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Hey Ladies and Lovers of all sorts!
I am a fun loving girl, who also craves solitude, yes even after the last two years. There are two things that tell me that there is a God, beautiful women, and sleeping in with her the next day.
I also have a serious side. I am studying psychology and think a lot about LIFE and the lessons that come with the game board. I think we all need to be kinder with ourselves and those precious people we are so fortunate to have in our lives.
I think stories, if written with intelligence, heart and spirit can bring us all closer to an understanding of each other. That includes erotica, which is what I hope to write and contribute to this amazing site.
kisses and licks,
Debbie
Debbie Deliberates on Life, Love and Sex
I like to ponder the minutia of life. Things my gfs wouldn’t even think of. I thought I would share some of my thoughts with you lovely ladies and maybe get a dialogue going . That’s just the kind of lesbian I am.
Topic: Plot and Conflict Make Erotic Writing Sizzle!
If I was pushed into a corner and told that henceforth I would be allowed access to pornography or erotica, not both, I wouldn’t hesitate to choose erotica.
Pornography in its purest form has no story line, no plot, no characterization, minimal to no build-up, and minimal to no seduction. The prime example of this is the "movies" the pornography industry has been pushing out for decades– especially the "compilations" that shows nothing but graphic sex scene after graphic sex scene. Unfortunately, too many of the stories seen on this and other sites, fit that description as well. Pornography as stand-alone entertainment is totally worthless. It even fails as good turn-on material because they miss the whole point of how people get turned on.
I believe that when it comes to erotic writing what turns readers on are conflict and plot.
What is plot? Plot is: Giving at least one of the characters in the story a goal, or some purpose or thing he/she/they is/are striving for. There is some sort of conflict involving your character(s) and the goals he/she/they is/are trying to achieve. It might be external, in the way of obstacles, threats, etc., or it might have an internal-meaning for the character goes through some serious agonizing before taking a step they feel will resolve the conflict. There should be some sort of suspense. This is provided by little details the author can sprinkle in along the way in the story, and by the obstacles the main character(s) encounter along the way to the main goal. Conflict resolution is the final piece in the story’s puzzle. The character(s) finally achieve(s) his/her/their goals. Which in erotic fiction means the climaxes are real enough to even get the reader off?
In erotic fiction you do not have entire chapters to work with, but you still want to try to follow that basic outline. Is the girl/guy really going to get that girl/guy or not? Whatever the premise of your story, guy-girl, girl-girl, or whatever, in order to have a really good story there should be some doubt in the beginning of the story that this couple/triple/group is going to actually get it on. If that element is missing, then all you have is story line with no real plot.
What defines a good story from good stroke material, or great erotica that is also great literature from just plain good erotica, is plot based on the above four steps. If you can do that, you need to put it right up front and that gives you your conflict and creates a little suspense for the reader.
Any story in which seduction takes place, there is an opportunity to illustrate at least some sort of conflict in the mind of the person being seduced. Incest stories are perhaps the most potent because of the taboos and barriers. However, first time Lesbian stories work well too.
In short, it is the process of seduction that makes an erotic story truly erotic, and the more conflict and suspense you can fit in to the seduction mode, the better your story will be.
Those are my thoughts, what do you think?
Sweetest kisses, Debbie
Debbie Deliberates on Life, Love and Sex
Topic: Why Do We Relish in our Foul Language?
When you survey many foul terms – even the foulest of the foul – they easily seem to be objective ways to assert our territory, much the way dogs do, by carefully choosing where and when they piss. I believe that when we utter foul language into the world or into the cesspool of social media, we are merely striking a defensive posture in the face of an untrustworthy world. .
Here are a few examples:
"shit" – as when "shit!" is said after a stubbing a toe (in contrast with something's being "shitty”, or of poor quality). This implies that an unexpected event has occurred that frustrates the speaker's aspirations (such as when your girlfriend arrives late to the house party to find you in bed with the hostess). Shit happens, and has to happen, for it to be shit: shit has existence as its essence. Or, more plainly: if your girlfriend throws a full glass of Merlot all over your sexy white dress "shit!", may now be seen as an understatement of events.
"fucking"–as in "my fucking girlfriend is a psycho, I was only saying hello to that woman…”. This implies major frustration of someone's plans, though not necessarily the speaker's. I could be hearing the story of a woman who strands her girlfriend half way home and says "really, you are a fucking slut; you can walk the rest of the way!” Her plans are defensive, yet a power play at the same time.
"fucker" – as directed for example at a toaster that burns one's toast the morning after the party. The object is personified as having malicious intent. You’re your girlfriend intones “You’re the fucker bitch, at least the toaster is faithful, can I say the same about you?”
"mother fucker" – a metaphorical way of saying someone can't be trusted. As in you crazy motherfucker, would you have slept with her would you have fucked her if I hadn’t walked in on you?” Of course the word has nothing to do with having sex with your own mother if she had the chance.
"bitch" – much as with "mother fucker”, implies treachery, that the person in question is a traitor, or would-be traitor. When we aren't thinking of its non-derogatory meaning ("female"), a person doesn't count as a bitch, unless they are treacherous or prone to betray others in relationships. “You bitch, does she lick your pussy as good as I do? Tell me bitch!”
Foul words, clear the air, and make room for reconciliation and even healing, as in: “You mother-fucker, bitch come over here and lick my pussy and I just might forgive your fucking ass.”
Those are my thoughts, what do you think?
Sweetest kisses, Debbie
Debbie Deliberates on Life, Love and Sex
Topic: Myth and the Modern Vagina
It's not easy being a young woman at a time when there seems to be a back-lash to all the gains women have achieved over centuries of striving and struggling for autonomy over our bodies. Today if women luxuriate in and active sex life we are often called sluts, conversely if we choose a life of introspection and don't indulge in sex we are seen figuratively as cold nun-like figures. How's a girl going to catch a break. I like to go back to the ancients to try and understand where things when so terribly wrong.
Ladies and lovers' the ancients thought of the vagina as "the gate of life" and it was symbolic of much power and many early myths.
Medieval Christians made the vagina a metaphor for the gate of hell and revived the ancient fear-induced image of the "toothed vagina", that could bite off a man's penis (just imagine the whitening issues...down there).
According to the "Epic of Gigamesh", the plant of eternal life grew in "the deep" another term for the womb of the world. It was accessible only by a narrow passage that imagines an inner gateway to the mysteries of life. Well, I have done my level best, when in the shower to water my inner plant while aiming the spray where it feels good (so very good).
A sixteenth-century Arabian manuscript declared that any man who looked directly into a woman's vagina would go blind and cited the case of a sultan who went blind while inspecting the vaginas of the women in his haram. Can you imagine, if true every guy on this web-site would need a seeing-eye dog.
Ok that's ancient history, but but my point is, those myths are no more ridiculous and dangerous than some of the laws being passed to restrict the choices we make regarding our own bodies and our own vaginas.
Oh yeah, and you know what the ancients called the penis? "The Little Blind One"
Those are my thoughts, what do you think?
Sweetest kisses, Debbie
Debbie Deliberates on Life, Love and Sex
Topic: The Perfect Lover. Does She Exist?
Well perfection is one of those unrealistic words, that we all know is unattainable to mere mortals. Yet, if I am alone in my dorm room at night and can’t sleep and need to conjure a woman to fantasize about…you can be damn sure that my fantasy girl is going to be damn near close to perfect.
More than ever we live in a world where reality is challenged from all sides. Well. I happen to love reality, because that bitch wins, but only 100% of the time. No real woman can attain those fevered imaginings in a partner but some things come close to perfection.
Yet I believe that the lover who wants to be as perfect as she can for me, is out there. What will she be like when I find her? At times she will be patiently tender, at other times, fiercely passionate. When I find her, she will bring to life my reckless longings, my deepest secrets, and my wildest longings.
No woman wants the ideal, we just need to be loved for who we are, and when it happens… well rightness outdoes perfection every time.
Those are my thoughts, what do you think?
Sweetest kisses, Debbie
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