Forum posts made by transitionalman

Topic Should Gay Conversion Therapy for Minors be Illegal?
Posted 30 Jan 2018 17:24

To keep this polite, there is zero evidence that "Gay Conversion Therapy" ever "converted" anyone. People are who they are, and attempting to remake them will never succeed. And especially for kids. It's well known that the suicide rate among gay teens is double that of straights. Double. So trying to "covert" a kid is likely only to redouble their already real feelings of guilt and isolation. Is that going to reduce their chances of suicide? Hardly! This is really an act of denial by people who for mostly religious reasons are frightened by homosexuality in all it's forms. Or maybe they have strong feelings themselves. Certainly the number of anti-gay Republican politicians and fundamentalist preachers who have been caught in gay liaisons suggests that many want conversion therapy simply because they refuse to come to terms with themselves.

Topic Which is hotter.. first kiss or first fuck?
Posted 17 Dec 2017 09:49

That's a tough one, but the first kiss with someone special tatalyzes your whole senses and often leads to that first fuck.

Topic Do guys like it when a woman wears lingerie?
Posted 11 Dec 2017 16:34

I this really a question? Of course I do, particularly as women only put on the good stuff for a good reason.

Topic Would You Like to Carry on an Intelligent Conversation with the Poster Above You?
Posted 10 Dec 2017 10:15

a conversation about something other than what's currently in.

Topic multi numbers of orgasms
Posted 10 Dec 2017 10:11

How old are you? I can't do the four orgams in a day any more. And who are you? Women all respond differently. The person who posted that we will find no clear answers is quite right.

Topic What are you listening to right now?
Posted 05 Nov 2017 16:12

Ben Folds a Capella and my favorite love song.

Topic What are you listening to right now?
Posted 05 Nov 2017 16:11

Topic What are you listening to right now?
Posted 05 Nov 2017 16:11

Topic What's your opinion on 69-ing?(:
Posted 02 Oct 2017 15:28

69 is fun, but getting a blow job interferes with he concentration needed to properly give head yourself.

Topic What do you think about when you masterbate?
Posted 02 Oct 2017 15:27

I cycle fantasies, but favorites include a lesbian character I may one day write about, my first steady lover who shall remain nameless but affected me greatly, and lesbians. Lots and lots of lesbians. I have no idea why that works, but it does.

Topic How long are your cocks, boys?
Posted 02 Oct 2017 15:25

Lying about cock size on line is an ancient internet tradition, so why should anyone care. The truth is, I've never taken a tape measure to my junk, but I'm certainly not going to be invited to make any porno films soon. That said, I have enough to satisfy every woman I've been with and most of all myself.

Topic Waking up to a blow job - yay or nay?
Posted 02 Oct 2017 15:23

I was woken that way, only one time, but I have to say that I have never forgotten that night. Perhaps that should tell ladies all they need to know. You needn't make a habit of it, but as an occasional treat you will thrill your man.

Topic What are you driving?
Posted 01 Oct 2017 11:52

a Volkswagen Jetta, but my favorite was my SCCA racing ITB Toyota Corrola #63

Topic Chat?
Posted 26 Sep 2017 15:37

i don't whisper, and if I do I let the woman initiate it. I know that in sex chat men are a dime a dozen, and women are constantly getting hit on. I think it wiser to talk. If a lady wants to speak privately to me, she will.

Topic Contraception
Posted 26 Sep 2017 15:36

That depends. I don't have casual sex really, and my last two girlfriends had passed menopause. But with a younger woman I would use a condom, and recommend everyone use one unless you've had serious talk about the subject first. It's all a man can do.

Topic Do you enjoy eating Pussy? or do you pass
Posted 26 Sep 2017 15:33

Is that a question?

Topic North Korea
Posted 26 Sep 2017 15:31

We may not have much, if any, choice in accepting North Korea as a nuclear state. Like it or not, any state that really wants nuclear weapons can have them. After all, nukes and effective missiles are a state of the art 1945 technology. North Korea seems willing to pay a terrible price for having nuclear weapons. Will the brandish them with good judgement? Well, that remains to be seen and I have my doubts, as I have considerable doubts of the judgement and maturity of Donald Trump.

Still, the last thing we should expect is a direct North Korean attack. They know that would be suicidal, in fact, they are very well aware that they have fallen militarily well behind South Korea. They are a regime whose existence depends upon a narrative of constant threat and sacrifice, so doing the right thing for their people necessarily requires admitting that narrative is a lie. So they bluster. The key to dealing with this is seeing their bluster for what it is without forgetting they do not see the world at all as we do or understand our way of thinking. That does make their judgement . . . ahem, problematic. Right now I'm even more worried about our judgement, because Trump feels he cannot be seen to lose face because he might lose face.

Topic Colin Kaepernick and Nationalist Hypocricy In the NFL
Posted 26 Sep 2017 15:24

The Mixon case cared about something, that we care less about rape and assault than we do about obstructing people's political rights. As Trevor Noah put, it why shouldn't athlete's protest, "when people are actually looking at them." If events have recent months have shown anything it's that racism is deeply entrenched in American culture, and removing it will be like popping a very painful boil. First we need to admit the boil exists.

Topic Love is beautiful,however Men can separate sex and love.Why cant women?
Posted 17 Mar 2013 11:12

The issue is best explained by the mix of biology and culture. Sex is inherently riskier for women then men. Men enter women's bodies. Men can't get pregnant, and until recent decades paternity was difficult to establish at best. Safe, reliable contraception is less then a century old. And men can, in theory, impregnate a vast number of women while a woman can have only a limited number of offspring. While culture of mating and reproduction extends back many centuries.

Because women have much more at risk then men, they logically ask for a higher standard before becoming comfortable enough with someone to have sex. The premium placed on virginity in many cultures is intended to assure paternity, and thus the man's continuing support in the rearing of children. Human civilization grew up with those biases built in. Slut shaming, the 'groping' and even the burqua all grew up as ways to assure paternity rights. And the bias in those rights was reinforced by both men and women.

This also changes the sexual balance between men and women and how our politics broke down. Except for prostitutes, no man wanted to be with a loose woman. A woman who was willing to say yes, was relatively rare and that balance is reflected her on Lush. How many potential cyber partners does a woman enjoy in a chat room. How long does it take before a man hits on a woman? Minutes. But for men the situation is reversed.

In essence, sexual condition for women is Pavlovian, for men Skinnerian. In Pavlovian conditioning, every time the lever is pressed (or the bell rung) the reward is given. It's easier for most women to find sex, if that's all you're going for is sex, Animals trained under pavlovian conditions press the lever only when they're hungry. Because sex is easy, women naturally aspire to more.

For men the situation is often reversed. Except for a few rock stars/celebrities, sex isn't so easy. My presence in a chatroom is a matter of no interest until I stand out in some way. I could spend hours in a chat room and its iffy if a single woman would initiate conversation, sexual or otherwise. Men face a more Skinnerian situation, where you have to press the lever to get your reward, but you never ever know if a reward is coming, It is random and intermittant. Animals conditioned that way press the lever constantly because they can never have confidence a reward is coming.

Now that's sort of basic biology, but remember the biology of men and women has derived over centuries. For a man, finding a woman willing to have sex with him is difficult, so success is self-affirming in and ove itself. For a woman sex is easy, so they want more, they are more invested before they admit a man to their body. For women it is often the cementing of a pre-exiting bond. For men it's often that way too. We aren't unaffected by sex. But rather, we don't require the emotional commitment before saying yes.

Topic If you could have one lustful evening with anyone (and they were totally into it) with whom would it
Posted 28 Feb 2013 18:52

My choice would be (presuming she's single) newwoman Lara Logan. She has guts and brains, and tells the truth. Plus she's exquisitely beautiful. If she's married then I'd go for Cathrine Keener. I just like the smart girls.

Topic If you could only do one type of exercise or sport, what would it be?
Posted 27 Feb 2013 18:38

I raced sports cars just long enough to figure out I cannot afford to race. If the money fairy ever lands, I'm going back to the track with competitive equipment.

Topic Kate Upton Too big to be SI swimsuit?
Posted 27 Feb 2013 18:24

I can't even believe we're having this topic.

Topic Guys, would you rather fuck a tight or wide pussy?
Posted 20 Nov 2012 17:52

Is there such a thing as a bad pussy? What I want is a pussy attached to a broad, questioning mind who makes me laugh. As Woody Allen once put it, "The worst orgasm I ever had was right on."

Topic Can I Pick Your Brains?
Posted 10 Nov 2012 18:28

Compared to most of the world, the US is a great place to be a woman. But women have had the right to vote for less then a century, and my life is about the span of the birth control pill. I remember when Good Girls Don't was an iron law. I remember when gay people were deeply in the closet and lesbian literature always ended badly. We are only a generation or two away from that. Which means lots of people who grew up with the old ways are having trouble adapting. As they pass, things should get easier. But we're not so rich as we were, it's hard now to get a good job. People are afraid and when they fear they often look backward for surety an moral purity. But I think the election proved not everyone is ready to turn back

Topic Republicans and the "R" word
Posted 26 Oct 2012 20:24

I know why they say it, but they really aren't interested in thinking it through. Fortunately, SF writer John Scalzi does that for them. Great satire that gets right to the reality of the matter.

Topic Favorite show.
Posted 26 Oct 2012 19:56

Battlestar Galactica (the remake), Dexter, The Game of Thrones and The Daily Show top my all-time list

Topic Favorite Ice Cream
Posted 21 Oct 2012 18:14

I live in Ohio, the Axis of Ice Cream. From Cincinnati we offer Graeters, best known for their Raspberry with dark chocolate chunks. To the norheast in Cleveland we have Mitchells' whose apricot makes me sigh. And in the center is Jeni's, named by a couple of mags as the best in America, and maybe the world. My favorite is goat Cheese with Cherries, though in winter it's Goat Cheese with Fig. Yummmmmm/

Topic Club Zafia....
Posted 21 Oct 2012 18:11

Topic What comes to your mind when you hear the name of the country above you?
Posted 15 Oct 2012 18:53

Ayrton Senna, Emerson Fittipaldi, Tony Kanaan, and other great Brazilian racers


Topic Men and Periods.
Posted 14 Oct 2012 18:46

That depends on the women. I have had a serious relationship with women whose periods were extraordinarily difficult and painful, where sex was out of the question. One underwent a hysterectomy in order to end it Others it has been no big deal, and were very receptive when menstruating. Really, it's all about her. If she wants to, it's good. But her body and physical space is going through things we men thankfully avoid. We need to let our partners be our guide.