Hello people, I was walking my cyber-dog and came across this thread.
I take things here one step at a time. Cyber-marriage is still too early for me. First, I'm planning to rent a cyber-apartment here on Lush. There's a nice one that has been offered to me ; it's a nice cozy place just between Art & Entertainment and En Vogue, which I think is practical since it's pretty much located in the trendiest part of Lush-City. It fits my cyber-lifestyle. I'll have to check my cyber-budget though, as my current cyber-career (polling in the Ask the Gals neighborhood) is not that lucrative. I thought about offering my services as a cyber stand-up comedian in The Pub as a sideline job. Worst case scenario I'll be the cyber-janitor in the Hardcore section for a while.
But seriously...
I just don't understand the phenomenon. In general, I just browse the forums rapidly and create on average 2-10 posts per day, and I'm already starting to think that I'm investing too much of my real-life time on Lush. I mean, the interactions with people here are very limited ; you can't cuddle, kiss or fuck, let alone 'build' something together (eg. living together, having children, etc). Hell, you can't even have dinner or watch a movie together. The only things you can do is exchange words, opinions, ideas and vague feelings (and maybe offer visual stimulation through Skype), so why not just call it intimate friendship?
Sorry to those who actually participate in those things, but personally I just don't get it.
I got invited to one once. I didn't log in because it would have been 3am my time, and I usually have FAR better things to do at that time of day. Seriously, though, to me it all sounds like attention seeking bollocks. I would like to read a post from someone who has actually got 'married' and hear their point of view, and what it meant to them.
Erm, I personally wouldn't do it, however I wouldn't date someone from Lush again either. I've learned that lesson. But, someone did mention something about Role playing and I can understand that side of it, but on a place like Lush? Not so much, go find an actual role playing site for that. I've been invited to a few Lush weddings (two) and didn't attend either because I hardly knew the people. If this is a serious thing, why are you going to invite people who are basically strangers? Doesn't sound so serious to me. But, who am I to judge? I just won't go to them. Unless, of course, it's a friend I'm very close with.
MUSICIAN AVAILABLE
Will cyber-play for cyber weddings.
50% of cyber-fee due at time of contract. Non-refundable without 30 days notice.
And, no, I NOT play The Chicken Dance, Proud Mary, or Jeremiah Ate a Fucking Bullfrog - I will play the version of Joy To The World that Isaac Watts wrote lyrics for in 1719 though, if you want that.
Edited to add the following:
And I won't play the jingoistic, chauvinistic "Proud To Ba An American" (real title, God Bless The U.S.A), either.
Seriously, though - My immediate reaction to this question is "Not only no, but Hell, no!". But would I form a lasting friendship? Sure - I have with some Lushies, and given the chance, I'd happily meet them IRL.
"There's only three tempos: slow, medium and fast. When you get between in the cracks, ain't nuthin' happenin'." Ben Webster
I was approached on here recently by someone that wanted the online marriage thing. I ran a mile, laughing with every step.
My immediate reaction to the idea was that they were joking. Then when it became clear they weren't I just couldn't get to grips with the idea. To me it seems to make a mockery of both the idea of marriage and the reason for joining a site like this.
I'm still completely confuzzled by the subject. But, if some people want that, crack on. I just hope I never receive an invitation to one, I wouldn't be able to stop myself falling off my cyber-pew with laughter.
sprite wrote:
marriage is for suckers.
Amen
Probably - after 43 years (....!)
(As it's often been said - I'd have got less for Murder...!!)
I was recently asked to officiate a cyber wedding. I was completely floored. First, I am not even that good friends with either party and yet they wanted me to write something and attend their "Cyber Wedding."
I told them that I could not commit to something like that. As I am a mother and wife and cannot commit to a time of day that I could officiate a pretend marriage.
This person is on my friends list but its not like we talk and I don't even really know him or his cyber wife.
I mean how could I make this "Cyber Wedding" special if I don't even know the people.
To each is own....
This is my first year here. I have already seen couples come and go.
I see the hurt in stories and poems from these people and I have see the speed in which they hook up with another semi permanent partner.
I think Honesty is more important to me then any said relationship status. That is what works for me.
Others need to look after themselves. its their lives, their worlds and their happiness not mine. Respect, Grace and friendship without judgement is what Lush to me is all about.
And, let's not forget the anger/disbelief/temper tantrums that get posted on some threads about the jerk/jerkette. Seems like a right merry-go-round with some.
I totally agree with this assessment
