Appreciate the pointers and the thought Rowan. Indeed, there's certainly no right or wrong answers, which is what intrigued me and made me curious as to others perspectives.
Particularly like views on 7. And couldn't personally agree more.
Regards to 8. An anecdotal side note which cropped up during our discussion was a female friend whose boyfriend asked her to give him s blow job. When she said sure, but asked if he might pleasure her orally as well....his refusal was because it would be "too much effort".
I don't think...and certainly hope...this isn't a typical stance, but even so it does boggle the mind.
Thanks again