Imagine one day you discover your boyfriend had sex with your daughter, let's say you had to spend a night out visiting some relatives and when you came back you found out the whole thing.
How would you react? I guess you'd kick out the guy, but what about your daughter? Could you forgive something like that? Would that destroy your mother-daugheter relationship forever?
I'd work it out with my daughter. It would obviously mean she has some serious deep-seated issues with me. Or it could mean that my boyfriend was a disgusting lecherous asshole. Probably both.
Either way, my feelings are 'daughters before lovers', always...
Are you contemplating doing something with your girlfriends daughter? It sounds, and I'm going by the other thread you started on here ... that you have some mother-daughter issues.
Interesting thought provoking topic again.
Is javier breaking the lush guidelines of proper conduct? Then by all means, ask him kindly to refrain from posting these types of questions.
Why do you feel the need to psycho analyze javier? I happen to know another Spanish guy who addresses similar questions concerning women. His name is Pedro Almodóvar, a well-known Oscar winning movie director. Would you say he also has "issues with females in general"?
Maybe he does, maybe both do, but making bold statements doesn't make it any more true than anyone's wild guess. And even though you say he should ignore your mod status, that's easier said than done so it's a bit unfair imo.
Again, if he's violating the site guidelines then by all means take the appropriate action but please do so in private messages.
Insert typical super smart ass comment courtesy of thepainter here.
Why do I get the feeling that I should see you guys beating on your chests and roaring?
Geesh! Can you say testosterone?
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"Speaking now, as both a community member and moderator - Let me just say, that nobody has asked (that I know of) for you to be Banned. Nor has anyone threatened to Ban you."
Yeppers!!
"You were addressed nicely and cordially in private email - concerning your questioning. You chose to delete that email from me to you...as you admitted today to me, in another email."
I posted a thread about the fact that some men women when they can get away with it, like suggested in the movie Blindness, and quoted other examples of barbaric acts done when there's no rules, like Lord of the Flies. I was told that the very tragic and painful nature of made it off limits as a discussion topic, which seemed quite reasonable to me. But I couldnt ever imagine that a question about mother-daughter issues could have any controversy, or offensive nature, and I would be deemed as some sort of psychopath.
Anyway, I apologize if the nature of my questioning harmed or insulted anyone, I'll refrain myself from any further contribution to this forum until I'll get a crystal clear idea of what is an appropiate questioning and what is not, which seems a rather hard task, since we are dealing with subjective thoughts and feelings, bias, prejudices, stereotypes, and what's okay for some people is not for others.
See ya around.
Javi.
I can`t see how javier`s question can be seen as objectionable to anyone on here.
Let me put this forward. What if the question was asked from a mans perspective ? ie if the boyfriend found out that his girlfriend slept with his son.
And I don`t feel that asking such questions would make someone a psychopath.