Ok so i was at the movies with my Gf and some of her girlfriends tagged along. i was fine with it until the movie started to go on for like forever i kept trying to put my arm around her but when i lifted it up she would quickly lean down to fake adjust her shoe or something. eventually i stopped trying. even later i looked over and saw she was resting her head on one of her girlfriends shoulders she used to always do that with me and then i would rest my head on top of her head it was like our thing at movies! when we left instead of coming back to my place she went back with one of her gf's. so the question is whats up why would a girl do something like this is a not so subtle way of saying we are done should i try talking to her about it or would that make it worse i need some help here people please help thanks
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Alpha Blonde
Not gonna lie... it doesn't look good.
She might be in that "wind-down" phase where she has been using her girlfriends as therapists and they've been supporting her in her confusion on whether to continue your relationship or not. It appears that she's still undecided so she wants to keep you hanging until she figures it out. In times like these, girls either do the "I'm going out of town for a few days" excuse or they bring their girlfriends everywhere as an intimacy buffer.
She might be in that "wind-down" phase where she has been using her girlfriends as therapists and they've been supporting her in her confusion on whether to continue your relationship or not. It appears that she's still undecided so she wants to keep you hanging until she figures it out. In times like these, girls either do the "I'm going out of town for a few days" excuse or they bring their girlfriends everywhere as an intimacy buffer.
The Linebacker
Quote by Dancing_Doll
Not gonna lie... it doesn't look good.
She might be in that "wind-down" phase where she has been using her girlfriends as therapists and they've been supporting her in her confusion on whether to continue your relationship or not. It appears that she's still undecided so she wants to keep you hanging until she figures it out. In times like these, girls either do the "I'm going out of town for a few days" excuse or they bring their girlfriends everywhere as an intimacy buffer.
I think Doll is dead on. It is definitely not a good sign.
Maybe it is time to check out one of her friends...
Alpha Blonde
Quote by bigguns
she brought two of them to dinner as a "surprise" doll you are on top of it so should i end it or give her time to work her shit out i really like her if that helps
If I was doing this to a guy (and I have in the past) the best thing he could do would be a hard pull-back. That is, not clingy/hovering or trying to accommodate me, but more to shake me up and make me realize what I might be losing. When someone dicks another person around because they are trying to figure things out, they assume they have that person squarely in their corner and that they are willing to wait and put up with any array of hot-and-cold bullshit. If a guy employed a strong take it or leave it stance or if he himself just said "hey looks like you need a bit of space so why don't we both take some time apart" it would probably freak me out enough to fear losing him. That might speed the decision along.
Of course, if she legitimately wants out, this probably won't work but will operate more as her ticket out of the relationship. But then again that's probably preferable than wasting time, wondering what she's thinking or if she's trying to do the "slow death" style of ending a relationship because she doesn't have the guts to just pull the plug straight out. A lot of people aren't good with break-ups so they often take the passive way out by trying to wind things down. Plus there is less finality to it so it gives them a window of time where they can reconsider or change their minds.
Also... beware that there might be another guy in the picture. The only reason I say this is that if a new guy is lurking and she's starting to have feelings for him or tentatively playing things out with him to see where it might go, this is a strong reason as to why she will want to avoid having sex with you in the interim. Girls, especially when they are all starry eyed about a new guy, might see having sex with their existing boyfriend as cheating on the new prospect. Weird, I know. But because they aren't sure what they really want (yet), they are trying to keep the status quo and not rock the boat until they feel that they are ready to jump ship.
Sorry to say it Bigguns, but sounds like you're toast? Just saying....behavior seems evasive and "you're done" kind of behavior. Best to do what doll says and shake her up a bit. If she's really finished with you then nothing lost anyways. If she's uncertain or thinking about another guy (girls do fantasize and flirt when you're not around you know) then it might shake her up and focus her mind on what she is about to lose. Good luck.....lots of fish in the sea you know.
Active Ink Slinger
DD has hit it dead on. Sounds like she has her eye on someone else but is not yet willing to end it with you just in case it doesnt work out with the new guy. Also by having her GF's around, she may be hoping that you eventually decide to end it so she doesnt feel guilty about it. Us girls can be weird like that sometimes.
Of course there are other possibilities but experience tells me this is what is going on.
You have to decide if you are willing to play it out or not. You said you really like her. Maybe the "looks like you need some space" idea may force her to decide what she really wants.
What ever you decide, Good Luck!!
Of course there are other possibilities but experience tells me this is what is going on.
You have to decide if you are willing to play it out or not. You said you really like her. Maybe the "looks like you need some space" idea may force her to decide what she really wants.
What ever you decide, Good Luck!!
Active Ink Slinger
Hire DD as your therapist! Lots of insight there, pal! Personally, I would let her know that you are not happy with the poresent situation, let her go to do her own thing and see what happens. Kind of like the old addage, 'if you love someone, set them free.'
The nice guy in me thinks you should make the move, letting her off the hook
Good luck, no matter what you decide.
The nice guy in me thinks you should make the move, letting her off the hook
Good luck, no matter what you decide.
went with the advice i told her i wanted to talk and so we met at a campus coffee shop where i asked if she wanted some space she said she did and then said it was great being with you but i need to explore other options (slap in the face) (not really but she may as well have) oh well thanks for your input everyone i've delt with break ups before but this whole you break up first no you break up first thing is new in the past we have both always been open about our feelings maybe she wasn't the right one if she wasn't strong enough to tell me straight up i like a strong woman thanks again everyone.
Quote by AGreyFoxxx
Hire DD as your therapist! Lots of insight there, pal! Personally, I would let her know that you are not happy with the poresent situation, let her go to do her own thing and see what happens. Kind of like the old addage, 'if you love someone, set them free.'
The nice guy in me thinks you should make the move, letting her off the hook
Good luck, no matter what you decide.
DD always has great advice.
And AGreyFoxxx ..... you said something very classy and I applaud you! It's difficult to be the classier person ... but when you are, you feel good about it!
Good Luck, Joey!
xo
Constant Gardener
Quote by bigguns
Ok so i was at the movies with my Gf and some of her girlfriends tagged along. i was fine with it until the movie started to go on for like forever
Please don't tell us you got roped into attending a chick flick, just to get kicked to the curb?
The proper response in that situation would've been to not say anything, get up and stroll over to the theater showing Moneyball or Contagion. Hell, you could've driven to the local titty bar instead. Her and her support-system friends could've thumbed a ride home from the cinema.
The same GQP demanding we move on from January 6th, 2021 is still doing audits of the November 3rd, 2020 election.