24/7 TPE that includes bondage, and sadomasochism
I sent a couple of links to Elling50 so hopefully he will post them for you as I have been a bit distracted by life and have not posted 20 times yet, lol. But here is an excerpt from a blog that that I am quite addicted to at the moment (it discusses many aspects of D/s such as objectification ect...and does so very well)This is just a couple of paragraphs from his humiliation blog. One of the links I gave is to this particular blog.
"Perhaps you think this is all rather coarse, even a bit messy. Maybe you thought me a more sophisticated fellow. But if you really want to humiliate a girl, bring her face to face with just how needy and greedy she is for sex, you have to get down and dirty once in a while. So, the question now is, what’s in it for me, to make her do these things? (For have no doubt, she will do them if I tell her to. She’ll curl up inside with embarrassment, but she’s well beyond the point where she can say no to me.)
One thing I undoubtedly feel is a sense of power. I get a surge of sexual adrenalin making her do these things. You can call it sadism if you like. It’s a pleasure to me to see just how far I can push her, how much power I actually have to make her do things she’s ashamed of. But I wouldn’t really enjoy them unless I knew how excited I was making her. She blushes, she dies of shame, but she gets wetter and wetter. It’s not just that she wants to please me, though that desire is always strong in her. It’s also arousing to her to have her inhibitions stripped away, to be forced to confront her base desires. Because however much she claims she only does what she does to please me, there’s no doubt there’s a bedrock need, a craving deep inside her for the sheer physical pleasure of sex. She’s a slut, she knows it, but sometimes she needs a push before she can bring herself to admit it.
There’s a certain circularity in this description, I’ll admit. She gets aroused because she knows what she does arouses me. I get aroused because I know making her do these things arouses her. She wants to know where it begins, and if it’s reciprocal isn’t she demanding parity when what she wants is to be submissive? I reassure her. I’m the one who takes the initiative. I’m the one who dictates the script. And if it ever comes to making a choice between what I really want and what she wants, we will do what I want. She knows that. It’s what she wants. Oh dear, here we go round again…."
Hello everyone! I am owned and married to my Sir. We are relatively new to the D/s lifestyle, as we have only recently incorporated it into our marriage. Due to some very complicated situations in our marriage I began exploring things that I had felt my entire life, and became a sub of an old friend, it was a very rocky road for a time when all came to light. After some very open and painful conversations with complete honesty my husband and I decided to incorporate D/s into our marriage. I can honestly say it was difficult in the beginning as I had been in a very intense relationship with a very experienced dom and had to deprogram myself. My husband/Sir has embraced the lifestyle and is learning what he needs and wants as well as my needs/wants. It is not always a bed of roses, but our marriage is stronger than it was on day 1 fifteen years ago. We have never been more open and honest as we are now and there is a peace in our home that had not been there in a very long time. Of course the amazing sex is a bonus!!!
Humiliation and degradation are two different things. Degradation is not my thing, but there are forms of humiliation that are very effective. Humiliation comes in many different forms and can be a great tool to mentally dominate a sub. Here is a fantastic article that might help explain. The methods (all except a couple) were very effective for me, he has my mind & body.
well the link won't show up in the post?
ok, read the rules, I guess I will post the link after I make 20 posts, lol.
