I hope i'm posting this in the right place. My wife and i are interested in bringing others into our bedroom, in various ways. MMF, MFF, MMFF, etc. I think we are most interested in bringing in another woman to start with. The problem we are running into is that we don't really know anyone in our personal lives that is into it, and we don't really want to just go pick up random people for it. We would prefer it to be people we can hang out with, as well has have the potential for fun in the bedroom. More a friends situation than a one night stand if that makes sense. We feel it will be better that way, being as we are new to this. We want to make sure that all are comfortable.
What i'm trying to find out is where to find someone for things like this. We've checked out several swingers websites, but haven't had much success there yet. Any advice would be appreciated.
well if any of your frieds are bi you should ask them thats what my fiance and i did. it was a good friend of mine who happened to be his ex
As i said, we don't have any friends who are into it. And besides that, i don't know that i would want to involve our existing friends in this, as we haven't had that type of relationship with them in the past, so i feel we're better off finding new friends who may be open to this.
SLS (swinglifestyle) is another place to visit. If you go to a hotel party or a house party (usually pressure free if they know you are just checking it out) it allows you to get a feel for folks too. You will also be able to find friends that are attracted to you and vise verse. Getting to see folks in person is way better than seeing pics. It is quite common for folks to lie about age, and weight/size......Being str8 up with folks wins you brownie post that you never knew existed. Also, it is not uncommon at all to go to a swinger event and just stay with your partner. It is very titillating and can lead to some great sex with the one you love the most anyway.....
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thank you guys. yes i have already signed us up on SLS,, but so far no luck but we will see.
Mate we have done the swingers sites with sucess but you could try going to a swingers club you dont have to play there but you,mite meet some couples or swingers to hook up with later , we also meet for coffee with the people we played with first just to get to know them to,see if we like them and they are what they say they are because there are a lot of bullshitters out there happy hunting mate good luck
I think it is easier to find another couple to play with then it is to find a woman for a 3some. Most couples my husband and I have meet have been at a club or at a party. Of course the other man will want to fuck your wife so you have to be ready for that. The only women I have been able to find are ones I work with that are younger.
Sometimes It's better to start with strangers 1, because there's no attachment at first 2, to make sure that things are right for both of you. Then once you both happy that your doing the right thing you can move on to finding a trustworthy person or couple that your both fully happy with. That's how my Wife and I started.
Bringing normal friends into the mix is a potential disaster waiting to happen. And finding a single woman is like finding a unicorn, hence the name for single bi women into couples.
We visited a swingers club and went onto a website for liberated adults and found a couple with similar interests. First and foremost, make sure you discuss any limits you may have for your first time and stick to them.
A few of the couples we met have now become good friends.
I'm the 'other man' to a married couple. I can input my experience. I'd know the wife for many years, we often worked together. They had shared before, always with only one man in a relationship that lasted for a few years. They wanted to start a new arrangement having not had one for a while, and jointly decided on me - it was her suggestion as I didn't really know the hubby very well. It was a surprise to me! I had no idea they played that way. It has worked well for us all. She does come and see me alone, with his full knowledge and encouragement, and the three of us get together as well. When we do he largely watches, with a little interaction with her.
I think it is more important for you to find the right person rather than whether they are a friend now or not. We've turned out to be very compatible. It is a respectful, exclusive arrangement that gives what we individually want. Lucky us! I'd concentrate on what the third person needs to be for it to work, then move to where you may find that person. If it is a friend, remember they may be surprised about what you!
I've written about how it happened (fictionalised) for me, and some of the emotions that come along, in my 'Our Arrangement' series - see my stories if you want to.
I wish you all the luck because when it works, it is a fantastically liberating feeling, no guilt, just pleasure. R
It's been 7 year since Inkslinger ask his original question. I see he was last logged on only a month ago though. If he comes back, I just wondered how he was getting along?
Hi why not ty visiting a lifestyle club just go and enjoy the atmosphere dress eroticaly or undress if that is the norm for the club. See how you feel
