Topic What's on your mind right now?
17 Apr 2016 18:32
Tiny house living........I mean really....how much crap do six people really need. I just want to be one of those families who survives in two bedrooms with three shirts and a pot. Obviously it's more complicated than that but I'm ready to do a massive thrift store donation....perhaps that will be the closest I come to the tiny house lifestyle.
Topic How to deal with sub-drop when you're NOT in a bdsm relationship?
09 Nov 2015 21:19
Ok, strictly dealing with the subdrop here and nothing else. Before you play/fuck/make love what have you . Have a few things in place, gatorade, chocolate, a soft blanket, pjs whatever comforts you, have some natural sugar in your breakfast the day after, and load up on protein for lunch the next day. When you play hard and hit sub space your endorphins are running full throttle in your body, after you come out of that situation and your body recognizes that it doesn't have to run so hard, there is a deficit which is the cause of subdrop. The things I mentioned will not take it away, but it does help you to get through it. Also it wouldn't hurt to be in contact with the person you played with in some form throughout the next day. Hope this helps.
Topic Does a Sub have to be COMPLETELY submissive to call themselves that?
09 Nov 2015 21:13
I agree with what Katje said, D/s relationships are fluid. Many people who come into the lifestyle don't expect the sheer amount of conversation required. At the beginning of the relationship whether it be play or otherwise, there must be a conversation about what the expectations are. This conversation must be brutally honest. It will not serve you well if you downplay things. Granted, every sub is different, but if at the beginning you agree to obeying his commands and he agrees to keep your safety and well being his first priority then reasonably he would not give you a command that would put you in danger or damage you in any way. There should be a conversation about what is and is not acceptable. There will be many of these conversations throughout your relationship as the both of you grow together and learn new things. If you are wanting a 24/7 relationship then you must determine which areas you would like to push back a little on. Determine which behaviors you need to feel satisfied. Like I said the talking is nearly endless in this lifestyle but it does serve a purpose.
Topic Are submissives very quiet people?
09 Nov 2015 21:01
Oh dear god no. I am submissive to my Daddy and whomever he tells me to, outside of that absolutely not. I'm extremely sarcastic, something I get punished for here and there.
Topic Pee denial as a punishment
09 Nov 2015 20:54
My very first real life Dom tried that with me once and I was not amused in the least. At the end of it I was threatening to pee on him!
Topic subs, male and female
09 Nov 2015 20:52
My Daddy and I were both poly when we began dating and there were a few people that we were both dating at the same time. As far as my Daddy just bringing someone home and saying "Hey you there, service him/her.", we have fantasized about it but have not made it reality yet. We agreed that for right now it would be difficult to manage the dynamics of such a relationship when real life is so hectic. I would love to hear about how other people have gone about it though!
Topic Come introduce yourself and tell us a lil about you.
09 Nov 2015 20:49
Hello everyone. So I was really active on here a few years ago and then there was a ton of adulting that had to be done and real life and all that jazz. Anywho, I'm soo glad to be back. A little about me. I have been in the lifestyle for about 6 years now. I currently live with my Daddy and we have been together for nearly three years. We have a 24/7 dynamic. I also top for impact play and sensation play. I have a little side. Impact play is probably one of my biggest kinks, I also really enjoy verbal humiliation such as being made to repeat to my Daddy that I am a cock loving slut ect... I love sensory deprivation, though I have not been brave enough to try any play with hoods involved. I tried bastinado last year and found that I do not like it one bit. Knife play is a huge turn on for both myself and my Daddy. I also love needle play. I attended a class a few years back and I was all a twitter for days! I am collared. I have a daily routine that I do my best to stick to and we also have rules and protocols set in place. Most days though it's just normal life. I call him Daddy when we are at home and at kink events, and by his given name when we are with the vanillas. The usual yes Sir, no Sir apply. I am not allowed clothing for bedtime and he has access to what belongs to him at all times. There is way more than I could possibly include here but that's the gist of our kink life.
Topic What is your Dream Job?
22 Jul 2012 19:56
As an emt I'm lucky to have what I think is an absolutely fantastic job. Now if only our paychecks matched lol