I can look at any woman and say to myself... nice legs, nice ass, pretty face etc and keep walking
But if she turns and we lock eyes and she smiles. That's the grabber... every time. (for me)
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Pretzel
Over 90 days ago
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I find this to be a loaded question in most cases.
I've seen a LOT of women complain that all we do is stare at their tits when what they were wearing was CLEARLY intended to draw attention to their tits.
That's like hanging a pork chop in front of a dog and saying what's wrong with this dog? all he wants is that pork chop?
The truth, if you are actually looking for it, is that ALL guys look at the whole package at first. Face, hair, eyes, boobs, ass, legs, how your dressed, health, etc.(just like women do with men) BUT.. if you are putting something on display... don't blame us if we gravitate towards that.
I've seen a LOT of women complain that all we do is stare at their tits when what they were wearing was CLEARLY intended to draw attention to their tits.
That's like hanging a pork chop in front of a dog and saying what's wrong with this dog? all he wants is that pork chop?
The truth, if you are actually looking for it, is that ALL guys look at the whole package at first. Face, hair, eyes, boobs, ass, legs, how your dressed, health, etc.(just like women do with men) BUT.. if you are putting something on display... don't blame us if we gravitate towards that.
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I think most women will give you some indication if they are willing to try it. maybe allowing a little anal teasing with fingers etc during foreplay. If you *cough cough* accidentally touched her there and she reacted quicky and negatively, id be pretty certain that was off limits for good.
I did convince one girl to try it. She was certain she wasn't going to enjoy it but she did ;-). She was a little embarrassed in fact that she did.
I did convince one girl to try it. She was certain she wasn't going to enjoy it but she did ;-). She was a little embarrassed in fact that she did.
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We have one of each in our household
the Mrs likes the iPhone and i love my android
Personally i cannot stand iTunes. for anything or any reason. It is some of the worst software I have ever used. Imo the only thing iTunes does well, is track what you have purchased through iTunes. The rest is a nightmare.
i have yet to be disappointed with my android apps
Love my android phone. I could do a commercial for this thing.
the Mrs likes the iPhone and i love my android
Personally i cannot stand iTunes. for anything or any reason. It is some of the worst software I have ever used. Imo the only thing iTunes does well, is track what you have purchased through iTunes. The rest is a nightmare.
i have yet to be disappointed with my android apps
Love my android phone. I could do a commercial for this thing.
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You have said that kissing and holding hands is what you have been doing so far.
Most of the responses here have been about him going down on you. That seems a pretty big jump to me.
I think showing him how to touch you with his fingers might be a better first step.
If i may offer you a piece of advice from a guy with a few years on him.
Set the boundaries you two want and make them clear so he can avoid any frustration and ultimately any animosity. Testosterone is a hell of a thing. The drive behind it can be overwhelming for a guy at times.
Most of the responses here have been about him going down on you. That seems a pretty big jump to me.
I think showing him how to touch you with his fingers might be a better first step.
If i may offer you a piece of advice from a guy with a few years on him.
Set the boundaries you two want and make them clear so he can avoid any frustration and ultimately any animosity. Testosterone is a hell of a thing. The drive behind it can be overwhelming for a guy at times.
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It wouldn't bother me
I have some scars too from when I was young and it took me a long while to start wearing shorts again. Then i finally got tired of walking around in long pants when it's hot outside and said FUCK YOU WORLD DEAL WITH IT!
turned out no one cared and i spent years sweating my ass off when i could have been wearing shorts. occasionally someone would ask how i got it but it was just simple conversation.
I think it might be therapeutic for you to post pix of these scars so we can show you how little it matters.
nothing naughty just the scars
I have some scars too from when I was young and it took me a long while to start wearing shorts again. Then i finally got tired of walking around in long pants when it's hot outside and said FUCK YOU WORLD DEAL WITH IT!
turned out no one cared and i spent years sweating my ass off when i could have been wearing shorts. occasionally someone would ask how i got it but it was just simple conversation.
I think it might be therapeutic for you to post pix of these scars so we can show you how little it matters.
nothing naughty just the scars
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I like the diversity shown in the replies here.
For me it depends on my mood.
Yes, there are a lot of times where my focus is on making her feel as into it as possible. Mostly because that turns me of. A lot. The more into it she is the more into i am and it snowballs into the hot and heavy climax. This does not answer your question exactly though does it? I'm not sure I can put that into words in this situation because it becomes so intense that I'm not even thinking about anything except how good it feels. If i could manage a coherent thought when she orgasms for me it might sound a bit silly out of context. I suspect that's why there is a lot of grunting and groaning and screaming in sex.
There are other times when I'm not at all concerned with her pleasure to be honest. Ripping down her panties and bending her over whatever is closest is not uncommon for me and in those instances my thoughts are pretty much what you might think they are. Things like... "that's right bitch take it" or "who's a good little slut?"
For me it depends on my mood.
Yes, there are a lot of times where my focus is on making her feel as into it as possible. Mostly because that turns me of. A lot. The more into it she is the more into i am and it snowballs into the hot and heavy climax. This does not answer your question exactly though does it? I'm not sure I can put that into words in this situation because it becomes so intense that I'm not even thinking about anything except how good it feels. If i could manage a coherent thought when she orgasms for me it might sound a bit silly out of context. I suspect that's why there is a lot of grunting and groaning and screaming in sex.
There are other times when I'm not at all concerned with her pleasure to be honest. Ripping down her panties and bending her over whatever is closest is not uncommon for me and in those instances my thoughts are pretty much what you might think they are. Things like... "that's right bitch take it" or "who's a good little slut?"
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When I comment on a photo that a woman has shared I take into consideration the context of the photo.
While ALWAYS trying to be respectful.
Some photos are obviously meant to stimulate more than others and the ladies posting these types of photo's are very well aware of that. So feel free to comment how you like on those as long as it is respectful. On the other hand there are a lot of photo's posted that I believe are meant to stimulate you more mentally than physically. I love these too. In fact more so.
While ALWAYS trying to be respectful.
Some photos are obviously meant to stimulate more than others and the ladies posting these types of photo's are very well aware of that. So feel free to comment how you like on those as long as it is respectful. On the other hand there are a lot of photo's posted that I believe are meant to stimulate you more mentally than physically. I love these too. In fact more so.
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The point is that you are asking this question at all.
That means you're not absolutely certain.
No, this situation does not make you gay but... I personally find it hard to believe you didn't at some point find anything unusual about the encounter. Perhaps subconsciously you had an idea it might be your room mate and didn't want to acknowledge it. Maybe you aren't quite ready to admit that to yourself. Either way, don't beat yourself up over it but you might want to talk to your room mate.
That means you're not absolutely certain.
No, this situation does not make you gay but... I personally find it hard to believe you didn't at some point find anything unusual about the encounter. Perhaps subconsciously you had an idea it might be your room mate and didn't want to acknowledge it. Maybe you aren't quite ready to admit that to yourself. Either way, don't beat yourself up over it but you might want to talk to your room mate.
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The closer I get to the end the less I want anything to interrupt and more apt to want to take control. I think my woman enjoys when I get that way too. Grabbing her by the hair and taking what I want and at that point need.
But I think in general men AND women feel the same way. For women there may not be as much drive to take control and take what you want but no one wants to feel like they are going to be left hanging.
I wonder how many women feel like they want to grab their man by the hair while they go down on them. Maybe some want to but don't for whatever reason?
But I think in general men AND women feel the same way. For women there may not be as much drive to take control and take what you want but no one wants to feel like they are going to be left hanging.
I wonder how many women feel like they want to grab their man by the hair while they go down on them. Maybe some want to but don't for whatever reason?
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Writhing or screaming would still be second to direct eye contact and a whisper of something very sexy for me.
But i do like to hear something that tells me you're enjoying it. Then again, that silence just as the orgasm grips you and your entire body locks up is nice too. Then let loose the expletives
But i do like to hear something that tells me you're enjoying it. Then again, that silence just as the orgasm grips you and your entire body locks up is nice too. Then let loose the expletives
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what kind of guy is he? if he is a hard head then maybe the right thing to say is hey! wtf?
if he is a timid man that needs encouragement then maybe.. "i love the way you go down on me"?
I think littlemiss said it though, there has to be some sort of communication otherwise what's the plan? wrestle him to the floor and hop on his face? I'm sure some guys would love that actually.... hmmmm
if he is a timid man that needs encouragement then maybe.. "i love the way you go down on me"?
I think littlemiss said it though, there has to be some sort of communication otherwise what's the plan? wrestle him to the floor and hop on his face? I'm sure some guys would love that actually.... hmmmm
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Based on my own personal experience, I find it hard to make generalizations based on age.
I think it's more to do with the physicality of the guy, fitness, attitude towards sex, energy level, confidence and how openminded/adventurous he is.
You can end up with boring sex and bad sex with guys of any age.
Some guys are just naturally more sexually talented and they will probably be good no matter what age/experience level... whereas another guy who is a dud in bed at 21 may very well still be a snooze or a selfish lover when he's 40.
If I was going to generalize, I would say that guys probably tend to hit their sexual stride between 25-35. This doesn't mean that guys between this age make for the best sex partners - it just means that they're probably going to be the best they can be around that age, and then likely coast with established sexual habits from there.
i'm going to call you Diplomatic Doll from now on ;-)