Forum posts made by seeker4

Topic Canadian Radio Host fired over BDSM?
Posted 30 Oct 2014 07:01


This situation / court case could be on par with Vriend v. Alberta and Egan v. Canada establishing a precedent that will be used for years to come.

The situation of Jian's PRIVATE sexual appetite / affairs should NOT be a factor on the type and quality of work he does for CBC. My own sexual appetite, or the fact I write erotica and visit an erotica website, should NOT colour my employer's opinion of my quality work.

As we all know, since the infamous 50 shades of grey ...... bdsm is now mainstream. CBC needs to evolve into this century.

Unfortunately for Jian, there's a growing body of evidence his kink was not always practiced in a entirely consensual manner and that may be his Achilles Heel in this whole thing. Even if one complainant comes forward with a credible case, his whole argument about being fired over simply his BDSM practices goes down in flames. This is starting to have the potential to go seriously off the rails for both him AND the CBC.

My worry is that there could be some serious blowback for the BDSM scene here as a whole if it does go down that road. I'm not a part of it (no real interest beyond maybe a bit of bondage and dominance roleplay fantasies) but I am a supporter and defender of sexual freedoms of various sorts. I know that on my other board, we've got fairly uptight sorts (liberal on things like LGBT rights but not comfortable with things like the sex trade and BDSM) that I'm going to be fighting with on this.

Topic Ask the person below you any question
Posted 28 Oct 2014 13:50

Face. So much of a person's beauty is in their face.

Do you enjoy just sitting watching people in a park, mall, or other busy public place?

Topic Use My Last Word First - in a 5 word sentence..
Posted 28 Oct 2014 13:48

Previously, she didn't like boats.

Topic Husbands would you share your wife with another man while you watched?
Posted 27 Oct 2014 13:16

IF (and it`s a very big IF) she was interested in a guy that I felt I could trust and be comfortable around in an intimate situation, then sure. If the guy was bi or bi-curious so I could get in on the action, too, so much the better.

Topic Sex on Christmas day
Posted 27 Oct 2014 12:32

Back in the old days (like early 1990s) when we weren't married yet and my mother was still alive, we would spend at least a few days around Christmas at my parents' place (both for the holidays and because my mother's b-day was New Year's Eve). Of course, being unmarried, they had us in separate rooms but somehow one always managed to sneak into the other's room for a bit of play under the covers. Fun times.

Topic Do you like it....
Posted 27 Oct 2014 12:30

do you like when girls wear no panties and bras when you start having fun with her

It can be fun, though I must confess to rather enjoying depriving a lady of her underthings when the opportunity presents. Embarassed

Topic Canadian Radio Host fired over BDSM?
Posted 27 Oct 2014 12:27

I'm not sure how well Jian Ghomeshi and his show "Q" are known outside Canada but I do know the show does have listeners in the USA. He is certainly a minor celeb up here in Canada and has received praise for his work from some US publications.

Over the weekend, he was canned by the CBC (think the BBC but with more maple syrup) for unspecified reasons. Ghomeshi responded by posting a piece on his Facebook alleging it was because of his sexual proclivities, esp. towards BDSM. He is also planning to sue the CBC (which can ill afford the $50 million he's claiming) and launch a union grievance.

From The Globe and Mail, our largest national paper:

Since then, a Canadian paper (not the Globe) has published allegations that some of his BDSM activities went over the line into harassment and non-consent but so far no one has actually come forward. It all seems to be rumour and innuendo.

Out of all this, came the following editorial by a law professor, also in the Globe, on the rather complex issues around BDSM and consent in Canadian case law.

Should make for some fun and fireworks if/when it goes to court. Of course, the way our system works, most people will probably be going "Jian Who?" by the time it actually gets to trial.dontknow

Topic Steak
Posted 26 Oct 2014 13:57

Cut into strips and stir fried. Not really a fan of steak anymore.

Topic How effective is story spamming to friends?
Posted 26 Oct 2014 12:30

I did it for one story. Likely won't make a habit of it, though. In that case, I was getting back in after not posting any stories for a while. Got a few more comments and scores early on than usual but that may have been the story's category or subject as much as the spamming. Didn't really do any analysis to see how many of the comments and scores were from friends who got the spam.

Topic Erotic games?
Posted 26 Oct 2014 12:26

Search on Google : " meet and fuck " adult games,i played them quite while back,it might interest you.

Those were some of the first ones I played. I found them to be a mixed bag. Most are more of an interactive erotic story than a game IME. The whole "trying to push the arousal meter up" mechanic gets a bit tired after a while. There are some interesting ones, though. Star Mission and Secret Agent did a decent job of trying to mix things up a bit, at least.

Topic The music on my profile and the legend that is Scheherazade
Posted 26 Oct 2014 12:23


Thank you! I've edited it now. I'm sure there an Igor someone or other who was a composer

Danny x

Igor Stravinsky is probably who you're thinking of.

Topic guys do you like to be called daddy by a girl during sex or general or both
Posted 26 Oct 2014 09:15

For me, no. Aside from the incest thing that dpw mentions, it reminds me of my age and if I was with someone young enough to call me that, my age is the last thing I want to be reminded of.

Topic The music on my profile and the legend that is Scheherazade
Posted 26 Oct 2014 09:10

To be a bit pedantic, it`s Nikolai, not Igor, Rimsky-Korsakov.:-"

Love that piece, though. Nice selection.

Topic What's your WIP (work in progress) about?
Posted 25 Oct 2014 08:23

Friends becoming lovers with a revelation about the woman's past in the middle that affects the course of things.

Topic Are you open about your interracial relations or do you keep them a secret?
Posted 24 Oct 2014 11:28

i am not Politically Correct in the least, but isn't it a bit racist to even ask the question? Why would anyone be embarrassed about loving or caring for anyone?

I'm thinking DoctorLove is still of the mindset that interracial is some kind of fetish or act of rebellion rather than a nice, normal relationship between two people. Which is, as you suggest, a somewhat racist mindset, at least to those of us for whom an interracial relationship is just two people who happen to look rather different from each other.

Topic Are you open about your interracial relations or do you keep them a secret?
Posted 24 Oct 2014 11:25

I've been in an interracial relationship for 25 years, married to her for 21, and it was never a secret. No reason to where we live. Maybe in the US Deep South or more homogenous, less multi-ethnic societies in places like Eastern Europe or Africa it would be an issue but not around here.

Topic Orgasm intensity
Posted 24 Oct 2014 11:20

I've had mind-blowers pretty much every way, even manual. It's a matter of how you do it rather than what you do it with in my experience. What I find lacking in stroking is the presence of, and connection with, another person and their pleasure. Also, a hand just doesn't feel as good as a mouth or pussy even if the actual climax is as intense. Of course, if it's mutual masturbation of some kind with another person then, well, problem solved.

Topic Erotic games?
Posted 24 Oct 2014 11:14

Has anyone ever found an "erotic game" that is actually that? I've seen quite a few, mostly RPG-ish, Flash games purporting to be "Adult Sex Games" and checked out a few out of curiosity. A couple actually had decent plot lines (the remainder were total dreck on all fronts) but the way they handle the sex just isn't that sexy for the most part.

Games that are safe (ie. no known or obvious phishing or malicious sites), please.

Topic Inbox by Gmail - Reinventing the Inbox
Posted 23 Oct 2014 13:20

I still use email heavily and I'm getting less and less happy with Google's repeated attempts to "reinvent" it. Just give me a nice, clean, easy to use interface and keep it that way. Don't change every 8-12 months, please. I don't need fancy "social" features or Google deciding how my mail should be organized. I'm almost at the point of digging up an old classic IMAP or POP client like Eudora or Thunderbird. Not sure what I'd use on Android at that point, though. Have never looked into what's available beyond the default GMail and Email clients.

Topic Exiting the chat rooms.
Posted 22 Oct 2014 13:37

It relates to users using IE9/10.

I'm kind of stuck with it at work for various reasons but prefer Chrome and use that at home. Anyone who is using it should be running at least 10. Many web sites are dropping support for 9 and earlier.

Topic This or That
Posted 22 Oct 2014 13:09

One at a time.

Outdoors or Indoors?

Topic Use My Last Word First - in a 5 word sentence..
Posted 22 Oct 2014 13:03

Time is of the essence.

Topic Asian fetish
Posted 22 Oct 2014 11:27

I don't consider myself to have an "Asian fetish" though I am married to a Chinese woman (that I met in person in Canada). In fact, the whole notion of an "Asian fetish" smacks of racism by implying that a "normal" person would not fall for someone outside their race. In fact, she is the only Asian that I've had sex with and I have been attracted to a raft of different racial, ethnic, and other groups. I did not fall in love with a fetish, I fell in love with a person.

Topic Happy Birthday Kiera
Posted 20 Oct 2014 13:10

Big Hugs

Happy Birthday, Kiera!!!


Topic Use My Last Word First - in a 5 word sentence..
Posted 17 Oct 2014 19:15

Bad boys need bad girls.

Topic What is the best concert/live band you've seen and why?
Posted 17 Oct 2014 18:07

Indeed you are wrong Muse can lol xo

Hey Scott Big Hugs

I did say "for me". Muse just isn't my cuppa, I'm afraid. For a modern band, I'd rather see Arcade Fire or Walk Off The Earth.

Big Hugs back at ya'.

Topic Cleavage. Eye magnets I can’t resist.
Posted 17 Oct 2014 13:29

It can be tough at work, though, when you've got a DD woman at the desk across... can't help but sneaking peeks to get a look at the curve and profile, especially when she's wearing a tight shirt with no neck.

There's one at my office, a very voluptuous young lady that I get one with quite well, who is prone to revealing necklines and has the cleavage to show off. I think I'm pretty good about keeping my peeks and glances subtle. She's never complained anyhow.

Topic Roses are Red
Posted 17 Oct 2014 12:54

Roses are red,
All flowers are pretty,
Want to meet my true love,
And pet her soft kitty.