It was mentioned in another thread that Lush allows a way for one woman to express her fantasies because she could not discuss them with her husband.
I have heard this lament before and I cannot imagine not being able to discuss my wants/desires with my boyfriend.
Is it a generational thing do you think?
Is it still a conditioning of the past of female sexuality being an unspoke of thing?
Can you (guys, you of course can answer too) express and discuss what you want/need/desire with your partner/spouse? If not, why do you think that is?
In my case, I don't believe it's a generational thing or a repression of female sexuality.
I have spoken to my husband about some of my fantasies, but he just doesn't "get it." And my fantasies are not a turn-on for him.
I suppose I am very lucky, I have found a man I feel completely free to express with. I was raised very conservatively and was very much a prude, saving my virginity til I was 21 and not knowing that masturbating was an option til 23. (I did have one sexual experience at 16, but scared the shit out of me thinking I would be pregnant). I didn't even understand that I could let my mind and fantasies go where they have gone until I met my now husband. He helped to unleash the sexual being that I am and, WOW, I hope he agrees it has allowed the dam to break and flood all over him (literally as well) LOL... Still wanting to learn about what I want and desire and how to fulfill what he fantasizes about.
I suppose I think it comes down for me, as a woman, about safety. Feeling safe to go there... I know he may not always want to do what I want, but will never judge me and neither will I him.
Unfortately, I do have to hide it. My husband is the kind of man who wants to be in control of everything and everyone. He does not want to talk about what I wanted in the bedroom and I was only there for his pleasure. I was stupid and never had sex until I was around 21 and I was raised in a very sexual conservative home. The first thing that set my destiny was I did not tell anyone that I was assaulted until I was 18 years old. The second was that my husband was the first man I had been with which didnt help things. I wish I would not have been denied the right to have more than just one relationship.
It wasn't until my marriage began to fail and I had not been sexually active for two years when my friend introduced me to a whole another world of adult toys. I was scared and embarrassed at first but soon learned that I was not the only one in a marriage with no end. I have learned so much since I have gotten older and enjoy my personal time alone. I still don't have sex with my husband because the last time he hurt me physically. If he knew I was on Lush I probably wouldn't want to know what he would do. He has cheated on me and in his mind that is ok. It is ok for him to do whatever he wants but I feel that this is just something that is for me and me alone. I enjoy the stories and talking to other people.
He called me a freak about some of my sexual fantasies. There is more than just sex and it took me a long time to learn that I was normal, that I wasnt a freak. I enjoy making love, exploring fantasies, and never be condemned or embarrassed. Everyone should be able to enjoy this truely wonderful pleasure.
I have to hide it. My sex life is very vanilla and infrequent. She has no ability to think outside the box. Who knew sex could be so boring?
When the debate is lost, slander becomes the tool of the loser. Socrates i dont have to hide it but my husband thinks im nuts. hes a little vanilla, but has opened up some. first time i asked him to spank my pussy though i thought he would die ;)
We hide nothing from each other.
"Stories", fantasies etc are not only discussed as often as possible they are acted upon every chance we get.
We are always looking to up the ante. Its very comfortable and nice to be with someone I can be completely 'naked' with....
literally and figuratively.
