Forum posts made by vanellus

Topic Legalise prostitution?
Posted 21 Mar 2015 10:54

Prostitution should be legalized, but regulated. By that I mean that prostitutes should be able to work free of pimps and traffickers, form unions and decide their work conditions and pay. In addition, attention should be paid to providing the necessary health care and and health training to keep them alive and free from disease.

Topic Celibacy In Religion.
Posted 21 Mar 2015 10:38

No one here has attempted to draw the crucial distinction between celibacy and chastity, so I will. Celibacy means remaining unmarried. This can include abstinence from sex, or not. Chastity is abstinence from sex, which may occur in or out of marriage.

The historical rule of the Catholic Church concerning priests ordained in the Roman Rite (and not the Eastern Rite) is that they must take a vow of celibacy, i.e., not marry. This was adopted roughly a thousand years ago as an anti-corruption measure. Bishoprics, no pun intended, were being passed on from father to son for their revenue (many bishops were feudal lords) rather than because the sons of bishops had vocations to serve as priests.

Nuns, brothers and priests who are members of a religious order (Jesuits, Dominicans, etc.) take vows of chastity, poverty and obedience before they become members of the order. Neither nuns nor brothers are members of the clergy and are not bound by the celibacy rule; although chastity, in Catholic moral theology, is incompatible with marriage and no one under a vow of chastity may be married.

As to non-Catholic Christianity, the Orthodox take the view that priests may marry before ordination, but only once.

All Christian traditions uphold some form of chastity outside marriage as a high moral value and deem almost all forms of unchastity as morally imperfect or sinful. To plumb the origins of this Christian idea, I would suggest the excellent "Adam, Eve and the Serpent: Sex and Politics in Early Christianity" by Elaine Pagels, a very well-known historian of religion who has taught at Princeton.

Topic do you believe in God?
Posted 21 Mar 2015 10:22

God is the biblical deity, with which I have considerable problems. I accept philosophically that a deity makes sense as a universal reference point for all meaning. The religious myths, which need not be falsehoods properly understood, are merely our way of reaching out to the deity and making the deity comprehensible to us. But, naturally, they are not facts.

Topic I am Bi-Polar/Manic Depressive. (I suffer from a mental illness called Cyclothymia.)
Posted 21 Mar 2015 10:15

I have been diagnosed with Dysthymia and your message prompted me to look at Cyclothymia. Since the drugs I've been prescribed have all brought temporary relief, but nothing for the long term, I will suggest Cyclothymia as a possibility.

Thank you! And, hey, I'm with you in that dark tunnel.

Topic Should creationism be taught in schools?
Posted 21 Mar 2015 10:06

First, there is not, and never has been, any part of the Constitution that stipulates a separation of Church and State. The level of education and understanding of our Constitution and current law(s) is appalling.

Secondly, more scientists back up Creationism or Intelligent Design than most of you seem aware.

Evolution is a theory, and until that changes, must be continued to be presented as a theory, i.e., man's ideas that explain nature.

So, of course, in our politically correct, diversity-ridden, multiculturally-dragged and dumbed down schools, both warrant about equal time and fair, and respectful conversation.

I like to take each of these in turn.

1. The Constitution prohibits Congress from establishing religion. This has been broadly interpreted by the courts over two centuries of litigation to mean that no agency of government may favor religion. This is what is meant by separation of Church and State. The Constitution means what duly constituted courts, all the way to the Supreme Court, interpret the Constitution to mean.

2. There are scientists who accept the possibility that the universe could be the result of a creating act (making something out of nothing) by a pre-existing being. But not as science, rather as personal belief.

Intelligent design is a slightly different story because it does not presume creation, but only suggests that the universe's structure is of such complexity that it must be part of an intelligent design. Again, this is at best a hypothesis that leaves no room for randomness or chance and does not have evidence behind it. We don't know whether there is a causal correlation between the complexity of a thing and its cause.

3. Phrases such as "politically correct," "diversity-ridden," "multiculturally-dragged" and "dumbed down" are value judgments about schools from an ideological stance, not facts. As such, they cannot be the basis for deciding how to handle science and religion.

Topic Should creationism be taught in schools?
Posted 21 Mar 2015 09:53


In my understanding, the theory of evolution is a science-based topic, and creationism is a religion-based topic.

Evolution is a scientific theory, which itself has evolved a great deal since Darwin. "Creationism" is a pseudo-scientific label to what is effectively unsubstantiated religious belief.

I am not exalting one over the other by making the distinction.

I am merely saying that scientific theory is not a dogma. Scientifically we cannot prove evolution back to the very beginning, in part because we don't know that beginning and because there are inexplicable leaps in the middle. Most biologists agree that evolution happens and debate just how much or how little and to what extent.

Similarly, religious belief is not factual; if it were factual it would be knowledge, not belief. Just because something is not factual, however, it doesn't mean it might not be in some sense true factually. Just as no one has proven that God exists, no one has accomplished the counter-logical feat of proving God does not exist. We just don know. Some choose to believe He/She/It exists, some don't.

I think children should be taught to understand the distinction between science and religion, and the uncertainties in both attempts to grasp truth.

Topic Should creationism be taught in schools?
Posted 21 Mar 2015 09:44

If you do teach creationism in schools, which creation story do you teach? The Judeo-Christian version, the Hindu version, the Zoroastrian or the ancient Egyptian?

Excellent point. The idea of a divine intervention that began the world could be taught in a Comparative Religion class, one in which the various religions are reviewed. This could be a social studies elective.

Topic Audio Reader
Posted 03 Sep 2013 14:18

Hi, is there a profile of the reader of the audio stories? The woman who has a strong Celtic accent. I'm in love with that voice!

Topic "Slut"
Posted 03 Aug 2013 21:42

I often read this word in stories. Sometimes they are used by men, sometimes by women.

I doubt women actually get off on calling themselves or being called "slut." But I also wonder the logic of it for a man.

Why would I want a slut? Why would I want to call a woman a slut for having sex with me? Aren't I really saying that I think it's "bad" to have sex?

Would a woman really get off on calling herself or being called a slut?

Topic Can we learn from erotic fiction? if so, what?
Posted 22 Sep 2012 13:07



see? learning stuff already :)

Lots to learn.

Topic Can we learn from erotic fiction? if so, what?
Posted 22 Sep 2012 13:07




Hi, welcome.

For me, since becoming a verifier, I never knew there was such an audience for the more taboo types of stories. Also, I didn't realize how many people can't use proper punctuation, spell check, or even simply read our guidelines!

Is a verifier like an editor?

Topic What draws you to a sexy chat with a guy?
Posted 22 Sep 2012 11:40



Lol. Really? This is actually a huge turn off for me. In fact, while in a chat room, a guy asked me to look at his profile pics. He didn't tell me why. He wouldn't drop the subject, so I finally caved in and looked. And behold, it was a gallery full of cock-shots. After immediately clicking out of his profile, I didn't say anything. So 5 minutes later, he asked me if I looked and how I felt. And I asked him how I was supposed to feel. His exact answer was "Appreciative". And I asked him what I was supposed to appreciate? It was a dick. I've seen plenty in my lifetime and I'm sure I'll see plenty more (my exact words). And of course, his response was a whole lot of butthurt. Moral of the story: If a guy pesters you to look at his dick pics and you don't appreciate them, then obviously you're a man-hating lesbian who's so hard up for a good fuck that she takes it out on random strangers...especially those that beg you to look at pictures of their dick.

Topic What draws you to a sexy chat with a guy?
Posted 22 Sep 2012 11:37



Lol. Really? This is actually a huge turn off for me. In fact, while in a chat room, a guy asked me to look at his profile pics. He didn't tell me why. He wouldn't drop the subject, so I finally caved in and looked. And behold, it was a gallery full of cock-shots. After immediately clicking out of his profile, I didn't say anything. So 5 minutes later, he asked me if I looked and how I felt. And I asked him how I was supposed to feel. His exact answer was "Appreciative". And I asked him what I was supposed to appreciate? It was a dick. I've seen plenty in my lifetime and I'm sure I'll see plenty more (my exact words). And of course, his response was a whole lot of butthurt. Moral of the story: If a guy pesters you to look at his dick pics and you don't appreciate them, then obviously you're a man-hating lesbian who's so hard up for a good fuck that she takes it out on random strangers...especially those that beg you to look at pictures of their dick.

How's this?

Topic What draws you to a sexy chat with a guy?
Posted 22 Sep 2012 11:30



No, of course not really.

Looks like I could've used this, in retrospect:



Guys' fascination with their own dicks in general is a mystery to me. A funny one! LOL. But still a mystery.

Looove that blinking sign!!!!! Am stealing it!!!!!!!!!!!

Topic Would you engage in online sex?
Posted 21 Sep 2012 15:39

And, what would be the limits?

Topic Offline & Online
Posted 21 Sep 2012 15:37



Then you have your answer. If you can't tell her "Hey, I cyber fuck strangers as often as they let me!" then chances are you're cheating.

OK, but what if I want to cheat, but keep the cheating online?

Topic What draws you to a sexy chat with a guy?
Posted 21 Sep 2012 08:40

Topic Offline & Online
Posted 21 Sep 2012 07:57

... and how would you feel if your significant other was doing it behind your back?


Wouldn't bother me in the least. So long as the online/offline boundary was kept.

Topic Offline & Online
Posted 21 Sep 2012 07:56

Depends on the boundaries of your relationship. Just think about how it would make your significant other feel if he/she knew if you were cybering online. If it's something you wouldn't want them to know about, then chances are you shouldn't be doing it.

I wouldn't mind. She would mind knowing. She might not understand it.

Topic Offline & Online
Posted 20 Sep 2012 15:36

Is it cheating to carry on (in chat or email) online if you have a relationship offline? (I'm assuming the online doesn't become offline.)

What is it about online written sex ("I'm kissing you ... etc") that makes it so hot?

Topic Can we learn from erotic fiction? if so, what?
Posted 20 Sep 2012 15:29



ok, good questions.

no i dont prefer it to, i guess, regular sex and no, for me it doesnt lead to an orgasm on its own.

as for the pain...well i have found that the pain differs at first entry depending on the position. all fours is OUT for me in that first moment...spooning or reverse cowgirl is better. and if he lets me control how fast he enters me that helps too. that said...after that first penetration (maybe a few strokes) then the pain TOTALLY disappears and it does feel mmmmm awesome. at this point any position is a go.

hope that helps :)


um ... reverse cowgirl?

Topic What are your Lush "Pet Peeves"?
Posted 20 Sep 2012 08:49

when the guys leave the toilet seat up!

Don't you look before you sit?

Topic Can we learn from erotic fiction? if so, what?
Posted 20 Sep 2012 08:46

different strokes, I guess!

If I may ask ... Is this something you would prefer to, say, frontal genital sex? Does anal sex lead to orgasm by itself?

Oh, and what about the pain?

Topic Can we learn from erotic fiction? if so, what?
Posted 17 Sep 2012 16:08

I don't mean can we learn extreme or weirdly thrilling things written to entertain. I mean legal and more or less conventional elements of eroticism.

Here are instances that I feel are unrealistic:

-- The guy takes the woman through several orgasms, then lets go. Do people really do that? Is that what women prefer?

-- most women I have known absolutely HATE anal sex. Some stories make it sound like that's not true.

-- women coming to orgasm in nonconsensual sex. That seems totally unrealistic and implausible.

-- And men who last through three, four, five orgasms in a row, but they're not 17.

-- Also, who thinks of people in terms of measurements? (And, guys, women prefer thickness to length.)

However, there are things I have learned.

Some positions I hadn't thought of turned out to be very satisfactory in real, consensual adult-to-adult sex.

Things I wonder about:

-- Do women really like to be called "slut" or "cum-bucket"or things of that sort? (Have never tried it.)

Maybe other people have other concerns about erotic fiction.

I'm kinda new so I hope I posted in the right place.

Topic Duchess Catherine photographed topless...A breach of privacy?
Posted 17 Sep 2012 15:53

Why is it sad?

They wanted fame, they wanted money that comes with fame, so.. I have no sympathy for their whining how they have no privacy. They have chosen their lifestyle, they are more than well paid for it, so they need to suck it up with consequences of the lifestyle they have chosen. The same goes for 'poor royalty' living off their taxpaying people's money. If you want to be a princess, living off someones money, than sweetie, suck it up and act like princess. If it's inappropriately to be topless, than she shouldn't be topless where people can see her.

Exactly!!!!

Especially her. She had a choice. He can arguably say he was born into it without much choice. But if she wanted to be an obscure private married woman, she could have been. Very easily.

Topic Need help with proofing my story
Posted 17 Sep 2012 15:46

I'd be happy to proofread. I make my living as an editor.

Topic Special Request: The Do Nots of Erotica
Posted 17 Sep 2012 15:44

Do NOT forget to spell-check and painstakingly proofread your story -- or have someone else do so.

Topic I need help deciding.
Posted 17 Sep 2012 15:38

Ruby is brassy, all out there, no surprises. Nicole suggests someone who might or might not. Someone who needs a little prompting and can spice up a story.