You know when you read some erotic fiction, and the woman comes way more easily than real women come from real sex? For example, they come just from giving a guy a blow job, or from hearing him say her name, or him breathing on her clit.
I mean I like blow jobs but... Does that not make you feel really inadequate because your body doesn't do that? I'm pretty sure nobody's body does that. To me, it's the erotic fiction equivalent of size zero airbrushed models, and I refuse to believe that shit is real!
Well - I'm very responsive and often one orgasm isn't all I'm going to have. And it doesn't take a lot to get me there if I'm really turned on. Perhaps that means they're overall not as strong as other women's singular orgasms are.
I have, however, seen a dislike for it in Erotica so I do try to limit it. Sometimes I write it in, clinging to my sex reality, but most times I don't.
One thing I won't do, however, is write erotica without partners getting off with sex. People complain that it's unrealistic but there's nothing that turns me on about that reality.
Its not a matter of inadequacy hun, don't think of it that way. Everyone is different. Thats all. I do have orgasms that easily and trust me when I say that it can be problematic. What I mean is "turning it off".. well.. is difficult, near impossible and can seem a bit isolating when you are the only one "still going" and others are done. Once aroused, all it can take is simply walking, a cough, a sneeze.. and there it goes again. Sometimes it seems, as it usually does in life, that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. Sometimes I want one BIG one with a kick-ass finish and completion. But i am happy with my bodies response to stimuli... its all pleasure!
Kim
I can make myself cum really fast, like in a couple minutes. But I have never cum from giving a blow job or hearing my name, unless I am rubbing my clit or using a vibe or having my pussy licked while I am doing it. LOL!!
Depends on the story. Sometimes a story rooted in concrete realism is a good thing, and sometimes absurd fantasy is fun. A girl who cums and cums and cums can be an erotic set of imagery. In my own stories, I often answer them with men who can go again an and again, producing huge (often increasingly huge) loads the entire time. Fantasy is not reality, but can still be arousing. Reality can be just as arousing as fantasy too, so in my estimation it's really both sides of one coin.
Bonni
Some of us cum faster than others and some longer than others, but this was not intended to be a guide on how you should experience sex or have an orgasm.
Gosh, I think much of the rendering of the writer is fiction or at least with a good deal of embellishment. What I have been writing recently are from many years ago and while it is based in actual experience some of the detail may not be verifiable
I think erotic writing in this respect is the same as porn.
None of the guys have small cocks and women orgasm easily, hence the word fiction.
See, some of you all most had me believing your bodies really do that. It is fiction. Thankyou.
I write my stories based on non-fiction, and I hope that the reality of situations I am in comes through. Sometimes it doesn't go perfectly, just like life. Sure I embellish the stories to make them more readable, but I always try to make them totally realistic for the reader's benefit. That is also the kind of story I like to read... one that is totally believable. So I agree... the instant orgasm or whatever makes the story not that desirable to me to read. Just like the ones that tell us that people met, said hi, and started fucking within minutes. Sure, that can happen, but I have been alive for enough years to want to hear stories or accounts of what other people have gone through and are going through. I look for stories that I can put myself into as perhaps one of the characters. Sometimes that is really hard with some of the stuff I have read!
