Care what he does for a living?

Care what a hot guy does for a living?

30 Mar 2010

I agree with you gypsy, but I also agree with Lady X… I want a man that will be able to take care of me and provide for me – this doesn’t mean that I will be lazy and do nothing. I can take care of myself, I pay my own bills, what I have is because I’ve worked for it; yet I still want to feel secure.

If I’m with a man it doesn’t matter what he does as long as he takes care of me and my son, I’m a package deal…

30 Mar 2010

Quote by LushPrincess
I agree with you gypsy, but I also agree with Lady X… I want a man that will be able to take care of me and provide for me – this doesn’t mean that I will be lazy and do nothing. I can take care of myself, I pay my own bills, what I have is because I’ve worked for it; yet I still want to feel secure.

If I’m with a man it doesn’t matter what he does as long as he takes care of me and my son, I’m a package deal…

But you make a fine point there, which is the need to *feel* secure, which has a lot to do with the emotional aspects of a relationship. It isn't always based on actual financial requirements which women can and do provide themselves, but on steadiness, reliability and a lot of other things that go into making a relationship work -- on both sides. It's just that the usual expectations and assumptions are that a man is going to be the stronger or main wage earner. In many cases I know of, regardless of who earns the most, or what kind of profession or work each person does, it is the woman who is careful about running the family budget and making sure that bills are paid, groceries are bought, and the end of the month isn't a tense, tight squeeze, especially when there are children involved.

30 Mar 2010

These days the power shift for the main financial earner can go both ways.

Both partners need to be financially capable on their own. But that does mean that incomes/jobs matter (for both sexes). I don't want to be supporting a guy (and I have before).

I know what I'm 'bringing to the table' so to speak, and I need someone who can at least stand as an equal to me. Because of this, what he does for a living will definitely factor into my consideration of being with him for the long term.

30 Mar 2010

Quote by sunshine22345
Yeaaaaah, I do ! he has to make a lot of money and buy me clothes and jewllery, if he doesn't get me the things, then I leave him. Or i just say "Buy me that or i'll go find someone who will'. ahahaha, it's fun,

Shallow much??? Damn!

30 Mar 2010

Quote by chefkathleen
Quote by MMonroe
Nope anything fine by me.

Although I prefer blokes who do some kind of manual labour work, building, or mechanic, both my exes were either a joiner or a plumber.... i dunno i guess i just like em manly If i walk past a building site I always have to look, high vis jackets are goos ones to look out for

Can you repeat this in American?

What's a joiner?
And what's high vis jackets?

Seriously haha.

A Joiner, is someone who makes thind out of wood, like a carpenter.
High Visability Jackets are those Illuminescent bright yellow jackets.

30 Mar 2010

I don't care what he does as long as it's legal. BUT he has to be able to help me with the bills and fun nights out whatever.... a relationship is 50/50 and it should be like financially too.

30 Mar 2010

I don't mind what a partner does work wise. I agree with Monroe I have a thing for tanned outdoor men who work up a sweat and get a tan at the same time mmmmmmm I have also got a thing for when a man is really tanned and his head is shaved quite short mmmmmmm sexy!

30 Mar 2010

The 22% of votes who do mind what job their partner does don't seem to be speaking up hmmmmmm come on speak up tell why you do mind what your partner does work wise.

30 Mar 2010

After reading all the whoo ha thats already going on here. I have to say, yes I do care.

I dont want to be with a man in a dead end career and every night thats all he talks about...
I dont want to be with a man that earns FAR less than me and he is jealous about it...
I dont want to be with a man that dosnt have a job and dosnt have any ambition to get one either...
I dont want to be with a man that earns millions and thats all I hear about... my money this and my money that...

So basically, I want a guy that is happy with his job, has a good career ahead of them and he wont complain or brag about it the whole time we are together. I understand if he is unemployed due to economy situations but I need to see some ambition in him to will want to find another job.

30 Mar 2010

Quote by gypsymoth
Quote by LadyX
Okay I could come in here and say that none of that matters, all that matters is that we have each other, blah blah, but thats just not the truth. It does matter, not the job but the money.

It doesn't matter what it is really, I could care less if the fool sells stereos, builds furniture, or sells stocks, but whatever it is I do want to be treated to nice things sometimes. And ya, I can pay sometimes too, but I want to know I will be taken care of and I dont have to worry about eating beans out the can at the end of the month. lol. I went through that as a kid, so never again!

I want a man who can take me out, buy me things, and show me a good time. I dont want to hear a lot of complaining about it, and if you cant afford it, then its like somebody else said- nothing wrong with a little fun, but for me to stick around? A little more is what I want.

I dont always want those things ever day and of course if he is an asshole then nothing else matters really, but those things matter to me.

I'm curious, then, as to why you or any other woman wouldn't want to make sure that she can take care of herself financially, by assuring she is self-reliant and able to earn a living that assures her of the standards and levels of well-being that are important to her? I ask this having lived through rough times as a child, too, and having learned that the number one person I could rely on was myself.

After that, the dynamics of the male-female relationship are shifted. If a woman is financially autonomous, and in a field that enables her to live to the standard she aspires to, and she is happy, content, fulfilled, etc, with it, then where is the problem? We're NOT liars, as a previous poster has insinuated, in fact, when it comes to our desire for a relationship. We're not fools, either, and I suspect that you and I have things in common based on our respective backgrounds, and the need to assure that the end of the month is not pitiful. I don't want those days to ever come around again either, and I learned long ago that the one person I could rely on to make sure of that was myself.

Just my opinion, of course. I may get flamed for it, but what the heck, everyone has an opinion, right?

You asked if I, as a woman, wouldnt want to make sure I could take care of myself. To answer your question, yes I do, and actually I am doing pretty good in terms of money, more than lots of people out there, but I work hard for it. I dont need a man to make sure I have plenty to eat or even a roof over my head. When you say that I cant rely on anybody but myself, girl, you are damn right about that. I dont trust any fool with my life or my happiness, but then that wasn't the question really. The question was do I care what he does, but I also know that what Damon meant was, do we care whether he makes decent money or not. Yes it matters even if it isnt the only thing.

Because even though I am not dependent on a man to take care of me, if I am going to allow one into my life, to know what I go through, to trust him not to abuse me or make me feel small or take advantage of the fact that I am his girl, then I do want some of the nicer things in life in return. I want to be treated like a lady, I want to be treated in general. I want to feel special, I want to be shown off, and I want an effort made. Believe me if those things happen, then I will show the same in return to a good man.

A little of the guard always stays up. I see what happens when women totally let go and trust a man, seen it too many times, and Gypsy that will not be me. I will keep whats mine and I will make sure I am protected, I am my best protector. I don't look for a man to take care of me. My business is with men, and so to even have a relationship means I have to figure out where the lines are. Its a lot easier to just have fun, mess around, and cut ties where it doesn't make for a good time anymore.

But sometimes I meet a man and I think, damn I wonder what its like to be with you. And usually, he has more money, usually he's good looking and has nice things. I know there are lots of good guys out there without a penny to their name, but that doesnt mean I want to date them.

I dont think the fact that I get a little wet and weak at the knees at the confident good looking guy with a little bit of money, swagger, and an easy way of putting his arm around me is a coincidence every time.

30 Mar 2010

So, lets say you meet a guy and you totally hit it off. He's attractive, funny...everything you look for in a man. Then you ask him what he does for a living...and he tells you he works at McDonalds. Now, you may still choose to be with the guy, but can any of you honestly say that you wouldn't be a tad disapointed?

Now some women want a guy with money, some want a guy with ambition, and some may prefer a starving artist. But to say that it absolutely doesn't matter? Nah, I don't buy it. You may deal with it, but if you had your way, you probably would not want your husband to work at a fast food restaurant.

30 Mar 2010

Quote by DamonX
So, lets say you meet a guy and you totally hit it off. He's attractive, funny...everything you look for in a man. Then you ask him what he does for a living...and he tells you he works at McDonalds. Now, you may still choose to be with the guy, but can any of you honestly say that you wouldn't be a tad disapointed?

Now some women want a guy with money, some want a guy with ambition, and some may prefer a starving artist. But to say that it absolutely doesn't matter? Nah, I don't buy it. You may deal with it, but if you had your way, you probably would not want your husband to work at a fast food restaurant.

We've all given our opinion on this thread, yet you seem to think we're not being truthful. Maybe you just need to accept that your carefully constructed theories on women aren't all that accurate. They're based on your experiences. That doesn't mean they're true for all women.

That's what's great about these Ask the Gals/Ask the Guys sections - we can learn more about each other.

I thought most men would prefer athletic body types in women, yet the poll on body types in the Ask the Guys section indicates they prefer the curvier shapes. I've learned something new. Fun, isn't it!

31 Mar 2010

Quote by Mr_Sfstk8d
I'm a machine mechanic/electrician. Who's coming over?? LOL And since I work in skilled trades I knew what MM meant even if it's not quite the same terms we always use here. OK, who knows what a Boomer is? A Finisher? A Laborer (easy one)? A Rigger? A Fitter? A Tinner?

Ok, I'm an American.. and here's what I "think" (go ahead and look for the smoke and sniff the air for something burning!) they are:

Boomer..................someone who works with explosives, i.e., blaster, powder monkey...

Laborer...................a gofer(gets parts/tools), assists where and when needed, digs ditches, etc...

Finisher..................someone who does the finish work, i.e., finish carpenter (cabinets), concrete finisher (skimming and finishing concrete)

Rigger....................That's the person who "rigs" loads for lifting and directs the crane...

Fitter......................Fancy name for a plumber (I was a "Pipe Fitter" in a shipyard, installed pipe of all sizes)...
(any pipe fitter can be a plumber, but not every plumber can be a pipe fitter)...

Tinner....................Someone who works with sheet metal, i.e., a "tinsmith"

How right am I??

31 Mar 2010

Quote by DamonX
So, lets say you meet a guy and you totally hit it off. He's attractive, funny...everything you look for in a man. Then you ask him what he does for a living...and he tells you he works at McDonalds. Now, you may still choose to be with the guy, but can any of you honestly say that you wouldn't be a tad disapointed?

Now some women want a guy with money, some want a guy with ambition, and some may prefer a starving artist. But to say that it absolutely doesn't matter? Nah, I don't buy it. You may deal with it, but if you had your way, you probably would not want your husband to work at a fast food restaurant.

It is true, most women would be a tad bit dissapointed and most wish for a man with a million bucks. But I think the question is more or less, would it be a deal breaker for you. And the answer for most women would be no.

31 Mar 2010

We've all given our opinion on this thread, yet you seem to think we're not being truthful. Maybe you just need to accept that your carefully constructed theories on women aren't all that accurate. They're based on your experiences. That doesn't mean they're true for all women.

That's what's great about these Ask the Gals/Ask the Guys sections - we can learn more about each other.

I thought most men would prefer athletic body types in women, yet the poll on body types in the Ask the Guys section indicates they prefer the curvier shapes. I've learned something new. Fun, isn't it!

Look...it may not be a dealbreaker, but to suggest that it doesn't matter at all? Well then doctors and firemen would be not better off than guys on welfare. I realize that a lot of people on this site try and view the world through rose-coloured glasses and take offence at the people actually speak the truth... So are you not being truthful? I don't know. I think you may be simplifying things and trying to portray yourself in a morally superior way because you believe that to be an admirable quality. Don't worry. The fact that you are more attracted to a successful man than a deadbeat doesn't make you a bad person.

31 Mar 2010

Quote by DamonX
We've all given our opinion on this thread, yet you seem to think we're not being truthful. Maybe you just need to accept that your carefully constructed theories on women aren't all that accurate. They're based on your experiences. That doesn't mean they're true for all women.

That's what's great about these Ask the Gals/Ask the Guys sections - we can learn more about each other.

I thought most men would prefer athletic body types in women, yet the poll on body types in the Ask the Guys section indicates they prefer the curvier shapes. I've learned something new. Fun, isn't it!

Look...it may not be a dealbreaker, but to suggest that it doesn't matter at all? Well then doctors and firemen would be not better off than guys on welfare. I realize that a lot of people on this site try and view the world through rose-coloured glasses and take offence at the people actually speak the truth... So are you not being truthful? I don't know. I think you may be simplifying things and trying to portray yourself in a morally superior way because you believe that to be an admirable quality. Don't worry. The fact that you are more attracted to a successful man than a deadbeat doesn't make you a bad person.

My original response was that he needed to have a job and some ambition. You're bringing 'welfare' into the discussion which is going off topic. We're talking about men who are employed.

As I mentioned earlier, my husband was working in a supermarket when we first got together. That job is long gone now, but should I have turned him down because it didn't pay enough?

31 Mar 2010

My original response was that he needed to have a job and some ambition. You're bringing 'welfare' into the discussion which is going off topic. We're talking about men who are employed.

As I mentioned earlier, my husband was working in a supermarket when we first got together. That job is long gone now, but should I have turned him down because it didn't pay enough?

Of course not. But would you want him to still work at a supermarket today? Probably not. I used to deliver Chinese food when I was 18. No big deal. But If I still had that job at 30, I think women would question my ambition and my self worth. And its not always about money. Women are generally more attracted to firemen than plumbers, even though the plumber may make more money. There are a lot of factors, but my point is that what he does, actually matters. It seems a lot of people are interpreting this as "Women want guys that make lots of money" but that is not what I'm saying.

31 Mar 2010

DamonX,

I think that you should stop asking the gals what they think and be honest and just tell us your views! Because in my honest opinion, this is all it seems.

No matter what we say, you always come back with a rebuttal. There is no discussion and no debating. You are right, and we are wrong. Not just in this post, but all of your others.

Are these questions just a way to make women look bad? Based on your selected questions, if we say yes, then we come across as superficial and if we say no, then we are liars.

Now, I am going to say NO, and I mean NO and don't come back with but, but, but! You asked, I answered, Just accept it!

31 Mar 2010

Quote by Pixie
Quote by DamonX
Any woman who says she doesn't care...is probably lying. A guy doesn't have to have a great job but he needs to have some ambition. Am I right? Women, even though some may dispute, are biologically programmed to seek out a mate who will provide a suitable living environment. You may fuck the hot gas station attendent, but you sure as hell aren't going to marry him. (unless you live in a trailer park or are a teenager). You may have different standards or different things that you look for, but you most likely do care about what the guys does or plans to do.

You are sooo off there, Damon! I wouldnt care if the man I married worked for the garbage company or if he worked at McDonalds! Money is not everything!
And by the way....my momma lives in a trailer park. Watch your mouth!

What she said! We are not all concerned with money. The old expression, that money does not buy happiness is absolutely true.

31 Mar 2010

Quote by SweetBitch
DamonX,

I think that you should stop asking the gals what they think and be honest and just tell us your views! Because in my honest opinion, this is all it seems.

No matter what we say, you always come back with a rebuttal. There is no discussion and no debating. You are right, and we are wrong. Not just in this post, but all of your others.

Are these questions just a way to make women look bad? Based on your selected questions, if we say yes, then we come across as superficial and if we say no, then we are liars.

Now, I am going to say NO, and I mean NO and don't come back with but, but, but! You asked, I answered, Just accept it!

Well said! hello1

31 Mar 2010

I am so embarrassed!

I did not, at the time of writing, realize that Roccotool actually started this post. I in no way mean that roccotool started this topic to get a bite or to discriminate against women. Sorry Roccotool, I am going to have to make it up to you *kiss grovel*. I am going to have to really search deep into the bowels of the internet and find you some really hot smokey beauty pics.

I assumed it was started by DamonX only because he seemed to take over the post. He came in and more or less (more, more) called us liars about 5 times and wouldn't accept our answers.

So with that being said, I still stand about what I said to DamonX, except for the little minor fact that he actually didn't start this topic. Now I am going to crawl back into my little hole *hangs head in shame* isjda

31 Mar 2010

Quote by SweetBitch
DamonX,

I think that you should stop asking the gals what they think and be honest and just tell us your views! Because in my honest opinion, this is all it seems.

No matter what we say, you always come back with a rebuttal. There is no discussion and no debating. You are right, and we are wrong. Not just in this post, but all of your others.

Are these questions just a way to make women look bad? Based on your selected questions, if we say yes, then we come across as superficial and if we say no, then we are liars.

Now, I am going to say NO, and I mean NO and don't come back with but, but, but! You asked, I answered, Just accept it!

Understanding women is life long pursuit. If I was a smart guy I wouldn't stray into too many "ask the gals" questions. I agree with you SweetBitch, not to disparage DamonX or any guy but a lot of times we fail to appreciate the others point of view.

Whom a woman goes out with is best left to her, there are consequences for bad choices that is for sure. I agree with the point of view that in most cases it does not matter who you choose for a partner as long as the partner is not a slacker, has potential and ambition. This goes for men, women both heterosexual and homosexual. Over time a couple can work their future out.

On the other hand, like the gypsymoth says about an individual being able to take care of themselves applies. Being able to take care of yourself gives you an edge. It doesn't hurt to pick someone higher on the food chain.

31 Mar 2010

What she said! We are not all concerned with money. The old expression, that money does not buy happiness is absolutely true.

If you actually read the posts, then you would realize that my comments were not related to money. The fact that you made that comment indicates that you have not understood anything that I have said. The original topic was not "Does it matter how much money a man makes". It was "does it matter what a man does for a living".

If you want to go ahead and fill these forums up with cop outs and meaningless idioms then go ahead. I like hearing how people actually think. But for all of you that prefer to live in a bubble, here you go...

It doesn't matter what a guy does for a living
It doesn't matter what a guy looks like
Everyone is equal in each and every way
And anyone that questions this...is a bad, superficial person

There. Now if you'll excuse me, I'm going to go cure cancer with a big dose of puppies and sunshine! flower

31 Mar 2010

Thanks Rocco! Looks like we've come to the end of another thread! Wow! What a ride!

31 Mar 2010

Not specifically but he must be ambitious and be making a living at whatever he does.

Bunny12

Bunny Rabbits cute and fuzzy they want to love you but they have razor sharp teeth - don't piss them off!

31 Mar 2010

Quote by DamonX

The original topic was not "Does it matter how much money a man makes". It was "does it matter what a man does for a living".

lol, I think I answered the question thinking: does it matter how much they make when I answered before.

So, do I care what they do? No, it can be white collar, blue collar, I don't care.

If he is a plumber or a carpenter, I want him to wash before he lays a finger on me. If he is into something illegal I really don't want to know too much. If he does something legal but boring as hell, I want to know even less, lol.

Take me out, show me off, take care of me, make me your lady, and I won't care about the details of how you make that dollar.

31 Mar 2010

And if he acts on soaps, thats cool, but I want to know all the gossip!! lol

31 Mar 2010

Good one Necho.