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sweetmalinda
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 154
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the ghost of tom joad; bruce springsteen w/ tom morello solo
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omg are you really asking if some of us gals fake it? well maybe maybe not....climax isn't all that important as long as the feelings are there.... to be any more specific i defer to being more demure...
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picture this:
a waterfront scene, fog on the harbor docks, the camera pans the area into the seedier section of the town...we see a tavern hear the sounds of the men in the main room and see off to the side an entrance for the ladies.
inside there is an old woman drinking a beer all by herself. it is clear she is waiting for someone but it is most likely that he will not show. she drinks from her beer wipes her mouth and sees an intense woman coming into the tavern...she opens the doors and looks all around. she acknowledges the older lady then walks to a table.
the innkeeper comes in...asks her what she wants...
"Viskey." she growls in her heavily accented voice, "gingeer ale on the side,"
he nods...
"und donn be sheep baby."
he asks if she wants a pail.
she drinks the ''viskey'' "oh, dats gut baby, by golly.."
if you don't know ... greta garbo anna christie...her first talking picture...
love it...
a waterfront scene, fog on the harbor docks, the camera pans the area into the seedier section of the town...we see a tavern hear the sounds of the men in the main room and see off to the side an entrance for the ladies.
inside there is an old woman drinking a beer all by herself. it is clear she is waiting for someone but it is most likely that he will not show. she drinks from her beer wipes her mouth and sees an intense woman coming into the tavern...she opens the doors and looks all around. she acknowledges the older lady then walks to a table.
the innkeeper comes in...asks her what she wants...
"Viskey." she growls in her heavily accented voice, "gingeer ale on the side,"
he nods...
"und donn be sheep baby."
he asks if she wants a pail.
she drinks the ''viskey'' "oh, dats gut baby, by golly.."
if you don't know ... greta garbo anna christie...her first talking picture...
love it...
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doing it in chat is hot and would be hot, in real life im not sure, like ffm in chat and mmf in chat both get me hot, but like i say ... *shakes my head side to side.... not sure...
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just try chatting all you have to do is be there and someone will tap you on the shoulder and they will help you learn how... you don't have to force it...
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i had issues yesterday also, i guess its just one of those thingies...
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Quote by curvygalore
Neither. Both of them sound like judgements.
I agree.
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This is just a general thought regarding both terms. They probably denote or connote the same thing. I just find it incredibly interesting that the sense of the word promiscuous is more general and less gender specific where as the term slut is usually associated with females. And of course therefore it carries a far more pejorative sound and sense. Imagine the conversation, "Well you know Pete, that bitch is nothing but a slut." Of course that is Pete and Joe, or whomever. Now imagine the conversation in mixed company. "Well, you know, *significant looks to the mixed company, "she is rather promiscuous." Of course that is just a musing type of thought. I am not suggesting that gay men don't call each other sluts, (since i have never heard two gay men talk about another man to each other.) I think the definition of the two terms is more gender oriented that's all. In other words, i agree with the first definition in the postings. There is of course another sense. And that is when one is judging someone on the basis of their sexual conduct. Then the term becomes more a term that suggests that the other is far worse than the one who is judging. Sort of encased in hypocrisy. lol
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Quote by Letoria
In my case, I have never felt a sexual attraction to a man, period. Why? Because of the way I plopped into this world when my Mom pushed me out. I grew up in a time and placed where girls who "didn't look gay" where not allowed by their social pack to admit such a profound difference from the norm. Thus I buried my terrifying feelings, did what was expected of me, got married, had a child, and lived in emotional anguish. When I had enough inner torment, when the wail of the Banshee grew as close as the next room, I stopped the game and did what had to be done. I remain quite friendly with my ex-husband, I adore my adult son, and I can't see any good coming from hating half the human race because of his gender. I am because I am.
Wow i love it! You stand up proudly and claim yourself. No excuses, no apologies. The voice of reason in a world of sophistry.
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At what point does anything become choice? When the will acts. We can all sit here and deny that ''will'' was acted upon, make excuses, (we were just sitting around and i kissed her and all of sudden we were doing it , ie. ) it doesn't matter where or how the will is acted upon it is still the will that acts. At that point it is choice.
Trying to break down the elements of ''choice'' into a billion bits and analyzing that makes no sense at all. It became choice when the will was acted upon by an action or activity.
The best thing to do in regards to this, for a person's psychological well being, is admit you chose. Otherwise you are indulging in the biggest fantasy that can be presented to yourself.
There is one person on this earth that you absolutely need to be honest with and that is yourself.
Choice can be deliberate, it can be instantaneous, it doesn't matter, you will never be without it.
If you don't recognize that you have no chance of making it through. It is that old, ''personal responsibility," thingie, the teachers, and our authorities, (whomever they are,) used to try to drill into our heads.
Don't avoid it.
Trying to break down the elements of ''choice'' into a billion bits and analyzing that makes no sense at all. It became choice when the will was acted upon by an action or activity.
The best thing to do in regards to this, for a person's psychological well being, is admit you chose. Otherwise you are indulging in the biggest fantasy that can be presented to yourself.
There is one person on this earth that you absolutely need to be honest with and that is yourself.
Choice can be deliberate, it can be instantaneous, it doesn't matter, you will never be without it.
If you don't recognize that you have no chance of making it through. It is that old, ''personal responsibility," thingie, the teachers, and our authorities, (whomever they are,) used to try to drill into our heads.
Don't avoid it.
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Very interesting topic. I personally prefer letting a woman find me. It is much easier that way.
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Just a quick retort in general, nothing detailed. I for one enjoy being penetrated, after all I have a vagina why not let it get some fun? One of the reasons I love my (ahem) gf, (who says we are, ''semi-attached,' whatever that means,) using her strappy on me is that she knows how to use it.
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ive always wanted to get one on my vulva of a butterfly but i cant imagine what that pain would be like and i don't like thinking of the idea of cumming while it is being done that would be horribly embarrassing i'm not sure how i react to tatoos some of them are nice but i would appreciate an expression of femininity if one was on a woman that would be incredibly alluring unless of course the female was very butchy. Butchy gals make me very hot! so there is my answer..
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I wish to make one point regarding this whole bullying issue as it relates to this discussion and then I will bow out.
The only way this whole debate makes any sense is if, One, (Society,) is going to so thoroughly study this to the end of going all the way to the, Mother Board, so to speak, and by that I mean DNA, and reprogram people. If that isn't the ultimate in Bullying what is.
The way to handle the Bully is to criminalize his behaviour and deal with the Bully as a Criminal. Any other solution is infringing upon personal choice and society does not have that right.
The only way this whole debate makes any sense is if, One, (Society,) is going to so thoroughly study this to the end of going all the way to the, Mother Board, so to speak, and by that I mean DNA, and reprogram people. If that isn't the ultimate in Bullying what is.
The way to handle the Bully is to criminalize his behaviour and deal with the Bully as a Criminal. Any other solution is infringing upon personal choice and society does not have that right.
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All well and good.
First of all let me address this secondary smoke issue you brought up. Hang with this for a minute and do not emotionally respond although from what I have seen thus far I don't think you will.
Unless you non smokers can clearly delineate the specific amounts of carcinogens that I as a smoker dump into the atmosphere and clearly demonstrate it as mine as opposed to the infinite trillions (literally) of other carcinogens dumped into that atmosphere on a daily basis by the rest of every animal and plant on this planet you have no right to tell me that I can't.
Existing on this planet releases that. Every thing on this planet contributes to the carcinogens dumped here not just me. This is a hypocritical argument, what makes your carcinogens better than mine? If you don't want me to smoke in your presence whatever. Carcinogens are an issue no doubt. Unless you are ready to label all carcinogens as secondary smoke. It would be wise to remember the old adage about three fingers pointing back as a person points one finger.
As to the big C, cancer. My father passed away because of throat cancer 15 years ago . They attribute his death to cigarettes yet he was conceived in south-western South Dakota near a town named Edgemont which at one time was to be evacuated because of excess Radiation. Subsequently the have found vast resources of Uranium under the entire south-western part of South Dakota and are currently debating the efficacy of mining it. Yet my Father passed away because of cigarettes? Give me a break. There is another aspect also here. We supposedly know how many bombs they tested on the flats of New Mexico, we do not know how many they haven't told us about, (I'm sure they wouldn't lie to us about that, NOT) What is the drift of weather from New Mexico? North by Northwest. Where did the radiation go? Not only where I live but the entire eastern half of the United States too. Another point, the town of Igloo in South-western South Dakota used to be an ammunition storage point during both world wars. Today there are sign all over the area to stay out of the abandoned town, could it because they needed a place to dump the spent plutonium and uranium from all those tests? That is almost a no brainer.
I won't even mention Methane gas except to say that I find it about as pleasant as you find secondary smoke!!! I'm not attempting to personalize this I'm just pointing out that we do not need scape goats we need solutions.
I will talk about more about this bullying question later
First of all let me address this secondary smoke issue you brought up. Hang with this for a minute and do not emotionally respond although from what I have seen thus far I don't think you will.
Unless you non smokers can clearly delineate the specific amounts of carcinogens that I as a smoker dump into the atmosphere and clearly demonstrate it as mine as opposed to the infinite trillions (literally) of other carcinogens dumped into that atmosphere on a daily basis by the rest of every animal and plant on this planet you have no right to tell me that I can't.
Existing on this planet releases that. Every thing on this planet contributes to the carcinogens dumped here not just me. This is a hypocritical argument, what makes your carcinogens better than mine? If you don't want me to smoke in your presence whatever. Carcinogens are an issue no doubt. Unless you are ready to label all carcinogens as secondary smoke. It would be wise to remember the old adage about three fingers pointing back as a person points one finger.
As to the big C, cancer. My father passed away because of throat cancer 15 years ago . They attribute his death to cigarettes yet he was conceived in south-western South Dakota near a town named Edgemont which at one time was to be evacuated because of excess Radiation. Subsequently the have found vast resources of Uranium under the entire south-western part of South Dakota and are currently debating the efficacy of mining it. Yet my Father passed away because of cigarettes? Give me a break. There is another aspect also here. We supposedly know how many bombs they tested on the flats of New Mexico, we do not know how many they haven't told us about, (I'm sure they wouldn't lie to us about that, NOT) What is the drift of weather from New Mexico? North by Northwest. Where did the radiation go? Not only where I live but the entire eastern half of the United States too. Another point, the town of Igloo in South-western South Dakota used to be an ammunition storage point during both world wars. Today there are sign all over the area to stay out of the abandoned town, could it because they needed a place to dump the spent plutonium and uranium from all those tests? That is almost a no brainer.
I won't even mention Methane gas except to say that I find it about as pleasant as you find secondary smoke!!! I'm not attempting to personalize this I'm just pointing out that we do not need scape goats we need solutions.
I will talk about more about this bullying question later
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I differ from your point of view. Society sets rules or norms that tells us what is acceptable and what is not. That is not bullying. In the absence of those norms we would have total anarchy and the law of the biggest and meanest would rule. we would have one person ruling differently or as they see fit as far as their area of terror would cover. In essence wouldn't those people be what we today refer to as bullies?
As to the first point, "Society .... what is not." That is absolutely correct and if a person does not conform to that norm what ever it is, they find themselves out of society. ie in jail, dead, or ostracized and isolated in some fashion. Just look at our smoking brothers and sisters. Society is attempting, right now to ''Bully,'' smokers out of society. I agree totally that the ''biggest and meanest,'' rule in an anarchial type of situation. However when the society acts in that manner, setting up rules and conformity edicts, are they not actually and collectively the ''biggest and the meanest?" All I am saying is that their actions are more subtle. I'm not suggesting that society is wrong. I was bullied as a child, i know what I am talking about. The Bully was pointing out to me that society was drawing a line in front of me regarding conduct that it deemed not proper. This was manifested in the manner that the Bully chose to demonstrate this. The Bully was wrong in the manner of the methodology. Society came along after him and did the very same thing by helping me whittle away the more unacceptable things so i was more acceptable. Had my behaviour not changed I can assure you that I would've been, ''bullied,'' out by Society.
You can see this in the animal kingdom. The Pack or the Herd or whatever you wish to call it, will bully out the weak or infirm or aberrant or whatever is deleterious to the pack.
We need to as members of Society make very clear to the Bully that the conduct is unacceptable. It doesn't matter one damn bit if it is learned or inherited. It is wrong. Society needs to act as the biggest and meanest and ostracize the Bully until the Bully changes conduct. It all revolves around conduct. Again this is just an opinion.
Let's take a look at being Gay. Or, in my case, Lesbian. Or even, Transgendered. The first thing that needs to be settled here is not the sexual dysphoria that people like this feel, although personal counselling and or psychological help should be made available to people like this more readily, what needs to be settled here is Society's view of this.
Society needs to be on the same page to address this. One thing I have noticed is that individual, 'cells' of Society are not. As long as the, "Authority," the victim appeals to is wishy washy regarding being Gay, Lesbian, or TG, (even going so far as to say 'Sissified', if you can catch that meaning,) nothing will be communicated to the Bully that suggests that their conduct is wrong. That is the problem with Bullying. The Authority will not back the victim because they think that it involves a matter or personal taste, even going so far as to suggest, the Authority's concept of that.
To put it quite bluntly, Society needs to be the ''biggest and meanest," to properly deal with the one who just thinks he is.
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Bullying is that which is done to a more obvious degree by the one who is a bully. By that i mean society bullies everyone into what behaviour is unacceptable or acceptable. The bully is more obvious. The bullying by society is less so. That is not to say that bullying doesn't exist it says that the manifestation is glaringly obvious. Basically when a bully is called out as a bully that is only the society itself telling the bully that their behaviour is unacceptable. The issue is conformity to the norm, whatever society dictates the norm to be at the particular time. You will never stop bullying. Our discussion of this is proof. If there was a personal manifestation of this in the forum today, ie. a particular person that we specifically are referring to in our society, Lush stories society forum for example, then we would be bullying him/her into proper behaviour in our society. Just an opinion from one who has been bullied.