It's time to take a break again. Need to clear my head.____________________________________ I enjoy meeting interesting people. When I'm not doing my day job, I play percussion (hence the handle). I am trying my darndest to write stories but keep venturing into hedonistic romps with the interesting folks I run into here.
Interesting.So as my confidence has grown I am more appreciative now of women, and compliment them in ways that could be considered moving on them.Then there's the playing field. In real life, I will respond if there is a power exchange dynamic, but don't plan to consummate.Online is where I commit my emotional adultery.To me, married women who come seeking something else online are a kindred spirit, and if they are intriguing and catch my attention then yes I will be direct in expressing it.
I am a Dom. I envy those who can switch because they understand both sides. I have not found somebody I can safely switch with although I have recently started talking to two Dommes.
I am trying to learn and understand here, not put anyone down.For me it is important to treat other people with respect, and most of all those you are is a near relationship with. I have through my work seen relations where one partner is abusing and destroying the other - and psychological abuse can be just as destroying as physical violence.I guess I am not wired for BDSM, but I would think that there must be a mutual respect between Dom and Sub, and a trust that the Dom is not going to damage his/her sub physically or psychologically.Is that what you mean by difference between humiliation and degrading? Humiliation is pushing your limit into embarassing and awkward territory that may be or become likable anyhow? But degradation is abuse.But do you agree that the relationship between Dom and Sub should have a mutual respect, that the Dom is not more worth as a human beeng then his/her Sub, and that a Dom should not damage a Sub? This is a great question and I appreciate the time you are taking to understand it.One of the paradoxes for me about Domination / submission is also the thing that makes it the most potent.What is that you might ask?It's the fact that the most extreme acts of dominance require the highest level of trust.Everybody sees and talks about the acts that a submissive will allow. After all, any true Dominant will tell you that a submissive has all the power. In my case she decides what power she hands over or not. There is a point at which a submissive will hand over the power to decide. That's incredibly powerful.Humiliation play for me, comes at that point or after. It's a way in which to express the intense trust and pleasure that you get from pushing somebody past a limit they never thought possible. For them, in turn, it is taking something from you that they would never take from anybody else.If its not rooted in trust however, it becomes abuse. What is the degradation part of humiliation?There are those that are aroused when they are called names. Subs I have played with find it a jolt to be called a slut, a bitch, a whore during play. There are those that then will take treatment that is more demeaning. Depersonalization is a popular way to move into this territory. This is where a submissive will allow herself to be treated like a dog, or a piece of furniture. The question of why somebody enjoys this is a big topic. There are multiple reasons. Sometimes it has to do with dealing with trauma, and in that case it is best that this kind of play is avoided. In other cases, it is a way for them to reclaim things that they once had difficulty with. What I do know is that humiliation play with submissives I have spent a long time with and gotten to know have resulted in some of the most potent mindfucks and powerful orgasms ever - on both sides.
Long story short - someone suggested that the extreme highs and lows I experience during and after sex are a type of sub-drop. Of course, I'm quite familiar with all the elements of this per fiction and online articles as well as discussions online with others who are in a bdsm life dynamic of some fashion and such - but applying what I've read to real life seems nearly impossible because my husband is not a dom - and he doesn't see me as a sub in any regard. Is it a predictable pattern? Meaning do you experience a post coital low each and every time?Do you receive or have you discussed aftercare as babys_safe_harbor suggests?What do you feel / yearn for in that low? Observations you have about that state and what makes it a low for you might provide additional clues as to how you might mitigate it.
Hey everyone, I want to ask everyone for a recommendation. I love reading stories where the husband is awoken by the sound of he's wife being fucked by another man or a story where the wife is getting fucked all night by another man and the husband is there as well. Any recommendation would be greatly appreciated. The category you are looking for is cuckold.Angieseroticpen is one of the best cuckold writers around so check some of these out:https://www.lushstories.com/angieseroticpen/stories
one more thing. you'll want to put dinosaurs in your story. trust me on that. Dinosaurs are hot. :) I always look for dinasaurs in my erotica soup.Good luck with the story. Sounds like it has all the elements needed for good erotica.I think you've figured out the three chapter plan, and it sounds like a good one.One other thing aspect to this:Depending on how you treat the fertilization aspect of that third piece, you might want to consider putting this in either the fetish or interracial categories.There is a subculture of readers who enjoy interracial breeding as a fetish topic.It's mostly having to do with white women being bred by black bulls, but this is a variation on that theme.Hope it turns out well.
I have a quote that I love, but I can’t remember where I picked it up. “You can’t trust inspiration. If you turn your back on that b****, she will steal s*** from your house and run off. She won't even leave a note on your bedside table." Replace inspiration with “THE MUSE”. Now, multiply that times ten. Seriously, believe me when I say that she does not care about you. You are the sorry side of a one sided relationship I do not have a muse as such. However, I love this quote albeit unattributed, because I can completely relate to it. Writing for me is like exercise, or drumming. When you are working the muscles, they respond easier. Your inclination to go to it is more automatic. As Charles Duhigg might say, 'You've succeeded in turning it into a habit.'Sounds like your friend is in a rut. However talented he might be, a guy in a rut is a soldier who has fallen into a ditch. Speaking from experience, its a whole lot different being in the ditch than it is being outside telling somebody what they probably know - that they are in a ditch need to start climbing their way out somehow. The more I write, the more stories come to me. The more stories I jot down the more details float through my head. Once in a while, I find somebody who writes a discerning comment or challenges something I wrote. This composite of experiences for me is my muse. How's it working for me? All I can say is I am back on the horse, and it does feel good.
@nicola Thanks for the response. Yes, if you edit volunteer or otherwise it does mean you have to know the site rules and protocol, so that makes sense.I have another observation / question. If Stephanie is right and about 60% of the offerings never make light of day b/c they either break the rules or don't make the cut as it were, I'm wondering if there's a way to pre-empt it with some kind of warning text?Lets say I had a great story about how my boss got raped by a bipolar chihuahua (I don't but now I might go write one), and when I clicked on submit I saw some clear text above the submission form that said 'Rape, snuff, bestiality etc. etc. are verbotten on this site,' then I'd take my masterpiece and go elsewhere. There's not much you can do to avoid bad writing. I will say though that its a shame because there are many people I know who have tried unsuccessfully to get stories published because their grammar is abhorrent. They have stories to tell though, and their imagination is just as vivid as those who know when to use "your" vs. "you're."I wonder if there's a way to use crowdsourcing to connect the grammarati to the wretched yet deserving. More things to muse on in my free time.
Helpful to know now that I've started writing again. One of the things that other sites (such as literotica) have is a stable of volunteer editors who are willing to read over your stories prior to publish. I haven't published on lit for a while, but I do know that stories I published where I attributed a listed editor always was shorter. I know its not easy feat to assemble a list of would be editors. But perhaps we can low tech it in much the way that the D/s folks have used a forum thread for subs to ask for Masters?Just thinking out loud here.
Thank you :)Perhaps the only limitation I've run into is when people want erotica to serve as a masturbatory aide - and while I write this often and love it quite a bit, some of my erotica just isn't that. Some of it is too emotional (in a harsh-sentiment sort of way) - though written with just as much detail and explicitness as all my erotica, sometimes the story content will plant it firmly with Literary Erotica (Soft, Sweet Clarice and Between Midnight and Noon are two examples of that).For pure fun - people who read my smut often get an education at the same time. LOL - one of my most popular pieces is a grammar lesson on 'loose' VS 'lose' (with a lesson on 'towards' VS 'toward' thrown in for good, deepthroating measure.) You are quite welcome :-)So you just spoke to two related thought steams that motivated my question here.The first was about what a reader's expectation is on an erotica site. Lets be honest. The majority of the readers do come here to jack off or as you said more clinically 'to serve as a masturbatory aide.' Given the nature of the work that I do, its impossible for me to do anything without considering the audience. I spend a lot of time helping big companies figure out their demographics and identifying behavior triggers. The second was a frustration about not having my timing yet and being able to flow back and forth. You astutely answered the question I didn't ask. I am impressed.I am a bigger fan of storytelling than literature. Perhaps its because of my fascination with subaltern voices. In many cases I read stories where the experiential knowledge in a story far outweighs its grammatical or literary worth. The good news is that all of this is inspiring me to keep working on hitting my stride. At the end of the day, that's what its all about. I'm writing again, and its such a delight.
And finally we get to the sex. Hopefully the wait was worth it. This story more or less reads on its own if you're just interested in the butt fucking and the orgy. However, discerning readers will likely enjoy this better in context if they read the preceding two chapters first. *** 'Uuuuunnnnngggggh!' Alexa let out a guttural moan as Stefan entered her. She was on all fours on...
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Baxter House Serena had no want for money when she left for college. In fact, she really didn't need to go to college. The trust funds established by her father allowed her a life of leisure if she wished - and likely those of any children she might have. Unlike her older sister, however, Serena grew up working for everything. So when she arrived in college, she didn't take the three...
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This started off somewhere and went somewhere else entirely. As always feedback as well as input on things you'd like to see in this story are welcome! The intervention Serena pulled into her allotted slot at the college community housing and turned off her car with a sigh. It wasn't a sigh of frustration or one of futility. Serena felt something was missing. It was still on her mind...
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This story was motivated by the sight of a very pretty Indian college girl in an atrocious bikini at the pool this summer. Once it started though, it became an exploration of power exchange. All characters in this story are completely fictional. I welcome all suggestions and comments on the story. It’s not what might be considered ‘hot’ just yet. It’s because the explosive scene I have in...
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She awoke with a start. It was 5:55am. Exhaling in a half frustrated, half indulgent groan, she sank back into the new winter sheets she had just pulled out three days ago. The season was changing. Outside, Fall was making its graceful exit and the gritty cold winds of Winter were approaching. Four months it had been, and yet it was with her. 'Wake up 5 minutes before My call' he...
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