How did you get interested in BDSM?
What factor of it attracted you to it in the first place?
Where you always submissive?
Where you always dominate?
Where you always switch?
If so how did you come about it?
Do you think you were always into it now that you are in the lifestyle?
just curious! If anyone has anymore questions to add, feel free!!
How did you get interested in BDSM? - A Man I was in a relationship got me into the whole "Spanking" theme, and I did researched online and found out that I was really into the Kink.
What factor of it attracted you to it in the first place? - Spanking for sure, than Rope.
Where you always submissive? - nope not always, I go into Submissive modes at times, but I am more of a switch.
Where you always dominate? - Nope, not always, I go into the Dominate modes at time, but I am more of a switch.
Where you always switch? - Yes, I have always been a switch, for as long as I can remember.
If so how did you come about it? - Not sure.
Do you think you were always into it now that you are in the lifestyle? - Yes, part of me thinks that I have always been into the Kinky lifestyle. Its who I am I guess (:
reading stories got me interested... and i am still trying to figure out how i feel so i am interested in the answers people will share here....
i think i am more of a sub but i do get sassy every now and then.... maybe i need to be spanked... ;-). i also understand myself to know that i am more intrigued by the trust it takes to be a sub than the pain.... the thought of wearing a collar absolutely makes me wet....
I am a true newbie. I like the idea of the trust involved, though. I'd happily wear a collar for the right person. I think I'd like to be a switch - sometimes one wants to submit, but sometimes one wants to be in charge. I am curious about spanking - don't know how much pain I really want, but after a certain level of arousal, a little pain is sexually exquisite. Nipple clamps? Probably - I have tried clothespins on myself, and find them an incredible turn-on. The pain when they come off and the blood rushes back in makes me cum every time.
"There's only three tempos: slow, medium and fast. When you get between in the cracks, ain't nuthin' happenin'." Ben Webster
How did you get interested in BDSM?
I was introduced to the lifestyle by a friend, fifteen years ago. I've flitted in and out of the lifestyle since then.
What factor of it attracted you to it in the first place?
The closeness, trust and commitment involved.
Were you always submissive?
Yes, but my job and my attitude confuse many and some tend to think of me as more of a dominant when I'm not.
My favorite saying is "I'm a submissive, not a doormat."
I always felt very uncomfortable when asked to switch, but did it for my Dom since they also have needs.
Do you think you were always into it now that you are in the lifestyle?
Yes. Hindsight's 20/20.
Unfortunately, I had an unhealthy and abusive dom/sub relationship for eight years and still have trust issues.
So much so, that I've abandoned the lifestyle for the time being, but I'm missing it.
Lush really opens one's eyes...
I had no idea that there was so much to this sort of thing.
Thanks for making my mind boggle, guys x
My stories on here cover how I got into BDSM, and according to a friend I have always seemed like the Mistress type to him, wish he'd told me sooner, lol.
How did you get interested in BDSM?
My first experience with porn was with spanking magazines.
What factor of it attracted you to it in the first place?
It's taken me a while to put all of the pieces together, but what it comes down to for me is a combination of leadership and control. It's why my handle here is "Sensei..."
Where you always dominant?
Yes.
Do you think you were always into it now that you are in the lifestyle?
Absolutely. I've spanked every partner I've ever had. I can't imagine being happy in a purely vanilla relationship.
How did you get interested in BDSM? I always got turned on more by the female on female bondage stories than any regular sex story out there.
What factor of it attracted you to it in the first place? I know in my heart how crazy a personality and I think that would more than amplify when I'm especially doing this type of lifestyle
Now to answer the rest of your questions, I've not done anything yet but before I do anything I'll more than likely find people who will mentor me in this lifestyle so that way I won't screw things up, by the way when I do this I will be Dominating because I know I have fun when I'm very controlling
How did you get interested in BDSM? - Have always been facsinated with bondage and restraint even as a teenager, not sure why?
What factor of it attracted you to it in the first place? - It started with the damsel-in-distress scenarios (like on those old 80's TV shows) that first grabbed my attention long before I knew what any of that was even when I had no idea what dom/submission was. As for the dom/sub pat, the attraction for me is the romance and the trust, built up in the foreplay
Where you always submissive? - Always had submissive "tendancies" in the bedroom, at least. Plus, there is just something so sexy and erotic about pleasing her, and seeing the desire and pleasure within her.
Where you always dominate? - Only by nature of my job as a military officer, but outside of work I'm laid back and care free unless a serious (i.e. life-or-death) scenario presents itself so it's not in my blood by nature, unless it has to be.
Where you always switch? - I'd say I'm something of a 90% sub/10% dom
If so how did you come about it? - Just something that developed over time, and gradually but slightly increased in strength
Do you think you were always into it now that you are in the lifestyle? - Again, it started early with me so maybe. I like the variety; sometimes dom, sometimes sub, sometimes vanilla. All depends on the time and place and scenario!
Bonus question: What have you learned about it and what do you like the most? - I have to say, what I love the most about it, is discovering my own likes and dislikes as well as those of my playmate. Gently pushing each other's boundaries and limits, exploring what my partner wants. Most of all, watching my playmate grow in discovery and confidence. I think there is a certain somebuny here who knows exactly what I mean! ;)
How did you get interested in BDSM? - I met a man who told me he had submissive tendencies, so I did some research. It was fascinating, exciting, sometimes scary, but always fascinating.
What factor of it attracted you to it in the first place? - I wasn't aware that I was attracted to it until I started delving into it. I think the most attractive part is the trust involved. The responsibility that you assume when engaging in either taking control of someone or giving over control of yourself.
Where you always submissive? - Never really thought so. I do like a man who can be slightly aggressive in bed, but not too much so. Not too rough, but some.
Where you always dominate? - Again, I didn't think so, but am finding that I get aroused by being the aggressor.
Where you always switch? - I think this is mostly where I fall. A give and take of power and control. With the right person, with trust, it can be a heady experience.
If so how did you come about it? - Hmmmm, always with the one that introduced me to this, depending on our mood and where the evening takes us.
Do you think you were always into it now that you are in the lifestyle? - No, but that doesn't mean I'm not willing to explore.
Bonus question: What have you learned about it and what do you like the most? - I'm still learning and it's all very new to me. I would say what I like the most is finding someone that you can trust enough to be that vulnerable, open and honest with.
How did you get interested in BDSM?
I found myself stimulated when I saw girls struggling. Eventually, I found cartoons and magazines about the topic. Long before there was the Internet. Movies on the topic were not available to me growing up in Montreal.
What factor of it attracted you to it in the first place?
Like Trojan the damsel in distress hit me in a very different way. I didn't really understand the impact. I can still remember a movie where the heroine is tied to a stake by the Indians and the squaws are sharpening wooden stakes that they used to poke her.
Where you always submissive?
Never been a submissive.
Where you always dominate?
Most definitely. I used to tease the girl who delivered our newspapers. She would struggle as I captured her wrists and held them behind her back. This made her writhing more pronounced and I could hold her hard against me. We never did anything else just a teenage form of frotage. Don't think either of us really understood what was happening.
Where you always switch?
Never.
If so how did you come about it?
N/A
Do you think you were always into it now that you are in the lifestyle?
Oh yes. I have had many partners who would have run screaming at the suggestion of BDSM, but were willing partners in the way in which we played our games. Trust is paramount. Without it it is abuse and/or depending on how it evolves.
How did you get interested in BDSM?
What factor of it attracted you to it in the first place?
Where you always submissive?
Where you always dominate?
Where you always switch?
If so how did you come about it?
Do you think you were always into it now that you are in the lifestyle?
By watching films and reading magazines.
I found it erotic at first and also curious.
Yes.
No.
I now sometimes switch but this is a new discovery.
A friend wanted to see what things were like from a sub's side.
It has been my lifestyle all my life and no regrets.
Help!! I had never really been interested in BDSM until recently. I had been going out with a new girlfriend for just over a month. I though our sex life was pretty good until one night she introduced nipple clamps to our foreplay. Then she asked me to use a whip on her, I was reluctant but I used in on her then she asked me to let her do it to me. I agreed and I was surprised that I enjoyed it and the sex that night was fantastic. She does not seem to be interested in any other aspect of BDSM except the inflicting of pain on each other. Now she wants to take things further and I am concerned it will go to far. I do enjoy it, something that I never thought I would. Is this normal in BDSM and how far should I take it. What should I do?
How did you get interested in BDSM?
an ex girlfriend
What factor of it attracted you to it in the first place?
found her even more horny when i tied her to the bed and grew from there
Where you always submissive?
like being the dom but do have times when i am submissive
Where you always dominate?
do enjoy beging the dom and have always swayed towards dom
Where you always switch?
If so how did you come about it?
Do you think you were always into it now that you are in the lifestyle?
tes can be part of life and spice it up alot
