Darling.. cautious is using fear..
enough said .. i do know how to put the chalk down when i say i will..
shakes my head and head off to find other things to do rather than banter with someone who obviously needs to be right all the time.
Perhaps then, you should welcome your freakdom, but you may also want to leave a forwarding address should you not fear meeting new people on a one to one private setting.
While i generally dislike disagreeing with people i have to say fugs you are incorrect.
Venturing into ANY new relationship, be it bdsm, {i am a submissive and have been for many years} straight, gay, martian.. i mean really the list could go on.. there will always be fear.
It is something that comes with new, unchartered territory. It comes as we venture into an unknown NEW relationship and find our footing. It heightens our awareness and strengthens our convictions in what we seek, what we need and what we strive for.
Now were you to say that those that felt fear after being in a relationship then i would be more comfortable agreeing with you. However if you wish to discount fear at the onset of a relationship, i would politely say that you may want to rethink things.
