met in library school) and a raft of other things.