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Dreamer90
Over 90 days ago
Lesbian Female, 33
Germany

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Quote by Ghostreader


But the problem is that I'm still a virgin. I never been with a woman that way before.

What you said that I "WANT" to have sex with her. I do and I don't, one, I want to remain friends with her. Two, I would love to know what sex feel's like and want her to take it. But even now I do feel shitty because I don't know if I should or not.


The question I think you should ask yourself first is why you wanna have sex with her. Do you just wanna have sex with anyone? Or do you actually have feelings for her? Because sex can just be sex, but rarely is especially with friends or the first time.

Sex can ruin friendships. It will definitely change it. No one can make the decision for you you should think about it maybe talk with your friend.

To the raised question about her sexuality:
Sexuality is fluid and I don't think experimenting makes you less of a lesbian. Just like not every girl that ever hooked up with a girl is bi. In the end it is personal and not our place to judge or decide.
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Quote by daddysweetheart
I was using the new feature of trying to change my avatar with a picture already uploaded and I got an error message.

it won't let me pick my picture so I just uploaded the pic I wanted.



I had the same problem.
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I would not not read your story because you are inexperienced. In some ways that can be an advantage, because you don't get lost in the details of encounters you have had and can actually create a good fantasy, which is the important think.
However people probably won't know about your sexual history, when reading your story, so don't worry. And even if they know it wouldn't stop me from reading.
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I don't think too many details are a good thing in a sex story. Of course we need you to paint a picture, but in the end we all have our preferences and on of the best things about stories is that they actually allow your imagination to color in the details. Make the people fit my ideals. So it is a fine line between enough detail to give us a picture and just enough so you can fill in the blanks.
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I would say about 50/50 depending on the week. However I spent most of my time on lush not reading lol. I have too many people to talk to by now.
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If I had to choose I probably would say female, but that isn't really the issue. What is more important to me is that the narrator feels real. Men and women have very subtle differences in the ways they express themselves and that can be hard to adjust as an author. It is more important that the narrators gender fits to the story than what that gender actually is.
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I want a story that to some extend makes me care about the characters. I want to understand what is going through there heads. The mere act is less important than the desire and the lust driving it. I wanna experience what those naughty words and touches do to them.
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I prefer the Verdana font, because it is easier to read for me on a smartphone screen. Where are the studies? I don't have any, but it is my experience and so non needed. The reason for that actually is that he words are further apart and I can read with more ease.
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I score every story I read and people start out with a 3. While I am reading I adjust the score depending on style, character development, imagery, word choice ...
I do my best to be objective and don't let subject matter or style choice like point of view affect me. however i am human and can't guarantee that.
I also leave a comment most of the time and always try to helpful and encouraging.
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Quote by TraceEkies
Do away with numeric voting.

If you like it, click on a 'like' button. If you don't - do nothing.

Vote count becomes 'like' count. I think most of us go by that anyway.

Right now if a story has fifty '5' votes and one '4' vote, it is ranked below a story that has twelve '5' votes. If I want to move my 'twelve fives' up, all I have to do is vote a '4' on the stories above me. Even if it had a hundred fives, it is now below me. And who's to say it's not a legitimate vote. I don't think there is any story on here that is so perfect that a '4' vote could not be justified.



I personally like the numeric voting system. However after starting to vote on a few stories I set up some criteria that I follow before giving my score. i have seen that a lot of people vote '5' en mass with no differentiation between a truly great story and an ok story. i get that you don't wanna discourage someone, but I think feedback should be honest. And not everyone that posts a story on here is an amazing author. Some are just ok and therefore their stories deserve a rating as good. So a like button probably would be better - more honest in some ways.
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I have had that issue too. I solved that by just closing the tab.
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Quote by drizdart
I was thinking yesterday of options when in a back-and-forth conversation via black boxes. Any chance of
* having a choice of putting the "newest" box at the top of the list instead of at the bottom?
* having a box closing by either the x or the reply be closed in all of the open tabs?
* putting the "close all" option at BOTH the top and the bottom of the series?

I continue to appreciate the work on the site -- it already is much more enjoyable than many.


Those are really great, because those black boxes can really get out of hand. Especially putting the newest box on top would be very helpful.
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I was on the swimming team in high school, which means I have showered with hundreds of girls in communal showers. However nothing naughty ever happened. At least nothing I perceived that way.
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A little bit of an emotional turn down after an orgasm can be normal. However what you described sounds quite far from that. There was an article in New York Times that might be interesting to you, where a therapist describes having patients with a similar reaction. I am adding the link for you.
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/01/20/health/views/20mind.html?_r=0
I hope this is helpful to you in any way.

xoxo
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Quote by Arcane
I have two suggestions:
1) Update the graphics. I personally find the graphics a little too...2006. I'm not suggesting the interface should be changed, just the appearance. The red on white theme works well, however looks a bit dated.

2) Instead of a timeline review, I think a notifications tab on the top bar would be more convenient. I'm pinching the idea from Facebook simply because it's functional and works well.


1) I have to agree. The graphics could be updated. I wouldn't change the color scheme, because it has become lush stories, but especially the forum looks very out of date and doesn't seem to fit with the rest of the site. I also wonder if there is a lush logo. I don't think you need something fancy just something like a white LS on red ground as a part of the lush brand. It could be used in many ways. For example as an avatar for the birthday posts that non avatar looks a bit weird or in promotional things like the twitter or Facebook site or in articles that mention lush.
Amendment: I just saw there actually is a lush logo used for the android app. So you could just pull that one and use it for those things.

2) I kind of like the timeline, but that is just me.

Amendment:
I just found out there actually is a lush android app. Amazing! However it took my over 7 months to accidentally stumble over that information. You should think about making that information easier to find. Like including it into the welcome email.
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Quote by nicola


An overhaul of the search feature has been on the cards for a long time. It's unfortunately still on the to-do list.

I would like to see many more features too. In particular:

- Search for Word 1 AND Word 2 AND Word 3 (perhaps up to 4-5 keywords).

- Add exclusion words (NOT containing "Scat" )



Hey there,

I might have misunderstood this, but I think it would be better to use simple +/-/" " as extra search options the way google does instead of actually having to type out and and not.
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Thank you very much for the quick response. I think I opened a can of worms, because ones I started thinking about this I kept noticing things.

1) I know many people use lush on their phones or tablets and so do I on occasion. While the drop down menus work well on a computer they don't on my phone. I was wondering if it was possible to add a button that would bring you instantly to your profile page.

2) That I have the possibility to blog is one of my favorite features on lush. And my friends can see my latest blog post on their friend list, which is pretty cool. However I would like to have it represented on my profile, so everyone can see it. I know some people might not like it, so there should be the possibility of showing it in the settings.

3) And if you did that you could actually kill the pictures and videos from the activity feed, which would give it a cleaner look and make the profile page easier to navigate. Because all other activities are informative and I can choose to click on them, but the sometimes 20 pictures on some peoples pages are overwhelming. So instead of actually showing the picture it could just say: 'Published a new blog' and then a click would bring me to their blog site.

Those are just some things that bothered me, while using lush. I am hoping my views are helpful in any way.

xoxo

P.S.: Those instructions would be very helpful. =d>
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Like all kinds of sex, phone sex can be great if done right. It can be a way to connect over distance or even used as foreplay on your drive home from work. I think it should be playful and enjoyable and mutual. I like when it develops naturally out of conversation. Sometimes I just start to play with myself and let my partner figure out what is going on, other times I tell that person what I would love to do right now and i even have masturbated and then called the person i thought about and came on the phone. So phone sex can be a lot of fun and has tons of variations.
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I don't care. i think the age is the least important thing, when it comes to a partner. However I think younger than parents older than children is a good range and minimizes awkward conversations.
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You shouldn't douche with any kind of product, because it destroys your natural bacteria. A healthy vagina is actually the cleanest part of your body. If you wanna us water to remove blood or semen that is fine. It actually can be necessary as those can alter the pH levels and heighten the risk of yeast infections. As for a bad smell or taste those are casued most of the time by a lack of good bacteria, becasue people douched and stuff. If that is the case there are pills you can take or goat milk soap you can use to get them back.
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Jeans or shorts if it is hot. I like my legs, but skirts are just not me.
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I am in my early twenties and most of the girls I have talked with have masturbated at least a few times. However once you talk to older women it seems to happen a less lot or they just recently started.
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First of all read some stories. If you still think you can write a good masturbation story. I would go through my memories and recall the times a woman has masturbated for you. What did she do. How did she react. To give you an even more vivid picture. Once you have an idea and maybe an outline of your story you should talk to a woman, someone who can help you develop your characters perspective.
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I am assuming you mean panties, because it never ocurred to me to match my bra and pants. And then not unless someone is going to see them. I am too lazy most mornings to match. Very hard to do with closed eyes anyways.
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I like my breasts. They would probably more practical smaller, but you have to work with what you got.