Take a Cialis, Viagra or other such medicinal helper to aid him in over coming his erectile dsyfunctioning. He may be in his 30s, 40s, 50s or whatever. The point is, you have not lost your sex drive and he obviously has or there's something else going on in his life which is affecting his ability to grow some hard wood and help satisfy you.
He's got a prescription, but he never takes the fucking pill(s). And consequently when you do have intimate relations, he's never even 20% firm and often he's just as limp as a wet noodle.
Blow jobs are out of the question (unless your a fan of earning lockjaw - with no happy ending) and it's back to him using his fingers or your favorite toy to get you off with penetration).
What would you think of this situation and how long would you allow this kind of behavior to go on.
I ask because I have a friend (who has told me about this situation in her life with her boyfriend/fiancee) and they've been together two years next month. I think she's planning on marrying the guy (if he ever pops the question) sometime next April/May.
I know from previous experience with her - she enjoys sex, frequently and in many places (not just behind locked bedroom doors, I mean). I think she'll bail on the marriage thing by the 1st of the year. If I knew anyone else who was familiar with this situation, I'd even wager a coupla hundred that she will walk.
She's already talked with him about why he's not taking his meds, especially when he knows they'll see each other almost every weekend (they don't live together). He never has a really good answer in reply.
The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.
I think he better come up with a good answer in reply or she has to come to the conclusion that he doesn't care anything at all about her sexual satisfaction, and if he doesn't care about her satisfaction there, does he really care about it anywhere else? Erectile dysfunction is a rather common problem and usually has rather successful medical solutions I believe, so why would he be unwilling to take the meds. It doesn't make sense to me. I think she should get the answer or call it quits on this guy. He doesn't sound concerned about her at all to me.
If you ignore beauty, you will soon find yourself without it.................Frank Lloyd Wright
I always practice obedience, when it's in my best interest.
So... I assume the guy in question has a ton of cash.
That's the only way this scenario makes sense with her plowing ahead to get married to (without sex) pretty much amounts to a platonic friend.
I think most women would not be cool with marrying a guy with a dead libido and no interest in fixing it unless he's bringing a lot to the table in some other way.
As for me - no it wouldn't be okay. If I had a serious talk with him about it and he still seemed nonchalent about addressing the issue or following doctor's orders, then I'd walk. I can't imagine going into a marriage where the sex life was already on the rocks.
To me, the side benefit of a stocked bank account doesn't make up for the lack of physical intimacy and fun. But hey - if she's older, single, lonely and in debt, I can see how she might be willing to overlook a crap sex life in exchange for companionship and financial security.
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I've said this before .... a relationship without sex is a friendship.
I am very glad I am not in your friend's situation, WMM .... and if I was, I wouldn't be in it for long!
Let us know what happens; if she signs a prenup, if she goes through with the wedding and if she makes it past a year!
maybe im a little different here....
if my guy had issues getting hard but still sought to please me with fingers and toys i think id be ok with it. it can still be intimate and fun. i had a similar experience (god i just was married to the worst sex ever) my ex husband went thru this phase that i "lovingly" refer to his 7 minute sex phase. and then when he would cum we were done...regardless if i had cum or not. he somehow believed that once he was finished his fingers and mouth stopped working too. i was even told "if you cant get it (my own orgasm) done in time then i dont know what to tell you babe" nice huh?
the biggest problem i see here is why he isnt being forthcoming about WHY hes not taking the pills. i knew a dude that viagra gives him a massive headache or maybe there is something about the effect he doesnt like. he should tell her though..because it obviously looks like hed rather not have sex with her
littlemissbitch ~ professional face ripper offer, at your service..
diabetic guys have shots that will give him a stiffy for hours
perhaps the pills have horrible side effects or put his health in peril?
(trouble is getting the right amout for sometimes a visit to the ER is necessary)
i have to agree with littlemiss bitch
if he was getting me off with other items that would be ok
would u leave your hubby if he was paralized??
however if the interest in sex is out the door...
i would have to give him a ultimatium...either fuck me...or hit the highway
sex is love...when u marry or commit..to love means sex.....
to deny sex is to deny love...for me
I know a few things (which I have only heard from her), which I should throw out there.
He's been married & divorced 4 times, she - 3 times. He had always married much younger women than himself...10 to 15 year age gaps.
He's got three kids, two live at home, the youngest is 12. She has two kids, a girl in college and a son - 16. She'd married men, 5 to 10 years older than herself.
He's 54 & lives in an affluent part of the city, forty miles from her - she thinks he makes about 125-175k a year...she's not sure, he hasn't divulged much of his financials to her, but he seems to do 'alright', BMW convertible, newer SUV, has a 30 year career in mechanical engineering (he's with his 7th company in 30 years and travels a ton, working 50-70 hours a week).
She's 48, just back to working after 15 years of - in her words, only being a mom. She was living in a pretty affluent suburb until 18 months ago, when she had to drastically downsize. She got caught holding on to way too much house for her and her two kids - 4000 sq foot of McMansion when the bottom fell out in 2008.
They 'met' on e-Harmony, when she admitted to me that she was going to start casting her net for guys who were a bit more financially solvent than the previous dozen guys she'd met while utilizing the five or six other adult matchmaking dating websites (the more popular ones).
She and I think that he primarily wants a step-mommy figure to his 12 & 18 year old sons. He also wants her to move in with him in his 6 bedroom McMansion (which she wants him to sell...and then relocate 'in' with her in her 5 bedroom McMansion - which she is currently renting to help cover the 4 figure monthly mortgage).
She's 'done' with being the 'mom' thing to preteen and teenagers (aside from her own kids). She's ready to travel a bit again, not have to do the soccer-mom routine again. Her own son just started driving, her daughter is away @ school 9 months a year...she's entering the 2nd or 3rd phase of her adult life and hoping to relax a bit more...not dive back into the pool of taking on a lot of responsibility. I can see her side of this.
I do not know the man, I just know her sides of the story. He only told her within the last year, that he'd had open heart surgery when he was 45 (she claims she cannot see any chest scarring so she's not really believing that) and that he's on meds for his high blood pressure (he may be, she's never seen any of his other meds he claims to take). He's 6'2" and about 260 pounds, rarely exercises, doesn't smoke, drinks some but not a lot (definitely not as much as several other guys she's dated and gone with over the last seven years since her 3rd divorce) and he apparently isn't into recreational drugs - nor is she.
I think Doll hit the nail on the head. I enjoy talking with the woman occasionally, and I've enjoyed her sexuality off and on for the last seven years (mostly off), but I recognized her to own a bit of the gold digger gene when I first met her (which I've also witnessed her tempering down that aspect of herself). She's basically a good lil Catholic girl who loves her family, and she's got a naughty streak about 8 miles wide, who has her back against the wall from a financial point of view.
She may well marry him. IF he pops a real marriage date proposition. She's been wearing his engagement ring since last September and they've never really set a firm 'date'. He's generously taken her on 2, week long vacations since getting engaged, but when he had the chance to 'save' her or help her out with regards to some other things...he's never offered or actually thrown any of his money to her cause.
I think he's been taken advantage of by previous women/relationships in his life and he's pretty wary now (and he should be) he's not being 100% honest with her and she's definitely not 100% honest with him.
Together almost 2 years and it's a lot like they are in the first 2 months of 'dating'. She liked that he didn't try to pressure her into having sex with him right off the bat...but according to her...they'd been seeing one another for 5 months before he attempted to get to 3rd base. She actually (and she's submissive by nature) had to take the lead with him to initiate sex, and often still does.
I know she's thrown other timid men over for sexual reasons and similar behavior in the last five years.
Alright, that's probably TMI - but that's about all I know. I would prefer to see her happy and rescued and living happily ever after. It won't be with me, and I'm not wanting that (with her). I am just about the only person she can or does talk with - about her miserable dating woes and I've heard some whack stuff from her since 2006 about other guys.
The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.
not sure why u got so mad over my post nikki...sorry if my words upset you...these are my opinions...and nothing more...have yet to read a response from someone on here who got me mad...just people's thoughts....that is it....peace.
I was with a guy who had some issues that made sex difficult. He did try some things, but always tried to please me other ways. I still missed the actual sex, but I dealt.
I would assume that he was just taking the pills when he was with someone else, and didn't take them with me because he was saving them for her. Then when I left him it wouldn't be because I wasn't getting sex. It would be because I thought he was cheating on me.
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If I really cared about him but he couldnt or wouldnt get it up I would take one of his pills and put it in his food or drink! Rawr!! Hhaha or I would ask him if he wanted an open relationship.....
