I am not bothered by them, I don't think they're liars, and I don't think anything is wrong with them. Although, I have to admit the "slutty virgins" here do leave me a bit confused.

On Lush, I've had the chance to talk to quite a few virgins. Almost without exception, they all seem to want to be de-virginized as soon as possible. I've always suggested that they should wait for someone special and not rush into de-virginizing. The only thing memorable about my first time was how unmemorable and unspecial it was. It's not like I lie awake thinking about my first time, but it would definitely be a do over given the opportunity.

I recommend staying a virgin until the time is right. FFS, who cares what anyone else thinks about your virginity anyway? They've got their own issues and hangups, we all do.

I've not been a virgin for quite a while and I do find it a bit awkward to talk to virgins at times when it comes to sexual things. As I see it most virgins have a great interest in sex and read up on things and learn about details much more than a person who's no longer a virgin, therefore it's not really a great surprise that there are some virgins who play out their fantasies online. I mean, they basically feed their minds with all this information and splurge it out. The awkward part is that they talk a lot about sex and sexual things but they have no experiences of their own. I do get the same awkward feeling when talking to friends who's ever only had one partner. It feels strange to me that you can stick to one partner all of your life without wanting to try another man/woman out. Just to get a larger perspective of it all.

I've had sex with at least 3 virgins who were over 22. I must say that they've been much better than the ones who were below 20.

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In today's world it seems kids are having sex at much younger ages than in the past, so it does seem a little strange hearing of virgins in their 20's and especially their 30's. But that doesnt mean there is anything wrong with waiting. It is the choice, or at least it should be the choice of each individual when they have sex for the first time. Every one is different. Perhaps waiting until an older age will make it a more pleasurable first experience over those of us who gave it up at a younger age because you are more mentally ready. I dont know.

There is nothing wrong with waiting if that is what is right for you!!

It is hard to believe in, in that in today's world it is sort of uncommon. However just because something is uncommon it doesn't mean that it is bad. One of my friends is 25 and she is a virgin because she is waiting until she gets married, and I have no problem with that.

I'm a virgin myself with not much experience but I do like being sexy and provocative on lush for some odd reason I can't understand.
I'm in no hurry of getting rid of my virginity either cause in my personal opinion, it has to be special and not done in a hurry.

It's really not hard for me to believe!
I'm seeing more younger people enter into pacts to keep their purity until marriage or later.
Even though it goes against my lifestyle and pursuits of pleasure, I believe these people are happy and leading good lives.

Check out this program for young people called Silver Ring Thing and you may get an idea of why this is becoming more prominent!

Kisses!

Steph

I have always said "to each there own" it's not wrong or right it's what you feel inside.

Don't wait TOO long to tell him...that's so, SO special. First wife and I waited till our honeymoon to share that "loss" together...and that was 47 years ago. The marriage didn't last, but the friendship thrives and I believe that shared experience has a lot to do with it.

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http://www.lushstories.com/stories/love-stories/exit-33-trust.aspx

your body...your choice...who care what others say??

I used to wok with a lady who was well into her 50's and said to still be a virgin.
I never asked if it was true or why; and really, it didn't matter to me

I've known my share of "virgin studs" ;)
And, believe me, my fantasy life is much more exciting than my real life

Nikki703 wrote:
In today's world it seems kids are having sex at much younger ages than in the past

One more thing, this is a completely limited perspective thing. In Europe, the age of consent is generally much lower than in the US (with its hypocritical Puritanical Calvinist background). In California, back in the 1700s-early 1800s, by age 13 many women were married, by 14 had had kids. This was not thought unusual at all. The same is true back in American colonial days. So no, kids are not having sex earlier.

Well said Daisy :) xx

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I am a virgin at 24 and it doesn't bother me. But when i do tell people that i still am, they have mostly been shocked. Like, "I can't believe you're still a virgin!"
Like as if to say that my personality doesn't match that of someone that has ever had sex before.
But i guess when you think about it. I guess the average person thinks a virgin will act a little immature or childish. Because who would want to lay with someone that acts like that.
I guess i may come off as someone that may know a thing or 2 on how to please women because i have openly an correctly said how to. And that i have openly told people that i am always wanting to learn how to better myself in pleasing women. And this is all true.
But i don't have much experience. I guess that statement implies that i have had sex before, but only with a few women. And is isn't until after i say all of that do i tell them that i am still in fact a virgin.
Once in HS a kid that has had numerous hookups told me that is how you separate men from boys. And he was more immature than me.

I would never suspect somebody of lying about their virginity, and I respect the choice to remain a virgin. I especially respect anyone who can ignore the social pressure to "lose it just to lose it" after a certain age.

I have to be honest though and say that I would be hesitant to be somebodies "first." Sex means different things to different people, and I think that until you've had sex that would be really hard to identify for yourself. If I were dating somebody who told me they were a virgin, I would not necessarily stop dating them, but I would make it a point to move slowly and communicate a lot about our actions.