In many lush stories, the girl enjoys a huge orgasm in their first time experience of full sex. I’ve been with a virgin before when I was much younger, and my experience was the opposite. I was more experienced than her, and I made sure to be slow and lots of foreplay since I knew it was her first time, and I would not want to hurt her. Although I was being very gentle, the pain of breaking hymen still prevented her from fully enjoying the sex and she did not come at that time. It was only later that month I was able to get her to orgasm, after we did it a few more times. I know the experience is from person to person, and the story usually is much different from reality. But I still wonder if I was more skillful, would I be able to get her a much better first time experience?
So here is the question, how much percentage of women enjoyed the pleasure of orgasm in their first time full-sex experience?
Like many women, I did not have a positive memorable 1st time experience. It was more the pressure of having sex to please the guy I was with.
Being that you are caring and thinking about her pleasure, seems like you are putting her experience above yours and that is commendable!
I would say that the trauma and fears of the first time along with the pain, could be difficult for her to block out. But since you two have had sex again since that first time, as long as you both take your time and continue to be nurturing and caring, I think she will relax and enjoy the experiences and eventually get to the point of letting herself relax and get into the positive physical sensations.
Remember that the sex is more mental for women! Even though there are more nerve endings in our vaginas, it is still a new experience and until the mind relaxes and enjoys the experience, she will never mentally and emotionally allow herself to to enjoy the sexual side of it! It's basically a huge mental block!
Be patient, discuss it normally, not clinically, and just be loving, compassionate, and supportive, and it will all come together!
Kisses!
Steph
I think you'll find virtually 0% of women will orgasm their first time. They may enjoy it yes but almost certainly will not orgasm. Theres a number of factors why; first time nerves, scared about exposing her body like that to someone, scared, tense, dealing with the pain, etc etc. Also if she hadnt masturbated much before she wouldnt know what feels good etc etc. Dont beat yourself up about it, pornography (videos and stories) are exaggerated versions of reality and alot of the time are not accurate.
Its good that you're so caring about it though just know its not a comment on your skills
I have gotten a gorl off her first time. but it took a long time, a lot of patiance, and listening. Moving very slowly, almost a millimeter at a time when she says she is ready is the best bet.
The first time was long ago but it just hurt. I rarely orgasm from intercourse unless he gets my g spot. Its all about the clit. Some guys can get your clit while penetrating. Then I will cum. I must be very wet to enjoy penetration. Its pleasurable and exciting if not orgamsic
Hi, Gals and Guys, thanks you very much for all your answers. I really appreciate your opinions and advices and it helps me understand women better.
A late Happy Thanks giving from US!
