My girlfriend and I were sitting at a table in a bar. I don’t remember exactly how we got onto the topic, but it seems to come up sooner or later in relationships: How did you lose your virginity?
“So?” she asked.
“The usual way,” I answered. I was a couple of beers into the night and feeling relaxed. “I put my penis into a girl’s vagina.”
“Come, on!” she shouted.
“There really isn’t much more to tell,” I said. “It was my first real girlfriend. We’d been going out for a whole month, which when you’re sixteen, is like years. We were in my room. My parents weren’t home and we were just fooling around, you know. It was almost like we were daring each other to go further. If she kissed me, I’d touch her boob. She put her hands up my shirt, so I did the same... Before we knew it we were both totally naked and rolling around together. I got hard, kind of poking her with it. Then she took my penis and put it inside of her. After that, I just went with it. Probably lasted all of two minutes.”
“Lame!” she accused, laughing.
“Well, what about you?” I asked.
“It was in my sophomore year in college.”
“That late, huh?”
“Yeah. Well, I was raised by pretty conservative parents to not even think about sex until I was married. But then I got to college, and everyone is just fucking everyone! Like, it was everywhere. But, still, I wanted to be the good girl – you know, show that I had values. I mean I was curious. Who isn’t? I even used to secretly watch porn to learn what it was all about. But to really do that with an actual boy? No way!”
She shook her head, then took a drink.
“So, there was this guy I was dating... call him Whats-his-name. We’d been going out for probably three months. I wasn’t a total prude. I mean, I let him touch my boobs. I even let him finger me a couple of times. But whenever it came time to go further, I’d tell him I wasn’t ready and stop everything. He took it okay for a little while, but then he started to get really whiney about it.”
“You did give him blue balls for three months,” I reminded her.
“I know,” she laughed. “But, like, I didn’t know any better because of how I was raised. Anyway, we got into this huge fight. He told me I was cold, and pointless, and teasing him, and just a bitch, and on, and on, and on. When my roommate got home she found me crying my eyes out. She was like, ‘Girl, you’ve been making such a big deal about this virginity thing so long, but you should just get rid of it so it ain't bothering you no more.’ To my nineteen-year-old brain, that made a lot of sense. So I made up my mind to get fucked that night.”