I like writing erotica in graphic terms. I also like chatting, but please don't regale me with dick pics. I know what dicks look like. Please spend time chatting with me before dragging out the sex talk. Just because I write erotica doesn't mean I'm going to fuck you sight unseen. If you can't abide by this, I'll cut off conversation and block you.
Also, opening chat with "How are you" is kind of lame. You don't really care about my well-being because you don't know me. It's better to come up with an interesting anecdote or something funny. "How are you" is weak. "Weak" is how a man pays his way into the party if he hasn't the guts to be tough or the brains to be witty. Of these, I prefer the latter.