In my opinion it is mostly about the chemistry between you. If there is a lot of chemistry the sex will seem intense whether they are "good" or not. Dominance you can get a sense of because that is something you don't just put on in the bedroom you have to have that to begin with. As for kinks it depends on the kind of kink you are talking about. And finally what I look for to tell me this, Does he like to make the decisions? What does he focus his attention on when he thinks you aren't looking? Where do you conversations end up? It is hard to describe, with some guys you just know others give nothing away.
I agree with Septery. If there's chemistry, then it's bound to be good. Although just by looking can i tell if he's going to like doggie over missionary? Or cowgirl over 69? No.
No, thats the fun of the first time.
Yes, guessing is easy.
The fun of it is finding out if I guessed right or not.
Thanks for the replies so far. I agree the sex will be nice when there's a good chemistry. Plus, if such a chemistry was possible in the first place, more often than not it also means that you share a similar point of view concerning sex and how it should be handled.
I'm with personal assistant on that.
It doesn't matter what it is, she's giving it to me and I cherish it.
ive found that the quiet and shy guys often turn into sex freaks in the bedroom and are very good. the loudmouths are quite shy but self obsessed during sex. of course everyones different and you cant judge a book by its cover
There are clues with some guys - a lot of times it's a certain physicality, the way he moves, even a certain attitude. I can usually get a feel for the level of intensity, but freak-level can really vary. Some guys are all talk but end up being milkduds in bed. With others I've thought it would basically just be basic hard jock-type sex and they've surprised me with how creative and kinky they are right away.
I'd say the best predictor would be the kind of porn he watches - but you don't typically know those preferences upfront.
you can see clues
one is how they eat a meal
if they gulp it down fast without any enjoyment
i can almost predict how the lovemaking will be
fast and super boring
see if you savor a meal..
you will savor me
and by a kiss
see a kiss gives you all sorts of insight to people
skill in kissing means skill in....
you get my point
There have been times when I have been able to pretty much size up how the sex would be by observing him/her. But there have also been times where I was very wrong in what I expected, some positive and some negative. That is part of what makes it fun I guess
