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in my case, i have admitted emotional issues that keep me from enjoying it - wouldn't be surprised if i'm the only one - something to consider, guys, before you get too bent out of shape about a girl being "gun shy" smile

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Like most things sexual, given the right partner and the right circumstance, I find myself trying things I thought I'd never do. Some have worked and some haven't, some things I liked with 1 partner, didn't work with others. I have had bad, good and better anal sex, not amazing, but I'm still open to the opportunity.
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Well, in general, I think the basic premise here (that women don't like anal) is a bit faulty to begin with, but beyond that, I generally agree with the sentiments expressed here. To paraphrase and expand:

You can't expect to shove your cock into a girl's ass right away if she's never tried anal before. You have to build up to that point. I generally suggest starting with other forms of anal stimulation, especially rimming and gentle digital stimulation (without insertion). If she responds positively to this over several sessions, try proceeding up to the insertion of a (well lubed) finger or other small (and I do mean small) object into her ass. It should be noted that while the initial penetration of the anus can be accomplished with just a bit of pressure, the interior muscles will tend to tighten reflexively at this intrusion (even for a practiced receiver of anal sex). Giving these muscles a chance to relax is vital to proceeding without undue force (and therefore possible pain). If she is still enjoying things after several sessions of this, gradually increase the diameter of the penetrating object, ideally until it is at least as big as your penis. Even after you progress to putting your cock inside her, but sure to proceed gently until you know how she will respond to more vigorous activity.

That being said, some women [I]really[/I] don't like anal sex. They may not like the way it feels, or they may think that it's dirty or in some case even unnatural. In the case of actual physical discomfort, you might be able to sooth some of that with a lot of good lube, but if she’s uncomfortable or even indifferent to having something in her ass, you should probably just forget it, since she will not be receiving any pleasure from the act, and may in fact be turned off or even hurt by it. In general, unless your partner is a sexual masochist, sex should be mutually pleasurable.

If the issue is a mental or a moral one, you can try talking about it, but be sensitive to the fact that sometimes all the rational arguments in the world are not going to change a girl’s mind. If you do manage to convince her to give it a try, proceed as above and do your best to minimize discomfort and maximize her pleasure during all stages of the process. Combining anal stimulation with simultaneous vaginal or clitoral stimulation can sometime be a big help there.

So if all of this seems like a huge amount of work, it is. True, you might get lucky and find a girl (like me, for example) who loves anal sex. I knew from the first time my husband touched my ass that I was eventually going to want him inside it. However, the best advice I can give is that if anal sex is important to you, discuss the subject before you ever reach the bedroom. It might feel awkward, but finding out how she feels about the subject right from the very beginning may save you from a lot of unsatisfied longing.

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Look, I don't HATE it personally...but you try shoving something like a cucumber up your ass and tell me how much you like it? lol


The girl has a point. A lot of guys (no, not all) will expect girls to be willing to try anal sex...but a lot of guys (again, not all) would throw an absolute paddy if you suggested sticking something up their asses.


Never a truer word spoken. Same as guys expecting you to swallow yet look at you repulsed at the suggestion he tastes himself


YES. That gets right on my nerves. Or even better, they decide they want to cum somewhere on you (usually over your front) and then won't touch you??


Wow, where are you girls finding such lame guys?




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Excellent questions... I'll try to answer them carefully and honestly.

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Cum is gross to most guys, it's because it's cum. Whether it's his or not. It's cum, from a penis, attached to a man... With balls. Do you really want to see your man fucking eating his own cum or playing with it or some shit? Is that sexy now?

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Some girls don't like licking a guy's butt-hole even thought they like having theirs licked... Is she lame?

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How about ass to mouth? If I'm willing to lick a dildo that's been in a girls ass does it make the girl lame if she won't suck on my cock after anal sex?

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Excellent questions... I'll try to answer them carefully and honestly.

Quote by Magical_felix

Cum is gross to most guys, it's because it's cum. Whether it's his or not. It's cum, from a penis, attached to a man... With balls. Do you really want to see your man fucking eating his own cum or playing with it or some shit? Is that sexy now?

... Yes!


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Some girls don't like licking a guy's butt-hole even thought they like having theirs licked... Is she lame?

... Yes!


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How about ass to mouth? If I'm willing to lick a dildo that's been in a girls ass does it make the girl lame if she won't suck on my cock after anal sex?

... Yes!




Was I surprised by Dancing_Doll's answers? ...NO

But do the rest of you girls feel the same way? Does everything about sex have to be equal?

If a guy wants to fuck a girl in the ass must he be willing to have the girl shove a cucumber in his brown eye???

Must a guy swallow his own cum if he expects his girl too???

THESE are the pressing issues of the day!!!
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Excellent questions... I'll try to answer them carefully and honestly.

Quote by Magical_felix

Cum is gross to most guys, it's because it's cum. Whether it's his or not. It's cum, from a penis, attached to a man... With balls. Do you really want to see your man fucking eating his own cum or playing with it or some shit? Is that sexy now?

... Yes!


Quote by Magical_felix

Some girls don't like licking a guy's butt-hole even thought they like having theirs licked... Is she lame?

... Yes!


Quote by Magical_felix

How about ass to mouth? If I'm willing to lick a dildo that's been in a girls ass does it make the girl lame if she won't suck on my cock after anal sex?

... Yes!




Was I surprised by Dancing_Doll's answers? ...NO

But do the rest of you girls feel the same way? Does everything about sex have to be equal?

If a guy wants to fuck a girl in the ass must he be willing to have the girl shove a cucumber in his brown eye???

Must a guy swallow his own cum if he expects his girl too???

THESE are the pressing issues of the day!!!


OK, I know you're asking "the others" on this one since I am possibly a bit more of a dirty-girl than most, but... I'm just going to answer anyway... just cause yanno... it's impossible for me to resist.

I don't think everything always has to be exactly equal, but if the guy is pressing to have really dirty sex, then he has to be willing to get dirty too.

Most guys are thrilled to have at least a finger in their ass at some point. It doesn't have to be the whole cucumber, but if a guy is really into anal, then he shouldn't be freaked out by being the recipient of a little anal-play. As for the cum... it's his own body fluid... same as how when a girl sucks a dick after it's been in her pussy or licks her fingers after masturbating, it doesn't mean she is a deviant or in danger of being gay because the juices technically came from a pussy. I don't think the guy "has to" to do any of these things, just the same as a girl doesn't "have to" to get as kinky as maybe the guy wants her to. Personally for me... the kinkier the guy is, the kinkier I get in return. It's definitely a huge turn-on.

But if the guy wasn't willing to kiss me after I swallow his cum, or if he set up all these rules he refused to break, but in turn expected me to act like his own personal Sasha Grey, then yeah... he would be a lame-o in my books and I'd walk. That's just me though. I'm very demanding...
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alot of guys dont know how to do anal sex you gotta take your time and let her get use to it dont just shove it in here ass and expect her to like it
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But do the rest of you girls feel the same way? Does everything about sex have to be equal?

If a guy wants to fuck a girl in the ass must he be willing to have the girl shove a cucumber in his brown eye???

Must a guy swallow his own cum if he expects his girl too???

THESE are the pressing issues of the day!!!


No, not everything has to be equal, its understandable to not want to do something ypu enjoy being given, i.e i love being eaten out but have no desire to go down on another girl (sorry fellas if i shattered your fantasies! )

The thing that annoys me is when people act like its no big deal/its so easy to do/it doest taste bad and dont get the effort/pain/uncomfort or whatever that goes in to it. I.e. im totally willing to swallow but if he says its no big deal and expects me to do it everytime, i'll be asking him to try it to see what its like.

Same as how i would be willing to try anal without expecting to do him in the ass with a strap on but the minute he starts to say how easy it is, all i have to do is bend over and take it etc........ well then lets see him do the same thing!
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Most guys are thrilled to have at least a finger in their ass at some point. It doesn't have to be the whole cucumber, but if a guy is really into anal, then he shouldn't be freaked out by being the recipient of a little anal-play. As for the cum... it's his own body fluid... same as how when a girl sucks a dick after it's been in her pussy or licks her fingers after masturbating, it doesn't mean she is a deviant or in danger of being gay because the juices technically came from a pussy. I don't think the guy "has to" to do any of these things, just the same as a girl doesn't "have to" to get as kinky as maybe the guy wants her to. Personally for me... the kinkier the guy is, the kinkier I get in return. It's definitely a huge turn-on.

But if the guy wasn't willing to kiss me after I swallow his cum, or if he set up all these rules he refused to break, but in turn expected me to act like his own personal Sasha Grey, then yeah... he would be a lame-o in my books and I'd walk. That's just me though. I'm very demanding...


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i love it when a girl plays with my ass, it really does work!
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Excellent questions... I'll try to answer them carefully and honestly.

Quote by Magical_felix

Cum is gross to most guys, it's because it's cum. Whether it's his or not. It's cum, from a penis, attached to a man... With balls. Do you really want to see your man fucking eating his own cum or playing with it or some shit? Is that sexy now?

... Yes!


Quote by Magical_felix

Some girls don't like licking a guy's butt-hole even thought they like having theirs licked... Is she lame?

... Yes!


Quote by Magical_felix

How about ass to mouth? If I'm willing to lick a dildo that's been in a girls ass does it make the girl lame if she won't suck on my cock after anal sex?

... Yes!




Was I surprised by Dancing_Doll's answers? ...NO

But do the rest of you girls feel the same way? Does everything about sex have to be equal?

If a guy wants to fuck a girl in the ass must he be willing to have the girl shove a cucumber in his brown eye???

Must a guy swallow his own cum if he expects his girl too???

THESE are the pressing issues of the day!!!


OK, I know you're asking "the others" on this one since I am possibly a bit more of a dirty-girl than most, but... I'm just going to answer anyway... just cause yanno... it's impossible for me to resist.

I don't think everything always has to be exactly equal, but if the guy is pressing to have really dirty sex, then he has to be willing to get dirty too.

Most guys are thrilled to have at least a finger in their ass at some point. It doesn't have to be the whole cucumber, but if a guy is really into anal, then he shouldn't be freaked out by being the recipient of a little anal-play. As for the cum... it's his own body fluid... same as how when a girl sucks a dick after it's been in her pussy or licks her fingers after masturbating, it doesn't mean she is a deviant or in danger of being gay because the juices technically came from a pussy. I don't think the guy "has to" to do any of these things, just the same as a girl doesn't "have to" to get as kinky as maybe the guy wants her to. Personally for me... the kinkier the guy is, the kinkier I get in return. It's definitely a huge turn-on.

But if the guy wasn't willing to kiss me after I swallow his cum, or if he set up all these rules he refused to break, but in turn expected me to act like his own personal Sasha Grey, then yeah... he would be a lame-o in my books and I'd walk. That's just me though. I'm very demanding...



To be perfectly honest, I have never understood the psychology of someone who likes the girl to do one thing, but then scrutinizes ever doing so themselves. If you get turned on by cumming on a woman, then I don't understand why you would then not touch her or kiss her after swallowing. I am with Dancing_Doll on this one. Its also incredibly unfair to the person you are with. Its just natural that if you ask for anal from her, then she would rightfully assume that you wouldn't mind having that door open for you as well. Should the actions themselves be equal? Absolutely not...sex would get really boring if you had to do the exact same thing to each other, but the WILLINGNESS to try something new I believe absolutely needs to be equal.

Also, I here lots of arguments from guys who say males don't like anal play and have never tried it themselves. I haven't heard many men who HAVE tried anal play and NOT like it. So, what is the basis for your argument if you haven't at the very least experimented with anal play? Just a thought.
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I wouldn't know. I love anal
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they must be finding the guys in the same places that im finding the girls that lie and expect to get away wiith it. I am upfront and tell them honesty is number one for me and they lie and get caught in it and expect me to forgive them for their lies. Ladies be honest, if a guy cant handle the honesty then hes not right.
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I dont expect anything from a lady if im not at least willing to try it, or try a variation, if a woman has had anal before and she wants the whole thing then she can have it but i will try a finger but not a whole thing.
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In my humble experience it isnt the anal sex that is the problem but rather the approach. I have had guys try the flip me over stick it in method(not a good approach) some that went slower(good approach) some that talked about it first(good) and some that just said tonight im going to stick it in ur ass(depends on the person and how well i know them!) if u are in a new relationship, chose the safer route or you may get a response that isnt as accurate!
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Should be very gentle and fun! Girls usually have a lot of trepidation regarding rear entry, therefore taking a lot of time, lot of oil and foreplay would be a great way to start. Never force it in, but should gently insert itself.
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Excellent questions... I'll try to answer them carefully and honestly.

Quote by Magical_felix

Cum is gross to most guys, it's because it's cum. Whether it's his or not. It's cum, from a penis, attached to a man... With balls. Do you really want to see your man fucking eating his own cum or playing with it or some shit? Is that sexy now?

... Yes!


Quote by Magical_felix

Some girls don't like licking a guy's butt-hole even thought they like having theirs licked... Is she lame?

... Yes!


Quote by Magical_felix

How about ass to mouth? If I'm willing to lick a dildo that's been in a girls ass does it make the girl lame if she won't suck on my cock after anal sex?

... Yes!




Was I surprised by Dancing_Doll's answers? ...NO

But do the rest of you girls feel the same way? Does everything about sex have to be equal?

If a guy wants to fuck a girl in the ass must he be willing to have the girl shove a cucumber in his brown eye???

Must a guy swallow his own cum if he expects his girl too???

THESE are the pressing issues of the day!!!


OK, I know you're asking "the others" on this one since I am possibly a bit more of a dirty-girl than most, but... I'm just going to answer anyway... just cause yanno... it's impossible for me to resist.

I don't think everything always has to be exactly equal, but if the guy is pressing to have really dirty sex, then he has to be willing to get dirty too.

Most guys are thrilled to have at least a finger in their ass at some point. It doesn't have to be the whole cucumber, but if a guy is really into anal, then he shouldn't be freaked out by being the recipient of a little anal-play. As for the cum... it's his own body fluid... same as how when a girl sucks a dick after it's been in her pussy or licks her fingers after masturbating, it doesn't mean she is a deviant or in danger of being gay because the juices technically came from a pussy. I don't think the guy "has to" to do any of these things, just the same as a girl doesn't "have to" to get as kinky as maybe the guy wants her to. Personally for me... the kinkier the guy is, the kinkier I get in return. It's definitely a huge turn-on.

But if the guy wasn't willing to kiss me after I swallow his cum, or if he set up all these rules he refused to break, but in turn expected me to act like his own personal Sasha Grey, then yeah... he would be a lame-o in my books and I'd walk. That's just me though. I'm very demanding...


I agree that things do not have to be totally equal at all times!!

I consider myself to be a "Dirty Girl" too, not like that is bad thing. I think the guys should be willing to try a few things he may conssider a little taboo if he expects me to do the same. Like if I have a guy cum in my mouth and he wont kiss me afterward, I do consider that a little lame. Why are so many guys afraid to taste their own cum? It doent make them gay or mean that they want to taste other guys cum, its their own body fluid. As for fucking the guys ass, although I have joked about doing it to one of my favorite LUSH guys, I really have no great desire to do that. I mean if he wanted me to then fine, but not something I will pursue.

As DD said, the "dirtier" he gets, the "dirtier" I will get. God, it scares me that I always seem to be in agreement with such a "Dirty Girl", LOL!!
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As DD said, the "dirtier" he gets, the "dirtier" I will get. God, it scares me that I always seem to be in agreement with such a "Dirty Girl", LOL!!





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Nikki, you were just joking? Damn, you mean I've been loosening up my backdoor for nothing!?



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I dont think all girls hates anal, i think some girls have had bad experiences and for others its just not appealing.

i dont think that if a girl does something the guy has to do it also or viceversa for me its all about pleasure, not only your personal but your partner as well and if he/she doesnt feel comfortable doing something then is not going to be pleasurable for neither of you.

if its kinky, lame, super hot or vanilla it has nothing to do with it but that both of you are enjoying it and loving every single second of it.

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This subject matter seems such a fun & naughty thing to do, But in reality someone like myself,small/petite build, cannot realistically accomodate.
Not so much a case of being against it in anyway.G6eSLmcoNT2CdYyy
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it's not very appealing....even the name is a little crude [then again what else should we call it?!]
the first time was a little painful, but it was expected. shortly after that beloved event, i found myself almost craving it during the times i was at my horniest. needless to say, it gets better and better with time! so give us girlies a chance....we just need some buttering up with a little bit of PATIENCE!
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i personally love anal. it hurts at first. to any girl who wants to try it i suggest buying a butt plug and leaving it in for awhile then you will get used to it
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well i will answer your question with another question... "why don't you like anal?" boom roasted silly
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I enjoy anal or as far as I have gotten into it. I think people would enjoy it more if they took the proper time to prepare...relaxation, plenty of lube, and complete trust in your partner. Not to mention it really helps if you have been working with a graduated dildo set for a few months prior to anal sex and have gotten use to fingers and tongues. I started getting into anal, because it was a fetish of my boyfriend's; in return he is working on golden showers for me. It is certainly a give and take thing.
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It's just way to painful for me.
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Excellent questions... I'll try to answer them carefully and honestly.

Quote by Magical_felix

Cum is gross to most guys, it's because it's cum. Whether it's his or not. It's cum, from a penis, attached to a man... With balls. Do you really want to see your man fucking eating his own cum or playing with it or some shit? Is that sexy now?

... Yes!


Quote by Magical_felix

Some girls don't like licking a guy's butt-hole even thought they like having theirs licked... Is she lame?

... Yes!


Quote by Magical_felix

How about ass to mouth? If I'm willing to lick a dildo that's been in a girls ass does it make the girl lame if she won't suck on my cock after anal sex?

... Yes!




Was I surprised by Dancing_Doll's answers? ...NO

But do the rest of you girls feel the same way? Does everything about sex have to be equal?

If a guy wants to fuck a girl in the ass must he be willing to have the girl shove a cucumber in his brown eye???

Must a guy swallow his own cum if he expects his girl too???

THESE are the pressing issues of the day!!!


Things don´t have to be equal. Everyone has things they like or dislike. If he expects me to do something though, and I don´t like the idea, then he shouldn´t push it if he wouldn´t done to them - I would hope there would be some sort of understanding.

Really, I don´t mind if a guy wants something stuck in his ass or not. Long as he is willing to stick things into mine, we can make things work.
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Do girls hate anal? I challenge the wording of the topic.
From my experience with women over many years most of my women have enjoyed anal intercourse - and without lube. Some come to like it so much they have asked for it rather than me suggesting it.

It is definitely a requirement that my partner is ready and willing.
I have never gone straight into anal - it has been part of love making, already lots of good sex, hard fucking, lots of bodily fluids and a sense of euphoria usually existed.
I would prepare my lady's buttonhole, usually having slid much of her own juices into her anus with my finger to work her up and prepare the muscles for penetration.

The best technique has been to remove my penis during vaginal intercourse so it is slippery and start pressing into her. A small amount, then back for more juice, then further in and so on.

Slowly, there is some resistance at first, but once there is no more friction, my lady feels good.

And good it is. It hits against the g spots, the anus is very sensitive, and my lady always has shuddering orgasms. Position is important, the back passage doesn't have the flexibility of the vagina and odd positions can simply feel uncomfortable. Spooning position works well and is intimate.

For women who like anal, they know what I mean and would never argue this topic.

For those who don't, arguing this topic reflects a bad experience or ignorance. They have not been treated the right way and don't know what they are missing out on. You do need a guy who is patient and willing, but the feeling is great for them also wiht the anus being such a tight fit.

I am all for it!
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I derive great pleasure from anal sex but I have to be in the mood for it. It doesn't happen every time with my bf but when it does I cum more than at any other time. I agree with the other posters in that I need to be with a partner I trust and I will usually be on top so that I can control it. And yes...lube him, lube youself and then lube some more!!!