Quote by kornslayer1
Especially when a guy uses a woman's pic, what's the point of that?
enough said...Quote by overmykneenow
As I've on mentioned on another thread recently, having a picture of a woman can get you up to twice as many votes on a story regardless of the actual sex of the author. It just works.
It also gets you more profile views: 9 of the 20 most visited male profiles have a picture of a woman as the av.
Quote by JohnC
I personally don't care what folks use as their AV as long as it is withing the forum rules. But with that said, I do have to sit back and shake my head when members act like the AV IS THEM, and others interact as if it is, even knowing they look NOTHING like the AV. I get the whole fantasy aspect of it, but I just can't go that far myself. I prefer to have a real mental image of the person if possible.
But there are folks who go farther than just the Avatars being not them, they fill their profiles with pictures that are not them either.... which is not bad in itself, UNLESS they try to pass themselves off as those pictures; and many DO. And what is worse is that there are members who use the same images as OTHER members (none being the real person). And no one calls them on it, but acts like it is all real and fine and well. LOL Oh well.
Yeah, I started out with certain ideas about LUSH when I joined and learned the do's and don'ts, as well as the quirks and different odd aspects we see. People come here for different reasons. And the key is to identify those reasons and make sure you interact with others who have the same basic expectations and desires for their time here on LUSH.
Now I do my thing, and let the current pass me by... like tubing on a river.
Quote by Aidin
I agree John C. There are questions of authenticity, truth and personal presentation as someone a person is NOT, and that involves deceit. If this site is to work well, it must, as it is set up to do, allow people to present their TRUE feelings and dreams that they themselves can only presently freely here.
So to lead someone to believe you are someone you are not really not only goes against fair play, but also goes against the nature of the site: for people to freely express what they truly are and not have to play the same games they have to in real life, we must be trustworthy. This site is supposed to allow us to escape from real life.
There is the expression that someone can "take his/her job home with them." It is a sad reality in many homes.
Same goes for our places to escape to for our own well being. This is one of them. It is as if we bring the ways of the world in here with us when we deceitfully let others think we are more than we really are, or other than what we are. It really spoils it for all of us.
It makes everyone distrust everyone else.
A decent man for example is looked at with the same jaundiced eye and mistrust that a person worthy of suspicion should be. It isw easy to understand why but at the same time very frustrating to have to prove to a new lady friend that you are not out to deceive them or misuse them.
I am being honest when I say that many/if not most of the women here are very concerned about
who they can trust among the men, and as a man I am very concerned about the same thing I
have experienced with women. It is the real reason why I carefully choose friends, and always keep my list to 4-10 people I know are genuine and truthful. I have been deceived. We men are not immune to the abuse.
But, in my humble opinion, what is most important here is that it remain a place that is fun to come to! That is hard to do as fully as those who set this site up intended it to be, when there is so much deceit/false representation.
I pray that my words help clarify the issue involved in a way that is good for the site and its members. If it does not, I am humble enough to be taught to see things more clearly.
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Quote by BikeBoy
Wait a sec here, are you telling me that not only are some of the cute/hot avatar photos possibly a misrepresentation of the person "behind the mask" but also some of the hottest female photos used as avatars are actually posted by guys?
Dude, you're wrecking my online experience with a dose of reality and that's just not fair.
cracked myself laughing... Quote by trinket
These threads always amaze me. In my opinion, people are being unrealistic if they come to a site such as this or similar, expecting everyone to be telling the truth about what they look like or what type of person they are. It's a fantasy site, the stories are fantasy. I think for some people Lush is a site to get away from their 'real lives' for a little while. It's a place where they can be who they want to be. Sure, there are also a lot of people who show pictures of their real selves and are open and honest about who they are. Personally I think you are burying your head in the sand if you think everyone should be doing the same.
I'm not advocating people should mislead others. I think it's up to the member to use their own discretion to determine if they think someone is a fake or not. It's not anyone else's responsibility but your own to do that and you take that risk when you go to any internet site. I've encountered fakes, a lot of people here have and it bites, but you learn something from it and be more careful next time.
I'd like to add that 'outing' people you believe to be fakes won't solve anything either, in fact it could blow up in the 'outers' face. Nowadays on the internet any picture of anyone can show up anywhere. Look at tumblr. Just because you might see a pic on tumblr that you've seen on a profile here, doesn't mean it's not actually their picture.
I remember hearing about someone being 'outed' quite some time ago as a user of fake internet pics. The fact was, they were her pictures and she had an agent who took care of her modelling pics for whatever it was she was modelling. Just because someone might be young and good looking, doesn't mean they don't have their own reasons for being here. I know this is a rare case, but as for pictures being seen on tumblr, that is not rare.
As far as I'm aware the intent of this site is for writing and reading erotic literature. I can't see how that has anything to do with what a member looks like. Anything else a member might choose to do is irrelevant isn't it? "To not have to play the same games as we have to in real life?" Surely you don't expect everyone to be trustworthy here when we can't even find that in real life? You said it best yourself "This site is supposed to allow us to escape from real life." and some people use it for exactly that reason.
Aiden, the only reason I've quoted you is because your thoughts are similar to those of a lot of people here. Not to address your opinions specifically
Quote by SydneySider
Sure, don't write your suburb, but lying about the country doesn't make much sense.
as far as avs, I mix between a couple of pic of my boobs to avs that aren't of me. I do however write on my profile whether the picture is of me or not. I don't think of it as putting a fake front up nor do I think it of other people. I don't put anything but my boobs up for privacy and career reasons. 
