In our house it depends on when and where. We don't turn the lights on if it's the middle of the night and we wake up horny. But if we're in the loungeroom, we don't turn them off.
" I don't know the question, but sex is definitely the answer"
Woody Allen
Sex in the dark can be fun. Just waking up in the middle of the night with his hand on my breast then letting nature take it's course. I used to have a real hang up about my vagina. Thought it was ugly and that others would find it so and insisted that we only made love in the dark. With help got over that and now I love sex in the light. Love to see my man's face as he cums.
Sex in total darkness makes fantasy building very easy. We live out in the countryside so at night it is totally black. I'm my mind I can make love to anyone! I'm sure hubby does the same
Deb x
Lights on or lights off, it doesn't matter to me. It depends on how I plan on teasing, but ultimately it doesn't matter. I do remember a time, right after having my son, where I was a bit self conscious. My husband put an end to that. A good partner can play a really positive role in that, or a negative one.
I told my girlfriend, if you want the lights off, then YOU close the car door.
The only time I have sex with the lights out is when I wake in the night and I want some. No point turning the lights on then! Sex in candlelight is lovely, I like that a lot but I do like the lights on, it's nice to see exactly what's going on! ;)
Removing any of the senses just heightens those remaining, having the lights off is the same as a blindfold- when you can't see, you focus on the other senses and what you can feel. For some, having the lights off might help confidence as well, as you can just enjoy everything without worrying about appearance but equally having the lights on allows the visual side of things to be more enjoyable. Up to the individual but mixing it up is preferable- lights off at night otherwise let's watch things unfold...
Until I know someone very well I'm self-conscious about my body
I like a darker room. Dim the lights. Doesn't have to be completely dark but I like a little darkness. Love candlelight. I have never had a partner complain about my body. I don't have the best body in the world. Formally a stick skinny girl who always had a nice ass and breasts. I had a child a couple years ago and that makes me more self conscious than anything. I long to be that sexy 28 year old body again. Getting there. Dimming the lights helps my mind not to focus on that. But so does alcohol.
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I guess first of all you have to assume that you only have sex at night or in rooms without windows. If it is dark I prefer some mood lighting, I want to see what is going on. Also I like my bod and am happy for him to enjoy it visually as well as all the other ways. And morning sex is great with the sunlight just beginning to stream in the room... Also I am afraid of the dark, Ha!
Having borne three children, I'm self-conscious about my numerous stretch marks. Doesn't mean that I won't make love in the light, just means that I'm more comfortable with dim lights or no lights.
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I have a few body imperfections that I rather not have showcased by the sun/lighting. However, that feeling eases with the passage of time, and the maturity from a partner. Once I overcome that, I still prefer lower lighting because it feels more sensual and arousing to me. Lighting can be so terminal. What I can almost see increases my anticipation and heightens my senses. Last night, I was in a low lit room and blind folded, but that is for a totally different thread.....
like most have stated, it could be a matter of some body insecurities or simply for convenience. i for one don't like the look of my body under glaring fluorescent lights. MUCH more prefer dim lighting or a soft pink bulb. during middle of the night romps, why would you turn the lights on?
Maybe it's easier for a girl to fantasize about being with a different guy than the guy who's actually screwing her when she can't see him? :-) Every guy I've ever been with wants to see my body, so sex in the dark is rarely an option for me, except when we both wake up in the middle of the night horny.
I agree with Bethany, it must be a fantasy type of thing or worse a lack of confidence. I prefer to see and be seen!
I had a friend once who would only ever make love to his wife with the lights off. One day, she turned the lights on, only to discover that he had been using a strap-on dildo on her.
"You fucking cheating bastard," she screamed.
"That's rich, calling me a fucking cheat, how do you explain the three kids we've got!" He retorted.
And the moral of the story is ... your answers please.
With my GF, we will have sex with the lights off from time to time...maybe just a bit of moonglow, coming thru the shutters, or the soft glow of the face of the clock......we both find it extremely erotic to make love in the dark.....anyway, after awhile, your eyes get used to the dark and you can still see a little bit. If you have never done it, you should try it. We have even had sex in my walk-in closet before, because once we close that door, it is really dark in there...just seems so sensual to do it in the dark.
Anyway, thats my two cents
For the same reason they always shut their eyes.
They just can't stand to see you enjoying yourself.
None of you guys told me that I was not allowed to loving Fucking in the broad daylight.
You should be ashamed of yourselves
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