Is there such a thing as consensual cheating? Well I reckon the story of Lisa and my marriage proves that such a contradictory idea is actually possible.
Our story starts around three years ago. At the time both Lisa and myself (Adam) were thirty-four. We’d been married for thirteen years, and had a happy marriage which had been blessed by two wonderful healthy children.
Lisa is the product of mixed White-Latino heritage, and I’d fallen head over heels the first time I’d met her in our first year at college. We’d not started dating until around two years later, when I finally managed to convert her from good friend into girlfriend. Married two years later, and parents of our son Caleb two years later, we rounded out our happy little family two years after that with a beautiful little girl, Libby.
Despite two kids, a regular gym routine, and close eye on her diet means Lisa’s still a very attractive woman who always draws male attention wherever she goes. Standing five-foot-six with smoldering Latin looks, 34D boobs, and a trim waist, she always reminds me a little of the TV presenter Crystal Marie Denha.
I definitely reckoned I was punching above my weight when I dated and then married Lisa. I’m a pretty normal looking guy, but she’s definitely three or four rungs above in the attractiveness stakes, and over the years I’ve grown used to guys hitting on Lisa at parties and the like.
I know how much Lisa loves me and so it’s never been a big deal. In fact, over the years it’s become quite the opposite, as I’ve found it quite a turn-on with other guys hitting on Lisa, while all the time I know she’ll be going home with me at the end of the party.
Like many couples married for so long, Lisa and I tried to keep things fresh in the bedroom, including fantasy and role play. Over the years of our marriage, I think all the male attention Lisa attracted gave rise to me starting bedroom fantasies of her going with other guys, the fantasy games I’d invent often based on whichever guy had been flirting with her that evening.
And as is often the way with fantasies, this gradually morphed into post-sex talks where we discussed Lisa actually going with another guy. I came to the point where I knew, or thought I knew, that I wanted it to happen for real, and started gently raising it with Lisa as something we might try.
At first, I got a very negative response from her, which I didn’t mind as I wasn’t even sure about it myself. But as the months went by and we talked about it, I sensed that Lisa was becoming more open to the idea. Despite her conservative upbringing, Lisa had three boyfriends before me and had slept with all three of them. So, while she was totally committed to our marriage and to marital faithfulness, she was far from an innocent wallflower. She’d enjoyed other guys, and so as we talked about my fantasies, she naturally enough wondered how it would be to enjoy a bit of variety again.
But this interest was initially held in check by her desire not to do anything that might hurt our love, marriage, and family and her desire to stick to the marriage vows she held as so important. We were parents of two young kids and she didn’t want to do anything that might cast even the slightest shadow over that, as first and foremost she was a loving mum and wife.
But the more we talked about it, the more two things happened, with the two feeding off each other. Firstly, I became surer in my mind that I would be okay with Lisa having occasional casual sex with other guys, because I knew it excited me and I reckoned it would add a spark of excitement to our marriage. And secondly, Lisa’s reluctance bit by bit reduced the more she saw that I was okay with it and that it therefore was unlikely to harm our marriage.
These changes happened gradually until just before Christmas 2016, Lisa asked me for the first time if I was serious about letting her have an occasional fling with another guy. The way she asked the question immediately alerted my antenna that this was something different from all the conversations that had gone before. This was Lisa, after twelve months of gradual build-up and idle bedroom chat, finally letting me know she was maybe interested in doing this for real.
It turns out there was a guy at work who’d joined about three months ago and was always flirting with Lisa. This was nothing new for Lisa and she’d learned to handle guys like that many years ago. But she confessed to me that she was attracted to the guy, and even though he knew she was married he’d invited her to attend a Christmas party he was going to on Friday night.
I remember the conversation that followed as if it was yesterday. It was a Wednesday night, two nights before the party, and Lisa and I stayed up half the night talking about it. Lisa was in a strange mood, but after fourteen years together I know how to read Lisa. Although her words conveyed reluctance, she was actually wanting me to persuade and encourage her to do what she wanted to do, but was to embarrassed to admit to me openly.
I think it was finally at about three in the morning that Lisa and I finally agreed what was to become a watershed moment in our marriage. She was free to see this guy at work who she was interested in, and that, provided I knew she was safe, I was okay that she’d only share details with me when she was comfortable to do this, recognizing she wasn’t at that stage at the moment. As we finally settled down to sleep, Lisa’s last word on it was that she’d think about it and let me know.
Two nights later, I’d maybe been expecting Lisa to double check with me that I still was okay with the freedom I’d given her on Wednesday night. But far from it, when I came home on Friday night there was no smell of dinner cooking from the kitchen. The kids had already been fed and were happily watching something on Netflix that they said mummy had put on for them.
I had a lump in my throat as I headed up the stairs, our Wednesday conversation and all of the signs downstairs only leading me to one conclusion.
Sure enough, as I opened our bedroom door my eyes fell upon the sight of my beautiful wife of thirteen years putting the finishing touches to her make-up as she prepared to go on a date with another guy for the first time in fifteen years. As I looked at Lisa’s face, I could see the excitement, and as I took in the way she was dressed I could see she was out to impress the guy from work.
Until this evening, I’d been excited and aroused when I thought of Lisa going with another guy. But that was nothing compared to what I felt as I realized this thing was going to happen for real. Lisa was actually, in reality going to go on a date with another guy. Our exclusive and monogamous relationship potentially about to disappear out the window after fifteen years.
Any normal guy would have been angry and mad about this, but I was assailed by a crushing mix of excitement, worry, and maybe strangest of all, nostalgia. I’d met Lisa right at the start of my freshman year, but we’d not started dating until the start of my third year. I’d spent my first two years of college mooning over this beautiful and sexy girl who I thought was totally out of my league and who I’d never get a chance with.
Watching Lisa dressed up to the nines for this mysterious suitor from work brought these college memories flooding back. For a couple of minutes, I just stood there quietly taking in Lisa’s sexy outfit and she didn’t even notice I was there. She’d donned a tight yellow mini dress, which showed plenty of cleavage and leg, with matching yellow heels that must have been five inches tall.
I didn’t recognize this slutty mini dress or her hooker heels at all, and when I finally spoke Lisa smiled teasingly at me and told me she’d bought them especially for tonight, as her date had asked her to dress sexily.
Crazy as it may seem, I knew nothing about this guy, except that he and Lisa worked together. I’d asked her on the Wednesday night if she trusted him and would be safe, and she’d reassured me that she was sure on both counts as they worked in the same place and several of her friends knew and liked him.
Both on the Wednesday and now as I saw Lisa sitting ready for her date, I pressed her for just the most basic of details. But Lisa just smiled like the Sphinx and refused to even tell me his name, let alone any other details about what he was like.
I got the distinct impression she was enjoying teasing me, her not giving me any details all part of the game and excitement for her. I pressed her several times for even the merest morsel of information.
Being careful not to smudge her bright red lipstick, she gave me a goodbye kiss, tweaked my nose and told me ‘don’t wait up, I might be back late’, her expression making clear this was another stick through the bars in my cage.
She threw on a coat so the children wouldn’t see her dress, kissed them both and told them to be good for daddy, and then jumped into the cab waiting outside. When I came downstairs the kids asked me where mummy was going, smelling so nice, and I told them that she meeting a friend from work, which was technically true.
As the kids were still entranced by the TV, I was able to sit quietly in the kitchen, alone with my thoughts, wondering about the wisdom of the game Lisa and I were playing. As I stared into the large whiskey, I’d poured myself, my phone beeped with an incoming text from Lisa.
‘I love you honey. Remember, if anything happens tonight, it’s just sex, nothing to do with our love for each other. Are you still okay with me doing this? L xx’
I stared at that damn message for what seemed like ages. Part of me actually cursed Lisa. This thing seemed easier before she’d given me an out, but now she’d given me a choice, asking me if I was okay or, did I want her to cancel.
My mind was going around and around, I was incredibly aroused and excited, but I was also aware of the enormity of the change we were about to take. My mind kept going back to those first two years at college, when I’d had to endure watching Lisa dating other guys. This was both similar and different. Similar because she’d be physically with another guy, different because I knew she loved me and she was telling me that this was just a physical thing. And only if I gave her the final okay.
With shaking fingers, I composed and sent the fateful text replying to Lisa’s message.
‘I love you too baby. I want to tell you how excited and nervous I am. As I know I’m the only one with your heart, go ahead baby and have fun with your mystery guy. I love you, A xx’
I pressed send. The die was cast. I waited staring at the screen, willing it to light up with another message. I felt in hell as I waited and waited. It seemed to take forever before Lisa’s short reply finally arrived.
‘Thanks for letting me do this darling. Remember it’s only you I love. L xx’
And that was the last communication I received from Lisa. However, as much as I willed my phone to light up again, it stayed blank. A permanent taunt and reminder that Lisa’s focus was now not on me, but on someone else for the rest of the evening.
I must have stared at the unresponsive screen for fifteen or twenty minutes, wondering what Lisa was doing and wishing I could at least have the comfort and excitement of watching what was happening, although part of me wondered if this would make things better or worse.
As I stared at the unresponsive phone, I suddenly remembered the software I’d put on Lisa’s phone so we could always track its location in case she lost it, and to increase her safety in her sales job selling insurance.
With my heart pounding and my throat dry I pulled out my own phone and opened the location app, and after some zooming, I could see Lisa’s phone was in a downtown club located in an old converted mansion. But somehow knowing where she was, when I was ten miles away, sat at home with the kids, only made things worse.
I knew I’d be breaking the spirit of our agreement, but I really didn’t care because my need was too great. So, I dialed up our next-door neighbor’s daughter Sharon, our favored babysitter, apologized for the short notice and asked if she was available to look after the kids for the next couple of hours as I urgently needed to head out.
When Sharon said she was free and would pop around in five minutes I felt like pumping the air in elation, but instead I just ordered an Uber and impatiently waited wondering whether Sharon or the Uber would arrive first.
In the end they arrived at virtually the same time and I felt on cloud nine as I jumped into the car and headed off in pursuit of Lisa, shaking with fear and excitement at what sights I might see when I finally caught up with her at the club. I felt like a Mission Impossible agent as I held my phone in hand tracking her to see she wasn’t moving as we sped across town.
Although traffic was light, the journey seemed to take an eternity until we finally pulled up outside the old converted mansion that now served as a hip nightclub. It looked just like the photos I’d seen when I’d googled it, but I was despondent when I saw the length of the queue to get in. As I impatiently joined the queue, I realized I wasn’t dressed anywhere near in the same way as the other party goers. I was in my ‘dad’ clothes, ready for the evening I’d expected at home with Lisa and the kids, and I hoped and prayed that the doorman would let me in.
Twenty minutes and a hundred dollars later I’d been admitted into the fifty-dollar nightclub and was impatiently trying to get my bearings to try and locate Lisa in what was a high-end meat market, filled with women wearing too little clothing and men doing their best strutting peacock impressions.
The place was huge, according to the website I’d looked at during the drive it was capable of accommodating fifteen hundred people, and trying to find Lisa amongst such a heaving mass of human flesh would have been impossible without the phone locator app.
Wearing my dad clothes and walking around like a water-diviner with a mobile phone in my hand I felt hugely out of place, but I didn’t care because my heart was pumping nineteen to the dozen as I realized I was only moments from finding Lisa and seeing what she was doing. The locator app showed me she was on the largest dance floor, which was located in what seemed to be the mansion’s converted ballroom. Looking through the door, there was no way to spot Lisa or even get to her if I found her amongst that seething mass.
I thanked the rich old family that had no doubt built this old pile and the club owners who’d seen fit to leave in place the old balcony that ran around the edge of the ballroom. ‘Thank you, thank you, thank you’ I said to myself as I headed up the staircase and turning left at the top and onto the balcony.
I started walking slowly around the balcony, thinking I’d never spot Lisa even with help of the locator app and her yellow dress as there must have been a few hundred people on the dance floor. But luckily for me Lisa was dancing just below my location on the balcony, and even in the subdued lighting I was able to get a good view of my sexy Latina wife and her dance partner.
For the first time I saw the guy who had been flirting with Lisa for the last three months at work. The guy who she was sufficiently enamored of that her lack of interest in my sharing fantasies had suddenly reversed into an interest that had led to tonight.
To say I was surprised at Lisa’s choice of man would be the understatement of the year. When I thought back to the three other guys Lisa had dated and slept with before me, and they were all pretty much cut from the same cloth. Handsome, preppy types that she could happily take home to her conservative Cuban mother and WASP father. But the guy she was dancing with was the polar opposite of these guys and me. He looked just over six-foot tall, was wider than the doorman I’d bribed to get in, and his muscular torso and neck were covered in what looked like gang tattoos. He was wearing a vest top so all his tattoos and muscles were clearly on display, he looked Hispanic, and about ten years younger than Lisa as far as I could judge.
He looked like a real dangerous, bad ass kind of a guy – quite possibly a gangbanger from one of the local Latino gangs that ran sections of the city, and I was totally stunned that my respectable thirty-five-year-old wife should be interested in a guy like this.
I was struggling for breath as I stood rooted to the spot staring at Lisa and this heavily tattooed young gangbanger as they danced, taking every little detail of the sight before me, Lisa’s arms locked around the gangbanger’s neck in a very intimate and affectionate way. In my years of watching guys hitting on Lisa and dancing with her at parties, I don’t think I’d ever seen her dance quite like this with another guy, and I immediately knew in my gut that Lisa was going to end up giving herself to this guy tonight. That’s why I’d received no more texts, she’d sought my final permission, and having received it, she’d made her mind up. Looking at the two of them dancing together, I knew there was no going back.
My chest was pounding and my body flooded with adrenaline. I was unable to tear my eyes from the dancing couple, who just seemed locked in this embrace, with eyes only for each other. Blissfully unaware of the other dancers around them, the guy’s arms around Lisa’s waist mirroring her naked arms wrapped possessively around his tattooed neck. Even with her five-inch heels on, Lisa was still a couple of inches shorter than this Hispanic gangbanger and had to tilt her face slightly upwards to look into her partner’s handsome face.
They danced like this for two or three dances, barely changing their posture whatever the speed or beat of the song. Gazing at each other, seemingly perpetually on the point of kissing, almost teasing each other as they waited for the first kiss, each wanting the other to be the first one to make the move.
They danced like this for two or three dances. Dancing close together, Lisa’s head tilted back to look upward at her taller dance partner. The young gangbangers hands, a tattooed band around Lisa’s trim waist, matched by her slender arms encircling his muscular neck. But finally, they both could resist no more, as they both leaned in at the same moment and they locked their mouths together in a seemingly endless passionate kiss. The deep significance and reality dawned on me, this was the first guy Lisa has kissed other than me in fifteen years, since she’d broken up with her college boyfriend and eventually started dating me.
And as I looked at the way Lisa’s mouth was pressed forcefully against this guys mouth, their tongues fighting, I realized the heat in that kiss was them play acting what they wanted to do to each-others bodies later that evening.
With this thought in my head, watching them took on a greater significance, as I drank in every little detail and nuance. They way that Lisa’s hands stroked up and down the shaved hairs at the back of this young gangbangers neck. The way that the Hispanic guy would sometimes lower his kisses from Lisa’s mouth and passionately make love to her neck. Driving her crazy with arousal as his soft or forceful kisses pressed onto the sensitive skin at the side of her neck or just above her collarbone. The way that sometimes the guy would pull back and just stare hungrily into Lisa’s eyes, as his hands wormed their way under the yellow fabric of her dress top to stoke and caress Lisa’s bare skin, the look on his face like a hungry lion waiting to devour its prey.
Other times he’d ignore the throbbing masses around them and let his hands, lift the hem of Lisa’s mini dress, and rest on my wife’s pantie-clad ass, which I knew for a fact were adorned by matching pale yellow sheer panties. Or when the mood took him, he’d cup and caress Lisa’s big boobs.
I’d been watching them for maybe half an hour, their desire for each other and passion clearly building minute-by-minute. Part of me thought how stupid I’d been to give Lisa carte blanche freedom to meet this guy. Their excitement and need for one another now so strong there was little way we could slam this thing into reverse, even if I’d stormed downstairs and thrown a bucket of cold water over the two of them. But another part of me was excited and aroused beyond anything I’d thought humanly possible. Seeing the raw animal attraction between Lisa and this badass young guy. Realizing she was living out some kind of deeply held secret fantasy that was a million miles from everyday mom and wife and office life. I was happy and excited for her, and astonishingly aroused for myself to see how it would all play out.
I didn’t have long to wait to see how things would develop. After about thirty minutes dancing and feeling each other up, the young gangbanger broke the spell and led Lisa by the hand through the crowd to the edge of the dance floor.
This broke the spell for me also, because until that moment I’d been watching them like a teenage boy looking at his first porno mag or video, with a surprising and painfully stubborn erection, unable to tear my eyes away. Lost in the eroticism of the moment, the rest of the world and all ideas of consequences left behind in a different universe.
Even the act of this guy pulling and Lisa, normally so independent and strong, happy to allow herself to be pulled made an impression on me, making my cock give an extra involuntary throb.
My instincts told me they were heading out of the club, because their thirty minutes of making out must have left them desperate to head somewhere quieter to take things to the next level. I knew I was taking a risk, but I bounded down the stairs so I’d not lose them and then hung back just behind where the exit from the dance floor would bring them out. I breathed a sigh of relief when I spotted Lisa’s yellow dress and her bubble butt swaying from side to side above the short hem of her mini dress. As they headed for the exit, I kept around twenty yards behind them until they’d left the building, then I skipped ahead as fast as I could so I could cautiously poke my head out of the exit door and see what was happening.
I smiled as I saw the line of cabs and Ubers outside, thankful that this was a high-end place which drivers knew was good for tips and business. I saw the guy slap Lisa’s ass as she jumped in the first cab in the line, glad that my location app would mean I should be able to follow them without some bad action movie drama, ‘follow that cab.’
I was soon sitting in the backseat of a cab calmly giving directions to the driver, a Columbian guy who had a rye smile on his face as we tracked Lisa’s cab around half a mile back from where they were. We drove for around twenty minutes and were soon heading into one of the seedier parts of the city, a place I knew had a bad reputation for gangs and violence.
The little flashing circle icon stopped moving and I knew Lisa and her date had got out, the only conclusion that made sense was that they’d headed back to his place to move things to the next level. I felt my pulse and heart start to race even more as the distance between my cab and the stationary flashing circle closed, and I instructed the driver to drop me off around a hundred yards short of where Lisa’s phone was. I paid him off, took his cell number and paid him thirty bucks to wait for the next ten minutes until I rang him to either go somewhere else or tell him to keep the thirty.
All of the houses were similar, down at heel single level small wood-built homes which had seen better times. As I walked as fast as I could, I felt like a fish out of water and very vulnerable. But despite the risks I was taking, there was probably nothing on earth that would have stopped me ploughing on to see what was happening between Lisa and her heavily tattooed date.
As my app showed the distance closing and closing, I finally realized which house they were in and slowed to make sure they weren’t outside and to check for any neighbors or other people who might stop my plans to sneak up and discover what I could see. I was relieved to see no one in the street outside, the yards strewn with garbage, clapped out old cars, and overgrown grass not making the kind of environment people wanted to hang around in.
Looking around to take a final precautionary check, I swung open the rusty gate as quietly as I could and nervously walked down the path that led to the house where Lisa’s phone was, careful not to tread on any of the broken glass. The curtains were shut in the two main windows facing me and the window in the door between them was covered with plywood behind the broken glass pain, so I was in no danger of being seen as I approached.
I don’t know why, but I decided to go right and as I approached the front right corner, I carefully looked around the edge to see if there was any window which represented a danger for me. The only window on the right side of the house also had its window closed, but my racing heart went up two more gears as I heard voices coming from around the back.
I was back to feeling like someone from Mission Impossible as I carefully trod down the side of the house towards the sounds. I couldn’t hear the words at first, but I soon identified Lisa’s voice. As I got to the back corner, I again nervously checked for risks and dangers, discovering a slightly ajar sliding door with a carelessly shut curtain that allowed me to peek inside the back-right bedroom.
I closed my eyes, not sure whether I should be happy or worried. The way the door was ajar and the curtain pulled meant I’d be able to see into the room where Lisa and her Hispanic date were, but at the same time carried the risk they’d see me. I knew that the first look in would be the most dangerous moment, as I had no idea where they were or where their line of sight went, whether it would be pointed straight at where my head would appear.
I took a deep breath. It was now or never. I was either about to see Lisa and this guy, with all the excitement and pain that implied, or I was about to have the most embarrassing moment of my life, quite possibly allied to the mother of all arguments with my thirty-five-year-old wife.