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Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 59
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Has your partner indicated how he/she wants you to be more dominant? Does it involve BDSM or just being more aggressive? Has he/she mentioned anything specific that he/she would like?
Start out slowly, pay close attention, and see what things he/she gets excited about and enjoys. In your spare time when you're not distracted and have the time to talk and possibly follow up with some sex play, pull out some erotic photos, videos or stories on the spicier side and ask, "What do you think of this?" Better yet, flat out ask, "What would you like me to do that will really turn you on?"
Responsible partners entering BDSM relationships will go over a checklist of things they have done, would like to do, and things they would not like to do (hard limits). It sounds unromantic and very impersonal, but it will help you gauge how far you can take things.
Good luck!
Start out slowly, pay close attention, and see what things he/she gets excited about and enjoys. In your spare time when you're not distracted and have the time to talk and possibly follow up with some sex play, pull out some erotic photos, videos or stories on the spicier side and ask, "What do you think of this?" Better yet, flat out ask, "What would you like me to do that will really turn you on?"
Responsible partners entering BDSM relationships will go over a checklist of things they have done, would like to do, and things they would not like to do (hard limits). It sounds unromantic and very impersonal, but it will help you gauge how far you can take things.
Good luck!
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It really depends on the mood between me and my partner. There was one night when the tension built up for about an hour of rough and wild sex followed y a break and went back for more. There have been times when it was an entire evening of touching, holding, exploring and finding every magical way to have intercourse.
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What makes me squirt is all about the man I'm with. He has to know what he's doing and he has to be aggressive.
It doesn't happen all the time, even if the sex is great. I've had it happen as many as three times in one night when I've soaked the sheets all the way through the mattress pad.
It doesn't happen all the time, even if the sex is great. I've had it happen as many as three times in one night when I've soaked the sheets all the way through the mattress pad.
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Another blog post I wrote about gushing: Ms. Q & A: My Wife is Afraid to Gush.
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Here's another article I wrote about gushing, Ms. Q & A: My Wife is Afraid to Gush.
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I have two days out of the month in which I don't go ballistic, but all the Paxil and martinis in the world can't make that kind of ugly go away. Is it that time of the month for her?
My s/o knows exactly what's going on. He'll take about a half hour to be very patient with me and address whatever situation I'm having until I calm down. He's a gem.
I'm sure he's probably grateful that we live 2,700 miles from each other at those times, too!
My s/o knows exactly what's going on. He'll take about a half hour to be very patient with me and address whatever situation I'm having until I calm down. He's a gem.
I'm sure he's probably grateful that we live 2,700 miles from each other at those times, too!
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I just posted my latest blog article, Sex Toys Around the House. Are there any I may have missed? (I'm sure there are!)
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With my lover, absolutely yes! He is incredibly responsive.
However, there are times I've felt that it was an absolute chore ... like when a man just sits there or lays there and doesn't move around or say anything or moan or make any kind of noise that signifies that he's enjoying it.
However, there are times I've felt that it was an absolute chore ... like when a man just sits there or lays there and doesn't move around or say anything or moan or make any kind of noise that signifies that he's enjoying it.
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I just published a post on my blog about this about a month ago.
In case the link doesn't post, here's the article:
Gushing. Squirting. Female ejaculation. Whatever you call it, I’m baffled by why there’s so little information there is about it, and the information I have found ranges from doubtful to misinformed (see Wikipedia) to downright crazy (it’s ancient?).
Personally, I’ve only gushed a relative handful of times, and only with my current lover.
This past weekend, it happened three times in the same session. All we could think was, “Wow!”
Having gushed like that and only having gushed with him, I didn’t know anyone I could ask besides him how common it is. He said it’s only happened with two other women, and that one of them could do it on demand. (I really didn’t want to hear that exact detail, but I did ask.)
I wish I could say how and why it happens to me. I really can’t. I can’t will it to happen emotionally or physically like I can when I orgasm. I can’t feel a specific buildup like I do when I come, although it does come at times of extremely intense arousal and when my lover is making contact with my G-spot with his fingers or his cock. A gush of hot, watery, clear fluid just blasts out of me and thoroughly drenches him, me and the sheets. I’m not talking about a tiny spot; I’m talking about both of us having to sleep on a pretty large section of the bed that’s soaked well through the sheets and the mattress pad. After it happens, by no means am I mentally or physically drained after I gush.
I came across one video by a man who purported to be able to teach men how to make their women gush. I’d say he has the technique down, but as a gusher, I can’t say it’s a surefire way. It doesn’t always happen according to his directions, even when our lovemaking is scorching-the-sheets hot.
What blows my mind most is that physicians and other scientists know little about female ejaculation. According to Dr. Laura Berman, “Since 2000, an increasing number of researchers have suggested the liquid may come from the Skene’s glands, which are located on the anterior wall of the vagina around the lower end of the urethra. But the truth is we simply don’t know where ejaculate comes from …”
Excuse me … “We simply don’t know where ejaculate comes from”??? Hell, it sounds as if the medical community isn’t even sure if Skene’s glands exist. The lack of findings and credible explanations I have come across is simply mind-blowing … almost as mind-blowing as gushing three times in less than a half hour … almost as mind-blowing as how I could gush that much and that often yet not gush for months, if not years at a time. What kind of answer could I expect from my gynecologist? In this day and age, is the female anatomy still that much of a mystery?
At the same time, having gushed the way I did was quite an extraordinary experience for both of us … as was the all the fun that led up to it.
In case the link doesn't post, here's the article:
Gushing. Squirting. Female ejaculation. Whatever you call it, I’m baffled by why there’s so little information there is about it, and the information I have found ranges from doubtful to misinformed (see Wikipedia) to downright crazy (it’s ancient?).
Personally, I’ve only gushed a relative handful of times, and only with my current lover.
This past weekend, it happened three times in the same session. All we could think was, “Wow!”
Having gushed like that and only having gushed with him, I didn’t know anyone I could ask besides him how common it is. He said it’s only happened with two other women, and that one of them could do it on demand. (I really didn’t want to hear that exact detail, but I did ask.)
I wish I could say how and why it happens to me. I really can’t. I can’t will it to happen emotionally or physically like I can when I orgasm. I can’t feel a specific buildup like I do when I come, although it does come at times of extremely intense arousal and when my lover is making contact with my G-spot with his fingers or his cock. A gush of hot, watery, clear fluid just blasts out of me and thoroughly drenches him, me and the sheets. I’m not talking about a tiny spot; I’m talking about both of us having to sleep on a pretty large section of the bed that’s soaked well through the sheets and the mattress pad. After it happens, by no means am I mentally or physically drained after I gush.
I came across one video by a man who purported to be able to teach men how to make their women gush. I’d say he has the technique down, but as a gusher, I can’t say it’s a surefire way. It doesn’t always happen according to his directions, even when our lovemaking is scorching-the-sheets hot.
What blows my mind most is that physicians and other scientists know little about female ejaculation. According to Dr. Laura Berman, “Since 2000, an increasing number of researchers have suggested the liquid may come from the Skene’s glands, which are located on the anterior wall of the vagina around the lower end of the urethra. But the truth is we simply don’t know where ejaculate comes from …”
Excuse me … “We simply don’t know where ejaculate comes from”??? Hell, it sounds as if the medical community isn’t even sure if Skene’s glands exist. The lack of findings and credible explanations I have come across is simply mind-blowing … almost as mind-blowing as gushing three times in less than a half hour … almost as mind-blowing as how I could gush that much and that often yet not gush for months, if not years at a time. What kind of answer could I expect from my gynecologist? In this day and age, is the female anatomy still that much of a mystery?
At the same time, having gushed the way I did was quite an extraordinary experience for both of us … as was the all the fun that led up to it.
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I am not talking about sex ladies ... talking about attraction
how can a guy get the chance to know you, whole you.. what make him get in the right path
Conversation and seeing how a man makes an effort in an effortless way to try to capture my attention and then my heart.
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1. A man who is fond of me and treats me decently.
If a man can't afford to pay for a woman and/or himself when he asks her out, he shouldn't be dating.
If a man has a large penis and doesn't know what to do with it, that's a problem. (My ex-husband of 12 years.)
If a man can't afford to pay for a woman and/or himself when he asks her out, he shouldn't be dating.
If a man has a large penis and doesn't know what to do with it, that's a problem. (My ex-husband of 12 years.)
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Yes. It's happened to me. Twice, and I'm currently seeing a man I first met on a non-sex discussion board 16 years ago. It's complicated (long-distance), we only get to see each other two months, but it's the most wonderful (often we say unbelievable) love affair imaginable.
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Online, not likely. I don't mind having a private conversation OUTSIDE of cyber/phone/text/Skype sex, but I don't have time to waste getting sexy with someone who lives hundreds or thousands of miles away I'll never meet. It's not my thing.
Offline, get to know the whole me, not just the erotica writer/sex blogger side of me. Flirt with me, romance me. Make an effort to woo me in an effortless way. If common interests, personalities, values and chemistry don't mesh, the sex thing is never going to happen.
Offline, get to know the whole me, not just the erotica writer/sex blogger side of me. Flirt with me, romance me. Make an effort to woo me in an effortless way. If common interests, personalities, values and chemistry don't mesh, the sex thing is never going to happen.