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Emerys
Over 90 days ago
Pan Cis Female, 32
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This girl would consider it if it were 1000% safe, sane, and consensual.
Honestly, one of my fantasies is to be surrounded by men (and maybe women, too!) and pleasured until I pass out. I have a major overstimulation kink and the idea of being sexually stimulated non-stop by multiple people makes me positively weak in the knees.
Gangrape is something else entirely. Sure, I may fantasize about it from time to time, but it's nothing something I'd ever truly want to happen, either to me or to anyone else.
Honestly, one of my fantasies is to be surrounded by men (and maybe women, too!) and pleasured until I pass out. I have a major overstimulation kink and the idea of being sexually stimulated non-stop by multiple people makes me positively weak in the knees.
Gangrape is something else entirely. Sure, I may fantasize about it from time to time, but it's nothing something I'd ever truly want to happen, either to me or to anyone else.
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Personal preference is that he comes inside of me or on my breasts.
I'm not into facials at all, but I'll bend every so often if that's something he really, really enjoys (and can aim it away from my hair, haha). Relationships are all about compromise, after all. :P
I'm not into facials at all, but I'll bend every so often if that's something he really, really enjoys (and can aim it away from my hair, haha). Relationships are all about compromise, after all. :P
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I get ridiculously horny during that period so masturbation is a must. Clit stimulation only, though, as it's not worth the mess. That said, I'd totally be down for having sex during that time of the month if I ever had a partner who was into it.
I've never tasted myself, though. Even when I'm not on my period it's just not something I'm into. Different strokes, and all that.
I've never tasted myself, though. Even when I'm not on my period it's just not something I'm into. Different strokes, and all that.
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Quote by roymunson101
To me the most important question is, Does it matter? Should anyone really be given a hard time for being gay or bi even if it is a choice? Sorry Jake, I know I kind of veered off topic, but I just had to throw my opinion out there.
No, definitely not. Frankly, it's no one's business who someone wants to sleep with or what they choose to be labeled as. Unfortunately, the majority of the world doesn't quite agree with us.
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Quote by DanielleX
I don't think this is as simple as it sounds. I believe sexuality is a continuum and that we all lie somewhere on a line from straight to gay. I also think you can move around a bit on that line. What about paedophiles? Are they born like that or do they get perverted somewhere along the way?
Guh, I want to comment on this so badly but I'm going to refrain because I'm still researching the hell out of it. The argument as to whether or not (read: , not child molestation) is a sexual orientation or a (bio/psycho/social) psychiatric disorder (or a combination of the two) is fascinating. Not to mention confusing as hell because both sides make pretty valid (and implausible) points.
*Coughs*
Anyway. OP-- I'm definitely of the agreement that sexuality is not a choice. To be honest, when you consider how anti-homosexuality this world is I doubt there's anyone (or many people, anyway) who'd willingly choose to have to put up with all the bullshit.
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Quote by jeremiahbull
Absolutely, religion and sexuality is a big problem for most religions but then spirituality and religion are often far removed.
Exactly this. I myself am trying to find a balance between my sexuality, spirituality, and religion. I've only just come to the conclusion that one's religion and one's spirituality aren't necessarily exclusive. Still trying to figure it out. It's quite a dilemma.
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I think most people associate M/M sex with anal play/penetration, when that's not the case at all. There are many gay men who don't enjoy anal sex, period. But I'm digressing. I think what it comes down to is ingrained social/gender expectations. Many people view men who do enjoy anal sex to be, well, effeminate-- and y'know how wrong that is (/sarcasm). Most men get uncomfortable or upset when their (either on an individual level, or in general) masculinity is threatened. So I guess when they see two men making out or having sex, they get defensive. They can't admit to finding it attractive because then, shit, what if that makes them gay? They're manly men, they can't BE gay (/sarcasm). There's such a stigma against being gay that fear is definitely a major contributor. I've always figured that gay men get a lot more shit than lesbians do. Not to say that lesbians don't have it rough, because they obviously do, but that the outrage about male homosexuality tends to be a lot more extreme (read: violent and vitriolic). The idea that men can't be sensitive or anything other than macho is so ingrained into our society that they get frightened when confronted with anything that might disprove that. And I think we can all agree that people tend to resent the things that make them afraid.
This doesn't account for all men, of course. Not the intelligent ones, anyway.
Many women also believe that men have certain obligations to fulfill. Many of them feel uncomfortable or disturbed by men who seem to contradict their traditional roles. Heck, they probably feel threatened by men who seem to be "vying" for the traditional woman's role, too, which probably accounts for why so many women are really turned off by it. They're (some of them) resentful.
As for why lesbianism is more socially acceptable... because heterosexual men find it hot. It doesn't threaten their masculinity in any way, and let's not forget how patriarchal our society (fuck it, our world) is. Society predominantly caters to what heterosexual men find attractive. And that's (scantily clad) women.
I'm pretty sure that when most guys watch or think about lesbian sex they mentally insert themselves into the picture. And that's A-OK. They get double the pleasure, and it's risk-free. Besides, women are such silly, sensitive, and whimsical creatures. They don't really know what it is they want. So it's fine if they play around with each other for a bit because eventually a "real" man will come along and show them how it's done and they'll be "cured". There's no such cure for guys, though. Once you go gay, you're never okay. (/sarcasm).
And wow, I ended up ranting a little. Um. This is just my opinion. I'm constantly reestablishing the way I view society, social constructs, and sexuality, so feel free to dispute any of it. I love observing other people's opinions on this subject. Oh, and do know that I'm not really speaking for all men or women. Just, y'know, the vast majority. I fully acknowledge that there are lots of intelligent heterosexual men and women out there, too.
As for what I personally find desirable: everything. I love m/m m/f, and f/f. There doesn't need to be a woman involved for me to find it arousing. I love men, and I love seeing them together.
ETA: Forgot to add that I'm only really referring to people who find the idea of M/M revolting. I don't think it's an issue if a man or woman just doesn't find it appealing/attractive (there's nothing wrong with that as long as you're not being an ass about it). It's when people start saying things like "OMG, it's so ~nauseating~" that I start side-eyeing them.
This doesn't account for all men, of course. Not the intelligent ones, anyway.
Many women also believe that men have certain obligations to fulfill. Many of them feel uncomfortable or disturbed by men who seem to contradict their traditional roles. Heck, they probably feel threatened by men who seem to be "vying" for the traditional woman's role, too, which probably accounts for why so many women are really turned off by it. They're (some of them) resentful.
As for why lesbianism is more socially acceptable... because heterosexual men find it hot. It doesn't threaten their masculinity in any way, and let's not forget how patriarchal our society (fuck it, our world) is. Society predominantly caters to what heterosexual men find attractive. And that's (scantily clad) women.
I'm pretty sure that when most guys watch or think about lesbian sex they mentally insert themselves into the picture. And that's A-OK. They get double the pleasure, and it's risk-free. Besides, women are such silly, sensitive, and whimsical creatures. They don't really know what it is they want. So it's fine if they play around with each other for a bit because eventually a "real" man will come along and show them how it's done and they'll be "cured". There's no such cure for guys, though. Once you go gay, you're never okay. (/sarcasm).
And wow, I ended up ranting a little. Um. This is just my opinion. I'm constantly reestablishing the way I view society, social constructs, and sexuality, so feel free to dispute any of it. I love observing other people's opinions on this subject. Oh, and do know that I'm not really speaking for all men or women. Just, y'know, the vast majority. I fully acknowledge that there are lots of intelligent heterosexual men and women out there, too.
As for what I personally find desirable: everything. I love m/m m/f, and f/f. There doesn't need to be a woman involved for me to find it arousing. I love men, and I love seeing them together.
ETA: Forgot to add that I'm only really referring to people who find the idea of M/M revolting. I don't think it's an issue if a man or woman just doesn't find it appealing/attractive (there's nothing wrong with that as long as you're not being an ass about it). It's when people start saying things like "OMG, it's so ~nauseating~" that I start side-eyeing them.
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1. I'm Puerto Rican.
2. I'm a fandomer.
3. I feel very strongly about social justice (issues).
4. My family is HUGE.
5. I've broken my wrist while ice-skating, my leg after falling down the stairs, and my toe from attempting acrobatics on a park slide. I can't even count the number of times I've sprained joints-- particularly my ankle.
6. I have an awful sense of humor. It tends to be really inappropriate. Not to mention cheesy.
7. I'm a complete mama's girl.
8. I love cartoons/animated films. So much. They make me unbelievably happy.
9. My first "kiss" was given to me by a girl when I was in middle school. I freaked out. My second "kiss" was from a boy who I wasn't even interested in. I punched him. I like to pretend neither incidents happened.
10. I'm fascinated by dark, creepy things. I have no idea why. They're so cool, though. Guh, especially music. I love creepy, sinister music.
2. I'm a fandomer.
3. I feel very strongly about social justice (issues).
4. My family is HUGE.
5. I've broken my wrist while ice-skating, my leg after falling down the stairs, and my toe from attempting acrobatics on a park slide. I can't even count the number of times I've sprained joints-- particularly my ankle.
6. I have an awful sense of humor. It tends to be really inappropriate. Not to mention cheesy.
7. I'm a complete mama's girl.
8. I love cartoons/animated films. So much. They make me unbelievably happy.
9. My first "kiss" was given to me by a girl when I was in middle school. I freaked out. My second "kiss" was from a boy who I wasn't even interested in. I punched him. I like to pretend neither incidents happened.
10. I'm fascinated by dark, creepy things. I have no idea why. They're so cool, though. Guh, especially music. I love creepy, sinister music.
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I get highly aroused by my smut stories when I'm writing them. If I didn't I'd be seriously worried.
Getting off on finished stories is another thing entirely, though. I mean, I've written a few things that still turn me on like crazy (none of which I can ever publish here because they're all against the guidelines, lol), but for the most part once I've started editing them it's, well, done. I'm "outside" of the story, and I have to be "inside" in order to get turned on at all. When I read smut I generally picture every detail in my head and try to insert myself into the scenario, which is what gets me aroused in the first place. Once I've started editing I put all my focus onto the more technical stuff like grammar, punctuation, flow, realism, etc. Once I get to that point it's hard to go back.
I'd read, for example, "The woman wrapped her legs around the man's waist and ground her sex against his erection," and rather than focus on how the scene makes me feel I start worrying about whether or not it reads well, or if it makes sense, or if I can reword it in some way to make it flow better, or if I should add a comma somewhere, or if it's even necessary to the story at all... you get the the idea.
I become too critical. And even if I return to the story months later I'm more likely to go through it with a mental red pen than anything else.
Like I mentioned, I've written a few stories that still get me going, but they tend to be raw and, well, pretty depraved. Definitely nothing I can publish to Lush.
Getting off on finished stories is another thing entirely, though. I mean, I've written a few things that still turn me on like crazy (none of which I can ever publish here because they're all against the guidelines, lol), but for the most part once I've started editing them it's, well, done. I'm "outside" of the story, and I have to be "inside" in order to get turned on at all. When I read smut I generally picture every detail in my head and try to insert myself into the scenario, which is what gets me aroused in the first place. Once I've started editing I put all my focus onto the more technical stuff like grammar, punctuation, flow, realism, etc. Once I get to that point it's hard to go back.
I'd read, for example, "The woman wrapped her legs around the man's waist and ground her sex against his erection," and rather than focus on how the scene makes me feel I start worrying about whether or not it reads well, or if it makes sense, or if I can reword it in some way to make it flow better, or if I should add a comma somewhere, or if it's even necessary to the story at all... you get the the idea.
I become too critical. And even if I return to the story months later I'm more likely to go through it with a mental red pen than anything else.
Like I mentioned, I've written a few stories that still get me going, but they tend to be raw and, well, pretty depraved. Definitely nothing I can publish to Lush.
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No crushes in RL right now. Thank gosh. Last serious crush I had was on a guy-- just. I try not to think about it.
Hm. As for celebrity crushes... Jennifer Lawrence, Anne Hathaway, and Robert Downey Jr. And oh gosh, Jared Padalecki. He's just so big. And he has dimples. It's a major turn-on.
As for fellow Lushies...hm. Maybe one person? Don't know. As of right now I'm just a little intrigued, but it hasn't become a full blown crush or anything. I don't even think it can. *shrugs*
Hm. As for celebrity crushes... Jennifer Lawrence, Anne Hathaway, and Robert Downey Jr. And oh gosh, Jared Padalecki. He's just so big. And he has dimples. It's a major turn-on.
As for fellow Lushies...hm. Maybe one person? Don't know. As of right now I'm just a little intrigued, but it hasn't become a full blown crush or anything. I don't even think it can. *shrugs*
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Did it once. The guy bored me. He was inarticulate and so obviously didn't care about anything besides getting himself off. I never did it again, and honestly, I don't think I even want to. That last experience left a bad taste in my mouth. Besides, I'm a bit paranoid about personal security these days.
Chatting about sex/fantasies or role-playing is more fun for me these days. Unfortunately I haven't come across many people who are both interesting AND literate, so my options have been extremely limited.
Now, do women cyber in general? Of course they do. An old female friend of mine once told me that she loved having cyber sex. I highly doubt she's the only one.
Perhaps you're not looking in the right places. Or perhaps you're coming across too strong. I know that I, personally, could never cyber with someone I didn't know/trust at least a little. Which means that we'd actually have to have had a conversation about something OTHER than sex at some point.
I don't presume to know how you go about asking for it, but if you're just randomly messaging women (via PM or chat) with comments that go along the lines of "hey sexy, u want to be freaky together on cam?" then you're probably turning more people off than on.
It would help to actually know how you've been approaching people about it thus far.
Chatting about sex/fantasies or role-playing is more fun for me these days. Unfortunately I haven't come across many people who are both interesting AND literate, so my options have been extremely limited.
Now, do women cyber in general? Of course they do. An old female friend of mine once told me that she loved having cyber sex. I highly doubt she's the only one.
Perhaps you're not looking in the right places. Or perhaps you're coming across too strong. I know that I, personally, could never cyber with someone I didn't know/trust at least a little. Which means that we'd actually have to have had a conversation about something OTHER than sex at some point.
I don't presume to know how you go about asking for it, but if you're just randomly messaging women (via PM or chat) with comments that go along the lines of "hey sexy, u want to be freaky together on cam?" then you're probably turning more people off than on.
It would help to actually know how you've been approaching people about it thus far.
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*Inhales*
It is ten o'clock on a Monday night so why the FUCK are you blasting music outside where the whole goddamned neighborhood can hear? I am so fucking sick of having to listen to all of your fucked up tastes in music 'til the wee fucking hours of the fucking morning. I am this close, THIS CLOSE, to getting a B.B. gun and shooting you motherfuckers.
And to my neighbors who love to argue: SHUT THE FUCK UP. No, seriously, SHUT UP. I don't care about your fucking life story, I JUST WANT TO SLEEP. Morning after morning I have to listen to you scream at your boyfriend about his cheating ways and I'm so fucking tired of it. Just dump the asshole so I can get some fucking sleep already, Jesus!
And YOU. Stop stealing/ruining my shit. You ever wonder why I don't let you borrow anything anymore? It's because you're an ungrateful bitch who doesn't know how to take care of ANYTHING, let alone things that don't belong to you. I lend you shit and either you don't give them back or you fucking BREAK them. Who the fuck does that? So don't look all offended and hurt when I tell you I'm not going to lend you anything anymore, and more importantly, STOP GOING INTO MY FUCKING ROOM WITHOUT MY PERMISSION TO "BORROW" MY SHIT. You think I don't notice? Because I fucking do. Next time I catch you I am going to take fucking scissors to your closet. It's the fucking least you deserve after all the fucking shoes and clothes and hair appliances and make-up of mine you've stolen and destroyed over the years.
*Exhales*
Huh. Well, that was a surprisingly therapeutic. Sorry for all the profanity. And excuse the typos. *flees*
It is ten o'clock on a Monday night so why the FUCK are you blasting music outside where the whole goddamned neighborhood can hear? I am so fucking sick of having to listen to all of your fucked up tastes in music 'til the wee fucking hours of the fucking morning. I am this close, THIS CLOSE, to getting a B.B. gun and shooting you motherfuckers.
And to my neighbors who love to argue: SHUT THE FUCK UP. No, seriously, SHUT UP. I don't care about your fucking life story, I JUST WANT TO SLEEP. Morning after morning I have to listen to you scream at your boyfriend about his cheating ways and I'm so fucking tired of it. Just dump the asshole so I can get some fucking sleep already, Jesus!
And YOU. Stop stealing/ruining my shit. You ever wonder why I don't let you borrow anything anymore? It's because you're an ungrateful bitch who doesn't know how to take care of ANYTHING, let alone things that don't belong to you. I lend you shit and either you don't give them back or you fucking BREAK them. Who the fuck does that? So don't look all offended and hurt when I tell you I'm not going to lend you anything anymore, and more importantly, STOP GOING INTO MY FUCKING ROOM WITHOUT MY PERMISSION TO "BORROW" MY SHIT. You think I don't notice? Because I fucking do. Next time I catch you I am going to take fucking scissors to your closet. It's the fucking least you deserve after all the fucking shoes and clothes and hair appliances and make-up of mine you've stolen and destroyed over the years.
*Exhales*
Huh. Well, that was a surprisingly therapeutic. Sorry for all the profanity. And excuse the typos. *flees*
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Sorry, but I'm commenting again.
Belthazor is awesome, period. He's unbelievably interesting, he has a neat sense of humor, and he seems genuinely kind. He's also a great conversationalist.
Also, if his avatar is anything to go by he has gorgeous eyes.
*slinks away*
Belthazor is awesome, period. He's unbelievably interesting, he has a neat sense of humor, and he seems genuinely kind. He's also a great conversationalist.
Also, if his avatar is anything to go by he has gorgeous eyes.
*slinks away*